The Award Goes too…The Blogger Recognition Award + The Versatile Blogger Award

The Blogger Recognition Award

Rules:

  1.  Thank the blogger that nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  2.  Write a post showing your award.
  3. Tell a brief story about how you started your blog. 
  4. Give two pieces of advice for new bloggers
  5. Choose 10 other bloggers to nominate.
  6.  Comment on each blog letting them know they’ve been nominated, and provide a      link to your award post.

Just like the fabulous Words and Tonic Blog I was nominated for two different Blogging nominations, so let’s do this thing! By the way, you should definitely go and check out their Blog. It makes for some great reading! Very interesting and a different variety of topics, presented in a humorous tone.

If you’ve been reading my Blog since near the beginning from a couple of years ago. You would know that I started my Blog because of a school project. One of the projects that we had to do was to start up different types of social media Blogs, ones that we weren’t already on, and then answer different questions. I enjoyed using WordPress so much that I just kept going. It is the longest outside of fictional writing that I have kept something like this up. In all my other diaries and journal, I’ve usually gotten about 5 or 6 entries in and then nothing usually happens after that. Sometimes I do think that maybe I should look into private journal apps.

Advice:

  1. WRITE FOR YOU

I think this may be the most important rule of all. You have to write for you, you can’t write for anyone else, but you. If you try and force it, or try to Blog to get rich, you’re going to find it more difficult to get yourself motivated. It has to be something that motivates you, you will run out of ideas really quickly if you’re just doing it to be “cool”. You have to be true to you.

2. QUALITY VS QUANTITY OVER QUANTITY VS QUALITY

I think this one is entirely personal and yet is so hard to choose. You are putting your writings out there and you want people to read them. So this is one of the questions I ask myself, is this any good? If you want people to see your writing, there’s not much point if there’s not much effort behind. Sometimes you’ll find you’ll write a Blog one day that you think is fantastic and then the next day hate it. You don’t have to put it out there, maybe it save it for another day. There’s some Blogs out there that also might be “suited” for different social media platforms. It is an entirely personal decision, but if you are trying to aim your Blog at a certain audience, then you have to make sure that you have the quality from that field.

The Versatile Blogger Award

Rules:

  1. You have to thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their blog! (Thank you again Words and Tonic ! )
  2.  Link the nominees and inform them about their nomination
  3. Nominate at least 15 bloggers of your choice
  4. Share 7 facts about yourself

Facts about me:

  • When my dog disappeared, and then when we found her. It still makes me worried about how am I going to cope when she’s gone.
  • It scares me how common sense has just flown out the window…Thank God John Oliver is back! Literally scares me.
  • I love to dress up, I have got so many wigs. I would love to get into Cosplay, but I get worried that if it takes off…Then what?
  • Biologically I am the oldest sibling, but no one believes it…Including myself.
  • I have family members who are alcoholics, so it’s definitely made me more aware, but it doesn’t stop me from drinking either.  However, I have recently noticed that around some groups of people I drink either more or less.
  • I consider myself a realist ideal, so while I like to dream how I want the world to be, I am very aware of how it actually is.
  • Even though I am an adult I still enjoy watching cartoons. I have no problem with just watching a cartoon and instead of having to think and worry, like the more adult and grown up shows. It lets me relax and not think so much.  Sometimes one needs to ground themselves and just relax.

Nominees:

I have decided that I am just going to list nominees for both awards up above. Please don’t feel pressured to do it either.

 

What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man

LONG POST INCOMING! Once I started I couldn’t stop!lol

I also feel like I need a disclaimer here: *I like guys, I really do, some of my favourite people in the whole wide world are guys. Sometimes I prefer them over other girls. They can be just so much more fun than women. With both genders though, there are people within BOTH genders who make it very difficult for the rest of us. This post is NOT a “guys are jerks” post. As a straight girl though, this is what I have come up against…a lot. This is from my perspective.

I had an incident a few years ago that every now and then comes up for me and it still irritates me SO much. For two main reasons:

  1. I was tagged in a quote I have never actually even said. I own who I date and I don’t think all guys are jerks because I’ve dated a couple of jerks. Some of ex’s are even nice people as well, and they are good people. We broke up because they love wasn’t there anymore, or it was just never there. A lot of my ex’s are very charismatic and since I’m a shy person, I found them hypnotic almost. You know that saying about opposites attract? Either way I have never said it.
  2. If you’re going to tag me in something publicly on Facebook, you could at least have the courtesy to have…I don’t know…An adult conversation with me about why I had a one night stand, not that it’s even actually your business. Especially after I’ve turned you down 3 times. I really don’t appreciate having strange guys attacking me. While, ironically, in the quote, you call yourself a “Good Guy”. For future reference a good guy would NEVER get his friends to bully you into dating him.

Also though, to tag me in a post saying that calls all the other guys I have dated are jerks, is not just an insult for me, but some of my ex’s as well. I am actually good friends with a couple of my ex’s. You are attacking good people, who are good friends of mine. So be careful.

Personally, I don’t know what exactly they were trying to achieve and I clearly made the RIGHT decision, by making a personal vow to myself to never date anyone from this group, even before this happened …

Clearly the best decision I have ever made for myself!

Every time this situation comes up for me though, or when I think about it. I get so annoyed about it because I’ve had, one too many times, been attacked by a “good guy” when they’ve actually been complete douchebags. It’s something I want to know, what makes these guys think they’re goods guys WHILE attacking girls/women, sometimes they don’t even know? If girls are not dating you for the “jocks” ever thought, it might just actually be you? Just like the girls who go after the “bad ones” … Especially when I see SO many guys fawning over “mean girls” and girls that are constantly cheating on them, or using them. I have lost guys as friends AFTER they have broken up with their ex’s, who constantly cheated on them, because they are allowing the girl to still use them…I didn’t want to see them get used anymore, and not find a good partner, and I lost them as friend…They always come back though,lol

It goes both ways…It always has…I don’t know if you’ve noticed…

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BUT

You are NOT going to get the person you want, by attacking them and getting your “friends” to gang up on them either. (That’s just a general world lesson too).

Now I am actually going to get to the topic…A long way to come!

What makes a good guy a good guy, or what makes a man to you?

Too some of my “good guy” friends they all have the same characteristics. Beard, play the same guys, same music, do the same activities, give themselves all Superhero nicknames…Pretty much all the same. They think along the lines more of “Well there are 20 other guys who are doing the same thing, so it must be alright” -.- In a small town that can be toxic!

Too me a “real man” has values, has a backbone that he sticks too. They don’t change their values according to which girl (or guy) they want to have sex with more. They will actually grab themselves by their family jewels and have a conversation with me. Rather than just attack me on Facebook in a quote I have never said.

Some of the BEST  and good men I know wear dresses

 They’ve had to fight and have had to be brave to come out, so they just “get it”. They get to be real, they get to just be themselves and never to lower themselves.

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Please, stay single

There are these people that I know who clearly fooling around with each other behind their partners back. I have lost respect for these people over time and I just have very little to do with them anymore. The whole group is just a mess.

It doesn’t just bug me because they are cheating with each other, but it’s also because one of them was single when they met the other originally. They had just gotten out of an engagement and at the time the other person was married. Yet, even though there were obvious feelings between the two: Person A didn’t even leave their marriage until their partner got an amazing job ‘overseas’ and they just didn’t want to put the effort in. Which is when I really started to lose respect since their partner had given up so much to begin with. It was SUCH a cop out.

Person B then started dating nearly all of Person’s A closest friend while, at least, emotionally cheating on them all with Person A and got engaged to one of them. Then conveniently Person A marriage split up and Person B with their fiance…Coincidence.

STOP USING PEOPLE! NO ONE DESERVES THAT!

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I have a hard time not saying anything because I’m one of those people who hates injustice of any type. Which means the best that I feel like I can do is just stay away since no one else in the group seem to honestly care and they even called Perfect B “Perfect” and that they could never think of an insult good enough. So it continues.

What the actual…

What this all comes down for me is to tell people. Please, for the love of god, don’t date someone because you can’t be with the person you want too be with. Please don’t date someone because you’re lonely and you don’t think you can’t do any better…You partner doesn’t deserve that. When you start to date someone, please make sure this is what you really want. You may not be sure that you even want to date, but make sure you don’t drag someone else through it. This world is so small, they are plenty of people out there for you.

Dating someone else because you are alone or because you want to be with someone else is not a strong thing and it’s not what a strong person does….Or a good person and definitely not what “perfect” people do either. You know why? A strong and a good person knows that they are okay by themselves. They know that they are okay being alone and that they believe they will find someone, they don’t need to use anyone else. They also know the love they are getting from their family and friends is enough, or the love they have for themselves IS enough. (If it isn’t, maybe look into that…That’s a post for another day though!).

On some level I actually get it, for some people it is very hard to think of others and other people, and seeing from their point of view. Unless they are actually treated this way themselves. They they just don’t care enough to get it. Too me, personally, it also speaks on a level of having no heart and being some kind of a sociopath as well. There’s no heart or kindness to use another human being in such a way. I think there is something off about people who do that, especially people who repeatedly do it.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!lol…Love yourself and each other ❤

Have a cup of tea with me?

Everyone who read my Blog a bit will know how obsessed I am with Wild Earth #safarilive live stream dream. Mainly taken place in Djuma within the Sabi Sands. Now they’ve started selling merchandise and I finally got my hands on a piece of it!

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It is my own Safari Live mug/cup and I couldn’t be happier. I got in a greyish colour, because I anticipate drinking lots of tea and coffee and there will be lots of dredge marks on it. I have a couple of white cups and they just look messy after a while.

The only question that I have remaining is which book do I read while sipping from my new glorious cup? The front runner is the book that I have been reading the most at the moment and that is “Doctor Who: The Shakespeare Notebooks”. It’s the one I’ve been reading the most, but I really want to get started on Jodi Picoult “Small Great Things“. I’ve had it since Christmas and I haven’t even started it, I’ve had so many others from Christmas as well. Then there’s the new books I just got this week from Ellen Dugan called “Book of Witchery: Spells,Charms and Correspondences for every day of the week”.

I’ll guess you’ll just have to see and wait!

Appreciate Yourself More!

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In a world where we have so many young people suffering from self-esteem issues. It was, too me anyways, really great to see someone realise how totally gorgeous they look. However, the comments about this girl were horrible. I just don’t get it. You just cannot win these days. There seems to be an “acceptable” level loving on oneself, and I just think it’s a little ridiculous. If more people appreciated and loved on themselves a little more, we’d have a lot more happier people. A lot less problems too I would be willingly to bet.

Just remember when someone is appreciating themselves, it might be the only day that year that they actually feel good about themselves. So don’t bring them down, because really it’s your issues, not theirs. As long as their not only about their looks, and they are just beautiful on the inside, what’s really the problem?

Friday Night Thinking and Drinking…

I was so disappointed to read this over the last week. I really love the outfits at Honey Birdette (expensive, but gorgeous) and I know that in the work place you should be presentable…BUT, in all honesty as well, I find that someone who is comfortable, can be the most sexiest thing on the planet!

‘Not Your Honey’ – When Sexual Empowerment Disempowers

It is not empowerment when women are forced to show their bras and wear stilettos just to keep their job. It is not empowerment when women are paid to have people talk to them in unwanted sexually explicit ways. It is not empowerment when women are scared to speak up about feeling uncomfortable in the workplace for fear of losing their job. This is not sexual empowerment. This is not even women empowerment. Silencing sexual harassment allegations and enforcing dress codes that play on sexualising women for the public (read as: male) gaze is disempowering.

 

Traditional

Every family and whoever you celebrate Christmas with, most people have certain traditions on how they celebrate Christmas Day. Also possibly the day before and the day after. Whether it’s the food you eat or how you do presents, who you meet up with. There are traditions you do every year for Christmas.

What about the days leading up to Christmas? Every year on the 1st on December my family put up our Christmas Tree. It’s just my Mum and I now, since my brother moved to Melbourne.

Do you have any traditions that lead up to Christmas?