It just IS

One common thing I have noticed amongst TERFs and GCs, is there eternal insistence that TRA’s and Trans people HAVE to be able to define “women”. They mostly use Dictionary “meanings”. Which, yes, dictionaries have the basis for what ‘something’ means, but I would hope humans are more complicated.

I’m going to ask you first think to yourself “Define Woman/Women” and if you want to answer, great. Don’t feel like you HAVE to though.

For me, my answer is and always is. You can’t define women or men. You just know. You know how sometimes you can’t describe why you might not like something, or why you might like something. Yet, people DEMAND. Not everything IS easily explainable.

Like, I can’t tell you WHY I KNOW that I am a cis straight woman. I just am. And even if, I was to lose (for whatever reasons) my breasts, my ho ah, all my biologically inside womanly bits. Does that mean I’m not a woman anymore? I don’t know how you can “lose” your ho ah, but go with me here.

There is MORE to being a woman or a man, than a dictionary meaning.

There is MORE to being HUMAN, than a dictionary meaning.

Unpopular Opinion – Women

Have some women just taken a crazy pill lately or what?

Have you noticed that the majority anti-maskers have mainly been middle aged white woman. Or that TERFS…are, well you know, women. The people harassing the BLM protests in the UK yesterday was Posie, a gender critical, now racists, women…all white too.

What is going on ladies? It’s mayhem out there! Apart from actual female leaders, the rest of us seem to be taking things in our hands and making it more destructive!

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Is it just me though? I feel like I’m going crazy, that I’m feel like I’m fighting women not only older than thyself, but also, it’s always seems to be white women too…Like me -.- It makes me feel very despondent about my own “group”.

Ladies, we CAN do better than this. I cannot believe though that in 2020, I’m even having to do this.

International Women’s Day

What is it to be a woman? I don’t know, I don’t know if I’m grown up enough yet to be a “Woman” ~.^ Before anyone complains (not that any of my readers would, they have more common sense than that) there is a International Men’s Day too. This year it’s on Tuesday 19th November.

I think at this moment, it’s all just hard to be male or female, white or POC. Everyone’s too offended, everyone keeps getting frustrated that you can’t really have deep and meaningful conversation over Twitter.

Too be a woman right now, only from my personal perspective as one. Someone I actually don’t like very much actually said it best.  It’s interesting being a woman these days because by the same person we can both be a “whore” and at the same time completely “frigid”. As horrible as that sounds, and yes, woman are known for being multi tasked talented. It’s completely true.

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We keep being called too emotional and then at the same time sociopath, if we’re not too emotional. My weird cousin called my mum that a few weeks ago, which is really funny when you know him. I don’t know if I ever told you readers, what my weird cousin did to my Mum (nothing physical) If he does it again though, I am calling the police whether my Mum wants it or not. Where I’m going with that though, we get called the complete opposites of each other. Even though usually it’s the other way around. For example, my weird cousin is the sociopath not her. He cheats, he stalks his partners, but he’ll go around telling everyone how they did it.

That’s what it’s like to be a woman…Exhausting, because other people who don’t know who we are, somehow, at the same time, we are the complete opposite of ourselves, but still told by others who we are.

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Confused yet?lol

It gets better!I am sure men have experienced this too, but it’s happened to me a few times.

A few years ago now, I had just broken up with a real douche of a guy, who was dating someone actually really nice.  So it felt nice when I started to flirt with one particular person. Wasn’t interested in dating, wasn’t romantically interested in him. Just someone who was good at flirting. Now, there was another guy I was so not totally interested in at all and had already turned down at least three different times. One night my ex was all “She’d never sleep with the good flirt guy” so I did,lol … The deed was never completed because I wasn’t that attracted to him, and he did stop when I said, so that was all good.

I kid you not two…maybe three days later…I get tagged in a post on Facebook saying how girls always complain there are no good guys out there and end up dating the jerks, and all my guy “friends” including the guy I had already turned down three times and guys I don’t even know liked it. One even said “How does the burn feel”…WHAT BURN?  1) Still didn’t want to date anyone. 2) One night stands does not mean I promised to the guy and 3) I have never said that, because I know good guys, I just used to go for the party extrovert type, because I am not. What was even sadder was my ex-boyfriends new girlfriend was the only who stood up for me! I still appreciate that.

Fast Forward a couple of years later.

A younger more sexually, engaged already girl comes into the group. She swears, she pole dances everything I’m the opposite of really. I’d pole dance, but I have sciatic -.- She dates half the group, teases the other half, gets engaged twice, sleeps with her ex-finance best friends. Relationships ruined so badly that her brother isn’t allowed to talk to his own group of friends, the group he introduced her too. Yet, no public shaming. No, what is wrong with girls? And they still all really want her? Because god forbid they have the ability to be friends with two girls *rolls eyes*lol

That’s what it’s liked to be a girl…Exhausting, because you are never actually sure what you’re doing,lol…I had learnt from previous situations to just…

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Didn’t question why she gets treated better than me, when she’s doing way worse things then me, she slept with a married man for pete sake. Just backed away. Haven’t really communicated with any of them since,lol…It was funny because they just played themselves. Why would I date anyone who called themselves a “good guy” and then tried to shame me into dating them. When they tagged me in that, I made a vow to never date anyone from that group ever again and I never did. Most of them are still single.

What’s it like being a woman? Constantly watching douche bags out douche themselves,lol

You can sleep with that person, not that one, that one. You’re too emotional, you’re a sociopath, you’re a whore, your frigid

Welcome to a woman’s world,lol

My last hour of 2018…

(I am writing this kind of tipsy and kind of stupefied, please forgive my writing,lol)

I went to reply to a couple of New Years messages and the last hour of 2018 for me, has been listening to music and being called a psycho by numerous “women” because I keep saying Kourtney Kardashain body is her own and her ex body shaming (when they were together) her is NOT alright and she should NOT take him back…Just because he wrote one “nice” post on Instagram -.-

 … … it’s 2018…Our are our OWN and NOBODY else’s…Do you hear me? I REALLY don’t care that he’s Muslim, still not HIS body…(also total genius giving into the Muslim men oppression stereotypes *roll eyes*) I don’t even care if he is even actual God…Still HER body. I can’t even begin to tell you how much I don’t care that he’s Muslim.

For those who kept saying “if that was my daughter, I’d feel differently” Kourtney Kardashian is a full grown WOMAN…Not a 12 or 13 year old..She is nearly 40…and if I had her body after 3 children, I’d freaking show it off too!

I don’t even like the Kardashians! But wrong is STILL wrong!

I am actually shocked I tell you. I could not believe it! They were DEFENDING his comments?

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Women vs Women

Wife’s permanent punishment husbands infidelity

This is something I have never understood and don’t think that I will ever understand. I have always thought that women were harsher to each other than men can be. Even with the fact that men can over physically power us most of the time, it always women who seem to want to drag us down with the guys.

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I am a woman…I don’t do this…Whenever I’ve been cheated on I don’t blame the girl, I blame the guy I’m in a relationship in. I might get angry with the girl, except if she genuinely didn’t know he was my partner. I don’t blame her though. I blame him…I also don’t think cheating is the worse thing you can do to your partner. I think raping and abusing your partner is much worse, but as my own partner pointed out. One could consider that cheating is emotional or mental abuse.

That’s a different topic for a different day though.

Take Dr Ford of example, it didn’t shock what a lot of men were saying, but it was shocking what the women were saying. Mainly because it was so stupid what they were saying and as women, they should have known better.

The one thing they kept saying over and over again was that they Dr Ford was doing it for the fame. Except it is such a ludicrous statement because how many women, off of the top of your head, do you even know of, who have became famous or rich after making an accusation? I honestly could think of no one. Except for Dr Ford, but for more obvious reasons. Even saying that, I believe she is still in hiding.

So to say that people do this for the fame and the money, is just stupid. How many of them said they would never put their attacker through what Dr Ford was doing. Why? Even if you wouldn’t, doesn’t mean that Dr Ford can’t. She believes it was the right thing to do and personally I would as well.

Is it primal? Is that why women attack other women? Is that why instead of blaming the partner, they blame the other women? Have we not grown since the cave ages? My brain literally cannot get it.

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I’m every woman…

So I’ve swapped around my Share Your World post to Friday instead so we can talk about me…Nah, just kidding…Just women:

Now I just want to start off with saying “Calm Down…There is an International’s Men’s Day…November the 19th…Which is on a Monday this year….

I may also be using a lot of gif of women I admire in this post

What does it mean to me to be a “Woman”

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(The Queen of course!)

Too me being a women means to be powerful and by powerful I don’t mean to have power over other people. It’s about the power of believing yourself. It’s the power of your convictions and morals and sticking to them. Whether that is to sing loudly from the top of your lungs or whether to just march with others. When the whole world is against you.

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Women bring up other Women, Queens make other Queens…Even when you don’t agree…Far too much I see girls trying to bring women down.

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A woman who can laugh at herself, when she’s at her most beautiful, but still is not “feeling it”.

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Women who can cry…because they know that crying doesn’t make them weak.

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Women move their bodies like no one is watching, even when the world is…and they LOVE it! They don’t judge others for how they move either.

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(Ciara as Janet Jackson BET Awards)

A women will still have insecurities…Whether that be her body, her work, has she really go it all…But she doesn’t hurt the others around her still. She recognises that her “faults” are not to be put on others.

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That no matter how hard it may get…Women don’t quit and we keep remembering to have fun!

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Here’s to the Queens…May we know them…May we raise them…

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Published on 1 May 2014

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I want to say that I’m shocked, but I’m not

You’ve probably seen the “metoo” hashtags all over the social media and although it’s heartbreaking to see just SO many. I am glad that we are now seriously talking about it…FINALLY!

However with the Hashtag it has also meant that other people are talking about their own situations, even if they are years and years old. Which has lead a lot too “I don’t believe you” and “why didn’t they said something before”…You know attacking these women, they attack first and then they say “Why didn’t you say something earlier” -.-

What has angered me the most is that women are attacking other women. You take a look at Michele Mahone…Years ago she felt harassed by Patrick Swayze and when she went to her bosses to talk them about it…She was sacked…Now she’s reliving it because of everything that’s coming out. Now the main people who are attacking her are women…again…Then Jacinda Adern became Prime Minister of New Zealand and most of the women who were attacking her, were attacking her looks, not her policies. I wonder if they even know what her policies are? Then there’s the whole Melania Trump and Michelle Obama thing.

What are these women’s mental malfunction? When you point it out too them, that one of the first things our parents teach us is about not to judge someone by their looks.

I can’t believe I have to use this:

Beauty Fades

 

International Women’s Day

Today is officially Internationals Women’s Day…I say officially because I got all confused last week when people starting talking about “World Book Day” every where has different different dates. So I thought that I had better double check. Seems like today is the official day.

Every year there is also a theme for that year, this year the theme is #BeBoldForChange.

International Women’s Day: #BeBoldForChange website

How will you be Bold for a Change?

This is a great day to reflect and take a look at those women who we admire and why we admire them. Too take a look at ourselves and question what we can do to make the lives of others better. Not just women, but for all. I think considering the type of people who are in charge of running our countries, not just the orange Oompa Loompa, we NEED to take a long hard look at ourselves and see what we’ve become.

11 Facts about Women around the World … Do Something. Org

23 Fast Facts about Women’s Oppression Worldwide (Blog)

10 Facts about Women in the World … World Food Programme . com

Did you know: There is also an International Men’s Day, which is held on the 19th of November

Which women do you admire and why?