Dear Men

If you ever try to come for me, a cis woman with the utter bullshit that is, biological sex is “essential” to being a woman. I will kick your ass every single time. I know women who can’t give birth, I know women who don’t want to give birth, I know women who had part of their sex removed, because the women in their families, have a family history of certain cancers. Shock and horror, there are even women who don’t menstruate, hence why we need sex ed in classes. … THESE WOMEN, ARE STILL WOMEN …

Also, don’t make me defend my ex-friends choices of not having children, and then talking about how all children should die. I don’t wanna do that. Don’t make me do that.

March 8th – International Woman’s Day

I’m going to be honest with you, I am really not feeling the whole “Women Power” this year.

Probably something to do with the fact, that there are lot of women out there who are continually disappointing, silencing the women who actually care.

So I’m going to write about the women that do and have inspired me.

It goes without saying that some of the best women that I “know” are right on here. Whenever I am fed up with Twitter, or Facebook, or sometimes even Instagram. I come here to get some sanity, and to remind myself, through the women bloggers here. How kind women are. The women I follow and read on here are inspiring, creative, incredibly kind and know who they are. There are lot of women out there who do not. Which is what I personally believe causes a lot of the problems.

I have to say, the biggest inspirational woman (who I don’t know) who inspires me, is Michelle Obama. I just love and adore her. She’s probably the closest I get to “stan” someone. She is so smart, so classy. I don’t know how many of you have listened to her podcast. She is so down to earth, she is who I want to be. As for those people saying that she’s a “man”. Even if she was, she STILL would beat Melania is every single category, that’s important. Oh, and Michelle totally gives a f^@k about Christmas.

I think every woman I “follow”, every woman I’m friends with, good women family members. All women I know and consider a good woman, is a good woman, because they are a good woman. I tried to do a thing, to help promote businesses and people who do good work for women. The aim was to get just 10. It was SO impossible. At the same time, it made me feel good. TERFs were pretty much doing each other, but people like myself, really had to try and cut that list down.

How good is that!

I am disturbed.

With how women are being perceived as delicate little flowers, who do not need to be held accountable for our actions and very bad choices. Then, ironically, being called the misogynistic ones, for pointing that out.

I like women, I am one, was raised by awesome ones.

However, women can be completely shitty human beings. And NEED to be just as accountable as men. That is the ONLY way things are done fairly and equally.

I can’t believe in the 21st Century, I am having to fight people to make them stop treating women like we’re damsels in distress. Oh, except if you DON’T agree with them. Then you’re just handmaiden misogynists’. Because nothing says “hand maiden” than fighting against the norm, and the actual patriarchy. Nothing says “hand maiden” like being able to fight, in the right, and for others. And pretending that women are nothing but damsels in distress. Who need saving.

It’s pathetic and it’s really demeaning to women, and their victims.

This was particularly disturbing to hear from a “woman”.

The lack of soul here, is disturbing to say the less. Sorry, that are minority group of about 1.4% of the UK populations, aren’t being murdered in higher numbers for you?

#TERFLogic

What disturbs me, apart from the obvious. Well trans women aren’t being murdered at a high enough rate for some. Is the insistence that these same people have. How it NEVER occurs to them to stop violence TOGETHER and WITH trans people. You have a clear example of how trans people are being murdered, but because it’s not a high enough number for them. They wont work with them to help the problem?

Pitbull’s and Chihuahuas

A couple of weeks ago, a group of trans women defended themselves against a man who was sexual harassing them. Of course the TERFs are all “How dare they” “He was just using words”.

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I am so sick of the disingenuity from TERFs. You know if it was a group of cis women being sexually harassed, they would be throwing them a freaking parade.

Anyway, this is one of those situations where I compare women and men to pitbulls.

Men are the pitbulls:

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Women are the Chihuahuas:

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Men have a worse reputation, because they can generally kill “easier” and do more physical harm. Yet, women seem to have a reputation that they’re sweet baby angels. Yet, we know that’s not true. Being a previous small dog owner. I know every human and animal is completely capable of violence.

We all are. I am, you are. The only difference being, is usually, and just like dogs too, is the way we are raised. Unless of course, just like dogs, we do actually have something off in our brains.

And let’s be honest here as well, a lot of the anti-maskers, a lot of the anti-lock downers, have been women saying “words”. A lot of the people causing problems in stores this year HAVE been women and just saying “words”.

Let’s just stop with the women are sweet baby angels, okay?

It just IS

One common thing I have noticed amongst TERFs and GCs, is there eternal insistence that TRA’s and Trans people HAVE to be able to define “women”. They mostly use Dictionary “meanings”. Which, yes, dictionaries have the basis for what ‘something’ means, but I would hope humans are more complicated.

I’m going to ask you first think to yourself “Define Woman/Women” and if you want to answer, great. Don’t feel like you HAVE to though.

For me, my answer is and always is. You can’t define women or men. You just know. You know how sometimes you can’t describe why you might not like something, or why you might like something. Yet, people DEMAND. Not everything IS easily explainable.

Like, I can’t tell you WHY I KNOW that I am a cis straight woman. I just am. And even if, I was to lose (for whatever reasons) my breasts, my ho ah, all my biologically inside womanly bits. Does that mean I’m not a woman anymore? I don’t know how you can “lose” your ho ah, but go with me here.

There is MORE to being a woman or a man, than a dictionary meaning.

There is MORE to being HUMAN, than a dictionary meaning.

Unpopular Opinion – Women

Have some women just taken a crazy pill lately or what?

Have you noticed that the majority anti-maskers have mainly been middle aged white woman. Or that TERFS…are, well you know, women. The people harassing the BLM protests in the UK yesterday was Posie, a gender critical, now racists, women…all white too.

What is going on ladies? It’s mayhem out there! Apart from actual female leaders, the rest of us seem to be taking things in our hands and making it more destructive!

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Is it just me though? I feel like I’m going crazy, that I’m feel like I’m fighting women not only older than thyself, but also, it’s always seems to be white women too…Like me -.- It makes me feel very despondent about my own “group”.

Ladies, we CAN do better than this. I cannot believe though that in 2020, I’m even having to do this.

International Women’s Day

What is it to be a woman? I don’t know, I don’t know if I’m grown up enough yet to be a “Woman” ~.^ Before anyone complains (not that any of my readers would, they have more common sense than that) there is a International Men’s Day too. This year it’s on Tuesday 19th November.

I think at this moment, it’s all just hard to be male or female, white or POC. Everyone’s too offended, everyone keeps getting frustrated that you can’t really have deep and meaningful conversation over Twitter.

Too be a woman right now, only from my personal perspective as one. Someone I actually don’t like very much actually said it best.  It’s interesting being a woman these days because by the same person we can both be a “whore” and at the same time completely “frigid”. As horrible as that sounds, and yes, woman are known for being multi tasked talented. It’s completely true.

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We keep being called too emotional and then at the same time sociopath, if we’re not too emotional. My weird cousin called my mum that a few weeks ago, which is really funny when you know him. I don’t know if I ever told you readers, what my weird cousin did to my Mum (nothing physical) If he does it again though, I am calling the police whether my Mum wants it or not. Where I’m going with that though, we get called the complete opposites of each other. Even though usually it’s the other way around. For example, my weird cousin is the sociopath not her. He cheats, he stalks his partners, but he’ll go around telling everyone how they did it.

That’s what it’s like to be a woman…Exhausting, because other people who don’t know who we are, somehow, at the same time, we are the complete opposite of ourselves, but still told by others who we are.

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Confused yet?lol

It gets better!I am sure men have experienced this too, but it’s happened to me a few times.

A few years ago now, I had just broken up with a real douche of a guy, who was dating someone actually really nice.  So it felt nice when I started to flirt with one particular person. Wasn’t interested in dating, wasn’t romantically interested in him. Just someone who was good at flirting. Now, there was another guy I was so not totally interested in at all and had already turned down at least three different times. One night my ex was all “She’d never sleep with the good flirt guy” so I did,lol … The deed was never completed because I wasn’t that attracted to him, and he did stop when I said, so that was all good.

I kid you not two…maybe three days later…I get tagged in a post on Facebook saying how girls always complain there are no good guys out there and end up dating the jerks, and all my guy “friends” including the guy I had already turned down three times and guys I don’t even know liked it. One even said “How does the burn feel”…WHAT BURN?  1) Still didn’t want to date anyone. 2) One night stands does not mean I promised to the guy and 3) I have never said that, because I know good guys, I just used to go for the party extrovert type, because I am not. What was even sadder was my ex-boyfriends new girlfriend was the only who stood up for me! I still appreciate that.

Fast Forward a couple of years later.

A younger more sexually, engaged already girl comes into the group. She swears, she pole dances everything I’m the opposite of really. I’d pole dance, but I have sciatic -.- She dates half the group, teases the other half, gets engaged twice, sleeps with her ex-finance best friends. Relationships ruined so badly that her brother isn’t allowed to talk to his own group of friends, the group he introduced her too. Yet, no public shaming. No, what is wrong with girls? And they still all really want her? Because god forbid they have the ability to be friends with two girls *rolls eyes*lol

That’s what it’s liked to be a girl…Exhausting, because you are never actually sure what you’re doing,lol…I had learnt from previous situations to just…

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Didn’t question why she gets treated better than me, when she’s doing way worse things then me, she slept with a married man for pete sake. Just backed away. Haven’t really communicated with any of them since,lol…It was funny because they just played themselves. Why would I date anyone who called themselves a “good guy” and then tried to shame me into dating them. When they tagged me in that, I made a vow to never date anyone from that group ever again and I never did. Most of them are still single.

What’s it like being a woman? Constantly watching douche bags out douche themselves,lol

You can sleep with that person, not that one, that one. You’re too emotional, you’re a sociopath, you’re a whore, your frigid

Welcome to a woman’s world,lol

My last hour of 2018…

(I am writing this kind of tipsy and kind of stupefied, please forgive my writing,lol)

I went to reply to a couple of New Years messages and the last hour of 2018 for me, has been listening to music and being called a psycho by numerous “women” because I keep saying Kourtney Kardashain body is her own and her ex body shaming (when they were together) her is NOT alright and she should NOT take him back…Just because he wrote one “nice” post on Instagram -.-

 … … it’s 2018…Our are our OWN and NOBODY else’s…Do you hear me? I REALLY don’t care that he’s Muslim, still not HIS body…(also total genius giving into the Muslim men oppression stereotypes *roll eyes*) I don’t even care if he is even actual God…Still HER body. I can’t even begin to tell you how much I don’t care that he’s Muslim.

For those who kept saying “if that was my daughter, I’d feel differently” Kourtney Kardashian is a full grown WOMAN…Not a 12 or 13 year old..She is nearly 40…and if I had her body after 3 children, I’d freaking show it off too!

I don’t even like the Kardashians! But wrong is STILL wrong!

I am actually shocked I tell you. I could not believe it! They were DEFENDING his comments?

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