It just IS

One common thing I have noticed amongst TERFs and GCs, is there eternal insistence that TRA’s and Trans people HAVE to be able to define “women”. They mostly use Dictionary “meanings”. Which, yes, dictionaries have the basis for what ‘something’ means, but I would hope humans are more complicated.

I’m going to ask you first think to yourself “Define Woman/Women” and if you want to answer, great. Don’t feel like you HAVE to though.

For me, my answer is and always is. You can’t define women or men. You just know. You know how sometimes you can’t describe why you might not like something, or why you might like something. Yet, people DEMAND. Not everything IS easily explainable.

Like, I can’t tell you WHY I KNOW that I am a cis straight woman. I just am. And even if, I was to lose (for whatever reasons) my breasts, my ho ah, all my biologically inside womanly bits. Does that mean I’m not a woman anymore? I don’t know how you can “lose” your ho ah, but go with me here.

There is MORE to being a woman or a man, than a dictionary meaning.

There is MORE to being HUMAN, than a dictionary meaning.


I am ashamed…

Being white and a woman, right now…I am so sorry.

After seeing the most gender of people throwing a fit about masks, are women. Seeing most of the people hating on Transpeople lately are women. Who in HECK even wants to be a woman right now? I don’t want to be anymore…

It’s called “Mean Girls” not “Mean Boys” for a reason.

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Too me, depending which sex you are, isn’t just all about what sexual organ you or I have. It’s also, in the mind. Women, generally, are supposed to be the nurturers, the carers…We’re not supposed to be the ones, inflicting the same kind of harm that a lot of these “Gender Critical” women do, and who accuse men of doing what they themselves do.

I was assaulted by a man, but I learned to trust men again, because of men. So, I will be damned if I let women blame transwomen, for something, they have never done to these people. Life’s too short to hate on people who have never even done anything to you.





Being a Taurus Woman

If you are not interested in Astrology and their “meanings”. I’d suggest you look away now and stop reading. I do follow Astrology to an extent, not so much the daily stuff. It’s too vague, but I have a moon/planet chart and I definitely do feel like a “Taurus”.

So what do you think being a Taurus woman is about? Do you follow your Astrology sign at all?

Every day there’s something new about what being a particular “Astrology sign” is all about. So here a few that I can absolutely agree with.

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  • The first one that I can say without a doubt, is that Taurus’s are stubborn. You probably wont a more stubborn lot in your life. Myself, one of my cousins and a family friend and I are all Taurus’s. We are all annoyingly stubborn and it’s probably the biggest thing we all admit too. The rest may be true and not for others.
  • One of the ones that bug me, that is about expensive taste. It’s true! I don’t always buy the most expensive item, but I always know which one it is!
  • Another trait I dislike, is jealousy. I know I am. Usually though that’s also how I know that I really like someone. The thing is though once you can acknowledge something like jealousy, you can always work on it.
  • The one that makes me laugh the most is always about “seduction”. I am the WORST seducer ever. I start giggling whenever I try, I can’t help it.
  • One of the truer ones though is that physical touching is something that Tauruses enjoy. Not, in the “sexy” sense. When I’m comfortable, especially my romantic relationships. I LOVE the cuddling and the hugging. Even though, on average, I detest it. It’s weird,lol
  • Taurus woman tend to be very loyal and rarely, if at all, cheat. The problem is the Taurus men I know, they have cheated on all their partners.

International Women’s Day

What is it to be a woman? I don’t know, I don’t know if I’m grown up enough yet to be a “Woman” ~.^ Before anyone complains (not that any of my readers would, they have more common sense than that) there is a International Men’s Day too. This year it’s on Tuesday 19th November.

I think at this moment, it’s all just hard to be male or female, white or POC. Everyone’s too offended, everyone keeps getting frustrated that you can’t really have deep and meaningful conversation over Twitter.

Too be a woman right now, only from my personal perspective as one. Someone I actually don’t like very much actually said it best.  It’s interesting being a woman these days because by the same person we can both be a “whore” and at the same time completely “frigid”. As horrible as that sounds, and yes, woman are known for being multi tasked talented. It’s completely true.

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We keep being called too emotional and then at the same time sociopath, if we’re not too emotional. My weird cousin called my mum that a few weeks ago, which is really funny when you know him. I don’t know if I ever told you readers, what my weird cousin did to my Mum (nothing physical) If he does it again though, I am calling the police whether my Mum wants it or not. Where I’m going with that though, we get called the complete opposites of each other. Even though usually it’s the other way around. For example, my weird cousin is the sociopath not her. He cheats, he stalks his partners, but he’ll go around telling everyone how they did it.

That’s what it’s like to be a woman…Exhausting, because other people who don’t know who we are, somehow, at the same time, we are the complete opposite of ourselves, but still told by others who we are.

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Confused yet?lol

It gets better!I am sure men have experienced this too, but it’s happened to me a few times.

A few years ago now, I had just broken up with a real douche of a guy, who was dating someone actually really nice.  So it felt nice when I started to flirt with one particular person. Wasn’t interested in dating, wasn’t romantically interested in him. Just someone who was good at flirting. Now, there was another guy I was so not totally interested in at all and had already turned down at least three different times. One night my ex was all “She’d never sleep with the good flirt guy” so I did,lol … The deed was never completed because I wasn’t that attracted to him, and he did stop when I said, so that was all good.

I kid you not two…maybe three days later…I get tagged in a post on Facebook saying how girls always complain there are no good guys out there and end up dating the jerks, and all my guy “friends” including the guy I had already turned down three times and guys I don’t even know liked it. One even said “How does the burn feel”…WHAT BURN?  1) Still didn’t want to date anyone. 2) One night stands does not mean I promised to the guy and 3) I have never said that, because I know good guys, I just used to go for the party extrovert type, because I am not. What was even sadder was my ex-boyfriends new girlfriend was the only who stood up for me! I still appreciate that.

Fast Forward a couple of years later.

A younger more sexually, engaged already girl comes into the group. She swears, she pole dances everything I’m the opposite of really. I’d pole dance, but I have sciatic -.- She dates half the group, teases the other half, gets engaged twice, sleeps with her ex-finance best friends. Relationships ruined so badly that her brother isn’t allowed to talk to his own group of friends, the group he introduced her too. Yet, no public shaming. No, what is wrong with girls? And they still all really want her? Because god forbid they have the ability to be friends with two girls *rolls eyes*lol

That’s what it’s liked to be a girl…Exhausting, because you are never actually sure what you’re doing,lol…I had learnt from previous situations to just…

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Didn’t question why she gets treated better than me, when she’s doing way worse things then me, she slept with a married man for pete sake. Just backed away. Haven’t really communicated with any of them since,lol…It was funny because they just played themselves. Why would I date anyone who called themselves a “good guy” and then tried to shame me into dating them. When they tagged me in that, I made a vow to never date anyone from that group ever again and I never did. Most of them are still single.

What’s it like being a woman? Constantly watching douche bags out douche themselves,lol

You can sleep with that person, not that one, that one. You’re too emotional, you’re a sociopath, you’re a whore, your frigid

Welcome to a woman’s world,lol

International Women’s Day

Today is officially Internationals Women’s Day…I say officially because I got all confused last week when people starting talking about “World Book Day” every where has different different dates. So I thought that I had better double check. Seems like today is the official day.

Every year there is also a theme for that year, this year the theme is #BeBoldForChange.

International Women’s Day: #BeBoldForChange website

How will you be Bold for a Change?

This is a great day to reflect and take a look at those women who we admire and why we admire them. Too take a look at ourselves and question what we can do to make the lives of others better. Not just women, but for all. I think considering the type of people who are in charge of running our countries, not just the orange Oompa Loompa, we NEED to take a long hard look at ourselves and see what we’ve become.

11 Facts about Women around the World … Do Something. Org

23 Fast Facts about Women’s Oppression Worldwide (Blog)

10 Facts about Women in the World … World Food Programme . com

Did you know: There is also an International Men’s Day, which is held on the 19th of November

Which women do you admire and why? 

What really grinds my gears

What grinds my gear

I’m not sure how many of you watched the American Music Awards this week Sunday/Monday (depending where you live). However whether you watched it or not I am sure that must you know who Jennifer Lopez is, well she hosted the awards this year…I thought she did a fabulous job (I’m a bit of a fan).

The comments, once again that other “women” have been making, about her being “past it” has seriously irritated me. Why? Because WHY are woman so nasty to other women?! None of the derogatory comments were made by men, they were ALL woman! They take pride it it too! I had one old woman (I will call her that because she does not deserve my respect) tell me that I just don’t get it because I’m “young”…I HOPE that I am as fabulous as Jennifer Lopez is at her age! Jennifer Lopez is probably one of the least past it people I have ever seen!

Why? What is with woman constantly putting each other down and why are they taking such pride in it as they keep talking like it’s a good thing? Their insecurities are just SCREAMING! Do they not realise this?

Here is in Australia we have just “celebrated” White Ribbon Day, which is to stop violence against women (although any kind of domestic violence is bad) How can we even hope that this will happen when, as women, we can’t even stand together? Do they not realise how detrimental they are?