Why I’m happy to be a “older” bride

I am telling you despite everything that my family have decided to play on me. I am really happy that I am doing this now, then when I was younger.

If all this happened when I was young, and there is no indication that it would not have. I would have been a wreck! When my family started what they’ve been doing now, I was a wreck. Unlike when I was younger, I KNOW it’s a them problem, not a me problem. I am also REALLY starting to realise what the saying “family isn’t always blood” is such a big deal, because it’s true!

What my “family” are doing, isn’t want family are supposed to be doing. It’s just amazes me how all these people, my Dad, my Mum and my brother, just make all about them. I’m serious, not one them have seemingly gone to themselves “How can we help Lauren”. It’s all been “nope, you’re just terrible”…”nope, what you’re saying is wrong” (I’m not).

I also feel though, I can actually have more fun with organising it. Its like everyone I meet tells me the big regrets that they’ve had, was not doing it for themselves. They had to cater to this person, and at the end of the day, it’s one day. It should be about the two people marrying, not what everyone else wants.

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NTA

NTA = Not the Asshole.

Now for something a little “lighter”.

I don’t have a reddit account, but on reddit a lot of these kind of topics come up a lot and the “audience” let you know if they think you’re the “a-hole” or not. Why have I chosen this story? Although it’s not specifically about dating, it is about a situation between two exes.

Personally, I don’t think sister/ex-wife is the a-hole. But I have been in a similar situation, I have been a last minute wedding invite, because the original person never RSVPED. My ex was there with his new girlfriend. I went because we did have a lot of mutual friends in common, and I ended up sitting with them, while my ex was punished. So it suited me fine, haha. In all honestly though, if that person had contacted them and he could have gone, I would have not gone.

There is no reason to not un-invited people who ARE a-holes. Especially to your family, and if you don’t even know the people that well.

What do you all think of back up invitees?

I personally have no problem with them, or being one. You should always be careful though about having them, I feel you should be honest with them. You should also consider does that back up have an ex attending, do they get along? Do they have a partner, do you invite them too? Oh, it is not an easy thing these wedding lists.

Getting to know the Blogger…Part 4

I just wanted to say that I hope you’ve been enjoying these “Getting to know me Blogs” as much as I’ve been enjoying writing them! Here we go with the last week…

76. Regularly burn incense?
    I have actually been getting more into burning incense and the like. Since I developed an anxiety condition last year, just meditation and calming my mind has been helping and I’ve been really improving. Maybe “getting more into burning…” Isn’t the greatest description in the world.
77. Who would you like to see in concert?
    I would love to see Bruno Mars, but he’s very unlikely to come to my little town.
78. Hot tea or cold tea? 
    Hot tea, I’m not even honestly sure that I’ve had even had cold tea. Apart from iced tea…with whip cream!
79. Tea or coffee? 
    Oh lordy…How can one choose?! I drink both, however, in some situations I will only drink one during certain times. For example, when I’m sick or have the flu, I will only drink tea as when I’m sick, I can’t stand coffee. I don’t even drink coffee to try and stay awake, I drink coffee as treat almost.
80. Sugar cookies or snickerdoodles?
    I have no idea what a snickerdoodle is, so I’d have to go with sugar cookies.
81. Can you swim well? 
    I can alright, but I’m not ready for the English channel or anything like that.
82. Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? 
    *tries* Yes, I can! It looks less stupid than when holding it. (Ditto,lol)
83. Are you patient? 
    It’s actually one of the things people know the most about me, how patient I can be, when most others would lose it. It’s a trick between not taking things personally and not actually caring. Especially when it comes to work and I know it’s nothing that I’ve stuffed up.
84. DJ or band at a wedding?
    I’d prefer a DJ just because then you can make requests for the original song, rather than someone trying to cover a song. However, I think having a band would look really classy. I’ve been to a funeral where a duo decided to dedicate a song that the deceased really like, and they sounded terrible. I felt it was so disrespectful, the person didn’t like the song because YOU sung it, they liked because the person they liked, sang it. I don’t know, it’s always felt really wrong to me.
85. Ever won a contest?
    No, I’ve had some luck though with my works lottery group. We sometimes win 30-40 bucks here and there…Enough for another ticket.
86. Ever had plastic surgery?
    No, I’m pretty okay with my body. The only thing I wish I could change is that my teeth would be a little whiter. Not stupidly blinding white, but just a little whiter. It’d also look really cool because the two herbivore teeth that are usually next to the two big ones, mine are missing, they just never grew threw. So my teeth look like vampire teeth, and I love it.
87. Which are better, black or green olives?
    I don’t really love Olives, I’d rather not have them…If I had to choose I’d go with the green ones.
88. Can you knit or crochet?
    I can’t really do either, I haven’t crochet in a while, so I’d probably have to restart and relearn.
89. Best place for a fireplace?
    If I could have a dream place for a fireplace, I would have it in a library type room, probably off from the main living area. In a medium sized room, so the air doesn’t get all smokey.
90. Do you want to get married?
    Only to the right person.
91. If married, how long have you been married?
    N/A
92. Who was your HS crush?
    Oh I had a lot…I didn’t date any of them, I was way to shy to actually ask. I had a lot though.
93. Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? 
    Umm…No, I’m not even sure I did that as a kid. Apparently I used to only throw fits when I was constrained, like when I was put into a seat belt. I hated to be constrained, still do.
94. Do you have kids?
    I am furbaby Aunty and step mama. My brothers dog is technically his, since he’s the whole reason he got her. Only a couple of months after we got her though, he moved to Melbourne and left her with us. My partners cat is actually his ex’s cat, but when they split up, she said to hold onto him for a year and if she didn’t come back, my partner could keep him. She wanted to travel, and his had the cat for about 3 or 4 years now.
95. Do you want kids?
    No right now, there’s still a lot to get settled first. I would prefer to be married first as well.
96. What’s your favorite color?
    The toughest question. I love Yves Saint Laurent’s Babouche yellow. Yes, I chose a nail polish color, they are ever so precise.
97. Do you miss anyone right now?
    Wherever I am, I always miss my mum and my dog, or if I’m with them, I miss my partner and his cat. Don’t tell anyone I said this, but if I could, I would actually live with all of them, my mum, my partner and the cat and the dog. I’d be very happy.Even though Pippy and Travie would probably kill each other. As long as it was a big enough house to give us all enough space.
98. Who is your favorite author?
    At the moment my favourite author is Jodi Picoult. I think I have literally every single one of her books and I would highly recommend them. Especially if you are a person that likes to look at how other people think.
99. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
    I actually really like the city where I live, home is where the heart is. As mentioned above though, I would just love a really huge house. Where I could live with whoever, but also enough room for visitors. Maybe somewhere near a beach. Should be easy…right?

 

Honour

I had an interesting conversation last night with a friend who was surprised to learnt that I have no plans on having a Maid of Honour.

See to me a Maid of Honour should be someone that you have been able to rely on 100% your whole life. Now my girlfriends have let me down a lot in my life and although I’ve forgiven them, there’s still that element of mistrust.

It’s kind of a symbolic thing as well. Think about the way the Maid of Honour and Bridesmaids stand while the Bride and Groom are pledging themselves to each other, the Bride and Groom stand with theirs backs to them. The people who stand behind you as a Bride and Groom are the people who literally have your back. I have actually considered having my brother as my Maid of Honour.

Sometimes your stuck in these situations, but I am going to refuse to have a Maid of Honour.

p.s. I’m not getting married by the way,lol

Time Warp…

This is such a sweet news article and I just had to share it…”Australia’s oldest couple sell time warp Mosman home after 76 years”

In 1938 this couple bought the only home (at the time) in the suburb of Mosman. They bought it so many years ago that it was in the same year as Sydney held the “Commonwealth Games” but it was also known back then as “The Empire Games”. This was during a time when a average family home cost around $1000 and a loaf of bread was only a sixpence.

Tom and Jean, the owners of the house, are both over a 100 years old, and while they are both very much alive and kicking. They can no longer take care of their own home and are moving into a nursing home. The amazing thing about this house is that it still has the same fittings and the same furniture from when they first moved in. The house is in complete pristine condition and looking at the pictures you would think you have taken a step back in time.

The other thing that stood out to me reading this article was when they asked him about giving any advice about marriage. Tom replied with “I don’t really think I can give them advice but I don’t think people stick at marriage anymore,’’ he said…Wise words I think…

The weekend!

So the weekend is nearly over and I really should be getting ready for this barbecue I have to go, but am so tired. It’s been a bit of a brilliant weekend…I have always loved Halloween even though I am not America and am secretly glad that it’s becoming bigger here! =D

Before I start to bore you all with details of what I did. I’m writing mainly because I had such a 360 with a lot of stuff that has been going with my life. I went to a wedding as well and it was such an eye opener! I am sick of being miserable over guys who just waste time. Watching this wedding (and it was really short too…I didn’t know weddings these days could take so little time!) really just made me open my eyes and made me feel like I want to get married…To the right person at the right time of course. It was a fantastic feeling!

People though…very interesting creatures. I think this weekend also proved to me though as a culture we are becoming more self obsessed and it is not really serving us well as a community. People taking photos of themselves being “introspective” while ignoring the pains of their friends and the world. Apparently someone having a crush on someone who clearly isn’t interested in them is more important than someone who is actually going through nasty break-up? All night I had to listen to love songs that I really didn’t want too.

Anyways, all of this is making me realise how much of a good person I want to  stay and be and how much I want to be with a good person. Not someone who claims to be good, but is never given the opportunity because the girls want all of your friends.

(I kind of love how my costume kind of came out Harley Quinn meets Betty Boop…Boop-Oop-A-Doop)

The times they are a-changing

Having a conversation with a good girlfriend tonight and we are shocked…repeat SHOCKED…by the amount of guys that are in relationships and/or married that hit on us. Both my girlfriend and I are single and these “respectable taken” men are not helping the cause. There are a few things that make me really mad about it:

1. How can you call my ex a douche when you’re doing what you’re doing? He didn’t make promises of marriage or anything close to that.
2. Most…in fact, pretty much all of them…claim to be bi-sexuals…I’m not sure if they think that they gives them a special permission to hit on other people while married or something?
3. What makes them think I’d ever go for a married man to begin with? I never have and never would…I am not desperate and there are a lot more guys out there that are not someone’s sloppy seconds.
4. What makes me angriest the most though…My brother is gay, my cousin is gay…Yet these…Wankers…are able to get married and STILL hit on single people, like myself.
5. I have not seen ONE of them hit on a guy…Just single girls…But this is who Christians really want representing them?…Really? Both my brother and cousins have been in long term committed relationships and neither one has ever been accused of straying. Yet, they can’t marry and these guys can.
6. You never hear of their partners being bi-sexual…Amazing, isn’t it.

All these guys are doing is harming myself and my girlfriends and relationships in general. We are single for a reason and these guys are a huge part of that. I can think of maybe one or two couples who don’t seem to do this.

We obsess over characters like Thorin and Thor and Mr Darcy because the truth is, to find a decent guy (I still believe that they are out there still) is getting harder and harder to find. These guys damage the rest of you guys and put single girls like me off.