“Don’t look like a victim”?

What does that even mean?

I was having a conversation with a “man”…looked like a completely fake profile. About an app that allows women (probably men too…human being in general) to flag or tag places where they feel safe or unsafe. Which I think actually sounds like a good idea.

However, this “guy” was on the discussion board having a go at the other guys who were actually doing/saying the right thing and calling them pathetic “white knights”. Afterwards he said women need to stop looking like “victims” when they were out…

WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?

What do “victims” look like BEFORE they are “victims”?

Of course none of the ladies were having it! We told him about why does he think women go to toilets in clubs in pairs? As I explained as well most women do that as well, because most of us have already been attacked by someone we know, in the middle of the day. Comfortable and confident as you can be…Can you imagine then going and being surrounded by drunk guys, after becoming a ‘victim’?

Its not normal?

I was just thinking about a lot of things that have come out with the whole Presidential debates in the US and the main topic that has come out, is about assault on women. One of the main things that has come out is against the women who have come out. The main questions have been:

  1. Why did they wait so long?
  2. What were they wearing?

Of course other women have been attacking these women, which I want to say shocks me, but it doesn’t. Women are WAY worse to other women than men. In fact, I’ve seen a lot of men standing up for these women and I say kudos to those guys.

As someone who has been attacked and the majority of those women closest to me have been attacked. I can answer both of these questions quiet simply.

  1. Why did they wait so long?

The first question can be answered just from the fact that when these women do come out, they get attacked, and then in the same paragraph are asked the question “Why did they wait so long?” How can you attack someone and call them a liar, etc and then actually ask the question, like you’re genuinely shock. That once one women comes out, the others will feel safer to come forward. To me it makes logical sense, that these women feel more powerful when they are able to stand with others, ESPECIALLY against powerful men in the public eye.

2. What were they wearing?

This one irritates me a lot, for various different reasons. The biggest one being and simply put. As mentioned before I’ve been attacked and a lot of the closest females to me have also been attacked. None of us were dressed “sexy” and we were attacked by people we considered “friends” and for most of us, it was done during the bright light of the day and a couple of were attacked while other people were in different rooms. Rapists don’t attack you for what you’re wearing, it’s about power and it’s because normal people don’t rape other people. It’s just not a normal thought, for normal thinking people. My attacker was (I assume still it) bi-polar and refused to take his medication.

I think it’s what irritates me the most about the whole situation. People are not getting attacked for what they are wearing. People are getting attacked because other people do not have “normal” thought. Of course people are going to feel safer to come forward when they can stand with others. Why is this SO hard for people to comprehend?

There is also a third simple answer on why people don’t report. Brock Turner…The guy was CAUGHT raping an unconscious girl and look what happened. How much faith would you have if someone who actually got caught had, let’s face it, really nothing happen to them?