I’ve only ever heard of these elusive creatures, little did I know…I’ve been sitting next to one, pretty much, the whole time at my new place of work.
The ever lasting “victim”…
And oh my god, aren’t they ever such a drain!
I have known NPDs my entire life, but never a self suffering victim. I don’t know which is worst to be honest, lol.
What is a self sufferer?
It’s someone, who always suffering, they’re always the victim. No matter how much you may appease them, they are never happy. And if they don’t want to do something, they will complain about EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME! You can NEVER make them happy. When you try to explain something, you’re just taking “sides”.
And I sit next to them all day at work! I have never met a more draining human being in my life before.
Like, someone was trying to talk to her, and I was trying to “mime” to tell them to stop talking to her. There is no literal point. These people just like to complain about everything and you just sit there and nod your head. She has said to me she was going to go over our bosses head about our boss. Who if you met is really lovely. Everything she says about him, is just not him. She constantly complains about everything wrong with our work place, the work and the equipment. And we all agree a lot of it is annoying, but you keep pushing through. We currently have a building going up next door. Some of the records we have are not easy to read, BUT, we’re all going through this. The way she talks though, you’d think it was all against just her. When someone tries to explain this, she’s all “Your just taking their side”.
I ended up taking a day off of work because of her last week. After everything with the cat missing over Christmas, and we didn’t get a break from work. We kept going, as we only close on public holidays. Too go from that huge stress, to someone complain for at least 8 hours a day…constantly…I couldn’t do it anymore.
Luckily for me, and thank you COVID (never thought I’d say that), we had to change our desks around. She’s now working upstairs and I am still downstairs, and I have NO problem about that.
I can’t begin to stress to you, how horribly draining someone like that can be. I actually nearly cried at work when I thought that she was going to be going upstairs. That’s the thing, they bring you down. Like every day is “I’m going to be sacked today, I’m going to slow still” and yet does nothing to help herself. And just lies really about how she can’t do the work. There were even a couple of days where I actually started to write down everything she did, she’s on her phone … a lot. She was complaining how she’s being “picked on” because she was late. Her excuse was others were late that day. Which they were, but she is ALWAYS late, and I mean like at least 20 minutes late.
Oh my god, I could go on.
But I don’t want to drain you too!lol