Some things I don’t understand…

and glad that I don’t.

1. Republican’s and their instance on turning America into the next Russia, China or North Korea, or projecting what they say Muslim people are.
2. People who refuse to understand that Harry and Meghan, want privacy. But they’re allowed to control the narrative too to THEIR lives. If your name was dragged through the tabloids, you telling me that you wouldn’t take the opportunity to speak out? Bullshit! lol
3. I don’t understand why people talk about Meghan Markle like they know, because of the tabloids. Then when I ask them “Why do you think she’s narcissistic” quote things from the tabloids. Then still complain about her speaking about herself. How are you all not getting this?
4. How can you say you’re British “so you know things” when you haven’t lived in the UK since the 70’s?
5. Saying it’s “okay” if we sacrifice the elderly and to save the economy, not wondering how you might feel about hearing that, when you’re elderly and have worked your entire life in some form or another.
6. How the Green Party, the UK Labour Party and the LibDem say they’re nothing like the Tories, when they just sit back and let alone transphobia run rampant in the parties. Where there’s one bigotry, there will be another.
7. How Nicola Sturgeon has done NOTHING about Joanna Cherry.
8. Fake profiles calling other people delusional.
9. What HAS gone wrong with our politicians exactly? Like, they’ve always been a bit horrible, but they just seem to be REALLY horrible now.

Now this is something I WANT to understand. I watch a lot of crime shows. Why is it when someone (mostly women) are in really abusive situations, like I’m not even talking about the just “there were signs in hindsight”. I’m talking about as well the full on everyone wants to get out abuse too. Why is it these people are always killed in the end, but before that, their abusive partners cheats on them. And they cant deal with that? Like their partner has nearly killed them several times at this point, and that’s “fine”. But if the abusive partner cheats, oh no, that’s disrespectful to the abused.

That is something I do not understand, but I wish I could. Because then maybe we could use that to help them leave?

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QUESTIONS:

When you’re 90 years old, what do you suppose will matter most to you?

I’m hoping that it’ll just be something like family. That they’re happy and safe, that I wouldn’t have to worry about them.

What’s the best way to spend a rainy afternoon?

Oh, to read and drinking a nice cup of tea.

What is one thing you don’t understand about yourself?

My anxiety to be completely honest,lol. I know, completely logically, it’s literally all in my head. Yet, I keep having little attacks.

When was the last time you tried something to look ‘cool’ (hip), but it ended in utter embarrassment?   Details?

I’m going to be honest with you all. Now this may come as a shock…But I’m not cool…at all. So not much embarrasses me, it’s usually me doing something silly.

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GRATITUDE/I’M SO THANKFUL!

This is an opportunity to share a picture, a story or event that shows your gratitude.

I am very grateful to my therapist this week. Some people, may mean well, but really shouldn’t give out advice. My Aunt told me recently that this stress will kill me and my therapist was all “No one has died from a panic attack”. One, don’t tell people stress will kill them when they suffer from anxiety. Its kind of like when someone says “Are you mad yet?” “Are you mad yet”? Telling someone whose stressing out easily that stressing out will kill them…Guess what happens.

I don’t get it…

Here is a list of things I TRULY don’t understand about people in general:

1. People who pay out Kylie Jenner as a child (when she was first pushed into the spotlight…She was a child), how ugly they think she was. YET, have photos of their children saying that they hope they never have to experience bullying…Or have something like “you put out the energy you want back” in their bios.
2. People who’ll start a conversation on your time line and then tell you to get off their time line.
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3. The people who keep saying that the 2A is protected by the Constitution…The Constitution has been amended at least 27 times…It’s almost like the Forefathers used a word that meant that things can be changed.
4. People who constantly hate on something, when no one is trying to force them to like it?
5. Why people don’t think I need to have a 10 minute break when they call me in at lunch at the last minute…I still need to eat.
6. Why do people think calling one group of people cancerous and they should be exterminated…Kind? It doesn’t matter what group of people you are talking about Hate begets Hate. They are definitely racist people out there, but we are not all like that. You’re not going to get anywhere wishing extermination on a group of people.
7. Why there seems to be more “reality” tv shows than actual shows.

I don’t get a lot of things these days

 

Life Lessons

52. Life Lessons learnt this year

Well this is definitely no small topic! It’d be easier to write about what I haven’t learnt this year!

• It’s during the hard time that you truly do find out who loves you and who your friends are.
• Read something that makes you feel uncomfortable, but makes you understand more.
• I think we need to start taking our health more seriously. Even when we’re young, we do take a lot of it for granted.
• Have an extra circular hobby! There’s nothing like being sick and not being able to get out and having nothing to do. Nothing to concentrate on when you are stuck inside!
• When you are feeling blue…Watch a comedy! Don’t listen to anything sad or miserable. Watch something that really makes you laugh.
• If you don’t sleep well it can really screw up your day…Ever since I started taking my anxiety medication, I have been having real trouble falling asleep.
• Although this may sound very depressing. Learn to take care of yourself, with the real important things. Don’t rely on others too help you.

 

My new favourite saying

I thought that after my post yesterday, this has become my new favourite saying and that more people just really need to understand this.

Yes to a “Fair Go”

I wanted to start this post off by saying that I will be voting “Yes” for Marriage Equality is Australia.

It’s been an interesting couple of weeks regarding this topic, there are lot of people who feel like they are being pushed into saying “yes” so they are voting “no”. Which I honestly think is the LAMEST reason ever to vote for No for anything. Have a backbone, think for yourself. For all those people who are saying they are voting because they feel bullied into voting Yes…

How little respect do you have for yourself? I mean, truly, honestly?

You are really admitting that you care about what others/strangers thing? That you don’t have the respect for yourself to stand by what you think and believe. If these “libtards” and “left wingers” told you NOT to jump off the edge of the cliff and kept telling you not to do it…Would you do it, just to spite them?

I don’t really understand why someone would vote “No” and especially since I have seen no reason, legal or common sense wise, that has made me go “That’s a good point”. However, I do respect those people who are voting “no” and not because they were just trying to spite other people. They are actually standing to their own ideas, rather than following a crowd.

Think about it this way…If you’re voting “No” because the “yes” side have made you feel ‘silenced’ or are ‘mean’…Guess what genius…This is what homosexual people face EVERY SINGLE DAY! Except it far more extreme than you feeling attacked by strangers on Facebook. Gay people being discriminated and having to hear no every say, they face being kicked out by their families, possibly killed by a family member. Most gay people are killed by someone they know for being gay.

So sorry if I don’t feel sorry for you if you feel you are being attacked by the Yes side.

I have seen none of these attacking from the Yes side…Only once recently and I was so embarassed for them…Apart from that I’ve seen people who are trying to understand why people would think it’s alright to Vote No…All I’ve seen from the No side is that stupid video that actually had nothing to do with same sex marriage and more to do with safe schools…Which are two completely different subjects. I have had a tonne of  vote no pamphlets in my letterbox. Let alone the disgusting hate speech through by the very far right Christians who are wandering up and down malls telling them that they are going to hell.

Gay people are attacked every day…Not once in a while…EVERY SINGLE DAY…They are literally dying by the hands of others, because of bullying and for fear of being outed.

So no, I don’t feel sorry for those who feel attacked on Facebook because people don’t agree with them. This is what gay people deal with every single day…Get over yourself, if you want to live in a country where gay people can’t get married. Go live in North Korea, or Russia. Since you seem think it’s okay to continually discriminate while crying “victim” because someone doesn’t agree with you.

Fair Go!

Politics and Celebrity

I think of all the issues this year, this has been one of the biggest ones…People telling American Citizens, that they’re just a celebrity and they should “shut up”…While at the some time voting in a celebrity for President.

So why the big ho-ha?

Whether you are a celebrity or not, if you are ultimately an American citizen, you have just as right to speak as anyone else…

However I am of the opinion that just because you are a celebrity or an entertainer doesn’t mean you HAVE to speak out on political issues either. Most celebrities don’t start out for a career in entertainment to become a politician? Some just naturally veer that way and that’s fine, but some don’t and that’s fine too. Maybe they just genuinely feel like they don’t really understand what’s going on and don’t want to look the fool?

I don’t know when it become a pre-requisite for celebrities to have to speak about political issues? … Or any kind of issue … When did that happen exactly? Unless you have an actual conversation with that person, you don’t really understand where they are coming from. Some I think as well don’t bother as well because like the saying goes ”

“You can’t win the internet”.

I know from reading what other people have said about these celebrities. That even when they have said something or done something “good” or to speak out. They get called fake and not genuine. Let’s be honest here, you are a complete stranger to these celebrities and yet revel in their mistakes. It’s kind of  feels like a sickness. This is what I think of people who complain when a celebrity tries to do the right thing and they just continue to call them “fake” or something along those lines..It’s almost like they don’t want them to change and do the “right thing” by them.

I think sometimes people forget, celebrities are human too. I think each of them hope for success without really thinking of the “responsibility” that could possibly happen with the fame. I watch these “feuds” and how people take sides, complete strangers. They take it to such a level that I cannot understand. I remember the days when people just liked the entertainment. I just want to listen to the music again…Not the feud. Sure, people like Gary Glitter and Jimmy Saville should NEVER be played in any house ever again. It’s not up to a celebrity where I stand or what views I think they should take though, or how they should do it either.

Literally every single artist on this planet is not doing something right by some and is “God” to others…It’s almost like we’re all human and nothing is just black and white.

How is this still a thing?

Yes…I totally stole the title from John Oliver’s segment…That’s not the issue here =P

How is this still a thing? John Oliver

Recently I saw an ad for  a current television current affair show program…I probably could have just written current affair show…Anyway I digress…

I get waiting a couple to a few hours at the emergency room can be frustrating, but I can’t understand why there’s a sudden increase in people getting threatening and getting violent at emergency waiting rooms.

I suspect it has something do with the sudden in increase of “It’s all about me” of all generations, even still though, surely common sense should prevail? Apparently not, even with all the information being constantly give to us about visiting the emergency room when there is an actual emergency. People seem to be on this increase, ignoring this entirely and feel the appropriate reaction is to yell and scream at the emergency staff.

Patients are clogging up state hospital emergency rooms with minor conditions, costing taxpayers close to $1 billion a year…Daily Telegraph, 2014

Now, I can understand people becoming paranoid and Googling any symptoms they have and visiting the emergency, especially since visiting the emergency rooms and being seen too is free (I suspect that is part of it too). However, what I cannot fathom to understand is the abusive attitudes towards the staff, when you’ve had to wait for a couple of hours. Which is what will probably happen and has been happening for a long time. If you’ve got a cold, you’re going to have to wait, it’s a fact of life.

I know it may be hard for some to think of others when their entire life is all “Me, Me, Me” but you HAVE to remember, this is the emergency room. People ARE dying, this is no joke. This is actually a life and death issue. I’m sure that you wouldn’t appreciate it if someone with a sniffle is taking the Doctors and Nurses away from you because they are getting aggressive. It’s one of those situations where I beg people to think of others.

Dictionary Meaning

*Now I have putting this post off for a very long time, been debating whether to post or not…But I felt like it needed to be said. I genuinely see a worrying trend starting to happen*

The dictionary term of racism is as follows:

racism

ˈreɪsɪz(ə)m/

noun

 

1. the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.

   “theories of racism”

   • prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one’s own race is superior.

     “a programme to combat racism”

     I read this and not in one single term or meaning of racism ANYWHERE in the whole entire world does it say anywhere that racism only occurs in one group of colour of people? It does not matter what you “think” this is the facts of the case. There is no mention that racism occurs in only one colour of people. So why do everywhere do I read, it’s not racist if one colour is racist towards another because that person has experienced more racism than the other person? Bad English?

     No if you’re racist, you’re racist. What else is it?

     I know this is not my usual happy-go-lucky post. I am just starting to find it really disturbing though how someone can say they are not racist because the other person doesn’t “understand” but the comments and the hatred, while spewing hatred towards another colour, it feels very segregated. It disturbs me on a level I can’t explain.

     Racism is Racism and Hatred is Hatred, it knows no colour.

   I get that I don’t get what it’s like to be of another colour, but I do get fear and I get hatred. I don’t get going backwards and turning into something you hate and doing the exact same things as something you hate. I guess it’s like the situation with a bully, a lot of the times a bully is a bully because they themselves, have been bullied. I just want to understand I guess.

   I do get how putting people into boxes can lead to bloodshed and something much worse than opening up to communication and trying to understand. Let me in, let me understand what it’s like. I love people of all backgrounds, I know lot’s of people from different backgrounds. I’ve grown up with a lot of different backgrounds and I don’t understand racist people. Understanding our differences, it’s the only way we can understand what makes this world tick, what makes it wonderful.

   When has putting ourselves into boxes and categories and “they’re not us” mentality…EVER…worked?

8 (Eight) ways to win my heart…

So I was doing a random search and I found this amazing idea. “8 tricks to win my heart” (I must say that I would NEVER post something like this on Facebook) but I think this is a bit of fun =D

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1.  Understand that I am not a china doll. I don’t need romance, I need real and I need a partner by my side. You cannot be by and on my side if you raise me above you or look down on me.
2. If you can get my paranoid chihuahua to like you…You’re in,lol..My last ex when he left my house after we talked about breaking up, my chihuahua came and laid down on his foot…She has NEVER done that before, I wanted to beg him to stay after that.
3.  I am an idealist, but do not mistake that for being a fool. I call myself the most realist idealist you will ever meet. I love the idea of love and everyone being best friends, but I know when to walk away from a bad situation and I will.
4. I need actions, not words to prove to me. Please be patient, please be kind…Like I said I am not china doll and I know how to protect myself.
5. Nacho Cheese Doritos…Not chocolate…Or get me a unique flower…I am not like the other girls,lol
6. I love books…Ever heard of that saying “You know how guys will buy a girl drink, I wish that they would walk into a book-store and buy me a book”…Yeah that’s me, hehe.
7. Be HONEST! If I am asking why did you do something, it’s because I want to understand, because I care enough to want to know how your mind works, so that we can work together. I am not asking to attack you, I am asking because I want to know and learn about you more.
8. I hate the term “Friendzone” just don’t…If it seems I am rejecting you, just ask me about it.