Everything happens

I actually had this thought on the Monday, but out of respect for the most recent mass shootings…I decided to change the day.

Lately, for myself, everything has been happening at the exact right time…So I’m going to start going with this. The first thing that happened was my bag zipper. It’d been working on and off and since it’s been getting closer to Winter, I need my bag to zip close. I asked my Mum for a specific bag for my birthday. No joke, the day before my birthday the zip just stopped working altogether.

Now my phone has been not working either. It just randomly wont turn on and I usually have to put it back on the charger, and then it turns back on. Today (well the Monday) I get a text from my Mum that morning, saying that we had received my new phone…My old phone stopped working and I had to leave it on the charger. It took a while for it too turn back on. I thought for sure that the phone was not going to turn back on.

Then I decided I was going to “chicken out” aka I psyched myself out of catching a bus in the morning to work rather than a taxi. There was really no excuse. My main anxiety has been with travelling, so getting back on buses has been a challenge. I came up with every single excuse under the sun on a perfectly good day to do it. (I do catch it in the afternoon/evening). The taxi ended up being really late, and then every major road we came too, people sped up to overtake us, and the just plain stopped when they went to merge! Three times, three different people, on three major corners…Three times!

Even my post from Self was posted on the Monday after I went to a Body, Mind and Physic fair where I felt completely re-centered, but I had scheduled it days before I even went or remember I was supposed to be going to the Fair.

So I’ve decided to keep going with this feeling: I AM looking into a free website, candle AND label making things. I’m doing it, I AM looking into it.

It feels like it’s coming together.

 

What do you do after?

I think one of the most difficult things about a break up and what you do afterwards, is, what do you do with all the gifts afterwards? If you’re going to keep them, or anything, how long do you hold on, and how do you determine which things are items that you want to hold onto?

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I had one ex who had kept…well pretty much everything…I am always wary of a person who has SO many things of their past relationship. That that person could literally walk back into the door and it was like they were never gone. I think what was also a red flag was when my ex told me that he had left angry, which had meant he had to go back and get all of her things, clothing, empty paint bottles, even some adult toys. That is having far too many things of your ex’s. You have to let at least some things go.

However, I also think it’s okay to keep a couple of things, but it all depends on the individual. Some people do have trouble letting go and will use the items left behind as a way to keeping holding on. I once had a box that had bits and bobs and over the years it’s gotten less and less as I’ve thrown out more and more. Some of the things that I have held onto are items that are hopeless hopes that my ex’s weren’t complete douche-bags, and that I hadn’t made such horrible choices.

I think the weirdest thing I have ever seen an ex hold onto was the adult toy. For various reasons, firstly is just crept me out. His ex girlfriend bought it for herself, so he didn’t even buy it for her, she bought it for her. The reason they broke up was because she was constantly cheating on him. How could you take a adult toy, without knowing whether or not she used with those others? That and it’s just gross. His friends know all about this particular toy and seemed almost shocked when asked if I had ever used it and I said “HELL TO THE NO!”…Are they kidding?

┬áHave you kept anything from a past relationship? Only feel comfortable sharing if you want, if you have, why? Do you have an issue with current partners keeping items from an ex? What’s the weirdest thing an ex or yourself has ever kept?

That old age question…The rules of being single?

Ha! I finally found another topic to write about under my “Single in a Small city” category. For those who don’t know there is a lot of irony in this particular category. I was 30, I had been broken up with someone for about a month and so decided to write about being single in a small town. Well the “irony” about it is that roughly a little over another month later, when I started this category, I started dating someone….And the rest…as they say…is history.

I felt it was a little wrong about talking about being single, when I wasn’t anymore. It was also funny because usually when I’ve broken up with someone, I’m usually would stay single for about a year. It’s not a rule, it’s just something that always seemed to happen to me, so to be dating someone a couple of months later was a huge shock for me.

The other problem with being a small city is that a lot of the time, it’s a Kevin Bacon six degrees situation. The person you like or are dating or are interested in, even when you think you’re dating someone completely different from your ex. There is usually someone they know who will know your ex in some form or another. ┬áSo although there came a time when I refused to date anyone from the same group as my ex, after the appalling way I was treated by the “good guys”. Every ex since, has known someone from my ex’s group, who knows my ex…Complicated, isn’t it?lol … So you can have a rule about not dating anyone from your old friendship groups with a ex that you share, but it is so hard to do that here.

Do you have any rules, readers? When you’re single, do you not date for a set amount of time…Or are your rules more like “guidelines”?

Deadpool vs Zoolander 2

In the last week I have seen both Deadpool and Zoolander and it’s amazing how vastly different the two movies are. Zoolander 2 is one of those movies that has it’s bits, but there are others that just run on and on and I’m not sure who made the decision that it was…well I think they thought it was funny? Deadpool though was amazing when it came to timing. None of the jokes run to long and it kept going, there was a nice flow and it all made sense.

I was disappointed in the Zoolander movie, just because I loved the original so much and I know that there’s the whole the sequels are never as good as the originals, but I really wanted this to be good. Deadpool was just amazing. If there is a sequel (which I believe there will be) I have a feeling it will be good.

It seems kind of harsh to judge these two movies at the same time, even though they are different types of movies. However, I put them together because these are two huge movies of the moment. It doesn’t shock me though that Deadpool is doing so much better than Zoolander 2. I just wish that whoever put the whole Zoolander film together really watched it all together.

Also one of the clear differences was that Zoolander is definitely more “child-friendly” than Deadpool. Here in Australia the rating for Deadpool in only MA15+. Which means children can see it if accompanied by a parent. However, I was shocked by the amount of parents who brought their children into see Deadpool, because I wouldn’t. During the movie I got uncomfortable knowing that there were children in there. It’s not even the sexual scenes, it’s a little gory and there are a few intense scenes.

That first night…

So last night was the first night that I finally was able to sleep over my teachers house. (I’m calling him “my teacher” because he’s a teacher) and it was bad!lol…Not in a we got into a fight or anything like. I developed food poisoning…

Oh what timing! I can’t help but start laughing at the moment now. Last night though, oh it was bad! I felt at one point that I was going to actually pass out. The romance…Food poisoning bringing people together since forever. My teacher was lovely though, I couldn’t stop saying sorry and how mortified I was. He keeps telling me that it happens all the time and I have nothing to worry about…I’m still mortified though, haha!

He’s been texting me all day today, so I haven’t put him off…Yet, haha