Nurt Thurs – All That Matters

Nurture Thursday – All That Matters

I’m going to be honest…When I first saw this title the first thing that I thought of was Metallica’s “Nothing Else Matters”.

In all honesty, as long as YOU feel safe and happy, that’s all that’s matters. That can mean anything, if you feel happy and safe in your job, health, food, social…As soon as you feel safe and happy in a particular area…THAT’S what matters. It will make you think more positively happy.

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Share Your World, Nov Wk 4, 2018

Share Your World

Share Your World, Nov 26th 2018

If your five year old self woke up in your current body, what would happen, what would you say?

I think, in all honesty, I would probably become very scared and want my Mum or my Dad. I think I would just be crying. I think that it would have completely freaked me out.

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?  Whether you are talking about a romantic one, a friendship or a related to sort of relationship?

If your cruel, especially for no reason. By cruel I mean if your homophobic, racists and you threaten people. If you harm animals or have no problems with animals that are tortured. (That one makes me suspicious of everyone though)

Is there something out there, a thought, an idea, a current event, or a fear that you find deeply unsettling?

Trump…Everything that Trump embodies.

And one that is a bit whimsical:

There are some songs out there, mainly Celtic, where no matter where I am I feel the need to dance and become an Elf,lol…Sometimes on the bus, especially if I’m already in a good mood. I have been known to start swaying on the bus to the music. If I could live in the world of JRR Tolkien, I would. Once a year I try and watch all the films, but by myself.

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If you were arrested with no explanation, what would your friends and family assume you had done?

I’m not sure to be honest. They will probably think I’ve done something stupid, but nothing serious.

Finally

What were you grateful for this week?  Something that brought some joy into your world?

It has been such a pleasant week, not dramas. I’ve been really interesting conversations all week too, they’ve been very pleasant. Saturday and the whole burning ceremony was SO therapeutic. Exactly what the Doctor ordered. I think burning the words did, indeed, help.

I AM NOT A HORRIBLE PERSON!

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Happy??? World Philosophy Day!

What even is Philosophy?

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Philosophy (from Greek φιλοσοφία, philosophia, literally “love of wisdom.

Simply, Philosophy is how we think about the World, the Universe and Society. Its about questioning our very existence, with thought. The ideas with Philopsopy are generally general and can be quiet abstract.

I consider myself to be an uneducated Philosopher. Mainly because I have never been to school to pass a course for it. Sometimes my emotions and my brain exploding for not being able to understand certain people and situations. I tend to not be able to think “Why”.

Being a philosopher though is something that I’ve always wanted to achieve. Not necessarily to get a Certificate to show that I’ve passed a course. Just in my own mind, being able to discuss important things with no emotions and calmly.

Some of the most famous Philosophers are:

  • Plato (Founder and Teacher of Aristotle)
  • Aristotle
  • Socrates
  • Sigmund Freud
  • Henry David Thoreau
  • Laozi
  • Confucious
  • Ayn Rand (so few women and I don’t really like her)
  • Voltaire

Warrior or Worrier?

When I first started to get bad anxiety more consistently badly, I went to a hypnotherapist whose first question to me was “Are you a Worrier or a Warrior”?

Then when I went to my most recent therapy session, it came up again. Not that exact question, but why do I worry so much? I had to question, why do I worry so much, especially about things and situations I can’t control?

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Then I nearly got hit by a car as I was thinking about it from my appointment.

Even though I had nearly gotten hit by a car, I hadn’t been hit by the car. Just in that moment, I got a few seconds of feeling what it felt like not to worry. It was wonderful!

Nurt Thursday – Think/Australian Reading Hour

Nurture Thursday

positive thought

I unfortunately nearly had a panic attack a couple of nights ago. I was able to calm my thoughts and I fell asleep without any problems. When I woke up in the morning, although I was so upset that it had happened. I was proud of myself that I was able to calm my mind., without needing any drugs.That, I held onto all day.

Practice Mindfulness.

Now, the reason I have put this together with the Australian Reading Hour is because I think that reading (especially our favourite novels) can help us to think and imagine. Imagine and think what we would like ourselves to be. It almost “perfect” that these two go together SO well on the same day.

Mindfulness

Too be completely honest with you all, when I first heard of “Mindfulness” I thought it was something to do with day dreaming.

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I was clearly wrong…

Mindfulness is learning the ability to be present in the present moment. So when you have a anxiety moment/or moments. You are able to train and discipline yourself to calm yourself. Be in the moment.

Mindfulness is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment,[1][2][3] which one can develop through the practice of meditation and through other training. – Wikipedia (Mindfulness)

Mindfulness is about being present in the moment.

Some ideas on how to help being in the moment:

  • Understand when you first start to practice Mindfulness, you are not an expert. Expect to get distracted still.
  • Concentrate on what’s happening around you – Noises, smells
  • Try and not be judgmental about what you see, smell.
  • Notice what is in your immediate vicinity. How do your fingers feel on the surface your sitting on.

Do not worry if you start to drift off, and you don’t necessarily want to have a complete blank mind.

Being Aware, in that moment.

My Mama is smart =D

My mum and I have right ole’ gossip and biotching session while we’re in the car. One thing she brought up was that she agrees that the PC Culture is over the top at the moment … BUT … BUT …  it’s a very big BUT …

But it’s because the alt-right have taken to that level.

You take Alex Jones as a good example. Tries to go around smearing the names of parents who have lost children in the shootings,causing them to move nearly 7 times! They decided that they’ve had enough and he decides to sue them for HIS legal fees? Hey, dude! If you weren’t smearing people’s names you wouldn’t have those issues, would you…”genius”. It’s not even about attacking parents who lost children, it’s just going out of your way to smear anyone, causing them to have constantly move…Knowing FULL WELL what your supporters are doing.

Trump pretty much just handing over America to the Russians. Let alone those t-shirts that read “I’d choose a Russian over a Democrat”…Go live there then, if you think Russia is so fantastic! Why Russian anyway? The irony being of course, we all know that they couldn’t actually survive there.

Then there’s the sudden increase in African American…children…Having the police called on them by white folk. There is no way these people do not know about Tamir Rice. That even made the Australian news! I’ll have to find the video, but I heard this really good point made. Listen up racist white folk…When you make that call because of an “annoyance”, knowing full well about Tamir Rice. You are saying loud and “proud” that you, because of an “annoyance”, you are fully prepared to put that child’s life at risk. Simply because you’re “annoyed”.

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So “Pro-life” of them.

Some days

Some days, I don’t want to fight with anyone anymore,

Some days, I just want to relax and ignore the whole world,

Some days, I want the solution to be easy.

Some days, I’d do nearly anything to win the lotto … (nearly anything…nearly)

 Some days, I could honestly sleep all day and still feel tired.

Some days, I couldn’t fall asleep even if I tried.

Some day, I can’t believe I was so unhappy the day before.

Those days are days where I try to do everything.

Some days, I just want to do everything but I become tired again,

Some days, all I want to do is read, but can’t =/

Some nights, I just want to read all night!

White People! Yo!

I keep seeing all these Repbulicans white folks suddenly agreeing with a African american (ie Kanye West) who has clearly lost his mind.

Unless we are with African Americans and POC in general, then we just need to shut up! I know, I know…Freedom of Speech and all that…But we do not understand at all. We need to listen.

I have literally gotten into SO many arguments lately over really stupid things and I am so annoyed with myself I got involved.

  • The first was the NRA advertising a gun that looks like a cell phone. In this particular post, the headline picture was of an actual gun. Of course the 2A “defenders” were saying that Liberals are stupid…That’s what they got out of the article…So I told them to look up Stephon Clark and they should be ashamed of themselves trying to #whataboutism from the actual topic.
  • The second argument I got into was about the new Obama’s Netflix Documentary. How all these people are cancelling their Netflix accounts (a big whoopdie do) All these white folks saying how they can’t wait for Obama to be arrested…For what? I’m not exactly sure, since they still have not been able to answer us. Far as I know, Obama is not being currently investigated for anything and hasn’t been charged with anything. Kind of hard to get arrested (although it is America…no offence) for not doing anything.
  • The third argument I was getting into was about Trump and how he’s not a racist. The funny thing was when the Trump supporter brought up Melania…He called her Melanie, just like Donald…He has so much respect for Melania, he can’t even get her name right! I didn’t even realise until a couple of comments in.

I have to stop “arguing” with these morons,lol

These are my confessions

I’m not sure if I’ve actually written about this before…but if I have I apologise if you feel like you are just rereading something.

(I actually thought about this while I was “in the bathroom”)

I love my partner, I love him SO much…I don’t even think about not being with him.  I know he gets frustrated sometime because he’s not a very expressive person and isn’t great with his word…But his actions…I LOVE his actions! He is definitely an action man. Considering my other ex’s were definitely all talk, no action…I freaking love it!lol..I just want to cuddle him all the time!

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Here is my confession though…

My last ex has totally ruined me.

My last “relationship” was really weird! My last ex chased me for months and I kept saying no. There was a huge age gap…I was 29 going on 30 and he 19 going 20. After 7-7 months after spending a night together, just talking…I finally said Yes…A month later he ghosted me.

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For those who don’t know what “Ghosting” is. It is pretty much anyone you’re dating/seeing…and they just literally stop all contact with you. After chasing you for months and months. They wont return calls, emails, they wont meet up with you anymore. No reason, they just disappear. My ex stopped talking to me and went to a party and did not invite me. I had to send a text saying “I guess you’re trying to tell me you want to break up with me?”.

It has completely ruined my ability to trust and open quickly anymore. The thing that upset me most was when I finally said yes and let my guard down, I fell pretty hard, pretty quickly. Within that one month I was so happy, I allowed myself to look at “wedding” things, because it just felt so right. Usually it takes me forever to get to that point…The guy made me feel like a silly old fool.

The only reason I am starting to look at wedding things now is because my partner and I have been through so much together already. It makes me love him more and more each time.

This isn’t at all too say that I am expecting an proposal anytime soon…It’s more when I start looking at those sorts of things, for me, it means I’m at a certain stage, myself, personally.