Just why?lol

Now for this post, I am more thinking of more like “reality” stars. You know from like those shows “Married at Frist Sight”, “Gogglebox” “The Bachelor/Bachelorette”.

Shows like that.

I don’t know that many people who watch them, if at all. All of a sudden there are EVERYWHERE! They’re just giving us their opinions left, right and center. Like, come one, you were on Married at First Sight, I don’t have respect for you to listen to your opinion.

I started to think about this after I saw another reality star give their opinion about a current MAFs Australian episode. Now I don’t watch it, but there are lot of people about, who do. So a recent episode a guy finally stood up for himself, and his self-confessed “wife” admitted she likes to hit the sheets. But there was the thing, that’s how she “connects” and he doesn’t. So when he didn’t, she went ahead emasculated him.

What bothered me was that this other reality star’s opinion was that no one ever says that to a woman, when a man does it to her. Except that happens ALL the time in MAFs and the I see the public repeatedly call it out. It was just an utter waste of an opinion piece, and just a bad take at that. This reality star is always finding herself on every reality show. She’s one of those that is everywhere and her previous “colleagues” always pay her out for it.

Do we really need to hear these “reality stars” opinions, when they don’t actually travel in reality worlds?

It’s the same with “social influencers” I don’t know a single “social influencer” who would come even a little bit close to fitting in with my social circle. Who are they “socially influencing” apart from their rich business owners? How many times have we heard of a “social influencer” getting arrested in somewhere like Dubai (or somewhere like that), because they DON’T follow the social protocols. Religious or Social “norms”.

Andrew Tate is a “social influencer”, tells me all I need to know.

A SOCIAL media influencer has been arrested and fined after joining the search for missing mum Nicola Bulley. I know it’s the Sun, but come on! Why is an “influencer” harassing members of the public and then going “No Freedom of Speech”.

These “social influencers” are just a social pest!

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Gonna do it…lol

This doesn’t really have anything to do with the post from the other day, lol. I guess though, in some ways it does as well.

We ALL know how Trump says things that we know are not true, just like the same with Rowling. You know, at least Trump is honesty with his badness. Like he’s not saying “Oh, I didn’t mean it like” Which Rowling does ALL the time. Just like Trump though, she also acts. How can I explain it. Trump Supporters will always overwhelming say that they want Democracy. However, it’s not actual Democracy, it’s just Trump type Democracy, it’s not true Democracy.

Rowling is kind of the same, in that whatever she says, her cults believes. She’s writing a book that’s about an author, whose criticised online and then get murdered … But she wants us to believe that it has nothing to do with the trans outrage.

How STUPID, does she think we are? That’s the dangerous thing about both Trump and Rowling, they both know that their followers will believe ANYTHING they say. So Rowling says “Oh, it has nothing to do with what’s happening now” Her cult followers will say to us “But she said it had nothing to do with it”

Oh, you just “came up” with that idea all by yourself then?

The reason for my blog though?

When I first saw that news article, I got SO angry. For those who don’t follow the anti-trans ideology, you know, be human. know perfectly well what she’s trying to do. My idea? Too write to bookshops in my state, and not ask them to ban it. That would never happen anyway. Just to consider though, maybe not advertising it *that* much? The book world deserves better than Rowling, it just truly does.

There are so many rumours that she stole a lot of HP from another author. Which is probably why she always “gives in” too fan theories. Dumbledore being gay, never mentioned in her books. That only came about when it became a popular idea. It’s also why I absolutely think she purposely wrote the Goblins working in a bank, so not original.

I will absolutely be polite and I am also going to present it with some facts. I’ve just never done something like this before. I would LOVE some advice, if anyone here has ever done something like that before?

I also only found today that the author who is murdered, is accused of being transphobic.

Oh please

I am a straight person, so there’s a lot I do not feel comfortable writing/talking about. This I do.

I think one of the most frustrating things about people’s perception, as soon as they hear gay or LGBT+ THEY automatically think sex. They then put that one every other person.

There is a lot of proof/facts, that people are just born gay, or are born trans. Just like, some of us are born straight. There is no “gene” or social conditioning, you just are, or you are not. You can’t pass it on, like brown eyes, or blonde hair, or your size.

Massive Study Finds No Single Genetic Cause of Same-Sex Sexual Behavior – By Sara Reardon on August 29, 2019, Scientific American.

We really are in the “new age” of discovering what there is to things like being gay. (I can’t imagine why we lag in that area).

Personally, I don’t care what “makes” someone straight or gay, trans or cis. But I can completely get the intrigue behind it.

Just gonna pop this one in here as well.

Why Anti-Trans Laws Are Anti-Science – By The Editors on June 30, 2021, Scientific American.

This is the point of my blog post. There ARE trans kids and there ARE gay kids. Even so, that doesn’t make these children “sexual” anymore than the heterosexual kids, that’s shoved down our throats all the time. Think nearly every single Disney movie. Daddy/Daughter Religious dances.

Thursday Theories: Too cool, not to be cool

I was inspired to write this post after reading both Smile for the Camera [socs] by Paula Light’s Writing Site and Part of me by Rachel Mankowitz (check them both out!). Funnily enough, they both wrote their posts on the same day, and I spent the rest of my day, trying to think and break down my thoughts

When you get a chance, please check out Rachel Minkowitz’s Young Adult novel, Yeshiva Girl, on Amazon.

When you get a chance, please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

Thank you ❤

As with both these lovely ladies, I too … Have never understood the whole popularity or “what is cool” things

I know…It is shocking

Shows like Buffy, Sex in the City, Angel, E.R. etc … I love them, but when they first came out … I didn’t start watching them until a couple of seasons in. The only show I can remember watching when everyone else did, was Dawson’s Creek…You know something? I really don’t like it that much now.

Joey’s annoying

Dawson’s annoying

Pacey can be annoying…

Too be honest I still don’t understand what they were talking about. What kind of teenagers were they!

See, I don’t mind not being popular, now that I’m older.

Everyone I know or knew, who one might consider “popular”. They’re all horrible, and in hindsight, they always were. What about yourselves?

So lovely ladies and jellyspoons … Who wants to be popular!

Social Media Cleanse

*Edit* I am so sorry! I do not know what’s going on lately, but I swear that I am scheduling  things and then they just keep popping up everywhere, anywhere they feel like!

It is SO hard these days to ignore the social media “craze” and the hold that it has over all people of all ages, races, gender, background…the list goes on. It is important to note here though that not everyone in the world has a computer or a “smart phone”. It is easy to understand though why people find it so hard to take themselves off of it, some struggle even not being apart of it for only hours and minutes at a time.

I made a promise to myself about a year ago, that at least once a week I was going to come off all my social media pages. Which I can say that I do and it’s easy. Although to be honest it isn’t that hard, there are a lot of negative and horrible people on their. They definitely do help me get fed up with it easier and they make me want to come off.

There are SO many benefits from coming off of social media, even for just one day. I can also say that I find it easily to spend days off of places like Facebook and Instagram so much easier these days for my longer than a day. I find that once you start making something apart of your routine and you keep it up, whether that be keeping something in or out. It just starts to become easier after a while.

However, I also think that you need something else to keep yourself occupied, especially those first few times that you do something. Below I have written a few things that I found kept me from getting on social media. If you have any please, free to share!

• Read,read,read…and did I mention, Read…Taking time off from social media is definitely a good time to get caught up with your reading. If you are anything like me, once I start reading I tend to just keep going. Especially if it’s a book that I’m interested in.
• I also love to play video games, so that is a good time.
• I tend to do more things like mediating and doing more yoga when I take myself off. It gives me to properly sit and meditate and clear my mind. Although my Gran did say that you should be able to meditate anywhere, if you are doing it properly.
• I do a LOT more walking, by myself and with my dog. Even if I’m walking to the local supermarket. I’m more likely to walk and get my food, rather than order it online…Save a lot of money!
• Cleaning out my closets…Just this past week I have gotten rid of about nearly 10 blouses/shirts that I haven’t worn in a couple of years (I’ve had most of them for years, it’s just been the couple of years since I hurt my leg, I’ve put on weight) I have gotten so much more space now, it’s great! Room for more…Just kidding ~.^
• Of course it gives me a lot more time for writing Blog posts and just the general writing for fun that I like to do.

Sad Reminders

An 11 year old boy killed himself after his 13 year old girlfriend faked her own death. She is know facing charges. (Washington Post)

We live in a dangerous time, a time where it is so easy to read other people’s opinions, other people’s stories…A time where, for some reason, everyone automatically believes the first thing they see with their eyes. Even though over and over again we are proven wrong. #fakenews

How many times do we get an email from someone we know and we instantly know something ins’t right about the email? How many times have we been told by a friend or family member that they have received spam messages from us? Personally I’ve had a couple of times where I’ve had friends let us know if we’ve received a message from them, it’s not them.

It’s really made me think before I just automatically go and condemn someone, to actually do my own research before I go and knee jerk attack someone.

What I think I can’t stand more than people attacking someone without doing any research, are the people who take no responsibility for attacking someone, especially someone they don’t know, reporting them to their work place and potentially getting them fired and they are wrong.

There was an incident recently I saw, literally the day after I read about the 11 year old killing himself, of a screen shot on Instagram of someone who had apparently sent a message to someone they don’t know, a racist and threatening Facebook comment. Well of course complete strangers went and reported the guy. So I was just as annoyed at this guy and went had a look at the guys Facebook. It was the oddest thing ever, the guy was African American himself, he had his African American sister defending him, something seemed “off”. While I don’t think it’s impossible for people of the same skin colour to attack one another, the whole thing just didn’t ring true.

However, that wasn’t even the issue I had. The issue I had was someone mentioned to this Instagram page that they were potential ruining someones family (the person is a married family man) and getting them seriously hurt over something they’ve probably haven’t even done. Instead of people going “You know what, we may have possibly goofed up” Nope…They decided to attack this other person and call them a troll and THEY needed counselling, because they were swearing…That was it…They were swearing mainly because other people were just not listening to what they were saying.

When are people going to take responsibility for themselves?

How can we ask those who are actually doing the wrong thing to take responsibility, when we as the “good” people and the social justice warriors, cant’? 

What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man

LONG POST INCOMING! Once I started I couldn’t stop!lol

I also feel like I need a disclaimer here: *I like guys, I really do, some of my favourite people in the whole wide world are guys. Sometimes I prefer them over other girls. They can be just so much more fun than women. With both genders though, there are people within BOTH genders who make it very difficult for the rest of us. This post is NOT a “guys are jerks” post. As a straight girl though, this is what I have come up against…a lot. This is from my perspective.

I had an incident a few years ago that every now and then comes up for me and it still irritates me SO much. For two main reasons:

1. I was tagged in a quote I have never actually even said. I own who I date and I don’t think all guys are jerks because I’ve dated a couple of jerks. Some of ex’s are even nice people as well, and they are good people. We broke up because they love wasn’t there anymore, or it was just never there. A lot of my ex’s are very charismatic and since I’m a shy person, I found them hypnotic almost. You know that saying about opposites attract? Either way I have never said it.
2. If you’re going to tag me in something publicly on Facebook, you could at least have the courtesy to have…I don’t know…An adult conversation with me about why I had a one night stand, not that it’s even actually your business. Especially after I’ve turned you down 3 times. I really don’t appreciate having strange guys attacking me. While, ironically, in the quote, you call yourself a “Good Guy”. For future reference a good guy would NEVER get his friends to bully you into dating him.

Also though, to tag me in a post saying that calls all the other guys I have dated are jerks, is not just an insult for me, but some of my ex’s as well. I am actually good friends with a couple of my ex’s. You are attacking good people, who are good friends of mine. So be careful.

Personally, I don’t know what exactly they were trying to achieve and I clearly made the RIGHT decision, by making a personal vow to myself to never date anyone from this group, even before this happened …

Clearly the best decision I have ever made for myself!

Every time this situation comes up for me though, or when I think about it. I get so annoyed about it because I’ve had, one too many times, been attacked by a “good guy” when they’ve actually been complete douchebags. It’s something I want to know, what makes these guys think they’re goods guys WHILE attacking girls/women, sometimes they don’t even know? If girls are not dating you for the “jocks” ever thought, it might just actually be you? Just like the girls who go after the “bad ones” … Especially when I see SO many guys fawning over “mean girls” and girls that are constantly cheating on them, or using them. I have lost guys as friends AFTER they have broken up with their ex’s, who constantly cheated on them, because they are allowing the girl to still use them…I didn’t want to see them get used anymore, and not find a good partner, and I lost them as friend…They always come back though,lol

It goes both ways…It always has…I don’t know if you’ve noticed…

BUT

You are NOT going to get the person you want, by attacking them and getting your “friends” to gang up on them either. (That’s just a general world lesson too).

Now I am actually going to get to the topic…A long way to come!

What makes a good guy a good guy, or what makes a man to you?

Too some of my “good guy” friends they all have the same characteristics. Beard, play the same guys, same music, do the same activities, give themselves all Superhero nicknames…Pretty much all the same. They think along the lines more of “Well there are 20 other guys who are doing the same thing, so it must be alright” -.- In a small town that can be toxic!

Too me a “real man” has values, has a backbone that he sticks too. They don’t change their values according to which girl (or guy) they want to have sex with more. They will actually grab themselves by their family jewels and have a conversation with me. Rather than just attack me on Facebook in a quote I have never said.

Some of the BEST  and good men I know wear dresses

 They’ve had to fight and have had to be brave to come out, so they just “get it”. They get to be real, they get to just be themselves and never to lower themselves.

24 hours to Earth 2016

Just a little friendly reminder that in 24 hours exactly from now, it will be Earth Hour 2016. So how are you going to “celebrate” it? One of those most well known way to honour Earth Hour is to shut off all lights and all devices, and to sit in candle light. You can support it in your own way of course. As mentioned on the website it is best to use 100% beeswax and/or soy candles.

Earth Hour aims to encourage an interconnected global community to share the opportunities and challenges of creating a sustainable world. Below I have posted some links of sites and social media outlets, where you can take a look at some more information and see what you can do  to help.

Celebrating Earth Hour (main website)

Earth Hour Twitter

Earth Hour Facebook

Adelaide Cup

In my little “town” (it’s South Australia main city) today is “Adelaide Cup” day. To break it down, instead of breaking it down into tinier stories. It’s a Public Holiday in South Australia (YAY) but it’s also the day in South Australia where our fanciest of the fanciest and the richest of the richest come out and take a bet on some horses.

The Adelaide Cup always takes place on the second Monday in March and it’s first run was in 1864. The first race usually takes places around lunch time and then continues at roughly 40 minute intervals for the rest of the afternoon/day.

Now this day does cause a lot of controversy, as you can probably imagine. That constant battle between “making” horses run and what can sometimes happen after the races. Also that eternal battle of do the horses really want to race? It’s also causes that big controversy of people needing to shop for everything in the whole supermarket, just in case…just in case, on that one public holiday day they run out of…stuff,lol

So readers, what do you think of racing? Horse racing or otherwise? Personally I am enthralled by car-racing, even though I don’t drive!

*If you do place a bet today, do so, responsibly*. 

“Mean Girls”

There has been a social situation recently that has come up and I don’t care, I’ve been purposely taking them out of my life slowly. It is definitely working! There is a birthday this weekend and I wasn’t invited, but a lot of my friends have been wanting me to be there (I bring the fun apparently) and it’s made for a awkward social situation…Except for who is secretly celebrating,lol

One of my best friends from an entirely different group sent me this morning and it made me crack up and I think that it explains the situations well….Honestly I have thought this myself…(and most of them are a bunch of thirty year old men trying to please a girl in her early twenties…Such a cliche!).

I think something to overcome a situation you need to think of something funny, even if it’s only funny to you =D