Day 14 – 21 Single Womans Blogging Challenge!

So here is my third instalment of my Blogging Challenge…I can’t believe that I am already up to the third week! January is nearly already gone…Damn!

15)   Narrate a conversation between you and someone in your life who you never had closure with (a friend, an ex, a family member, etc.) What would you say? What would they say? What outcome would you hope for?

Well there are so many people that I wish that I could do this with question! Especially since this is the year that I’m trying to get the toxic people out of my life. The thing is I don’t want to take them out, I never ever do. I have a Disney type view on the world in these matters. As I say though I am the most idealist realist you’ll ever met. I am always willingly to forgive and have people back in my life, as long as I believe that they are genuine in their apologises. I may need time, but I always want people back in my life…I’ll always make room again. You can forgive some, but you do not need them back in your life.

I wish all the time that I could have my Great Grand-Father back, and there are so many conversations with him I wish that I could have that I wouldn’t know what to start!  About me, friendships, my life, career…He was an extremely inspirational person in my life.

16)   If you planted a time capsule right now of your life to be opened in 20 years, what would be in it?

  • Doctor Who memorabilia and most likely with my fan letter to Matt Smith.
  • Lord of the Rings and the Hobbit memorabilia
  • The group photo of when my family went on our family vacation
  • A picture of my doggies
  • A copy of my Library Studies certificate
  • Probably one of my rockabilly dresses
  • One of my favourite candles
  • A recipe of Lasagne

17)   What are your spiritual beliefs and how do they impact your relationships/relationship status?

I am what is better known as an “Agonistic”. Meaning I don’t necessarily believe in a God, but I believe in other spiritual worlds. I do believe in Guardian spirits/angels, psychics etc. I do however love what the Dali Lama and what the Buddhist stands for. I also do Reiki.

So far with the Reiki/Tarot part of my life, my ex’s haven’t been judgmental of my life. It’s something that I do not force down their throats and so far they have been extremely open minded to it and one of them even asked me to do Reiki on him a few times. So when I am looking for a partner, they don’t have to believe in it themselves, they do have to be respectful that I do it and will continue to do so.

18)   If you could have a conversation with yourself in high school, what would you say? 

To believe more in myself! Take the trip to America it will change your life. Start studying Library Studies and not to wait till later! The right man is going to come along, so don’t worry about it even if it take years and too always remember that family is here for you no matter what.

19)   What is something about you that people would be surprised to learn?

I think a lot of people are deceived by my sunny like nature. I’ve always been of the thought that if you haven’t done anything wrong to me. Why do I think I have the right to be nasty and bitchy just because I woke up like that? I know a LOT of girls who will literally say “I woke up in a bad mood, so I am going to be a bitch all day today”. So a lot of people think I am pretty much a walk over, which is completely not the case at all! I can easily kick people’s butts! Then they’re shocked I can stand up for myself.

20)   Describe your most difficult breakup and what you learned from it

Well in case most people haven’t heard, it was definitely my last break up. Ironically it was the shortest relationship I’ve ever had too because I knew something was off, couldn’t figure out what it was until we broke up,lol.

However, I can say that I have learnt the most from it. No more toxic people, I can’t just put up with stuff anymore. I have been doing a lot more things that I was previously afraid to and I do things because I want too and not give a stuff what others thinks. It has been amazing! I’ve been having a lot more fun than any other time in my life and I am doing things that are proving to be extremely positive!

21)   How would you pitch a reality show about yourself? To what network?

Ahhh…Well I have never done anything like that before. I guess the best kind of show I could pitch si a lady coming towards the end of her 20’s. No kids, no marriage and he quest as she enters her thirties looking for personal fulfilment. How is it to be a single women in her 30’s in this day and age?

No idea about the network, maybe the Lifestyle channel? No idea,lol

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The Single’s Womans Blogging Challenge “Day 8 – 14”

8)      Five things that are most important to you in a future mate

I crave honesty now more than anything else! I have realised how important it is and how much respect you have for the other person when you are honest.
A good heart, he can be as broody as he wants, but as long as he has a good heart and genuinely cares for others and myself of course!
An open mind, I know a variety of people in my life and my partner would NEED to be open minded to all of it.
Being polite is a huge plus for me, not necessarily opens doors and lifts his pinkie when he drinks tea. I have been with someone who would literally sulk every time we were around my friends, but if we were around HIS friends I had to be charming and entertaining.
A good sense of humour, I don’t think that I could ever live with someone who had no sense of humour…Oh that’s a horrible thought! lol

9)      Your favorite “weird/funny single behavior” – Anything you do that is uniquely YOU and that living alone allows you to do (For example, I sometimes dance around the house with my cat to Frank Sinatra)

Oh my, I think everything I do is weird any ways! I always feel that if you can’t do it around your partner…well that’s a bit sad. So I am not really sure what my weird single behaviour is to be honest. There are plenty of things that I wouldn’t do if front of others, but if I can’t do it in front of my partner than it would probably mean I wouldn’t trust them. I have nothing to hide from a partner!

10)   Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you

Lauren may be a given name or surname. The name’s meaning may be “Laurel tree”, “sweet of honor” or “victory of wisdom”.

Well I’m not a tree, hehe…I think I agree with the other two though, sweet of honor is definitely me, even when the rest of the world calls me crazy I know I am honourable and that’s why they think I’m crazy. Instead of being with everyone else and talking behind their backs, I ask them of what is going on. Victory of Wisdom is something that I believe I am starting to believe in myself only now.

11)   Your worst/funniest/most embarrassing date

It’s funny because I don’t really date. Every single one of my relationships, I’ve never actually ‘dated’ them, we just spent time casually together and decided that we like each other. The most embarrassing type dates I find myself in, is when a guy will invite me to go see a movie and he hasn’t made it clear that HE intends it to be a date. I rock up thinking I’m just hanging with a friend and he thinks it’s date…That has made for quite a few awkward situations.

12)   Your proudest accomplishment

My proudest achievement is going back to studies to pursue in a career I want to do, rather than being in a job that was physically making me ill just to get money. I just wish I could find a job in this field now!

13)   Describe how you met the last person you texted and talk about your friendship/relationship

Well he’s my cousin by blood, so that’s pretty simple to explain, lol

14)   Describe the last moment you felt really, truly blissful

I have had quite a few moments over the last couple of months. I do have two different moments that stand out though. One was when I dressed as Katarina from LoL to a conventions, that was an amazing day and I was so happy. My feet were killing at the end of the day, but I just LOVED it all! It was an amazing day.

The second was on New Year’s Eve. I debated if what I was doing was alright or not and now I know that it was an amazing! I definitely made the right decision for myself. I salsa the night away, it was amazing! I kept dancing with random men, which was not the safest plan, guaranteed…I had just assumed that my friends knew this guys…They did not! lol.

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The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge! Day 1 – “7”

Technically I know it’s only been 5 days since New Years (still can’t believe that!) but it’s also Sunday, which is the end of a calendar week and so far so good!

So as I mentioned at the end of last year I would be taking up a Blogging challenge! It’s called “The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge” and would post a weekly blog with the answers in groups of seven and here is the first group:

1)      Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”

Well my first response is I normally laugh that question off with “I choose jerks and bad guys all the time” When I really look into it though, that has a bit to do with it. Considering I’m friends with all of my ex’s except for one (because he really is a jerk), they cannot be that bad. It’s a horrible question because if I knew that answer to that I probably wouldn’t be single to begin with!

I don’t think I am making completely horrible decisions with the guys I’m picking. I know what I want and at the time these guys genuinely seem like they can provide it. I have talked about marriage and kids with all three of my relationships and I didn’t like bringing up the conversation. So I always felt like they did really want it, because they were thinking of it. The hardest relationship was my first, which was long distance, because I was too young to understand what a great relationship we had. With neither of us willingly to make that sacrifice, that was it. It’s hard sometimes because I still think he very easily could have been the one.  I have actually told him that he was my favourite so far.

I enjoy being single and I think that’s a majority of my problem.  I remember with one relationship where I actually use to tell my boyfriend not to come with me, because I knew he wouldn’t enjoy and he would sulk and that would upset me. It ended being so bad I still wish I had spent one New Year without him! I think when I meet the one where I enjoy being in a relationship more than being single that’ll be the one for me!

2)      Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.

Like the author who created this blog challenge, I 99% of the time LOVE my single life. There’s just this one moment where I feel it really sucks to be single. Those nights where the thunderstorm is just perfect, perfect for snuggling and having that lazy sleepy conversation that is full of your fears as you both can’t sleep from the thunderstorm. That conversation where nothing necessarily “happens” but just that moment reminds me that I’m single.

3)      Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.

I feel like there have just been so many moments! I am one of those girls that enjoys being single and I have no problem with it. A few moments that stand out though are my formals, I actually was single for both. Most of the couples ended up in fights, the girls wanted to dance and the guys didn’t, the girls got mad at their boyfriend for daring to look at another girl and there was me running about, dancing, eating, jumping in to take photos and dancing again. Even this past new year’s, I was salsa dancing all night with gorgeous men…I have never salsa danced before!

4)      Your biggest fear as a single person.

My biggest fear is honestly when I got out, especially when it’s in the city or downtown. That is mainly because though I am a tiny person and I know that if someone wants to hurt me that they really can if they want too. I am not going to lie when I say that this is one of the reasons I like guys with the big arms. They give the impression that they can protect me!

5)      The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

That because I’m single that I MUST want to date…This is not true at all! Yes, I would love to find a companion to be with and I have no doubt that when I find “the one” I’ll know and that everything will be fine. If I was to date someone now, especially with everything that I’ve been through, it would completely end in disaster. I remember when I was about 24 and I went to a psychics show weekend and I had a reading done on myself and they said that I would meet the ‘one’ in my early thirties and thinking at the time “That’s so far away!” I’ve been told that two by two different psychics!…Now being only being a few months away from 30, this looks like the reality…I will never doubt a psychic ever again! lol

6)      Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

I think this is debatable. Mainly because I didn’t go into a relationship hoping that it would end, I wanted them all to last and they all ended for different reasons. Sometimes you love someone and they just don’t love you anymore, sometimes you realise the relationship is going to go nowhere even if you want it too. For myself, personally, I would have done anything to keep my first relationship and we are still good friends even today! It was pretty much impossible to be together anymore, so that is not exactly what I want…Then again you could debate that is exactly what I wanted, to end it.

How many times have you liked someone and they just don’t like you back? That’s not exactly what I want!

7)      Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

Absolutely not! Ten years ago I and probably everyone else around me thought I’d be the first to get married, to have kids…and now I’m the last in my family to do so! I didn’t know what I wanted to do and now I want to do nothing else but work in a Library, anything else would feel like a drain.

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