The Shame of it all!

I have been reading a lot of article about “plus-size” or about “skinny shaming” and I say STOP THE SHAMING!!!

Personally I’ve had a lot of problems with this from others and it is something that I’ve noticed has been happening a lot more in the last couple of years. When I’ve had a lot of problems with this, all the guys in my family are tall and skinny. Now for some reason over the last couple of years I have continually been asked if my brother, cousin, Uncle are alright, because they don’t like they’ve been eating. Hereditary-wise my family are all skinny until we get to about 30 and then it’s all downhill. Even my Dad’s nickname was “Bones” because of how skinny he was, and he’s not any-more.

The main issue I have with this topic is I have yet to see someone take responsibility for how they feel. No one is saying “Why do I feel this way?” Everyone just blames magazines and models and celebrities (or is some cases I’ve seen some women blame men) “We can’t control what our kids do and see”. I’m sorry, these people don’t owe us anything. The model, the magazine, the celebrity…They don’t actually owe us anything and I highly doubt that their intentions are too make us feel bad about ourselves? When did it become the responsibility of those who are unknown to us, the outer influences, to make ourselves feel good about ourselves?

The “Good Guy” Syndrome

I usually don’t like writing/talking about this subject mainly because it brings up so many issues and problems and no one actually listening, just all fights. This is a major problem that a lot of girls face when they’re single. I’m not sure if being in a relationships means that I just don’t see it anymore, but I know it’s a huge problem.

Deciding to write this blog post come about when someone posted to me in a private message. The article comes from the website Distractify and I really had to share it with you.

The guy is shaming women who reject him and it backfires.

To summarise this article, a person (assuming he’s a guy here) writes an anonymous note about how ‘hard’ it is to be a good guy, opening doors and not getting thanked for it…blah, blah, blah…And the responses that come from this anon note. The reason I wanted to share it with you all was this one classic line from the backfire:

“Did Batman give up on Gotham because people weren’t thanking him for saving the city?”.

I can personally relate to this issue, I was actually shamed on Facebook because I didn’t want to date a “good guy” cause nothing says “I’m a good guy” like shaming someone because they rejected you…three times…*insert sarcasm* Being shamed publicly on Facebook completely made me rethink and made me realised how wrong I was when I saw that if I didn’t do what this guy wanted me to, he’d get his friends and they’d just humiliate me…I wasn’t happy with my choice of not dating this guy at all*end of sarcasm*

I did learn from this situation…Make a game out of it ladies (and guys if this happens to as well). What I used to do was with the last guy I was with  and when he would do the cliche “good guy things”. For example, having to make a comment on any girls picture asking “where the good guys are”…Everyone takes a shot/drink.

Guys you need ask yourself two questions, if you need to try and convince someone else you’re a “good guy” ask yourself why do you have no other qualities to offer? And, if you are SO convinced that the girl you “like” is chasing someone who you think is such a “douche” why do YOU want a girl like that? What does it say about you?