…I think I am weird because I don’t find abusive people “sexy”.

I used to have a friend who tell us to call her boyfriend “Sexy”, not only does this make me feel uncomfortable (because he’s my ex-bff’s boyfriend and I had a boyfriend myself) but I found it even MORE uncomfortable because he was/is abusing her.

I have noticed though a lot of women, find aggressive men sexy…I think of Chris Brown or someone like Ted Bundy…I don’t understand that. It drives me nuts when women say that Chris Brown learnt and became “better” after Rihanna and that Rihanna forgive him…Except he didn’t stop at Rihanna…Or women writing and wanting to marry a man who IS a serial killer…

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That is my exact face too dog!

I do not understand this fascination that some people have with being obsessed with truly horrible people.

From what I’ve been reading, especially with the Bill Cosby convictions. I get for the African American community they feel under represented (ie Chris Brown, Billy Cosby) … They can definitely do better and their bad behaviour, doesn’t take away from the progress that has been made and what they contributed. Don’t punish the other actors in that show either. What people like Bill Cosby have done is on them, personally, not the African American community…Well maybe not Chris Brown so much…I think he’s just always been an entertainer. I will probably keep watching the Cosby show, despite everything. It is a good show and what the show represents, is positive too.

However, you come back to someone like Ted Bundy or, even Charles Manson…or my ex-bff’s boyfriend…They just make me shiver all over and never really contributed anything to society. So why the fascination?

Friday Night Thinking and Drinking…

I was so disappointed to read this over the last week. I really love the outfits at Honey Birdette (expensive, but gorgeous) and I know that in the work place you should be presentable…BUT, in all honesty as well, I find that someone who is comfortable, can be the most sexiest thing on the planet!

‘Not Your Honey’ – When Sexual Empowerment Disempowers

It is not empowerment when women are forced to show their bras and wear stilettos just to keep their job. It is not empowerment when women are paid to have people talk to them in unwanted sexually explicit ways. It is not empowerment when women are scared to speak up about feeling uncomfortable in the workplace for fear of losing their job. This is not sexual empowerment. This is not even women empowerment. Silencing sexual harassment allegations and enforcing dress codes that play on sexualising women for the public (read as: male) gaze is disempowering.