Common Sense…Bullying

cw: bullying, childhood trauma

Actually, people who hate on strangers are probably more likely to have had a tragic childhood. Hate is taught. A lot of therapists, actually think that Trump (as an example) probably had some traumatic incident when he was a child. And thus, he’s been stuck at that mental child age.

It makes logical sense when you*THINK* about it. Those who are bullied, become bullies, like transphobia. Chances are, it’s more likely that people who are being transphobic, are far more likely to have had a traumatic childhood, or were raised by bigoted parents.

Common sense would dictate that trying to bully, harass and take away the rights of people who are not only strangers to you, but you don’t know any, and haven’t been harmed by that group. THAT’S not normal. Trans and gay people are definitely normal. Its just their brains are wired differently, that’s it. They’re still normal though. Whatever that is, anyway.

Erase…

If you define yourself, by what others define yourself as, than that’s on you, not other people.

The biggest complaint that TERFs have is that unfounded fear that women are somehow being “erased”.

We’re not.

Again, it’s not up to YOU, yourself and yourself alone to let others define who you are. The only reason for the basic women/female man/male. Is for health, medical and basic scientific reason. That’s it. If the Science world (as a example) decided women were … I don’t know … Felines (extreme yes) instead. We wont suddenly lose our human bodies and our usual human bodily functions, and turn into cats.

Some people act like if we stop calling women “women”, then some big pencil in the sky is going to erase women.

It’s delusional, and it’s also delusional to put that on a different group of people.

Roughly there, in all about 6% of the worlds population define themselves as trans. That’s ALL trans people. Women, men, sexual. In 2017 it was reported that the share of women in the world was 49.6% … That’s a bit of a difference. Especially when you remember that 6% is made up of ALL trans people. So not just trans women, but men and sexual too.

The transphobes are now trying to stalk my parents, to tell them to tell me off for telling people that they need not be defined by one word. I don’t think it’s occurred to them that it’s my parent’s, my family who taught me that. Also I’m 37! Haha … Like my parents could “tell me off” at this stage of the game. Also neither of my parents are on Twitter, they hate it, haha

Let me introduce myself…

My name is Lauren, I am also known by Lolsy, Lolly, Lollypoppenjay, Lol, Lols, Lozza, Lorry…Just to name a few.

I come from the family of Bolton’s, Leonard’s, Bennett’s and probably others.

I am English, Australian and Irish.

I am a daughter, a niece, a friend, a cousin, a friend, a family member of a family, a fur mama, a fur aunt, fur sister a beloved great grand daughter. All the fur’s (haha).

I am a woman, a female, I am straight, I am cis and am not trans, I have big boobs, a nice butt (well I think so anyway) a regular menstrual cycle. I don’t know if I’m a reproductive, as I have no children. I assume I am though.

All of these words could change tomorrow, and you know something? I would still be here. With everyone of those things still true, they’d just be different words.

30 Day song music challenge … Day 28 – 30

Day 28 … A song by a artist whose voice you love

I just love all of their voices

Celtic Woman – Tir na nOg ft Oonagh


Celtic Woman Official

Celtic Woman Official

Day 29 … A song you remember from your childhood

I feel if you didn’t listen to this man, and you’re Australian … Did you even have a childhood?

Peter Combe – Newspaper Mama … 1988


Peter Combe (Official)

Day 30 … A song that reminds you of yourself.

The one and only…

Enya – Wild Child

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I love me

Despite my next post, I actually really do love myself a lot … Just other people do not, lol…Like they might love me, but it is REALLY obvious who they really love more. Whose opinion they think is more important of myself is more important than the opinion of myself. I wouldn’t be surprised why people think I’d have a low self-esteem. I actually really don’t, but I am also EXTREMELY AWARE HOW OTHERS VIEW ME. I don’t want to be prideful. But I do love myself, god knows someone has too!

I am proof that despite that knowing you are no one’s favourite, knowing that your life is being directed by people who really don’t like you or respect you or your partner…Since you were 12…You can still be a kind people to others. You can still love yourself.

Put all the warnings you want!

Put all the trigger warnings, you want. Hug all the teddy bears you want.

Trump, Johnson, all these old anti-maskers, whine about putting masks on. Say you’re not a man if you wear one.

I don’t know about you, but this whole “manly man” portrayal, who are the LEAST manly man I have ever seen. I’m over it. I don’t want another generation of alcoholic, slapping their children and wives about, where the male suicide rate is MUCH higher than women, “manly men”.

The world cannot survive another generation of Trumps, Johnsons and “manly men”.

Women know and good men know now. When you REALLY know something, you can’t go backwards.

Gender Differences in Suicide Rate – Wikipedia … As of 2015, almost two-thirds of worldwide suicides (representing about 1.5% of all deaths) are committed by men.

Why are men more susceptible to alcoholism? It may be in their dopamine – Sciencedaily

Sure, but yeah, how dare we recognise this now and instead of just continuing with generations of alcoholism, mental health issues, and violence. Let’s just try something else now. Shall We.

So hug those teddies! Put those trigger warnings on! And make a safe space, all for you!

And never forget that it mostly WHITE and MIDDLE AGED persons, complaining about wearing masks! Whose the weak generation again? And if the young people are, who raised them again? Clue, the same people throwing and destroying store property, because they don’t wanna wear a mask to help others. But you know, they’re so … manly …

Funny Update:

About three days after I first started to write this. There was an ad/commercial on. Just before midnight, that was saying for men TOO cry, TOO speak. Coincidence?

Scaring Ourselves

Sometimes the scariest things that happen to us, is when we scare ourselves!

This can be from literally jumping out from a plane…to writing that letter/email or message that you really don’t want too, but have to write!

At the moment, it may seem really scary to vote or something, between politics and voting, things definitely feel scary. I just want to say that, if you want to mail in a vote, then hand it in. It might be the best option, apart from turning up on election day.

What is the scariest thing you’ve done? Now you don’t have to reveal all. How were you feeling, what made you finally take that plunge? Did you feel better after? Was it as scary as you thought it’d be?

You don’t know me

I was taking a few days off of Twitter last week. On the same day that I decided to come off of Twitter, my Dad was drunk and again “abusing” me. What got me laughing me though is whenever my Dad says something like “You were so spoiled growing up” “You don’t know my life”…and he always ends it with “Goodbye, until you decide to grow up, or Goodbye, until you stop being so sad”.

Now, it makes me laugh…Kind of like when my ex friends called me a horrible person, and how hellish I made their life.

It makes me laugh now, because it is all so utterly stupid.

I might actually feel sad, if my Dad had ever been there for me as a teenager, if my ex friends had ever actually been good friends. It might actually make me sad…I just don’t…For the longest time I felt guilt. Now, I just don’t.

I think what really sparked this thought in my head was when my Dad said that I was so spoiled growing up. How in the heck would he know? We were lucky if we saw him even once a month, and even then he was always “sick”. He wasn’t paying any child support, totally my mum’s choice, BUT still would complain about if he had too, she would spend all on it herself. So why would he think we were being spoiled? I mean, my brother was, it’s the reason why he’s bad with money now…But only one of us could get that extra money,lol

I though, was definitely not spoiled.

It’s annoying, you know?

Just remember

PSA

Just remember that during these unusual times, that there are people out there who want to help. There are people out there who just really don’t know that you need help. Remember, there’s no shame in asking for help.

Just remember to talk to to people, even when you’re not expected too. A simple, “Hope you’re doing well” Can perk up anyone’s day. Do it, but just remember that they may not reply, and that’s okay. Just remember to not harass them if they don’t reply.

Are you an empath?

*If you follow me on Instagram. You probably saw my post about this topic. As I wrote on the post, I wanted to write about this topic, with a little more oompfh.*

Too begin with, there are two type of empaths. There are the type that feel for others, so you see a situation and while you might not understand what they’re dealing with. You feel for them. You can feel the pain that they are feeling. You get why they’re fighting for what they’re fighting for.

The other are people who can almost actually read your mind. They are what is called an empath psychic. A lot of these types can see certain things, like, you might of heard of people who can see colours around people or auras’. We all have one certain colour that surrounds us, but empath psychic can see our colours change when we feel pain, happiness, sadness etc.

Also, for each empath, clearly there are empath’s who feel different areas more strongly than other areas. So there are people like medical empath’s, as an example.

Basically Empath’s are people who literally feel for others.

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Now, the issue I really have with people who say “I am totally an empath, because I have strong feelings so I am expert on others’ feelings”. Having strong feelings doesn’t automatically make you an empath. Narcissists, as an example, think they have strong feelings. I would never call a Narcissist an empath,lol. But I’ve known a lot of Narcissists in my life, who do call themselves empaths, because they have strong feelings.

Now, I don’t mind if you have strong feelings, we all do, we’re human after all. My issue is when you going around using a platform to use your “strong feelings” and then talk and spread your misinformation.

If your an empath and you’re using your platform to say “Don’t make me feeling guilty if I need a break from BLM, because I need a mental break” and then continue to complain, about how people are making you feel guilty. Now Empath’s, like myself, do feel guilty if we need to take a mental health day, because we KNOW that we haven’t had to deal with the racism for hundreds if not thousands of years. If you’re only getting involved with BLM NOW, you’ve literally been dealing with it for about a month,lol. Not hundreds of years, so yeah, to complain that people make you feel guilty for needing a day off, is kind of ridiculous and not empathetic.

An empath, by the way, has been feeling BLM, before BLM, became a “thing.”

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Empath’s, At the same time, are aware that we can still do something even when we need a “day off”. You can do things that don’t require you to go on social media, that don’t require you to go out and protest. Buy or go to your local library and grab that POC author book, you may have not read before. Get old clothes together, to give to charity. Old toys to give to vulnerable children. Make some home cooking for your elderly neighbour. Write a well written letter to your Representative, that peaceful protesters are being arrested for BLM marches, ignoring their 1A RIGHTS to peacefully protest. While white people with guns, hang effigies of their local representative…were not. See, you don’t NEED to go onto social media, at all.

An empath, already knew this. So chances are, you’re not an empath.

It’s perfectly fine to not be an empath, it’s not like it makes you insensitive to people, it doesn’t. You still have feelings, just empaths tend to have stronger feelings for OTHERS, not just strong feelings in general. But please, do not go saying you are one, spreading misinformation so you can be part of a “fad”. That’s what you’d be doing.

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