What can you do?

Last week, was International Peace Day, and I had nothing, haha. I am just so out of peace for people. But, over the weekend we had such a lovely weather. It was cold, but the Spring sun was out and not only did I get some vitamin D, but I actually had some ideas about how you can spread some peace about.

Now this is all going to be some ideas about what you can do for yourself. I find that when you are at peace, you can spread the peace to others. You can’t spread peace, if you are not at peace.

  • I find that even spending a day or two off of platforms like Twitter, Facebook, even Instagram, can clear out my head, a lot. Those platforms are such a mental health mess.
  • Do something outside, once a day. Do anything outside, for at least 10 minutes or more. Even during horrible weather. You can even just sit outside, watch the world go by.
  • Listen to your body.
  • Ask yourself questions. Would you really be okay if you left that task until tomorrow? Even if you can, would you be alright with that? If not, do it today, no matter how tedious.

When you’ve figured out how you’re doing, when you are at peace with yourself and your life. It becomes MUCH easier to help bring peace to others. Nothing bothers you as much, it’s all fine and dandy.

Peace starts with you.

Those are my wise words for the day, lol

People who cannot see who they are

Do any of you have a friend or family member on Facebook or Twitter, or even Instagram. When you read this next bit, you’ll know what I’m talking about. I believe that we all have at least one friend or family member who does this.

So, I have a friend, a male friend, who complained about health and medical services changing the term “women” to pregnant people. He also complained about the Dr Seuss company choosing to stop publishing the racists Dr Seuss’s. You know the stories that no one really has read and no one knows about anyway.

In one day (many days after he called the world “time to get off the crazy bus”) I log on and he’s played one of those FB games, where they “guess” your personality type games. The one he chose to post said how he “hates” petty drama and everyone was calling it spot on…Surprisingly though, not his sister. Who normally likes a lot of stuff his posts. Later on in the day, I saw him comment on a post that said “What do you think is the worst thing that mankind has ever (come up with) or (invented)…I can’t remember which one”. I said “mankind” (haha)…he said “Judgement”…I CRACKED UP!

Does this make you think of someone that you know? Haha

I know I’m not perfect, and have my flaws. I judge, I have…well, when a white van rolls up next to me, I get scared. Even though that person probably doesn’t even think about anything like that. I would say that I have a healthy amount of self-esteem. I am definitely kinder than others, but you know how people will say re: “good guys”. If you are a actual good guy, you don’t need to tell anyone.

That’s how I feel about myself. It may not be very “lady like” to know that I’m a kinder person than a lot of people out there. But...BUT...I also read a lot of kind bloggers on here too. I know that I am open minded, but I am also aware that I sometimes make judgements on people on first look…or smell, in some cases. Also though my judgement, may not be a usual judgment either, as I’m sure you all can relate. Take someone with a very apparent physical disability. A lot of people appear to get uncomfortable. I will always make a effort to talk and interact with them like they’re a human being…Because they are. And I am not sorry, but white people with dreadlocks, just looks stupid. I think natural hair on POC is absolutely beautiful, and I do not simply understand, at all. Why some people think that POC natural hair is “gross”. I love it!

*whispers* I judge stupid people…Hahahaha

I don’t need to post a Facebook post to prove that either, I just do.

I do like doing those Facebook games though, for fun. They can be quiet funny and not like yourself at all, haha.

You’re a liar if you say you’ve never judged, lol. We might get better as we get older, and start to “care less” so to speak. You know you do it, lol

International Day of Peace (United Nations)

Well where I do begin? Haha.

The world does not feel very peaceful at the moment, does it?

While we cannot control others, we can help others still and we can help give ourselves the power to give ourselves peace.

Be at peace, knowing though, that YOU do have the power to change your attitude and how you treat others.

Be Kind…

Let’s share how we can be kind to others, and I find a lot of times that when you are kind to others, you feel good within yourself. Especially during these times of such uncertainty, just being kind is so simple. The KPI’s of Kindness.

K – Kindness

P – Proactive

I – Intelligence

When I say ‘Intelligence’, I don’t mean Einstein necessarily, I mean more common sense type of intelligence. I do believe that there are different kinds of intelligence.

I got my flu vaccination today, so I am actually a little bit tired. So hopefully I’ll be able to write something actually useful, haha

Being kind is really very simple.

Apologise when you get something wrong, don’t be ashamed of it. It happens, it really does show was kind of person you are when you can admit you got something wrong…Like I did, last night, haha. I thought a TERF was comparing themselves to Rosa Parks, and they said Rosa Freedman (who is definitely NOT like Rosa Parks). I apologised. It felt right and I didn’t feel any better or worse, cause it was just he RIGHT thing to do. I was wrong and I owned it.

ENJOY the people you care about and their successes! Embrace it. If you don’t care, or your not able to that day…FOR THE LOVE OF GOD…Do not fake it! Wait, until you can be real with them. Trust me, the big thing that pisses me off about one of my now ex-friends. Is realising that the only times she was happy for me, was when I was miserable. I spent over half my life being friends with someone who called me “sister”, only happy when I was sad.

If you can’t think of something kind or nothing, reply to a person with something educational instead and “drop one of these”. You don’t have to say anything some times to be kind.

Then the others, lol:

  • Make some food for your neighbors.
  • If you grow flowers and you feel willing, bunch some flowers together.
  • Send someone random a “Hope you’re well” BEFORE they write that annoying post “I bet you don’t care enough to retweet this”…I seriously hate it, lol
  • Believe in what your saying, before you say it. The amount of people who “blame” others for having to use and hide behind a anon account because of the “threats” Annoys the poop out of me. I believe in what I’m saying and the most extreme I’ve had is another cis women wish rape on myself and the women in my family. I still don’t hide.
  • Get to know yourself, when you TRULY know yourself. Then you find it very hard to ignore things that bother you.
  • Being kind is sometimes telling someone something they don’t want to hear.

Sheep, Liberal, Leftie, Progressive …

Some of the terms that are just not offensive to myself.

I guess because when someone uses them against, even though I am know that they are trying to use them to say how dumb or “hysterical” they think I am. I always think to myself “I’d rather be that than what ever you are”. Like, it’s not a insult, you know what I mean?

I was inspired to right about this after I was called a sheep, because I had no problem getting “never-ending” shots (you know three shots, at the most, is never ending to some) and they did not. I thought to myself, and after I said that they were just being lazy. I should have put a emoticon of a sloth, lol.

Common Sense…Bullying

cw: bullying, childhood trauma

Actually, people who hate on strangers are probably more likely to have had a tragic childhood. Hate is taught. A lot of therapists, actually think that Trump (as an example) probably had some traumatic incident when he was a child. And thus, he’s been stuck at that mental child age.

It makes logical sense when you*THINK* about it. Those who are bullied, become bullies, like transphobia. Chances are, it’s more likely that people who are being transphobic, are far more likely to have had a traumatic childhood, or were raised by bigoted parents.

Common sense would dictate that trying to bully, harass and take away the rights of people who are not only strangers to you, but you don’t know any, and haven’t been harmed by that group. THAT’S not normal. Trans and gay people are definitely normal. Its just their brains are wired differently, that’s it. They’re still normal though. Whatever that is, anyway.

Erase…

If you define yourself, by what others define yourself as, than that’s on you, not other people.

The biggest complaint that TERFs have is that unfounded fear that women are somehow being “erased”.

We’re not.

Again, it’s not up to YOU, yourself and yourself alone to let others define who you are. The only reason for the basic women/female man/male. Is for health, medical and basic scientific reason. That’s it. If the Science world (as a example) decided women were … I don’t know … Felines (extreme yes) instead. We wont suddenly lose our human bodies and our usual human bodily functions, and turn into cats.

Some people act like if we stop calling women “women”, then some big pencil in the sky is going to erase women.

It’s delusional, and it’s also delusional to put that on a different group of people.

Roughly there, in all about 6% of the worlds population define themselves as trans. That’s ALL trans people. Women, men, sexual. In 2017 it was reported that the share of women in the world was 49.6% … That’s a bit of a difference. Especially when you remember that 6% is made up of ALL trans people. So not just trans women, but men and sexual too.

The transphobes are now trying to stalk my parents, to tell them to tell me off for telling people that they need not be defined by one word. I don’t think it’s occurred to them that it’s my parent’s, my family who taught me that. Also I’m 37! Haha … Like my parents could “tell me off” at this stage of the game. Also neither of my parents are on Twitter, they hate it, haha

Let me introduce myself…

My name is Lauren, I am also known by Lolsy, Lolly, Lollypoppenjay, Lol, Lols, Lozza, Lorry…Just to name a few.

I come from the family of Bolton’s, Leonard’s, Bennett’s and probably others.

I am English, Australian and Irish.

I am a daughter, a niece, a friend, a cousin, a friend, a family member of a family, a fur mama, a fur aunt, fur sister a beloved great grand daughter. All the fur’s (haha).

I am a woman, a female, I am straight, I am cis and am not trans, I have big boobs, a nice butt (well I think so anyway) a regular menstrual cycle. I don’t know if I’m a reproductive, as I have no children. I assume I am though.

All of these words could change tomorrow, and you know something? I would still be here. With everyone of those things still true, they’d just be different words.

30 Day song music challenge … Day 28 – 30

Day 28 … A song by a artist whose voice you love

I just love all of their voices

Celtic Woman – Tir na nOg ft Oonagh


Celtic Woman Official

Celtic Woman Official

Day 29 … A song you remember from your childhood

I feel if you didn’t listen to this man, and you’re Australian … Did you even have a childhood?

Peter Combe – Newspaper Mama … 1988


Peter Combe (Official)

Day 30 … A song that reminds you of yourself.

The one and only…

Enya – Wild Child

enyatv

I love me

Despite my next post, I actually really do love myself a lot … Just other people do not, lol…Like they might love me, but it is REALLY obvious who they really love more. Whose opinion they think is more important of myself is more important than the opinion of myself. I wouldn’t be surprised why people think I’d have a low self-esteem. I actually really don’t, but I am also EXTREMELY AWARE HOW OTHERS VIEW ME. I don’t want to be prideful. But I do love myself, god knows someone has too!

I am proof that despite that knowing you are no one’s favourite, knowing that your life is being directed by people who really don’t like you or respect you or your partner…Since you were 12…You can still be a kind people to others. You can still love yourself.