What about having both?!

This post was inspired by an article that I read recently about a tv show here called “The Project”. There sort of a news program, there more like the current affair show that came on after the new, but they’re a little more relaxed. Their quote is “News delivered differently”.

Anyways, I’m not here to write about that program. This post was inspired by a particular section that they were talking about “Carrie Bickmore becomes emotional over body image issues” . They were talking about having positive/negative body issues. Carrie became emotional because she feels like she wants to help her daughter (two years old) have a positive image of her body, but feels like it’s getting out of control.

My issue with it, is that it is beyond fantastic to have a good body and healthy image of yourself. However, I feel the first step to get a good and positive body image is to get yourself a good and positive mind.

At the end of the day you can’t hold onto a lot of things regarding your body, if your mind isn’t thinking positively either. We’re human after all, we will have days when we don’t feel good about ourselves and it’s those moments where our minds can really play with us. Our minds playing up can have a lot of impacts on our body and how we view ourselves.

So how about teaching our daughters and young girls to feel settled within their minds first and then our bodies will probably “fall into line” so to speak.

Personally, when my mind is not okay, I don’t honestly care what I look like.

You’d better Stop

I want you to stop…Right now

Stop what you’re doing and read this!

YOU ARE KIND, INTELLIGENT, GOOD-HEARTED AND BEAUTIFUL…Despite your size

Your size doesn’t make you the person you are

I want to see the body shamers stop right now…I don’t care if you’ve been big and you don’t like smaller people or you’re smaller and you make fun of bigger people…Or people make fun of you because of your size…No matter who you are, if you shame someone for their size. It’s a reflection on you, not them. It shows your insecurities.

I just really wish that people would stop shaming each other, over things that are just not that important. If you’re healthy, that’s the main thing. Just remember, at the end of the day it’s your health that’s either going to keep you happy and allow you to enjoy life, not what someone else thinks of you.

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Beautiful voice.

Tell me that you love me

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I think these people confuse me the most…I just find it weird. I’m going to “unfriend” you but make sure you can still see everything? So you still need approval? I’ve had a few people do this too me and one I didn’t know about because I didn’t know they had even unfriended me! That was awkward! Made it funny for me though,lol

Appreciate Yourself More!

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In a world where we have so many young people suffering from self-esteem issues. It was, too me anyways, really great to see someone realise how totally gorgeous they look. However, the comments about this girl were horrible. I just don’t get it. You just cannot win these days. There seems to be an “acceptable” level loving on oneself, and I just think it’s a little ridiculous. If more people appreciated and loved on themselves a little more, we’d have a lot more happier people. A lot less problems too I would be willingly to bet.

Just remember when someone is appreciating themselves, it might be the only day that year that they actually feel good about themselves. So don’t bring them down, because really it’s your issues, not theirs. As long as their not only about their looks, and they are just beautiful on the inside, what’s really the problem?

The Shame of it all!

I have been reading a lot of article about “plus-size” or about “skinny shaming” and I say STOP THE SHAMING!!!

Personally I’ve had a lot of problems with this from others and it is something that I’ve noticed has been happening a lot more in the last couple of years. When I’ve had a lot of problems with this, all the guys in my family are tall and skinny. Now for some reason over the last couple of years I have continually been asked if my brother, cousin, Uncle are alright, because they don’t like they’ve been eating. Hereditary-wise my family are all skinny until we get to about 30 and then it’s all downhill. Even my Dad’s nickname was “Bones” because of how skinny he was, and he’s not any-more.

The main issue I have with this topic is I have yet to see someone take responsibility for how they feel. No one is saying “Why do I feel this way?” Everyone just blames magazines and models and celebrities (or is some cases I’ve seen some women blame men) “We can’t control what our kids do and see”. I’m sorry, these people don’t owe us anything. The model, the magazine, the celebrity…They don’t actually owe us anything and I highly doubt that their intentions are too make us feel bad about ourselves? When did it become the responsibility of those who are unknown to us, the outer influences, to make ourselves feel good about ourselves?

Mattel … Open-Minded or Evil Genius?!

So I am sure by now that most of you have the seen the “new and improved” Barbie’s?

Barbie’s most diverse incarnations through the years (SBS Article) … Personally this has been my favourite article on the matter.

I for one don’t really care either way. I never used to play with my Barbie’s and played with them to look like them. My Barbie’s taught me to create and play and come up with crazy “lifestyles” (I had one Barbie that could only live on junk food, she was my fav =D)

Now, most people may not like what I’m going to say. If a doll is giving you self-esteem issues, you have issues already and possibly that involves BAD PARENTING. It’s like with anything in life, it’s up to you to give you your self-esteem, it’s not anyone else’s job or responsibility to teach you good self-esteem. It most certainly is not up to a doll to do that either. When will people start taking responsibility again? I don’t think these parents not buying Barbie is good parenting practice either. How about they just say “Well if you’re blonde and skinny, there’s something wrong with you”.

The reason I think Mattel are evil geniuses?! I can only begin to IMAGINE how much money Mattel will make out of this one!

Also have you all caught the Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse (wikipedia)television show? It’s actually really funny.

Mandy Hale … Single Blog

So for the last couple of weeks I have been sharing with you “Mandy Hales: A beautifully Uncertain 31 Day Challenge”

(See: Week One/1 and Week Two/2 here)

Here I post for you A Beautifully Uncertain 31 Day Challenge Week 3 … Now there are definitely harder Challenges to do this week BUT I would still recommend every single one of them. Since I’ve mentioned before as well, you don’t have to be Single to relate to these challenges. I’ve been finding these challenges useful in terms of just centring myself and helping to lift my self esteem.

Saving the Barbie!

I have been seeing Barbie copping a lot of flack and I feel like somebody needs to speaks up for her because I find it frustrating. I used to play with Barbie when I was little and I think I turned out, reasonably, alright =P Barbie should be a role model for the imagination which is exactly what I used her for.

She’s a doll, and although I am not a parent and understand I may cop flack for saying “parenting things”. Maybe your biggest fear shouldn’t be a doll. Maybe your biggest fear is thinking that a doll, repeat doll, should be the one teaching your children about their self esteem in the first place? I never once thought that I should look like Barbie, I wanted all her careers, I used my Barbie’s and created many different worlds with them. I use to host a radio show with my Barbies, had them be rock and roll stars, psychic, mummies and daddies. I even learnt about disabilities because my Ken lost his legs. Barbie has had many different careers and many different versions, she (and Ken) how to imagine.

Even with her television show, she’s not a “mean girl”, she’s all about friendships, how to work hard and how to be kind to others? So I am not really sure why suddenly we are putting Barbie in a category she doesn’t belong in?

I think as adults we put too much of our own fears into children and that’s when the problem happens. We do not give children enough credit, they will notice that you “fear” Barbie. Technically shouldn’t you fear ALL dolls then and the self esteem issues that they will give your children?

Stop letting other “things” teach your children, because they learn from us. It never once crossed my mind once to want to look like her? I’m going to be blunt here and maybe some wont like it. If your child has self esteem issues because of a doll, repeat doll, maybe it’s not the dolls fault? Maybe it’s the adults in her life? Maybe we should start taking responsibility again for raising our children?

Most importantly Barbie taught me how to play, by myself and with others.

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(Picture Credit: Mattel)

Date Yourself!

It’s amazing when we are in a  relationship how much of an effort we are willingly to “date” someone, the getting ready, the saving money, making sure that we are going somewhere they like. One of the things that used to frustrate me about my past partners was they’d always want to play games with their friends and I’d get ditched all the time, when I wanted to go out and have fun. If we ever went to the movies, it was always with their friends and it would never be a movie that I wanted to see.

At a very rough time in my life, I had gone to visit a boyfriend at work, and it was at a shopping mall that I had not been too for a very long time. I had planned to have a little look around and then come back to have lunch with my partner. I ended up spending all day by myself, shopping, eating, drinking coffee and seeing a movie that I had wanted to see. It was the most fun day I had had for so many months. It was then that I made a resolution to myself which I have applied too, even more so, being single.

Once a month I take myself out on a “date”. I go to the movies, I go too exhibitions I want and I treat myself to a lunch or a special treat at a nice cafe/restaurant. It is something that I HIGHLY recommend all single people and people in relationships do too. It has also made me more brave to go to more places by myself rather than relying on someone to end up taking me.

So take a spa day by yourself and for yourself. Buy the bad food and watch that movie that makes you cry. Dress up in your favourite clothes and dance to your favourite music.

Take the time to make an effort to date yourself!

Dating Day!