What to do with your bully

I was inspired to write this after, seeing Sparks from a combustible mind – Share Your Week – Rogers Magic question.

What happened to cause you to discover ‘bullies” were real?

I didn’t want to answer this question at the time, because at the time I was sick of people on Twitter. Just their stupid, stupidity. There was a trans kid who went missing. ALL the TERF twitter accounts REFUSED to call the kid by their chosen name. They also called the police pathetic, when they announced the child missing, they did let people know that they are a trans child, and their preferred name. Now this Twitter account apparently had former police officers in it. SO no, doubt in my mind, that they SHOULD understand the implications and danger they COULD have put that child in!

Luckily, for them, the child was found. But I felt physically ill when they started going on about how relieved they were. I personally, would kick their asses and sue.

However, I feel like NOW is a good time to talk about bullying because of the increase of social media bullying. The alt-right being ever so loud with their bigotry. People in power and influence, KNOWING the damage that they’re causing, and not caring.

My first case of bullying was when I was in Year 6, so I was about 9-10. It was a group of girls (of course), and to this day, I cannot tell you for the life of me why they bullied me. Somehow I ended up in a class with none of my friends and a weak ass teacher. My parents asked to just swap my classes, but for some reason they just wouldn’t. It was bizarre.

A couple of years ago, one of the people, who wasn’t that bad towards me. Actually apoligised to me via Facebook, they said it was part of their AA steps. Too apolgise to someone they feel, they had done wrong. At the time, I was in my mid-30’s, and I accepted their apology.

Probably the worst bullying I had ever encountered was cyber bullying. Again, a bunch…well two girls. For some reason, again, decided that they didn’t like me. Now I’m going to say, the girl who came after me the most. I have yet too actually meet her. She lives 20,000+ miles away, in Arizona. She came into the group, just after I left the last time.

So, what do you do? I think we’ve all heard that saying “Just laugh it off”, or something similar. Even if by some miracle you do laugh it off and they stop. What do you do after?! It still will affect you. I was talking about this with my mum as well the other day. One thing you can do is start to record any bullying incidents. One of the biggest problems we have these days, is that people don’t want to say anything. So If you keep a diary of what happens, even if it’s electronically (it doesn’t have to be a “old” fashioned diary). When you feel you can’t handle it anymore, you have a record to show, and you don’t have to say a thing. Accepting ALL your flaws, I find also gives them less power, because its like…

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My Horror Movie

How many other people sit there watching Documentaries. It might be the Librarian in me, but watching them touching century old papers…WITH NO GLOVES!

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I was recently watching a Documentary of letters between Tsar Nicholas II and Alexandra Feodornva (quickly, the father and mother of Princess Anastasia). The presenter was saying how surprised she was at how little the ink had faded…as she touched the ink. She appeared to have thumb tacks types things, which my mum and I presumed she was supposed to use to hold the paper…She didn’t use them.

 

Hear Us Proud, Introverts!….Magical Monday #13

For Introverts, Why Are Our Bedrooms Our Havens?

For introverts we all know the reasoning behind this. What I’d like to know is though, as well. Do you have any other “havens”? For myself, when I’m sick, especially, sometimes lying on the couch, can be a haven too. You have room to sip tea, read a book and watch tv. When you’re sick and you can’t sleep, sometimes, for myself, background noise can help me fall asleep.

Especially since I’ll probably be moving in with my partner soon, I can probably make the spare room into something more for myself (we’ll see though,lol).  I absolutely agree with this entire article, except for one thing. I believe that we all need more than one safe haven. I don’t think that the article mentions this. Sometimes a haven can become more like a trap. Where we don’t want to leave and have to force it. Hence why I try to have a couple of “havens”.

What would your dream haven look like? Would it even be a bedroom? Would it even be a bed?

These two, as an example…Heaven to me!

 

Guilty…I plead the 5th!

So I wanted to make a fun post, get you away for a moment where you can think happy thoughts for a moment. I just want to say that if you don’t want to share with us, it’s all up too you. This is a safe and happy space today ❤ Well I always hope it’s a safe space, posts may not always be “happy”. But I hope it’s at least a safe space.

Hugs only with permission ❤

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What I want you to either share with us, or at least think for the next five minutes. What is a favourite guilty television show for you? What is something you LOVE to watch, but may not necessarily want to talk to people about?

For myself, I enjoy some of the “Real” Housewives shows. Not all, just some…And if you tell anyone, I’ll have to kill you,lol.

Summer lovin, had me a blast…

Well it’s actually Winter in Australia right now. But the sentiment behind this post is the same thing. What I have to write today is a very simple message.

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I know it’s hard during Summer and Winter to see happy couples out and about. Or during Winter to see couples all nice and cuddly cosy together. But just remember that at all times of the year, 24/7, it is better to be alone, than to be in an abusive relationship. Without a single doubt. I’ve seen relationship after relationship of people who are just in relationships to be in one. You end off being bruised more physically and emotionally than it’s worth.

 

Safe Spaces

Now, I’m not writing about the ones that the Republicans and hard core righters seem to think they are something to make fun. They are interesting things to think about, aren’t they? I was just thinking about this over the weekend. I find it easier to fall asleep with at my partners house, but I find it easier to wake up at my own house.

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Safe spaces are definitely not something to make fun of.

I am also finding that my work just in general works for me as well. I think because it helps to keep myself distracted, instead of thinking…thinking……and thinking. Not only do I have different rooms, but just different spaces and things as well. My plushie Savannah and Mufasa, whenever I hug them, I always feel better. Sometimes I will just hug them and not let go for a while. I have a couple of meditation and anxiety apps that I can listen to anywhere, so I guess those are “safe spaces” too?

 

 

 

Endangered Species Day

Probably not the best way to start the “weekend” off…but today is Endangered Species Day.

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Endangered Species Coalition (Please click this link to see the different endangered animals. With more information about the “Protecting the Endangered Species Act)

It’s my own personal view that people underestimate how many endangered animals they are and the how fast they rapidly disappearing. I know that my article posted below that says “US”, but it is an epidemic around the world. With so many things happening, sometimes it may be easy to forget or to just plain not care. Apparently Australia, for some reason, have the worst reputation for not protecting their animals. Which just breaks my heart.

U.S. Americans greatly underestimate how many animals on the Endangered species list, study shows:

SAFE Species

( I know this video was for #WorldWildlifeDay…but it does the numbers of the animals we are losing)

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The Future of Wildlife is in Our Hands | WORLD WILDLIFE DAY, MARCH 3 #WWD2017 #WorldWildlifeDay
On 20 December 2013, at its 68th session, the United Nations General Assembly (UNGA) decided to proclaim 3 March, the day of the adoption of the Convention on International Trade in Endangered Species of Wild Fauna and Flora (CITES), as World Wildlife Day, which proposed by Thailand,[1] to celebrate and raise awareness of the world’s wild fauna and flora. – http://www.wikipedia.org

Black Friday

I just wanted to really say…PLEASE STAY SAFE!

I understand a good bargain just as well as the next person and it is one of the American traditions we have been picking up here in Australia, mainly just through the Internet though. I have seen some truly horrible videos when it comes to Black Friday…People have literally been killed…No gift or toy or product is worth it. I personally would prefer to have my family and friends alive, safe and healthy, then dead over a gift for myself or even for them.

36. Your Home

36. Your Home…

This is one of those occasions where timing is amazing!lol

*long post*

I live in two different houses at the moment because my Mum and my partners houses are in two different areas, but because they are both close to where my two different work places are. I’ve been spending half a week at one house and the rest of the week at the other house. It’s been good though, I still get to see my mum, my dog and my partner and his cat and feel like I’m spending time with everybody. I can also say that I feel safe at both and that is the best feeling ever!

The other thing that’s happening though is my creepy cousin (I’ll be writing about that one later) He turned up to my Mums house. Now before I say what happened, this is the situation. My cousin is MY blood cousin, he’s my Dads nephew. When my parents split my Dads sister, her husband and my creepy cousin all took my Mum’s side. The problem is my cousin has always had a crush on my Mum, and it is not subtle either. For some reason though she always hangs out with him, they are close in age, but it’s still weird to me. The other thing I’ll mention is that they live (he’s 51, he’s just become retired, and still lives at home with his mum and dad) about 10 minutes away.

Last weekend he turns up too my Mums house, bangs on her door. She said that really loud banging and so she runs to the front door, she was drying her hair at the time. Opens the door and he starts accusing her having someone in the house. He saw someone guy in a suit come up and knock on her door and when he drove around, the guy in the suit was gone.

  • Mum never heard anyone else knock on the door,
  • There was no other man in the house.
  • Who WAS the strange man in the suit?
  • Not that any of that is his business

Since then she’s been really shaken up by what he did. The surprising thing is he apologised NOT for clearly stalking her, banging on her door and scaring the jabber out of her because he’s just being “protective”. He apologised for accusing her of having someone in the house, when she didn’t. They are not dating, my mother is not interested in him.

It’s sad because now she doesn’t feel safe in her own home and she gets angry at herself, because she was so shocked that she felt like she had to justify to him, instead of telling him off. Now she doesn’t feel safe in her own home. Even after this, he still doesn’t get it and he actually invited himself over to watch a football game, that my Mum has never been interested in. She did say no that though. So FINALLY she is actually going to have a word with his mother…Like a 13 year old kid *rolls eyes*

I have to say I don’t feel comfortable either anymore. Even though I know that it’s her his interested in. My Mum goes out dancing every Tuesday evening and I stay and look after our dog, especially mainly because I’m working there at the time. I went to the bathroom and I started to freak out, what if he doesn’t believe that she’s out dancing, what if he just sits there, waiting for her to come back?

A home should always make you feel safe. You should be able to sit inside, go to the bathroom and feel like you are finally out of the rat race and all the drama, and that no one is peering in on you.

I am grateful for my homes, I feel safe and loved…It’s just a shame someone dumb has decided to disturb the peace…GET A LIFE!!!