Meant to be?

Simply meant to be

We all know this song …Well if you’re a Disney and Tim Burton fan.

It’s very romantic, a lot of people say they and their partner are “just meant to be”.

What does it mean though, if you break up? Does that mean you were never meant to be?

I don’t necessarily think so.

I believe that we are meant to meet ALL the people we have met in our lives. Whether that be romantic or friendly, even our co-workers and even the horrible people we unfortunately will all encounter in our lives. Just because one relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean you were never “meant to be”. You were meant to be…Just not forever. Sometimes that may not even be the case. I know a couple of people who broke up when they were younger, but go back together years and years later. Not that I’m saying that will happen for everyone.

So please don’t stay in a relationship because you think it’s “meant to be”. Even when all the signs and your own self tell you that it’s not. You are just wasting time to find the one you are actually meant to be with.

I’ve noticed in my life and through my own experiences how dangerous it can to have this mentality where from the first date they’re just simply meant to be. Especially if it’s an abusive relationships and the amount of people who think they were “meant to be”…You were ‘meant to be with an abuser forever’?…You sure about that?

Recently current beau and I we were talking about, if this or this had never happened, then we would have never met. We went from each our parents meeting, to even the end of my recent toxic friendships. Although my Mum dared me to go on a dating site, it was my ex best friend who suggested the site. As she had used it numerous times before (To this day I wish ONE of them had worked out for her. Instead of the douchebag she’s with now) so she knew how to use it. So my friendship with her was “meant to be”.

Jackie Collins

So I was a bit shocked to discover that the great Lady Jackie Collins had passed away, I hadn’t even realised that she had breast cancer and was so sick.

Now I am not a fan of the whole “romance genre”, that’s just me, but I knew very well of Jackie Collins and the impact that she has had on that particular genre (or as some have said the “BonkBuster” genre). R.I.P to the great lady!

Jackie Collins

Jackie Collins

Valentines Day (another one)

Here comes another obligatory Valentines Day post. Let’s make it a short one hey since I have to go out and do the whole “Valentines’ Day” date thing.

Saint Valentine’s Day, also known as Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine. A holiday observed on February 14th each year. It is celebrated in many countries around the world, although it is not a  public holiday in most of them.

I personally have never been a big fan of the day, I have never actually had a good one.

The last ex, we weren’t really dating at the time of Valentines Day. One before him, he started off good, then after work he forgot to come back and I found out that he had cheated on me on the same day too. The one before him we broke up on the last Valentines Day we were together and the year before that his friends ate my present and he never replaced it, I also had to spend all night with them too. The boyfriend before that lived overseas, so we were never together for the day any-ways.

So pretty much, as long as my teacher doesn’t cheat on me, or eat my present, he doesn’t really have a lot that he has to worry about to be honest, and we’ve had a good laugh about it. As he has also had nothing but disasters.

When I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day I have gotten together with either my Mum or a few single girlfriends (or friends) and gone out to dinner and movies ourselves and that was just as lovely, I have once felt alone on a Valentines Day.

Whatever you end up doing, or don’t end up tonight, don’t worry about it. It’s just another day and lets be honest, if you need one day to have romance in your life with your partner, man that would just suck! Romance should be all of the time (well maybe not ALL the time, but hopefully more than once a year!).

Valentines

 

That first night…

So last night was the first night that I finally was able to sleep over my teachers house. (I’m calling him “my teacher” because he’s a teacher) and it was bad!lol…Not in a we got into a fight or anything like. I developed food poisoning…

Oh what timing! I can’t help but start laughing at the moment now. Last night though, oh it was bad! I felt at one point that I was going to actually pass out. The romance…Food poisoning bringing people together since forever. My teacher was lovely though, I couldn’t stop saying sorry and how mortified I was. He keeps telling me that it happens all the time and I have nothing to worry about…I’m still mortified though, haha!

He’s been texting me all day today, so I haven’t put him off…Yet, haha

 

Slow and steady wins the race

Last night I hung out with the number one guy (I don’t even talk to the number two guy…Craaaaaaazy!). At his house…all by ourselves…except for his cat (who loved me, hehe).

I forgot how nervous I get that first time around, nothing happened, except some cuddling up and watching truly terrible movies. I always find on that first time if I truly like them, if I don’t want to slap them while we’re cuddling, that is a good sign! Haha!

I know that I want to move slowly in this relationships, sometimes I do worry that I am going to slowly, but how do you keep bringing that topic up? I mean he seems perfectly alright with everything at the moment as is, but I don’t want to get to that point where I feel like I’m leading him on. Plus when I’m stressed out in a job, I never feel in a romantic mood any-ways….Ah, these stupid feelings!

Sleeping Beauty

Today is a public holiday in my state of Australia and I have been really struggling to decide what to write for today’s Magical Monday post. I think I have done enough “misery and heartbreak” posts and I am going to be positive =D

So what to do…what to do…I woke up this morning after a lovely sleep in, which I have not had in the last couple of months. It is amazing how having just one morning to sleep in can make you feel so well and happy =D That’s when I had a spark of imagination, why not talk about my second favourite Disney princess!

Now I say second, but especially with the whole new bunch of Disney princesses that have come out over the last few years, that list seems to be changing a lot these days! Sleeping Beauty though has always been a favourite of mine. I am definitely a good sleeper! I have just always thought that she was so beautiful and since I am a dark beauty of course I want to be the opposite of everything that I am! ~.^ I love her long wavy golden hair, her eyes are purple…I have always wanted purple eyes. Also I have the same love as she does, running through forests.

Aurora (also known as Sleeping Beauty) isn’t always in the group pictures of the other classic Disney Princess (mainly because she is asleep for a good quarter of it). I think though, she is just as lovely and sings with just as many of the forest animals as any of the other Disney princesses. Also I think that she has one of the best songs. Every girl (and boys too!) has at least once in their life felt like this about someone.

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If you haven’t already though you NEED to see Maleficent with Angelina Jolie. The film is stunningly beautiful, the acting is utterly gorgeous. It is a great story from the point of Maleficent, the Sorceress (bad fairy) who puts the curse on Aurora where she will prick her finger on her 16th birthday.

A little history on Sleeping Beauty:

There are many different versions of the Sleeping Beauty the “The Beauty Sleeping in the Wood” by Charles Perrault or “Little Briar Rose” (German: Dornröschen) by the Brothers Grimm is a classic tale involving the princess, a sleeping enchantment and a handsome prince. The version collected by the Grimms was an orally transmitted version of the originally literary tale published by Charles Perrault in “Histoires ou contes du temps passé” in 1697. This was based on “Sun, Moon, and Talia” by Giambattista Baslie (published posthumously in 1634).

In the Grimms version Maleficent is the 13th fairy, where as in Perrault’s version she is the 8th fairy.

Alfred Lord Tennyson wrote two poems based on Sleeping Beauty.

In one version an Ogre lineage is a major part of the story.

Second Chance…A new romance?

What better magical feeling in the world than the possibility for a new romance…Another chance for love?

In case one could not guess…I have recently been bitten by the “new crush” bug (although calling it a “bug” sounds quite gross)… A completely lovely boy and one of those “I did not see this coming” moments…I truly did not! One of those I really hope he doesn’t see this post, because it will be really embarrassing (he would totally find this video lame,lol). I get shy around him, which is why he thought that I didn’t like him and we ended up in an argument…Of course =D

He thinks I’m intelligent! hehe

That terrifying freeing lovely scary…That scares your heart so much so you want to do nothing else but run…but you don’t…That moment you want to yel “Finally!” The magical moment where all of the happy songs make sense again.

BUT…They have to prove that they will be worth it, for all the future heartache that is going to definitely come…because heartache will come, it is inevitable.

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Say Ok performed by Vanessa Hudgens

 

Odd one out…

Last night my best friend came in from Interstate. I have about three female best friends and ironically I could probably pick a “Sex in the City” character for each one of us (I would be the Charlotte in the group…but probably more after being influenced by Samantha). The interesting thing about my little groups of girlfriend is…I am the only single one.

Last night was fun and we talked and giggled a lot, but it was hard to hear about the problems they were having, especially when their guys are completely nuts about them. They are mostly things that they knew could be an issue later. I think that’s the hardest thing about being single, especially when you are the only one, is listening to how bad a friends relationships is, when it really isn’t and that they knew this issue would be coming up later.

I would LOVE a man who was devoted to me, who had my back, who talked to me, who tried to cheer me up when I am down. I have always had the opposite in my life. I have always had the guy who never had my back, including watching me get bullied mentally and physically by his roommate, the one who’d rather play a computer game then take care of me the night my grandfather dies, would rather spend Valentine’s Day with his friends than me.

I don’t get into relationships a lot, in fact, after 30 years I have only been in three relationships. My main problem is once I find that guy, I jump right in, and instead of letting it build up slowly and making sure that I am not falling for a façade. Except if I knew about a major issue, like children, marriage, career plans are likely to become an issue later I would never get into that relationship. I seem to find a lot that I am the only one like that. A lot of girls will get into a relationship to be in a relationship and that’s when the problems start.

True, I have nights where I feel so alone that I hold onto that pillow like I never have before…but I also know that one of the worst feelings in this world is feeling completely alone while you have someone lying right next to you.

Am I the only one who might WANT a relationship, but don’t feel like I NEED one? Am I the only odd one out…I would rather be alone, than feel alone.