Respect

Recently I got into a “discussion” on The Fitness Marshall Instagram page (love him) He is kissing his partner near the lawn of the White House and said “Here you go Pence” or something similiar…Oh my god…The haters! People who follow him, they know he’s gay, calling him disrespectful.

One of them they said though “Pence hasn’t changed anything to the LGBT (which is true, he’s done nothing…because he actually can’t). Also though they said “Just because Pence doesn’t agree with you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t respect you”. Which would normally I would totally agree. You don’t have to agree with someone to respect them.

HOWEVER

When someone is actively trying to make your life harder, try to make Laws that forbid you from getting married, trying to put Laws into place that make it easier for people to discriminate against you. Laws that make it virtually impossible for you to adopt…That is NOT respect.

Watch out for the Storm!

Can I just say that I LOVE Stormy Daniels and her Lawyer, Michael Avenatti (he is freaking brilliant!)

Trump supporters are the worst though! They don’t have respect for Stormy because how dare she have people pay her for sex…Because we all know that she has to put a gun to their head to do it, right? Yet…Just completely turn a blind eye to the facts that Trump paid to have sex with her, to begin with…While married.

The one comment that cracked me up was “Respect is earned, not given” which they are completely right about. However, they keep saying because she’s a porn star, she has no respect…Hey, if you are stupid enough to have to pay for sex, especially when you’re married…And hey, isn’t he the one that said “When you’re famous they’ll let you do anything to them”…Yet, he STILL had to pay for it…But she’s the one with no respect? She’s gotta be doing something right! Yet, to them, Stormy’s the problem.

I don’t know why I try to get some common sense into their brains.

Why is Trump, the President of the United States, not being held at such a high standard?

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The other person

I am such an odd person, I feel like I have such a different view on life and how I view certain situations. I’m just going to have too say that I have been cheated on in pretty much every single relationship I’ve ever been in. I don’t understand it, what I don’t actually understand is why cheat when you can break up with me? I have never been married, I don’t have kids with any of these people, so why didn’t they just leave?

That’s not what my weird view of life is about though, I’m sure lots of people think that “Why didn’t they just leave”.

What I don’t do, I have never blamed the other person who cheated with my partner. I have had quiet a few of these ladies come to me after my break ups. Mainly, I think it’s because they thought when my ex and I had broken up, they were just going to jump into a relationship with my ex. When that didn’t happen, they thought coming to me would do something, I’m not exactly sure what. I was always thought it was an odd thing to do because why do these people think my ex’s respected me enough to listen to me, when they had cheated on me, and didn’t break up with me instead. That’s not respectful, they didn’t respect me, clearly. They’re not going to listen to me now.

I have always felt though, it’s not the “other persons” job to respect me and protect me and take care of my heart, that is 100% my partners job. Even if they actually know about me, it’s still not their job. They don’t know me, they may know of my existence, but they don’t KNOW me, they owe me absolutely nothing.

I’ve been tempted in the past and I don’t think a lot of people would have blamed me, and I’m like 99% sure the other person would have been up for it. I still didn’t do it though. I didn’t do it for me, I didn’t do it for my partner at the time. I realised something was wrong and I tried to fix it. My partner then continued to cheat on me, or tried too (that’s a whole other story for another day) and we broke up. I can look myself in the face/mirror though and be proud and happy with myself. It also gave me a huge amount of respect for the person I wanted to cheated with, since they didn’t do anything either. In all honestly as well, until I had met my current partner I always had a little “What if

The only time I would ever blame the “other person” is if they were a good friend or a family member, that’s it.

Getting to know the Blogger…Part 4

I just wanted to say that I hope you’ve been enjoying these “Getting to know me Blogs” as much as I’ve been enjoying writing them! Here we go with the last week…

  1. Regularly burn incense?
    I have actually been getting more into burning incense and the like. Since I developed an anxiety condition last year, just meditation and calming my mind has been helping and I’ve been really improving. Maybe “getting more into burning…” Isn’t the greatest description in the world.
  2. Who would you like to see in concert?
    I would love to see Bruno Mars, but he’s very unlikely to come to my little town.
  3. Hot tea or cold tea? 
    Hot tea, I’m not even honestly sure that I’ve had even had cold tea. Apart from iced tea…with whip cream!
  4. Tea or coffee? 
    Oh lordy…How can one choose?! I drink both, however, in some situations I will only drink one during certain times. For example, when I’m sick or have the flu, I will only drink tea as when I’m sick, I can’t stand coffee. I don’t even drink coffee to try and stay awake, I drink coffee as treat almost.
  5. Sugar cookies or snickerdoodles?
    I have no idea what a snickerdoodle is, so I’d have to go with sugar cookies.
  6. Can you swim well? 
    I can alright, but I’m not ready for the English channel or anything like that.
  7. Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? 
    *tries* Yes, I can! It looks less stupid than when holding it. (Ditto,lol)
  8. Are you patient? 
    It’s actually one of the things people know the most about me, how patient I can be, when most others would lose it. It’s a trick between not taking things personally and not actually caring. Especially when it comes to work and I know it’s nothing that I’ve stuffed up.
  9. DJ or band at a wedding?
    I’d prefer a DJ just because then you can make requests for the original song, rather than someone trying to cover a song. However, I think having a band would look really classy. I’ve been to a funeral where a duo decided to dedicate a song that the deceased really like, and they sounded terrible. I felt it was so disrespectful, the person didn’t like the song because YOU sung it, they liked because the person they liked, sang it. I don’t know, it’s always felt really wrong to me.
  10. Ever won a contest?
    No, I’ve had some luck though with my works lottery group. We sometimes win 30-40 bucks here and there…Enough for another ticket.
  11. Ever had plastic surgery?
    No, I’m pretty okay with my body. The only thing I wish I could change is that my teeth would be a little whiter. Not stupidly blinding white, but just a little whiter. It’d also look really cool because the two herbivore teeth that are usually next to the two big ones, mine are missing, they just never grew threw. So my teeth look like vampire teeth, and I love it.
  12. Which are better, black or green olives?
    I don’t really love Olives, I’d rather not have them…If I had to choose I’d go with the green ones.
  13. Can you knit or crochet?
    I can’t really do either, I haven’t crochet in a while, so I’d probably have to restart and relearn.
  14. Best place for a fireplace?
    If I could have a dream place for a fireplace, I would have it in a library type room, probably off from the main living area. In a medium sized room, so the air doesn’t get all smokey.
  15. Do you want to get married?
    Only to the right person.
  16. If married, how long have you been married?
    N/A
  17. Who was your HS crush?
    Oh I had a lot…I didn’t date any of them, I was way to shy to actually ask. I had a lot though.
  18. Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? 
    Umm…No, I’m not even sure I did that as a kid. Apparently I used to only throw fits when I was constrained, like when I was put into a seat belt. I hated to be constrained, still do.
  19. Do you have kids?
    I am furbaby Aunty and step mama. My brothers dog is technically his, since he’s the whole reason he got her. Only a couple of months after we got her though, he moved to Melbourne and left her with us. My partners cat is actually his ex’s cat, but when they split up, she said to hold onto him for a year and if she didn’t come back, my partner could keep him. She wanted to travel, and his had the cat for about 3 or 4 years now.
  20. Do you want kids?
    No right now, there’s still a lot to get settled first. I would prefer to be married first as well.
  21. What’s your favorite color?
    The toughest question. I love Yves Saint Laurent’s Babouche yellow. Yes, I chose a nail polish color, they are ever so precise.
  22. Do you miss anyone right now?
    Wherever I am, I always miss my mum and my dog, or if I’m with them, I miss my partner and his cat. Don’t tell anyone I said this, but if I could, I would actually live with all of them, my mum, my partner and the cat and the dog. I’d be very happy.Even though Pippy and Travie would probably kill each other. As long as it was a big enough house to give us all enough space.
  23. Who is your favorite author?
    At the moment my favourite author is Jodi Picoult. I think I have literally every single one of her books and I would highly recommend them. Especially if you are a person that likes to look at how other people think.
  24. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
    I actually really like the city where I live, home is where the heart is. As mentioned above though, I would just love a really huge house. Where I could live with whoever, but also enough room for visitors. Maybe somewhere near a beach. Should be easy…right?

 

Please, stay single

There are these people that I know who clearly fooling around with each other behind their partners back. I have lost respect for these people over time and I just have very little to do with them anymore. The whole group is just a mess.

It doesn’t just bug me because they are cheating with each other, but it’s also because one of them was single when they met the other originally. They had just gotten out of an engagement and at the time the other person was married. Yet, even though there were obvious feelings between the two: Person A didn’t even leave their marriage until their partner got an amazing job ‘overseas’ and they just didn’t want to put the effort in. Which is when I really started to lose respect since their partner had given up so much to begin with. It was SUCH a cop out.

Person B then started dating nearly all of Person’s A closest friend while, at least, emotionally cheating on them all with Person A and got engaged to one of them. Then conveniently Person A marriage split up and Person B with their fiance…Coincidence.

STOP USING PEOPLE! NO ONE DESERVES THAT!

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I have a hard time not saying anything because I’m one of those people who hates injustice of any type. Which means the best that I feel like I can do is just stay away since no one else in the group seem to honestly care and they even called Perfect B “Perfect” and that they could never think of an insult good enough. So it continues.

What the actual…

What this all comes down for me is to tell people. Please, for the love of god, don’t date someone because you can’t be with the person you want too be with. Please don’t date someone because you’re lonely and you don’t think you can’t do any better…You partner doesn’t deserve that. When you start to date someone, please make sure this is what you really want. You may not be sure that you even want to date, but make sure you don’t drag someone else through it. This world is so small, they are plenty of people out there for you.

Dating someone else because you are alone or because you want to be with someone else is not a strong thing and it’s not what a strong person does….Or a good person and definitely not what “perfect” people do either. You know why? A strong and a good person knows that they are okay by themselves. They know that they are okay being alone and that they believe they will find someone, they don’t need to use anyone else. They also know the love they are getting from their family and friends is enough, or the love they have for themselves IS enough. (If it isn’t, maybe look into that…That’s a post for another day though!).

On some level I actually get it, for some people it is very hard to think of others and other people, and seeing from their point of view. Unless they are actually treated this way themselves. They they just don’t care enough to get it. Too me, personally, it also speaks on a level of having no heart and being some kind of a sociopath as well. There’s no heart or kindness to use another human being in such a way. I think there is something off about people who do that, especially people who repeatedly do it.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!lol…Love yourself and each other ❤

Inbetween

Child or Childless…Or are you an “InBetweener”?

I am an “InBetweener”…I can see myself having children one day, but neither am I obsessing about it either. I have my Furbabies and one day will have the ‘hooman babies’ too…Maybe…

This is where my random thought lies.

One of the issues that I have being an inbetweener, you are neither accepted by the “having children” group and neither are you accepted by the “choosing not have children” group either…You are alone in an ever expanding abysmal abyss.

My main issue apart from consistently feeling unwanted is what if I can’t have children, do I get excluded forever? Not having children means currently that people think my time is not valuable, that I can just drop everything at the last moment for their children, without even being asked if I am actually able to come…And to me, there’s no respect in that. When I choose not drop everything somehow I end up being the “worst person ever”…As I was called once when I decided to go to my friends birthday, which I had been asked to come to weeks beforehand, over not going to my cousins kids 7th birthday, which I had only been told about the night before.

I do mean “told”…and not… “asked” if I can come…It is amazing an amount of difference between those two words.

At the same time, I am also constantly left out of conversations by my friends who choose not have children. Take the past Mothers Day here in Australia…One of my best friends decided to tag every single girlfriend of ours, who are not having children and not me in a post about being furbaby mama…I am one too…So why leave me out as well? I found it extremely hurtful.

So I made a post about wishing every type of Mother out there a Happy Mothers Day. That’ll show them!

What is earned…

respect

Last weekend was a particularly bad weekend, I was abused all weekend about how I didn’t “respect” them, which is a joke since pretty much so far 3/4 quarters of my life he never wanted anything to do with me. When I was a kid he would disappear for weeks, drunk. When I was a teenager he would abandon us to try and hurt my mother (because hurting my mothers children was such a turn on =/)…Drunk…Now in my adult years he “demands” that he is personally invited to everything, and then pulls out every time and a few days later, we all get threatening messages,

Yet, he’s done nothing wrong to us, he doesn’t deserve to be treated that way…Who in HELL is this guy kidding?!!!

Who is this person? My “father”.

The reason I am now writing posts like these. I am tired of being threatened and abused. Does my father have a clue how lucky he is that my siblings and I even bother still talking to him as already is? I am tired of being ashamed like I’ve done something wrong, he should be the one to be ashamed! Not US!

This is it though, all my life I’ve been ashamed when people have told me that I deserve to get hit and have partners stand by and do and say nothing when there friends attack me over nothing. I mean literally nothing, I asked them what I had done to them…No response. Why do I always end up being the one that feels ashamed? These guys are a joke!

Yeah, that’s gonna stop…I’m not having another 30 years of this.

Ancient Ways

Came back from my little trip away, as one does, and also it seems these days as one does I signed into my Facebook account when I got home and replied to the messages and comments that I needed to. Off in the right hand top corner I noticed that in the “trending” column (relates to what is ‘tredning’ on Twitter) and I saw the word Colosseum.

Clicked on the link and I was horrified to discover that two tourists decided to engrave their initials on this ancient monument!

US Tourists caught carving names into Colosseum Rome! The Guardian.com

Being a lover of ancient times and stories, I was completely horrified (as thankfully, a lot of others seem to be as well). When did this start happening? Whose to blame? I was reminded recently of a group of young models that travelled overseas recently and a couple of these young ladies showing their ankles in a mosque!

I think it’s time we brought into school a type of “cultural” class or cultural workshops. That’s just my opinion, but it couldn’t harm to have one now could it?

 

Respect…

So I had an interesting talk about “respect” with a close male family member of mine tonight. Well I say “talk” it was more him texting me saying how I don’t respect him because I didn’t drop all my plans, even though we went out of our way to make other plans, it just wasn’t possible, because he’s family and I was told to “grow up” and he’ll talk to me then.

Respect is an interesting thing, it makes me curious that people who NEVER treat you with respect, expect it in return. It’s an interesting thing when a person will try to passively aggressively publicly ostracise you, but then turn into a whimpering mess when you hit back at them. It is interesting with how many people will say “Oh well, that’s just them” So it’s alright for them to do that, but it’s NOT alright for me to stand up to them, because that’s who I am.

I think in this world of today, you really have to know who you are. People these days seem to change with what ever works easier and no one wants any “drama”. Then I go and watch a show like “Band of Brothers” and think to myself “How would these guys feel about the generation of today” Would they think “This is what we died and suffered for? So someone could post a picture that isn’t even there own picture, and not even there own words to prove how there better than somebody else”…It’s pretty pathetic really.

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Published on 15 Dec 2012

All the interviews with the soldiers from the amazing tv series Band Of Brothers. I’ve never had any direct experience of war and i found these interviews really compelling and deeply moving.