All the loves, in all the world and I love you ❤
What I am really starting to “love” about Valentines Day (Get it…Get it) How people are embracing Valentines Days differently these days. You’ve got Library Lovers Day, Galentines Day (single girls getting together…I don’t think there’s one for guys yet, cause do they really care?lol).
However you love, love…I love, love and I hope you do too! How are you going to spread love today? With people’s permission of course!
Mandy Hale – You are Enough 30 day challenge
Day 22: In Chapter Sixteen, I discuss “Why We Cling to People Who Don’t Love Us.” Talk about a time when you clung to someone who didn’t love you, why you think you had such a hard time letting go, and how you finally tapped into your inner “enough-ness” to walk away.
As I have mentioned before, when my Grandfather passed away, I really didn’t like the guy I was dating at the time. When my Pa died I realised one of two things 1)He’s a coward and 2) I think unless I cheated on him, he was never going to love me. I know why now I still didn’t want to break up. I was worried about losing anyone else, literally anyone else. So I put up with a lot, but in the end, I know that I was making problems. Though it honestly, it wasn’t that hard. My ex’s room mate was such a bully towards me, which is why initially I didn’t leave my ex, because it was his room mate, not him, and his room mate is SO easy to rile up. I still think they slept together.
There was a definite me being a third wheel in my own relationship deal.
The day we broke up, I had just done clothes washing. Their clothes dryer, you had to clean out a filter, his room mate had been washing before and did NOT clean it out, laziest person ever! So I come along, clean it out, put my clothes in, didn’t put the washing on, I went off to do a couple of other things. He comes in and starts going off his top, never seen such an over reaction, not only did my ex not stick up for me over a ridiculous over reactions over his room mates not cleaning up after himself. When my ex came into his bedroom, I made a joke “Has the Princess calm down yet?” and he STORMED OUT! Then I go to work, on my way back I ring to see if they want anything and my “boyfriend” says to me “You’re only welcomed back if you don’t cause trouble”. We broke up that day. I actually nearly didn’t go back, I hang up on him and I was shaking, I was SO angry. He still thinks my phone stopped working. I also pretended to cry when we broke up.
Day 23: Today is my 40th birthday! Write about a milestone or significant birthday.
I’d have to say it was my 30th, not only was it a fantastic party. I had a “Fantasy Theme: Moulin Fantasy”. Dress up as your favourite character, but Moulin Rouge theme. Things really started to change for me when I turned 30 though. Finally got sick of my ex’s back stabbing me within 24 hours of us breaking up, went off. Found a job, not my dream job, but I adore the people who work there. Also the year that I met my current partner, and we still haven’t had a fight! It’s also the year though, that my health started to deteriorate. Ironically it was my ex that caused it, but that’s a story for another day!
Day 24: In Chapter Seventeen, I talk about “Moving On,” metaphorically and literally. Discuss a time when you found the courage to move on from a toxic situation, relationship, or environment.
As I’ve mentioned before, my now ex-friend actually blocked me and accused me of being this horrible human being. Although I had wanted too stopped being friends with them. There was so much relief after all that. Who would have thought saying “I don’t want to be treated like s^!t anymore” Got rid of the people who were treating me like s^!t”. Although only one of them blocked me, the other accused me of being passive aggressive, which was hilarious, since that’s what she has been doing herself. The other… the other didn’t notice what had happened for at least two weeks. Yet she apparently still keeps posting about how she may be quiet, but she’s observant -.- That should tell you everything! They are like those “Christians” who are not actually that Christian.
Day 25: In Chapter Eighteen, I become a “Church Chaser”! Share your own story of faith. Your beliefs, your journey to find a church or place of worship, and how believing in a higher power has impacted your life.
I am not really religious, I am definitely more agnostic than anything else. Spiritual, not religious. It gives me an incredible feeling to find out more about the religions. I also find sometimes, people will use their Religion to discriminate. It’s very much like Chinese Whispers. I definitely feel like there are things that we don’t understand about out there, and all those “gut moments”.
Day 26: In Chapter Nineteen, I share the story of a dear friend who took her own life. Talk about how suicide has touched your life or the life of someone dear to you.
I have not had any really close to me “suffered” from suicide. I know of people close to me. The sad thing is, I think they use it at lot for their own bad behaviour. I think she loved her father, but that doesn’t stop her from having NPD. There is someone who I haven’t actually met, but she is dear too me (online buddy) and I think she recently lost her brother suddenly, but I didn’t want to indulge to deep, unless she was okay with it.
Day 27: In Chapter Twenty, I talk about how I finally learned to “Let It Be.” Talk about what these three words mean to you. What does “letting it be” look like? How do you practice just “letting it be”?
“Let it Be” comes to me, in a song. Honestly when I hear “Let It Be” and what honestly it means to me, is “The Beatles” song “Let It Be”.
Day 28: Also in Chapter Twenty, I talk about what my own “Happy Ending” looks like now, after everything I’ve learned. What does YOUR Happy Ending look like? In love and in life?
I’d love to be married to my best friend, I am so lame! I just want all the usual stuff, marriage, a couple of babies. I would love to have my own little business, enough so I can live comfortably. I just want everyone I love to be happy and healthy, that’s it. I would love to be able to make enough to take care about everybody.
Day 29: In the epilogue, I talk about how the journey to “enough-ness” is never complete. Talk about your own journey to enough-ness, and how you’ve learned to embrace who you are, flaws and all.
Over the last couple of years, I have stopped worrying so much. It still hurts when I think someone wants to disappear from my life (but ironically, a lot of people I’ve lost. I was the one that introduced them to my friends that still are there). I’ve been having to let that go a whole lot, it’s too hard to keep worrying. I AM a good person, am I perfect? Most definitely not, but I also find that’s what gives me a step up. A lot of people want to do the whole social media “My life is perfect” and I am so not like that anymore,lol. I also find though a lot of people on here, are going through the same thing I am. It’s great, I think it’s helped me a lot, to embrace my flaws.
Day 30: The book is called, You Are Enough: Heartbreak, Healing, and Becoming Whole. Which one are you? Talk about which phase you’re in right now – heartbreak, healing, or becoming whole – and the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself in this season.
Honestly, I am clearly in heartbreak. My dog hasn’t passed, but she’s definitely not going to be here for more years, like we thought. She’s 13 a Chihuahua and apart from a couple of ear infections, she’s never had any health issues. She’s wobbly and is sleeping a lot, but she’s eating, not pooping (which worries me a little). She has started to perk up again whenever someone heads to the front door. It’s hard. I know that’s not what this question relates too, but it’s all I can think about right now. Not only do I completely love her, but I’ve always called her my unofficial therapy dog.
I have probably written about this before, in fact, I am sure that if I went to search, I would find it. However, lets write a refresher! Things change, people change. In Australia, we abbreviate a lot of words…Like…a lot! Nearly every word has an abbreviation. The word I’m focusing on today is “Mate” as in Soul Mate.
Too me (and like I’ve said, I think I’ve written about this before). Soul Mates are not just for a romantic purpose, not to me.
Soul Mates are about yours and mine souls and all the human beings we bump into along the way. Not just the romantic partners, but everyone, even our family. Although born into a family, I believe we were supposed to be born into THAT family. All the souls we bump into along the way, they are a soul mate…Even the horrible ones. What we do once those souls have impacted us, are still left up to us.
On a similar topic, I do believe that animals have “souls” as well, but they’re just much more purer than ours.
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Day 15: Also in Chapter Eleven, I talk about the power of SURRENDER. Share a time when you had nothing left to do but surrender, and how it impacted your life to just let go and let God.
I feel like I’m starting to repeat, but the night I ended up in hospital. I had been wanting to see a Doctor about my anxiety for a long time. I literally had to surrender and finally go.
Day 16: In Chapter Twelve, I share about how my group therapy family became like family to me. Talk about a friend or friends who are like family to you…and how they remind you just how ENOUGH you are when you’ve forgotten.
Despite losing my ex best friends last year (we all called each other “sisters”). There was a time when I refused to call friends, family, ever again. However, as time has gone on I’ve let that go and I started to do it again. There’s only a couple of people that I still do it for. Some people let me down after that whole incident too, that had nothing to do with those people. There was one girl who I’d call my baby sister and she was sick all the time. Myself and a couple of others would stay up all night as she’d go on and on about how bad she’d feel, and we believe her. However, once she got better and they figured out what was wrong, we’ve not heard from her since. Not even a thank you. Since then, the other girl who was even kinder than me has lost her brother and her father in a only a few months. Still not a peep!
However, there are still people out there who have not forgotten me. Which is nice. I get forgotten a lot, as sad at that sounds. Some times it’s really good, then people aren’t looking at me. It’s not about the quantity, it’s about the quality. Calling friends, family, have cut down drastically and it’s great! Especially when it seems so less fake now.
Day 17: Also in Chapter Twelve, I talk about how sunflowers are called sunflowers because they literally “turn toward the sun.” Talk about a time in your life when you turned toward the sun and chose the light when it would have been easier to settle for darkness.
It has to be the time after ending up in Hospital. I sometimes have “bad” days and by that I get so frustrated by how I can now tell how much my brain has changed. It would be so much easier to just be “angry” and not take any control over myself. I know I could be anxious all the time, if I wanted. Just stop and be anxious. But it’s not worth it at the same time. I’m still me, I just have trouble going into places now, that’s all. It’d be easier to be angry and drama driven all the time, I just can’t and I don’t want too…Sometimes it is a battle, but I’m up for the challenge! I also know though when to stop myself.
Day 18: In Chapter Thirteen, I talk about a favorite movie that has had an indelible impact on my life. Talk about YOUR favorite movie or movies that help you reconnect with who you are.
Well if you’ve been a reader of mine for a while now, you’ll know that the movie I love the most are generally all of the JRR Tolkien movies. It’s the movie I watch when I need to get lost and just remind myself…That there is some good fighting for in this world. I cannot watch it while other people are around. The only way I can watch it with other people around is if it’s on tv, and then there are commercials anyway. That is MY movie, if that makes sense?
Day 19: In Chapter Fourteen, I get “An Unexpected Apology.” Share a time when YOU got an unexpected apology from someone, and how it impacted your life.
That was in the last couple of years actually, and it was all thanks to Facebook! When I was in Year 6, I was bullied pretty badly and someone who had once been a best friend of mine was one of the bullies. Pretty much my whole class gave me a hard time. I had never been “hated” before. I wasn’t a spoilt princess, but neither was I hated on. So it was such a shock to me.
Come to 2017 and one of my old classmates sent me a random message on Facebook and apologised. Even though they weren’t the worst of the bullies, they sort of stood more to the side. Apparently apart of AA, they had to reach out and apologise to someone they’ve hurt and still feel bad about hurting. It did shape my life in the belief that people do understand what is wrong and what is right. It also made me realise how much I had learnt in that time. How I’ve handle bullies since then, they weren’t the last, but hopefully now…No more bullies.
Day 20: In Chapter Fifteen, I talk about losing someone precious to me, my grandmother. Talk about someone you’ve loved and lost, either to death or circumstance…and how loving them made you a better person.
As I mentioned in my last challenge, losing my Grandfather (my mums Dads) was probably the biggest lost of my life. No breakup, not even when my parents split up. Apart from losing my first dog. I cried when I lost my other pets, but I still mourn her. I don’t even like thinking about my Grandmother dying. My Pa loving me made a huge part of who I am today. Let me put it to you this way. This is the kind of man my Pa was.
My baby brother is a Drag Queen, he’s pretty well known in Melbourne, but he started in Adelaide. My brother also makes a lot of his own and other Drag Queen outfits. My Pa would sit there with my brother talking about his sewing, because like my Pa and his Carpenter type skills, they are both freakishly good at it. Perfect lining, they just know how to put something together. Once my Pa had past away, my Brother made a dress for his Drag persona, out of my Pa’s ties. I’ll have to see if I can find the picture. My brother hardly talks to my Dad, with good reason, but he’ll make a gorgeous drag dress out of my Pa’s ties.
Day 21: Also in Chapter Fifteen, I talk about falling for a “lost boy,” someone who was too broken and too selfish to ever be able to love me like I deserved. Talk about your own experiences with a Lost Boy. What did he teach you? And how did you learn and grow from finally letting him go?
Oh my goodness, as sweet as all my ex’s are (I don’t hate any of them, I hate what they did to me, but not them…If that makes sense?) I think they were all “Lost Boys”. Each one taught me something different. It’s very much a “Thank U, Next” situation. I think though even with the worst of people, you still learn something from them.
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Day 8: Also in Chapter Five, I talk about unanswered prayers and how they can often be the biggest blessings in disguise. Share an unanswered prayer of your own and how it helped you see that sometimes God’s “no” is the most gracious answer of all.
The thing is I think you don’t realise that he’s said “No” until you realise. If that makes any sense? Kind of like hindsight in a way. I’ve also though never really prayed, I feel like a hypocrite if I do. I’ve mentioned before that I’m not really religious, but am more agnostic. I guess in ways I do “Pray” when I hug my plushies, it’s usually because I am hoping for something, to feel better, for some kind of answer, or when I wear my “Pa” bracelet, I play with it when I’m anxious.
Day 9: In Chapter Six, I talk about the end of a relationship that sent me spiraling into a dark place. Talk about a heartbreak of your own that you experienced, and what it taught you, about yourself and about life.
In terms of relationship heart break I haven’t really had one. That’s part of the problem, I did most of the breaking up, mainly because as well I knew it was ending, but I didn’t want to get to the point of hating each other.
The weird thing every single one of them within 24 hours had back stabbed me in some way. That did break my heart, because I had, clearly wrongly, assumed that they had cared about me. I’m not kidding every single one of them. Every time they did it, it made me even more cautious in my next relationship. I wouldn’t trust them to begin with. A good example is it took me longer and longer each time to actually sleep with the next guy.
My current partner, I didn’t sleep with him for about 3 months. Even then, we had already gone through a lot together. I had developed sciatica and couldn’t really walk, so he was driving me to my Doctors appointments and didn’t judge that I was using my Great Grandmothers walking stick to get around. I didn’t even say “I love you” for at least 5 months and I was so scared to say it I had to get drunk first…and he didn’t say it back! But he did the next morning,lol…I was so embarrassed!lol
Day 10: In Chapter Seven, I talk about my experience with spiraling into clinical depression. Talk about your own experiences with depression, anxiety, or any other mental health struggle. If you haven’t been affected personally, share your insights into how you stay mentally healthy.
I think it’s all about being aware of yourself and how your mind and body work, imo. You know when something is off with yourself and you learn what you can and can’t handle. I know now that I can’t handle flashing lights, I can feel them messing up my eyes and my brain does not like it. I don’t drink coffee anymore unless I know for certain I am not going anywhere, but I can still handle coffee ice cream and love it!
Day 11: In Chapter Eight, I share all the reasons why I think I’m still single, the good…the bad…the ugly. Talk about all the reasons why you think you’re still single. Don’t be afraid to be really real and raw and honest. If you’re not still single, talk about a time when you were single and lonely and afraid that love would never arrive.
The only time in my life I have ever felt bad for being single was honestly when my now ex best friend blamed me that she only told us the bad things about her boyfriend is because I was single. She didn’t want to make me “jealous”, because when she’s single and we’re in relationships, she gets jealous. Now, I have never ever been like that in the whole of my life. For a moment I felt bad though that she sees the world that way. This was about 2-3 years ago now and it was start of the downward spiral, because whether or not I’m not single, has absolutely no bearing on someone else’s behavior? I have never felt bad about being single though. Let me put it to you this way, I’d rather be single than in a abusive relationship or a relationship where I feel alone. My ex friends are the reasons I prefer being single, that was the irony about the situation. I considered my ex friends to be “smart” and they were making horrible choices with their relationships (mine weren’t much better). But I’d see the abuse and the bullying and that their boyfriends are nearly 60 and we’re in our early 30s and I’d think to myself “If they are that smart and make such horrible choices, why chance do I have?”. Now I know better.
Also though, HELL TO THE NO was I about to get blamed for another human being bullying and abusing my friends.
Day 12: In Chapter Nine, I hit “rock bottom.” Talk about your own rock bottom moment, and how you found the strength and the courage to rise.
I guess it was ending up in Hospital after my first massive anxiety, because I felt like I couldn’t breathe. It was so scary! Probably the scariest thing I’ve encountered and I swear it changed my brain chemicals or something. I had always been a worrier and an incident a few months earlier had made me anxious travelling in well, pretty much everything. I ended up in Hospital because I was ignoring all the warning signs, because I thought at some point that I’d snap out of it. I did have a lot going on apart from just my own stuff, but I thought I was “handling” it.
After being let out of hospital and after I got home (well back to my partners place). I did not move from the chair for three days, just to go to the toilet and get myself something to eat and drink. I found it hard to walk and I didn’t change the whole time either (three days in the same underwear…Ewww! I look back now and have no idea how I did it).
What eventually got me up was though, I didn’t want to be frightened anymore…I WANTED TO LIVE AGAIN!!!and that the Cat needed me to let him in, then out, then out…then in again. We’re renting and there’s no cat/dog door. I honestly felt really gross too. I just didn’t want to lie down anymore. It was really a combination of those three things.
Day 13: In Chapter Ten, I talk about how sometimes survival is about whatever gets you through the day. Share what has “gotten you through the day” or held you together during tough times: faith, family, friends, alcohol, food, TV shows…whatever your glue is, don’t be afraid to get real.
It depends what’s happening that day. For example, at the moment my cat is not very well, so that gives me something else to focus on. I can’t control what happens with him, but I can take care of him. Some days I can go on social media and other days I cannot. Sometimes it’s just been my partner holding me, there was a time where I didn’t want to say I wasn’t okay (it was in the middle of the night) but I clearly wasn’t, so he just hugged me.
Day 14: In Chapter Eleven, I share some of my experiences in group therapy. Talk about your own experience with therapy…what it has taught you, how it has helped (or not helped) you, how it has helped you see how ENOUGH you are. If you’ve never been to therapy, talk about why. And what you would hope to learn from it if you ever went.
I have been very lucky with Therapy. I’ve had two different kinds of therapy, one has just been your usual go and speak with someone. I’ve really been liking it, I don’t like the thought of burdening others, and this is her job. She’s completely lovely too, she gives me great ideas and because she deals with people who suffer the same things I do, she has suggestions that’s she has come by, by people who are going through it too.
The other was hypnotherapy and I think it worked for me, because I was so open to nearly anything that wasn’t a pill. It was helping me, but trying to see him was getting complicated. It worked too a point, it worked when I had time to sit and meditate. It was weird what happened, I couldn’t go to a session, because I was working and just never heard from them again. I took it as a sign.
So, my father is an alcoholic.
My name is Lauren…and my father is an alcoholic…Not matter what he says, he is.
Just before Christmas he decided, after numerous goes at me, he decided he didn’t want to come down for Christmas. Then got mad at me when he decided he was going to come and he wouldn’t change our plans. Then he was not coming at all. Which was fine.
However the night before Christmas Eve, so Christmas Eve Eve. He decided to go on a rant about my brother. They’ve never had a good relationship, all on my father. Seeing us on average, once a month for about 3 hours…Does not a parent make. However he made a comment and I REALLY wanted to respond, if he had kept going I would have, I was in that kind of mood. The comment?
“I don’t know what happened to him”
Now, why oh WHY would you not know what happened to him?
I wonder if my Dad has ever REALLY asked himself that? Why don’t you know what has happened to my brother? My brother, as much as I do love him, can be extremely selfish. As soon as my parents separated, we never saw my father again, other than when he tried to hurt my Mum, which never worked. It just hurt his own children, who still, kind of liked him. My brother never got told off ever again, it was always put on me.
Not only did I have to contend with people saying that I had to take my Mums side, full grown adults, telling a 12 year old she had take sides. My brother didn’t do any chores, didn’t finish high school and still got the same amount of pocket money I did. My brother is really smart, just one of those really lazy people.
Yet, to this day every adult I know says “Why is your brother like that?”
Since my brother has moved away, he has gotten better with paying people back and just being generous…But still…I can tell them why!
What are the most important lesson(s) you’ve learned in life?
How did you meet your husband/wife or significant other? How did you know he/she was “the one”?
I am not married…Yet…We have been talking about it a lot though lately. We have been together for about 3-4 years now, so it’s coming up a lot. We met online though, I went to the online dating site as dare initially and he was actually the first one I picked. My mum made me chose someone else as well to go on a date, even though I really did not like the guy. She wanted me to have choices and I was so resistant, because if it was just beginners luck…Why is that bad? I can go back online,lol…I was also SO lucky because he was starting to shut down his others profiles, so timing was perfect! Now I’ve been with him for numerous years and we are starting to get me to move in and talking about getting married.
If you could take a year-long paid sabbatical, what would you do?
If I could afford to I would travel to three places, one Disneyland, one Hobbit land in New Zealand and the other is all over Ireland. I would stay with my Gran for a bit.
What is your favorite thing to buy at a movie theater concession stand? (credit to The Haunted Wordsmith for this one)
Popcorn…I always need to have popcorn, even if I’ve had dinner beforehand and my tummy is full.
Lastly:
What are some Holiday Traditions you and/or your family observe in December?
One traditions that the adults in my family do now, that my Grandfather (now passed away) started. We do a secret Santa for the adults in the family and then we send out a list about what we want. Instead of wrapping it in Christmas Wrapping paper, we wrap the presents in newspaper.
I get asked a lot would I be friends with my ex friends if they came and apologised too me. My answer is always going to be a “Oh Hell No”.
It’s not that I haven’t forgiven them, I have. It’s not only because I don’t think they ever would anyways. It’s more that when I think about it. I’ve come to realise that they were never my friends to begin with. That is sad to a girl, who even when I was little. At Christmas time I would make sure that all the decorations (that weren’t baubles) had to have someone else because “Everyone needs a friend” and the sad conclusion that I came too where I realised I’ve never actually had a best friend.
As sad as that it is and too much like a Robin Williams quote. It’s true and I’m fine with that. I just don’t want people in my life, who make me realise that ever again in my life.
I deserve better than that.
I do miss having a best friend, in the “traditional sense”. When my partner saw that I had written that I didn’t have a best friend, he got really upset with me. I think it actually hurt him. I think he knows now what I meant…I hope so! But I think you know what I mean? I can hardly talk to him about any of my dream weddings plans!lol
Don’t you hate it when you know you’ve moved on, or just never cared about someone or something. However you can’t let go of the guilt that you should be more upset? Take my current situation with my ex friends for an example.
I have actually been better and feel better since they’ve been gone. I write what i want to, I do what I want too. Mainly because now I don’t have the pressure of them telling me how boring or how they don’t like what ever it is I’m doing…Which always seemed to be a lot of things!…As if what they do and watch is so spectacular!
Adam Sandler = Craptacular! #notsorryatall
WIMBLEDON IS SO BORING!!! #notsorryatall
I can talk about Lord of the Rings, I can talk about the Hobbit, I can listen to Delta Goodrem. All the meanwhile without them going “Blergh” or “OMG THAT IS SO BORING” Literally every time I said I was watching something they didn’t like…EVERY SINGLE DAMN TIME!!!!
I have never felt so free in my life before! I swear so much now,lol.
The guilt that I can’t shake though is that I feel like I am supposed to be more sad? I’ve known them pretty much at least longer than half my life. Even though logically and when I’m honest with myself that I am so much better off without them. I have achieved so much without them already in the past 6 months. I can’t shake the guilt that I should have been more upset about it?
The first couple of months I kept waiting and waiting and waiting to fall in a heap and it just never happened.
We all know this song …Well if you’re a Disney and Tim Burton fan.
It’s very romantic, a lot of people say they and their partner are “just meant to be”.
What does it mean though, if you break up? Does that mean you were never meant to be?
I don’t necessarily think so.
I believe that we are meant to meet ALL the people we have met in our lives. Whether that be romantic or friendly, even our co-workers and even the horrible people we unfortunately will all encounter in our lives. Just because one relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean you were never “meant to be”. You were meant to be…Just not forever. Sometimes that may not even be the case. I know a couple of people who broke up when they were younger, but go back together years and years later. Not that I’m saying that will happen for everyone.
So please don’t stay in a relationship because you think it’s “meant to be”. Even when all the signs and your own self tell you that it’s not. You are just wasting time to find the one you are actually meant to be with.
I’ve noticed in my life and through my own experiences how dangerous it can to have this mentality where from the first date they’re just simply meant to be. Especially if it’s an abusive relationships and the amount of people who think they were “meant to be”…You were ‘meant to be with an abuser forever’?…You sure about that?
Recently current beau and I we were talking about, if this or this had never happened, then we would have never met. We went from each our parents meeting, to even the end of my recent toxic friendships. Although my Mum dared me to go on a dating site, it was my ex best friend who suggested the site. As she had used it numerous times before (To this day I wish ONE of them had worked out for her. Instead of the douchebag she’s with now) so she knew how to use it. So my friendship with her was “meant to be”.
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