Welcome and Wanted

One of the hardest things about being in a relationship (especially a new one) is trying to ‘decipher’ and decode your partners quirks and habits. It’s probably one of the biggest messages that I can say when you are single. You NEED to find out what makes you happy, what behaviour are you willing to put up with and you NEED to stick with it.

One of the hardest lessons that I’ve learnt throughout every single relationship, and in all honesty I mean friendships and family. The hardest thing in any relationship is to feel wanted. I can honestly say that every partner that I’ve had, they never wanted to be around me. They always seemed to prefer the company of their friends, even if they were bad-mouthing those friends (which should also be a clue). Even with my “friends” I have had friends who have dumped me for other people…Hence why “friends” are in quotation marks. I no longer consider them friends.

When you are single, you think there’s this whole world that you are missing out on. I was always good at being single personally. You have to figure you out, I cannot stress this one enough. My current relationship is tough for me because I have so many insecurities, I’ve had to deal with a lot on my own in the past. I am not used for asking for help, I am more used to being upset and crying it out on my own.

Before you get into a relationship do things on your own. Reconnect with yourself. The major reason I am doing alright now is because I know that I’m fine, my current partner is not my other ex-partners, he is a whole other human being and has never given me a reason to doubt him.

Advertisement

1000 Speak for Connection!

In the past I have Blogged a couple of posts regarding a Facebook page called 1000 Voices for Compassion and on the 20th of each month there is a challenge and people write Blog topic based on the topic for that month. In the month of the May the topics “Connection” including reconnection and reconciliation.

So I will literally just write down whatever came to mind when I thought of the word “Connection”.

Connection Prompts For our May Link-up

I think that is a really interesting topic because I find that as a general society rule we are less connected than ever before.  Yet we have all these tools to help us communicate well and efficiently and yet as I have said before we have more of a society that wants to be “right” instead of discussing and talking with one another. You watch people (especially with Twitter) who bully and send death threats to people that they don’t even know. When did this become okay? Why has this become such a problem? How can someone be so disconnected that threatening and telling people that should “go and kill” themselves, became acceptable?

I have watched many “fights” on Facebook. You have many people who will literally write “who cares”. How poignant is that?! Clearly not them (that is a whole other topic though on people who want to write “who cares” and “this isn’t news” instead of scrolling past the topic). I have asked people on Facebook directly why they felt the need to write that statement, why didn’t they just scroll past and get on with their day. Why do they think what they like is so much more and better than other? Yet, when people ask them, they get really upset?

Have we lost the connection with what is really important, how can we get it back, whose to blame, is there one area to blame or is it just everything these days? Have we lost the connection with the earth, the planet, our basic simple ways. Have we become to diverse to be able to really handle and accept the differences in others? Are we not ready to CONNECT with the other different souls on this planet? Is it too much for us to handle right now.

I believe that it is time to reconnect with and within ourselves. Go back to the basics and take a long look at what we are doing and what kind of legacy and story do we want to leave behind. I believe that we need to reconnecting with ourselves every know and then, to take a hard look at ourselves and asked ourselves “What is important to us”. Do these people really want to leave the story behind of them threatening and telling people to die behind the cowardice of a screen?

Take that walk back in a nature, kick up the leaves during autumn. Mediate…Listen to what our souls are telling us to do, telling us the path that we should take. Shut out the world of the technology. and connect with our spirits again. I think that we need to reconnect within ourselves again.