It should go without saying…

If you don’t talk to the people actually involved, why are you speaking for them?

Too me, it seems, if you don’t talk to trans people about trans issues, maybe don’t talk or make decisions about them. If you don’t talk to sex workers, don’t talk or make decisions about them.

I’m looking at you UK!

But this does apply generally.

I will write about a example though of when you should sort of debate with yourself, who you should listen to within these groups too.

Debbie Hayton is a trans woman, or not, depending on whether you are a “TRA” or a TERF or Gender Critical. Debbie is a trans woman though, who frequently (meaning all the time) sides with transphobic people. One thing she has said is “trans people are not marginalised, and I am trans!”. Now the problem with this, is one, Debbie is a late tranisitioner. Which in itself is not a problem, plenty of people transition later in life. But the reason for Hayton transitioning later? As she admitted herself, not because she didn’t know she was trans, but to protect her children from bullies.

Now…

If being trans isn’t marginalised, why do you (commendably) need to protect your children?

Like, if there’s no problem with transitioning … Surely you can just do it whenever you want? You wouldn’t need to worry about protecting your children. Take POC, a lot of POC parents have to talk to their children about how to be when they’re confronted by the police.

That’s just common sense, right?

Hayton is one example, by what I mean when I say, actually LISTEN.

A little dream time…

Well, I seem to be going with a theme this week, haha

I went and saw “The Eternals” over the week, and I really did enjoy. Within about 10 minutes of coming out, everyone in the “real world” brought me down, oh my god, they just…I’m living too much in the real world, I need my brain to escape. I don’t go on holidays, and can’t really right now. My brain is too tired to stream at the moment. I NEED that come down after a movie.

Otherwise, I just get annoyed and really annoyed…I can’t think of a better word than annoyed.

I need to live in the fantasy world, of the movie I’ve just seen. Especially when I’ve just seen it and I really enjoyed it. There a few movies, I have to watch on my own. If I’m at someone else’s house, clearly, it doesn’t matter.

  • Lord of the Rings, and to a lesser extent The Hobbit
  • Phantom of the Opera (with Emmy Rossum and Gerard Butler)
  • Moulin Rouge

So, probably not one of the biggest lists in the world.

It is completely weird…but that’s our world…

I participated in a poll last week, where we were asked if we trusted politicians or the media. Media lost, by over half and with 6,000 votes. Is it because we KNOW politicians will always be shifty? Whereas, I think I’m not alone in writing this…I don’t trust the media anymore. I EXPECT, and from the comments, so did others. You expect politicians to be shifty and nasty, even the nice ones. The media is SUPPOSED to be our defense against that.

Another one that I came across was the TERFS. Saying that one trans people want to take and take and take, and have taken everything “sacred” to females…Like if these females want public bathrooms that badly, they can bloody well have them. And yet, they’re confused when people call them “weird TERFs” because they (adults) are talking about complete strangers children’s orgasms, with no medical or health degree on Twitter. THAT IS FREAKING WEIRD! Too sit there publicly talking about how only women have cervices. One, not all women have a cervix, and not only women have one either. I ended up saying “The only difference between TERFs and MRA’S, MRA’s aren’t pretending they’re not obsessed with other’s genitals”.

But then Boris Johnson went and said this…’biology is very important but…’ and said he believed in treating everyone with ‘dignity and respect’.

So now, I’m like…whaaaaaa

The world in generally has just completely lost the plot. It’s a weird world, we’re living in…a mad world…even? The weirdest thing to me, is that the people in charge, like Johnson, Morrison (Australia), the BBC and the ABC. All these people have had jobs during the whole time, during each lockdown, in each country. They were allowed and kept going to work. So it’s weird to see them losing the plot.

My mum, as an example, has been able to work during most of the lockdowns. Has she had said to me previously, nothing really changed for her. But yet you see these Ministers and Journalists, actually working, and had somewhere to go and getting out of their homes during COVID, losing their minds.

The reality of real life is…

…Comedians sometimes become the joke,

No leader in the History of the world has been loved 100% and by all,

Viruses don’t care about your mental health, your job, your family, your friends. Too be fair to the virus, some humans don’t either…That’s a depressing thought, lol

Some people are currently fighting “the Government” (who agree with them), to get outside, just so they can go to another building and sit inside that building, haha…Think Pubs and Clubs. We even had people complaining when they could sit outside a restaurant, because they wanted to be inside the restaurant instead.

Mother Nature can take us all out.

Death and Taxes are real. If you don’t pay your taxes, you can murder, kill, harm, harass and bully others…But if you don’t pay your taxes…They’ll get you!

God…this turned out far more depressing than I originally wanted it to be, lol

Thursday Theories – Cartoons Brought to Life

So, I went to see the second Suicide Squad, I didn’t see the first one. I am a huge fan of the animated Harley Quinn, so I didn’t like the whole blue and pink outfits, or the one Hyena. Give me two hyena or none at all. However, I actually wanted to see this one.

Harley Quinn had her black and red (which I can see all the girls and some boys wearing), and I have a huge crush on Irdris Elba, adore John Cena. I’m not going to reveal anything. However, I really did love it. The cast were fantastic, great music and lovely back stories.

It did make me think though, I did adore Margot Robbie as Harley Quinn. She was very energetic and fun and crazy, and what you’d want in “real life” Harley Quinn. Unlike the cartoons though, there was just that little bit lacking. She was great though. I jsut got thinking though

How many times have we been disappointed, or loved, from seeing a favourite character come to life on the big screen?

Ghosted: Love Gone Missing

I don’t normally write about tv shows, unless you know, it’s related to real life. Ghosted: Love Gone Missing is probably one of my most favourite reality tv shows. I didn’t put it in “” because I think it is actually based on reality.

It’s a really good show, and isn’t about your typical “love” stories, it’s mainly around friendship. It might be about romantic relationships, but I have yet to see any. The ones I have seen have all been about relationships.

The basis of the show is one person contacts the show, talking about how one day they were suddenly ghosted by someone. Now “Ghosted” means that you stop talking to someone day, usually someone that you are/were in a close relationship with. The hosts normally try to sus out why that person thinks they were ghosted. They normally can’t think of a reason…

That’s when they try to contact the “Ghoster”. That’s when the actual truth of the matter comes out. I have to yet to see one, where it wasn’t a REALLY good reason.

What makes this show different, is that after a conversation, that both parties get to choose whether or not they want to stay “Ghosted”. So far, I’ve only seen one friendship both say that they want to stay Ghosted, and again, it was a really good reason.

Mental Health vs Social Media

As it gets closer to Christmas, for some this time of year is just SO hard. Now I want to start off this next bit being completely honest. I don’t like Justin Bieber or Hailey Baldwin. I think separately I’ve never really liked them and together I like them even less. The reason I bring them up though is because Hailey Baldwin was complaining about how bad social media is for mental health with all the nasty comments she receives.

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Why has anyone said it was good for mental health?

First, as above, duh. Social media especially when you are not nice people to begin with are not going to be nice to to you. Selena Gomez could tell you that one. There’s a difference between Hailey and Selena though. Every now and then Selena will actually come off of social media. It is not for complete random strangers to take care of your mental health. It’s YOUR responsibility. Reality is, there are always going to be nasty people. That is reality, put yourself first. As someone who is not a celebrity, there is no need for a celebrity to actually to even allow people to comment. They don’t make money from the comments, they make money from advertising a product. Since Baldwin does not make her own products that she advertise, all she needs to make sure is that people can link to the products page and let them deal with it.

Our mental health is our responsibility, otherwise you end up like Michael Jackson, Prince, my ex-friends. You end up relying on others for YOUR happiness and for your safety.

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Share Your World, Sept Wk4, 2018

Share Your World

Share Your World, 24-09-18

 If you drink coffee, how do you like it best?  Hot, cold, iced, with cream, with sugar or black as black? 

I used to drink, but I find that it exasperate’s my anxiety, so I don’t drink it anymore. Sometimes I get cravings for it, only sometimes still.

If you don’t drink coffee, how has that beverage impacted YOUR world?

Saying that though tea has been impacting my world, big time lately. It means I can keep drinking and I love all the different flavours and each one does actually seem to make me feel something different. Some make me feel calmer, tired, awake, comfy. It’s brilliant!

In your opinion, what’s the greatest invention of our age?   

I think the mobile phone is. Just because if you are in a jam it’s handy having a phone with the phone numbers already in it, that you can call. You try going without your phone all day. We have become so reliant on it, probably more to do with the social media aspect. But I really do believe that the mobile phone is the greatest invention of my age.

Global warming?  Reality or myth?

Total Reality.

Are you an explorer or more a home body?

More of a home body, but every know and then I like to explore. Where I live is perfect for it as well. It has a little park and a little cafe nearby, that looks over the park and the man made wetlands. Sometimes I’ll walk around and then finish off with a nice drink at the cafe. Not so much during Winter though,lol

and last:

What were you grateful for this week? 

I am so grateful for the people in my life. I may not have “best friends” anymore but I have the best of friends ❤