Where does the blame lie?

This is something that I’ve noticed in the last couple of years, and I don’t know if it’s just me or is it something that you have all noticed too?

I’ve started to noticed a thing these days instead of people taking any responsibility when they blame someone, they then turn around and say “Oh, but I’m not blaming them/you”

YES THEY ARE!

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I’ll use a couple of examples that I’ve seen or seen others use against me personally.

Last week I talked about how women are STILL the main culprits when it comes to attacking other women when they come out about assault (See the blog here). One of the main things that they kept saying was “I’m not blaming her…but…(or then goes on about how she should have left)” Yes you are blaming the victim! That is blaming someone!

Myself personally, one of the life long friends that I’ve recently banished for life. A couple of years ago when I was trying to tell her to leave her abusive boyfriend. Her whole excuse for why we didn’t hear about the “good things” he had done. The whole reason was because when she is single, she was really jealous about hearing how happy we were in relationships…I was the only single one at the time…I have been single more than I’ve been in relationships…I have NEVER EVER been jealous of my friends being happy…In fact I have been the complete opposite for my friends…Especially when they’re actually being treated been well…When I pointed out this too her…Not the fact that I am nothing like this, nothing about the fact that his abuse SHOULD outweigh the good. Of course my response was but you are blaming me, for your way of thinking……She just kept saying “I’m not blaming you, I’m just saying that’s how I think”….Which you’d think my so called “best friend” of half my life should know me better than that…and it is still blaming me.

Hence why we will no longer been friends after she blamed me of treating her like dirt the last couple of years…She’s still with the boyfriend by the way…Abuse 101!

Anyway…What is up with this trend lately? How about you just say what you mean. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is my problem with people who have a problem with people who “take the knee”…See my problem?

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In case you don’t have a single social media account, which is entirely possible. You may or may not have missed the whole #taketheknee who-ha. If you did, here’s a bit of a break down:

There is an American Colin Kapernick football player, who takes the knee in a peaceful protest against the very obvious racism in American, nothing at all to do with military…That is until Donald Trump, a war dodger said that anyone who takes the knee should be arrested. Without speaking to a single person who does take the knee, he just decided it was against the military….The guy who dodged the war and has never spent a day fighting in his life, is suddenly an expert in War. Suddenly people had a problem, when just the weekend before when Kapernick did the EXACT same thing and I doubt any of these people even noticed.

Then all hell broke loose. people started using pictures of dead soldiers coffin…you know soilders who can’t speak for themselves, which is so respectful of course *insert sarcasm here*…The biggest irony I found that a lot of Vets supported Kapernick. A lot of them actually said…with their own words and mouths…They fought so that people could peacefully protest, Kapernick has never ONCE said anything against the military. They fought against their people to have the FREEDOM to not be under a Dictator. Yet, people are completely ignoring this!

This is where my ultimate problem comes in…

These exact same people who have a problem with Kapernick…Have NO problem with the white supremacist group. That only a couple of weeks beforehand had worn the swastika symbols on their the tops…The people are “fine people” and they have no problems with those people. These “fine people” wore a symbol that millions of people fought and died to get rid of. In Germany it is ILLEGAL to advertise that symbol. Where’s the outrage for the soldiers who died under that symbol, where are the pictures of the dead soldiers who actually fought the Nazis, the pictures of the people who died in the concentration camps. Where are the pictures of the concentration camps of people who died because of that symbol? Where is the outrage against the people who wore symbols that soldiers actually fought against, the whole reason that Kapernick can peacefully protest against the more than obvious racism problem in America.

These people NEED to ask themselves why it’s alright to turn their backs on people who are just wanting their fellow countrymen to be safe…But yet don’t make a single noise about the white supremacist who wore a symbol that is ILLEGAL in Germany, who the allies actually fought against.

You are free to turn your backs on the NRL players, just as we are free to call you out on it. Being Free doesn’t mean you are free ONLY if everyone agrees with you?

In a shot of complete coincidence, I was watching “Band of Brothers” probably the most depressingly awesome series ever. Not just on War, but just an incredible series. There is one episode, I’ve seen it about 15 times “This is why we fight” I know it’s coming, yet, I can’t stop the tears. I can never watch with other people, it’s devastating. As I watched that episode again today, I found this article as well. If you can’t understand why you should be outraged by those “fine people” after watching that episode and reading this article…I am just going to assume that you have no heart.

Band of Brothers: how it’s episode was also it’s most devastating. 

 

I want to say that I’m shocked, but I’m not

You’ve probably seen the “metoo” hashtags all over the social media and although it’s heartbreaking to see just SO many. I am glad that we are now seriously talking about it…FINALLY!

However with the Hashtag it has also meant that other people are talking about their own situations, even if they are years and years old. Which has lead a lot too “I don’t believe you” and “why didn’t they said something before”…You know attacking these women, they attack first and then they say “Why didn’t you say something earlier” -.-

What has angered me the most is that women are attacking other women. You take a look at Michele Mahone…Years ago she felt harassed by Patrick Swayze and when she went to her bosses to talk them about it…She was sacked…Now she’s reliving it because of everything that’s coming out. Now the main people who are attacking her are women…again…Then Jacinda Adern became Prime Minister of New Zealand and most of the women who were attacking her, were attacking her looks, not her policies. I wonder if they even know what her policies are? Then there’s the whole Melania Trump and Michelle Obama thing.

What are these women’s mental malfunction? When you point it out too them, that one of the first things our parents teach us is about not to judge someone by their looks.

I can’t believe I have to use this:

Beauty Fades

 

7 Random Things

I decided that I was going to try and focus on good things this week, so I thought that I’d start the week with focusing on 7 random things that I enjoy or make me happy. If you feel like sharing random things with us or what to do this yourself, please feel free to do as well, or if you share my happiness for the randomness, please share!

  1. Since I am hungry as I write this, it’d be a good idea to share with you a food that I love to combine. During Winter I love to combine mac and cheese with instant noodles (those noodles that take about 5 minutes to cook). It’s soooo good, probably extremely unhealthy though.
  2. So something I have learnt with social media, apart from not reading the comments. Check the “likes” instead…You will usually find that the positive out-ways the negative. So now I check those first =D There’s a lot of “love” emoticon out there!
  3. I LOVE fan made YouTube videos, especially when they make videos of couples that I really like together, or had never thought about before!
  4. I really enjoy having Fridays off, it’s an odd thing. I can work on a Saturday or Sunday and not “enjoy it” per-say but I’d rather have the Friday off. I just seem to get so much done, Whereas on the weekend I tend to have a habit, if I don’t have anything to do, I sit all day pretty much.
  5. I don’t actually like Family Guy. Other than Brian and Stewie, I could watch a show with just them in it.
  6. When I was younger I had three pet rats, Grezelda, Annie and Lucy. Annie and Lucy were sisters and we originally only got Lucy, but then she “disappeared” after a week. After about another week we went back, got her sister Annie, and I kid you not only about an hour after we got home, we found Lucy -.- With her rat food all stored in a pile, she must have been going back and forth during the night and getting in and out of the cage.
  7. I am a procrastinator, but something that I am even worse at is this. If there’s something I actually want to do, but other people keep bugging me to do it, I instantly go off of it. By bugging I mean, just ALWAYS.

 

 

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Been thinking…

This is a very short post for this morning. I’ve been thinking about creating an Instagram that is just specifically for this Blog. I was thinking of sharing book updates of books I’ve been reading, with then doing the final review on my Blog. Sharing cute pictures that I’ve found, that sort of thing. Do I make it private or public?

Does anyone else do this? Any handy hints or is this all just a bad idea?

Also at the moment though as well, I can’t even seem to log into Instagram.

“Get Over It”

I don’t think I’ve heard that phrase more than ever since Trump took office. I now that I say that I will try and not talk politics on here, but it’s that phrase that just annoys me SO much. I think it’s mainly because of all the people that gave Obama a hard time and wouldn’t “get over it”…The front runner on that one…Was Trump himself…I don’t get how they don’t see the irony. Trumps victory wasn’t even an landslide.

Also though I don’t think people should just “get over it”. We should never get over whoever is in charge of our countries, of the nations money, of the armies that protect our countries. We should always be questioning. We shouldn’t become complacent. I think I may have even have mentioned this before as a random thought. I think that’s has lead to a lot of things happening right now, we just assuming that it’s all going to get better and we’ll get through it.

It didn’t take one march for the Civil Right Act, it didn’t take one movie or one show, or one march to get marriage equality…Keep Going!

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International National Day of Happiness

Nothing like a good day of International Happiness, so I am making a list of EVERYTHING that I can think of that makes me happy. I have actually been working on this particular post for a couple of weeks, so that I can cover as much happiness as I can. There is no rhyme or reason to this list, it just is. You might even find a couple that you agree with.

What about you? What are a couple of things that just instantly make you happy?

  • When either my puppy or my partners cat tongue gets stuck outside their mouth, it’s just so cute.
  • When I’m craving something and I don’t know what I’m craving and somehow, very randomly, I eat something and it’s that something that I was craving.
  • The smell of my black candles, I don’t know what it is, but there smell is intoxicating, so I use them very little, as the shops ran out of that particular candle.
  • Cuddling up with any of my plushies.
  • Choosing “random shuffle” on my ipod and getting all the songs in a row that match my mood.
  • The funny air hugs I have with a particular coworker, since she found out with some people I get funny with hugging them. It’s turned into our little joke, we air hug, air chest bump.
  • Those nights/days that you get to yourself, you have nothing to do but veg out.
  • When I make it through an entire drive without panicking too much.
  • I love it when I can watch Twitch, Safari Live and play games at the same time. Usually only happens on a Saturday.
  • Christmas Day spent with my Mums side of the family.
  • The Christmas Eve Barbecue we’ve started having with people we’re close to but don’t get to see on Christmas.
  • Real Husbands of Hollywood, Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and Homicide Hunter. I never ever watch these shows just in the background.
  • All my favourite musicals.
  • Just sitting and doing nothing and NOT feeling guilty about it.
  • Being in a car and just having a normal conversation without feeling any of my odd anxiety issues.
  • When you buy clothes online and it all fits perfectly…Especially pants and shoes!
  • When I have more money in my bank account than I had expected.

Share Your World…March Wk2

Share Your World

Share Your World…March 13, 2017

Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?

No, I never would. I get to…well…paranoid that if I do that the elevator/lift would get stuck and then I’d get trapped in there and I do not want that to happen. I guess then I don’t think it makes it go faster, I believe it goes slower.

Do you plan out things usually or do you do them more spontaneous (for example if you are visiting a big city you don’t know?)

At the moment I really do suffer at the spontaneous, I need to have things planned. However, when I feel strong and my anxiety issues aren’t affecting I love to go out and do something, so that’s kind of spontaneous I guess? Even so, I did like to plan things even before my issues happened, I was always a planner, with random moments of spontaneous….very rare moments though.

Describe yourself in at least four uplifting words.

  • Listener
  • Loving
  • Tries
  • Inner

If you had a choice which would be your preference salt water beaches, fresh water lakes, ocean cruise, hot tub, ski resort or desert? 

Oh my goodness, so many choices and they all have their own pro’s and con’s. I love looking out over an ocean and I do like hot tubs, but I can only stay in them for about 5 minutes before I start feeling sleepy. No desert though and only a ski resort if I don’t actually have to ski,lol. I cannot choose!

I thought…

I wake up again, the same life, everything the same.

I thought it was going to be different this time,

I thought that things were just about to change.

I thought that my life was about to begin,

I thought that this was it for me.

When is it all going to change?

I step into the warm night air, just to escape doing the same thing every night.

I thought that if I keep telling the world I’m alright, I would start to believe it myself,

I thought my heart would be full.

I thought life would be complete.

I thought something was about to change.

I thought that if I could just dream and truly believed, it would happen.

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