I hear you Taylor Swift

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Sometimes you do. I think that we all come to a point in our lives, where we realise we have to deconstruct an entire belief system…Of ourselves. Its been very interesting since Americana came out. My brother is more of a Kardashian fan…I have no idea why,lol…But he actually now has more respect for Tay Tay. My mum enjoys her songs, but she too, also has a new respect.

Please don’t…

This was something that I was thinking about in the shower. It still does make me angry that my ex best friends would come onto my profile whenever I’d talk about a song or an artist I’d relate too and they’d call it lame or stupid.

Don’t do that…Just don’t.

A lot of the reasons that someone likes an artist or likes a movie, or likes a style of art. Is because, to them, that represents who they are. It was always amazing too me how they’d get so upset when someone would put down something they like. Yet, they had no problems calling other people’s interests “lame”.

Understand that when you do this, you ARE putting down a part of that person. Especially if they are literally saying that they can relate. You are putting down a part of that person. If you don’t like it when others do it to you, I don’t know why someone would think it’d be alright to do it to others? We were told that we were not allowed to watch Mel Brooks films because he had made joke about Michael Jackson. Yet my “best friend” was allowed to come onto my profile and tell me what I like…was lame?

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I think that I may have mentioned this before. I just feel though I wanted to reiterate. I’ve been so lucky with my birthday recently. I really do feel like taking out toxic people made a very big difference for my birthday this year. Usually my closest ex-friends, let me down. Not only that though I wanted to catch up with people because I’m trying to get more social again. It’s working too =D

https://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/sociopath/beware-the-narcissistic-sociopath/

Sometimes we just see an article, a song, a quote and it “clicks” and it all makes total sense. Your behaviour, someone else’s.

Have you ever come across something, a quote, a song, article, etc? That just clicked with you? Care to share?

Self Love Questions…Part Two

So last month I made a post called Self Love Questions. When I went to look at the link again, I realised that there were 20 questions! I decided with that I was going to make a “Part 2”! Once again, please feel free to use these for yourself!

20 Journal Questions for Self-Love

11. Have you ever valued someone else’s opinion over your own? Why? What would that situation have looked like if you put yourself first?

Oh I always value my Mums and my Grandmothers opinions over my own…Doesn’t mean I always listen, or follow through with it…Even though sometimes I really should. I wouldn’t be who I am though without them! Sometimes when I feel like I don’t know what to do, they know me best and I can always talk to them about anything.

12. What type of person do you believe you are? What do you love about those characteristics?

Even though I’ve had some ex-friends recently go around saying I’m some horrible human being. I don’t think that I am that at all. I think I am kind person, I don’t go out of my way to hurt people. I’m pretty quiet, but stubborn when I believe it’s something important. No matter how many times and over the years I’ve believed I’ve changed. I still always get INFJ for the Myers Briggs Test.

I love being me, every day I am beginning to realise how truly lucky I am to be me and to have the people around me that I do. There are a lot of actual horrible people out there.

13. Alan Watts said, “The most dangerous risk of all is the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” What would you do in your life if you had the world at your fingertips?

I would probably be running my own side business to be perfectly honest. Even if I had won the lottery and/or didn’t need to work anymore for whatever reason. I enjoy doing crafts and making things. I would have to be able to do it at my own pace of course. It’s something I really want to do, but I am so frightened of doing it, and I don’t even know where to start!

It’s one of the things I want to look more into this year.

14. What does forgiveness mean? What do you need to forgive yourself for? How can you love yourself through the forgiveness process?

I believe that forgiving someone for yourself is loving yourself. I need to forgive myself though for being so hard on myself. Mentally I am going through a lot right now and it can get tiring one moment to the next. There’s nothing wrong with that, there’s nothing wrong with having a moment and then to get myself back together. As long as the moments become less, or I find some other way to cope with them. That is getting stronger.

15. Being mindful means paying attention to the present moment without judgment or analysis. How can you practice mindfulness in your life? How will mindfulness help you?

Oh this is something that I am always trying to do, to be more mindful of myself and others. I think it’s just more about be aware that it’s not always about you. Not everything affects people in the exact same way.

16. Where do you want to be in a year? Focus on feeling good while you write about your dreams. Focus on feeling happy and believing your dreams can become a reality.

I would love to have at least a permanent part-time job in another Library. Even though I was treated pretty shabbily by the one that cancelled my contract (while I was sick)…and no one told me. I still would love to work in a Library at least permanently part-time. Anxiety wise I want to be handle it better without taking any drugs, probably still using Vitamins though. I personally think they have been helping me a lot. I would love to be a little more social again as well. The last 6 months or so, I’ve been not feeling up to going out so much, especially crowded places. I guess mentally I want to be stronger again, and not so tired from these pills! … Hopefully engaged too!hehe =D

17. Schedule times throughout the day when you will give yourself a pat on the back. Tell yourself how good you’re doing. Tell yourself how much you appreciate your hard work. Set alarms on your phone to remind you. At the end of the day, write down how each affirmation made you feel. Write down how each affirmation changed your mood or actions.

I think that I am going to do this for the next month…Starting from today and write about how that had gone.

18. What do you love about your life right now? Why do you love it?

I love it right now because in pretty much every single aspect of my life. Every place and everyone that was not supportive of me last year when for really the first time in my life, I actually needed support from others. They’re gone. I’m just left with the people and places that were supporting me. How can you not love that?

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Can I get an AMEN!

19. What does imperfection mean to you? How can you learn to embrace imperfection in your life?

I am one of those “annoying” people. I honestly believe that everyone is perfect in their own way. We all make mistakes, we all do things we regret and I think all of us have at least one situation where we look back in hindsight. We are imperfectly perfect. The only time I think someone is imperfect is when they are cruel and horrible to other people, or if they torture animals. I just think something has to be “off” with people who do that. I can’t honestly say that I could ever embrace those sort of people.

20. Is being selfish a negative thing or a positive thing? What if you believed that being focused on your feelings could be beneficial to your wellbeing? How would your life change?

Sometimes it can be a completely necessary thing! Sometimes you absolutely have to be selfish and take care of yourself first. It’s also important to remember it’s not always about you though. It’s okay to have a “day off” from the world, we all need it to recharge so we can better help people. Just make sure you don’t always have a “day off”, if you know what I mean.

I want to say that I’m shocked, but I’m not

You’ve probably seen the “metoo” hashtags all over the social media and although it’s heartbreaking to see just SO many. I am glad that we are now seriously talking about it…FINALLY!

However with the Hashtag it has also meant that other people are talking about their own situations, even if they are years and years old. Which has lead a lot too “I don’t believe you” and “why didn’t they said something before”…You know attacking these women, they attack first and then they say “Why didn’t you say something earlier” -.-

What has angered me the most is that women are attacking other women. You take a look at Michele Mahone…Years ago she felt harassed by Patrick Swayze and when she went to her bosses to talk them about it…She was sacked…Now she’s reliving it because of everything that’s coming out. Now the main people who are attacking her are women…again…Then Jacinda Adern became Prime Minister of New Zealand and most of the women who were attacking her, were attacking her looks, not her policies. I wonder if they even know what her policies are? Then there’s the whole Melania Trump and Michelle Obama thing.

What are these women’s mental malfunction? When you point it out too them, that one of the first things our parents teach us is about not to judge someone by their looks.

I can’t believe I have to use this:

Beauty Fades

 

Which one are you?

Just watching “My Little Pony” as one grown adult does.

It occurred to me that when you don’t know me very well I am very much Flutter-shy…Those who know me well though say I’m more like Pinkie Pie.

My question today is if you could take two completely different characters from a book or a tv show, to represent your “me vs me” traits…Which two would they be and why?

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“me vs me”

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Share Your World … June Week 1 2017

Share Your World

Share Your World – June 6, 2017

What’s your strongest sense?

As long as I haven’t burnt my tongue, I think that my taste is probably my strongest sense (I’m assuming we’re talking about the 5 senses here) As soon as I start eating I usually can taste a lot in it, including that special taste of “I really need to stop eating this”lol

Which of Snow White’s 7 dwarfs describes you best? (Doc, Happy, Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Grumpy, Dopey)

It’s probably somewhere between Happy and Bashful. It honestly depends on how well you know me, if I don’t know you very well, I would probably be more bashful. I’m still happy, but I am definitely a lot more shy. If you know me well I would probably be a lot more happier.

If you could be one age for the rest of your life, what age would that be?

I probably would have stayed 30, but as long as I get to keep the people that I have in my life right now, and the people who are not apart of it now, still aren’t apart of it. That year that I turned 30 was probably my best year ever and I constantly wish that I could relive it. It seemed like once I turned 31 everything started to feel more frustrating, my body just started breaking up/down and I was getting nowhere with getting a library job. If I could just be 30 now with everything that I have in my life now, I’d be so happy.

List of Jobs You Think You Might Enjoy: Even if you aren’t thinking about a career change, it can be fun to think of other jobs you might enjoy.  [Remember:  This is SYW where even your dreams can become reality.]

  • Writer
  • Acting
  • A successful craft type business
  • I would actually love to be a photographer, but I am so self conscious of people going that I’m being anti-social or something >.<

Multi talented…

14, A talent you have

I have honestly been struggling with this one this week, I just cannot think of anything. I’m not sure whether I even have a talent! I kept thinking in terms of “Can I juggle” “Does my tongue make patterns”.  Then I started to think of terms of what can I do, that not every many other people do.

Then I took a Myers Brigg Personality test and I got the same result that I always get, no matter who much older I get INFJ. Now the interesting thing is no matter how much I think I’ve changed, I always get the same result. I’m not sure how much of you now about Myers Brigg personality, but having (according to them) an INFJ personality is only present in about 1% of the population. So when I joke and say “I’m special” sometimes seeing that personality type pop again and again and again. I really do feel it.

What comes with having this personality trait:

No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small.

I think it’s one of the talents that I have, a more personality type one. Just trying to help whoever I can whenever I can, even if I don’t have the money to do. I will try something else to have. I guess my talent is having compassion and empathy that seems to be missing in the world. Even if it isn’t always the most popular opinion. I don’t always tell people what they want to hear, but rather what they need to hear and if I’m wrong, I will instantly back up and apologise. Which I am very stubborn about really.

You’ve got a great personality, kiddo

12. A personality trait you really like

*I’m just going to let you all know that this post is going to make me sound incredibly “up myself”

I guess in myself I have, which surprises me a lot, is “common sense” and I didn’t know what a great personality treat this is, until nearly everybody I know signed onto Facebook. One of the great things about having common sense is great at being able to lie back and have others make themselves look like a fool. They just don’t “get it”. A good example of this is when people say “Ban Sharia Law”…Because it’s already banned, you can’t ban what’s already banned…Unless you can double banned something?

It can be frustrating to get this and to watch others who clearly don’t have it. However, having this trait makes me feel incredibly lucky for what I do have. A lot of people who don’t seem to have it, just seem angry. They waste a lot of time fighting things that are just not important and aren’t even happening, rather than things that are happening. I honestly believe it is because they just don’t have common sense, so everything little thing is just “wrong” too them. Take the “banning sharia law” Why are you wasting so much time fighting somethings that’s just banned already? Why aren’t you fighting for things that are banned as well but shouldn’t be, like equality for gay marriage in Australia.

So, I guess it’s a personality trait that I like in myself and like in others well.

Share Your World…March Wk 3 2017

Share Your World

Share Your World …. March 20, 2017

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? 

This such an interesting question. Mainly because how often do we all feel like we are not who we are? Sometimes and in some situations, I feel older than my age. Then other situations I feel about 5 (Beauty and the Beast coming out, being one of those moments). A lot of people think that I’m about in my early 20’s. I think this is too do with just my laidback type nature. Being happy makes me seem younger I suppose. So I would have to say if I didn’t know me, I’d probably think I was in my early 20s as well.

So, you’re on your way out and it’s raining. Do you know where your umbrella is or do you frantically search for it all over your apartment/house?

I know where one of my umbrellas is and it’s kind of cool. My mum gave my brother and I each for Christmas. That might sound like a weird gift, but the umbrellas are a bit different. There not as easily ripped, it’s hard to describe them without seeing them, but they are good quality umbrellas.

Do you recharge your energy by going out with friends for a good time or by spending with quiet time alone?

Time alone…Time alone always…I have been waiting for nearly months now to have an entire night to myself. It’s interesting, I don’t work full time, but I go to work all the time and haven’t had just a week off…From everything. I feel like I need that.

Name three things you and your spouse, partner or best friend  to have in common.

  • We can be together in silence, but still together.
  • We have a similar sense of humour, we know when to not take to each other too seriously.
  • We are both terrible procrastinators.