Reading a Book a Day, keeps the Doctor away?

Well it kind of Rhymes?

As you can see by the title today is National…and I think International Read a Book day! As someone whose Bloggers name has “Library” in it. It feels somewhat wrong for me to not write something on this day.

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Let’s share a little on this glorious of days! Either copy and paste these questions or write in the comments below!

  1. What is your favourite book? (Take a picture with it if you like!)
  2. Which is your least favourite and why, or least favourite series?
  3. What are some good Book/Reading type Blogs you would recommend?
  4. If you could be a character, any character, from any book…Who would it be?
  5. What is your favourite book to movie…movie?
  6. What is your least favourite book to movie…movie?
  7. If you could write your own book, what would it be about?

 

All the Yes’s!

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Now we all know the book is pretty much all the time better than the movie. Which is why sometimes I wont read the book until I’ve seen the movie. However, I don’t always believe this is true. What I try to do, is separate the two. I tell myself before I see the movie that this is not the book, it’s a completely separate thing. Sometimes when I look at the new covers, I feel it doesn’t really let you use your imagination. It almost feels like when you see the movie character on the cover, that’s it…That’s the character. That’s it.

I do dislike it though when they decide to “update” anything really. Take Star Wars for a good example, when they decided to make 1,2 & 3 and they changed the original ending of number 6 and put Hayden Christensen at the end instead of the “original” Darth Vader, Sebastian Shaw (I say “original” because there were about 3 people who played the original Darth Vader). Now ALL the new dvds and blurays have Hayden Christensen at the end…Even though he didn’t “die” young…It’s just a silly concept, which makes no sense. Darth Vader died an older man, not a young one. They didn’t change Obi-Wan, did they?

I think I can, I think I can, I know I can

13. A Challenge you’ve overcome

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Well I haven’t overcome my anxiety…yet…but I will!

*Long Post Incoming!*

Let me explain…

So I will reflect on a time when I felt like “Why does everybody hate me” I was getting cyber-bullied, when cyber-bullying wasn’t even a really a “thing” yet. I felt like it was never going to end and it made go so inside myself…metaphorically…I never felt like I was going to recover…Mainly because the bullying just didn’t seem to be ceasing.

The odd thing about the situation was I had never met the “ring leader” she had just decided that she didn’t like me. She didn’t want to be with my boyfriend, but constantly would use him. Even within 24 hours after we broke up she just HAD to tell me how he had tried to kiss her, she felt it was only right to be honest with me…I managed to keep my cool…And then found out a couple of days later he had actually tried to kiss everybody…and I do mean everybody…Guys included…It just got even worse after we broke up, with her. My ex and I are now fine, we’re actually really good friends.

It went on for about 6 months roughly. 6 months of stressing, every second day throwing up, every day getting some sort of message about how horrible of a human being I was, losing friends because I unfriended her (those are not real friends by the way). This was going on every day, or at least every other day for 6 months…It felt so much longer at the time.

After that 6 months I started to realise something, which then changed my life and the way I deal with girls and situations like this. How unhappy must she be? For all the talk about how much she loves the guys and by love I mean she constantly talked about how much she wanted to sleep with all of them, while they were dating her best friends. They literally stopped being friends with me because she wanted them too…

How unhappy must you be to attack someone else? No one who is happy, attacks others. You just don’t.

When you are truly happy you do go out of way to attack someone, especially someone you don’t even know…You just can’t be bothered…Why wreck a good life?  When I started to realise the power that I had, how sad her life must be…I started to come out of my shell again…What could she honestly do? The people who are always there for me, stayed with me. I was safe. When I started to realise these things, I could even start making jokes at her expense. Which sounds mean, but it was more I was having a conversation with someone on a forum and she just had to tell me how “immature” I was being. So I called her “MissButtSexputdrugsinouralcoholwantstohaveorgiesandhavesexwithmybestfriendsboyfriends…is calling moi immature?”. Pretty much every topic on that forum was her talking about one of those topic. She did not like that. Her response was toxic and she got banned from the forum. The irony being she has not only ended up with the guy that banned her, but they are still together and have a kid!

The result of this was giving me a life back. My Life.

I was able to laugh at her, I was able to laugh at the situation. It was ludicrous. I was finally able to stop it from affecting my life and I was actually able too start moving on from my ex as well. That was part of the problem, she kept bringing it up. I must have taken that selfie of myself to make jealous, except for the whole he couldn’t see it unless they were showing him, thanks to my privacy settings. Constantly being told how happy he is with his new girlfriend etc.

This is what it has helped me overcome in my future life…

It also taught me the biggest lessons in my life. About relationships in any form, family, romantic, friendships. What is appropriate, what isn’t, what I should and shouldn’t apologise for, about who is really there for you. How I don’t want any fake relationships of any kinds in my life. I have also been in a similar situation since and I learnt SO much and how to handle it, with pretty much no drama. That has my life has been pretty much drama free since then.

Share Your World…March Wk 3 2017

Share Your World

Share Your World …. March 20, 2017

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? 

This such an interesting question. Mainly because how often do we all feel like we are not who we are? Sometimes and in some situations, I feel older than my age. Then other situations I feel about 5 (Beauty and the Beast coming out, being one of those moments). A lot of people think that I’m about in my early 20’s. I think this is too do with just my laidback type nature. Being happy makes me seem younger I suppose. So I would have to say if I didn’t know me, I’d probably think I was in my early 20s as well.

So, you’re on your way out and it’s raining. Do you know where your umbrella is or do you frantically search for it all over your apartment/house?

I know where one of my umbrellas is and it’s kind of cool. My mum gave my brother and I each for Christmas. That might sound like a weird gift, but the umbrellas are a bit different. There not as easily ripped, it’s hard to describe them without seeing them, but they are good quality umbrellas.

Do you recharge your energy by going out with friends for a good time or by spending with quiet time alone?

Time alone…Time alone always…I have been waiting for nearly months now to have an entire night to myself. It’s interesting, I don’t work full time, but I go to work all the time and haven’t had just a week off…From everything. I feel like I need that.

Name three things you and your spouse, partner or best friend  to have in common.

  • We can be together in silence, but still together.
  • We have a similar sense of humour, we know when to not take to each other too seriously.
  • We are both terrible procrastinators.

Getting to know the Blogger…Part 4

I just wanted to say that I hope you’ve been enjoying these “Getting to know me Blogs” as much as I’ve been enjoying writing them! Here we go with the last week…

  1. Regularly burn incense?
    I have actually been getting more into burning incense and the like. Since I developed an anxiety condition last year, just meditation and calming my mind has been helping and I’ve been really improving. Maybe “getting more into burning…” Isn’t the greatest description in the world.
  2. Who would you like to see in concert?
    I would love to see Bruno Mars, but he’s very unlikely to come to my little town.
  3. Hot tea or cold tea? 
    Hot tea, I’m not even honestly sure that I’ve had even had cold tea. Apart from iced tea…with whip cream!
  4. Tea or coffee? 
    Oh lordy…How can one choose?! I drink both, however, in some situations I will only drink one during certain times. For example, when I’m sick or have the flu, I will only drink tea as when I’m sick, I can’t stand coffee. I don’t even drink coffee to try and stay awake, I drink coffee as treat almost.
  5. Sugar cookies or snickerdoodles?
    I have no idea what a snickerdoodle is, so I’d have to go with sugar cookies.
  6. Can you swim well? 
    I can alright, but I’m not ready for the English channel or anything like that.
  7. Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? 
    *tries* Yes, I can! It looks less stupid than when holding it. (Ditto,lol)
  8. Are you patient? 
    It’s actually one of the things people know the most about me, how patient I can be, when most others would lose it. It’s a trick between not taking things personally and not actually caring. Especially when it comes to work and I know it’s nothing that I’ve stuffed up.
  9. DJ or band at a wedding?
    I’d prefer a DJ just because then you can make requests for the original song, rather than someone trying to cover a song. However, I think having a band would look really classy. I’ve been to a funeral where a duo decided to dedicate a song that the deceased really like, and they sounded terrible. I felt it was so disrespectful, the person didn’t like the song because YOU sung it, they liked because the person they liked, sang it. I don’t know, it’s always felt really wrong to me.
  10. Ever won a contest?
    No, I’ve had some luck though with my works lottery group. We sometimes win 30-40 bucks here and there…Enough for another ticket.
  11. Ever had plastic surgery?
    No, I’m pretty okay with my body. The only thing I wish I could change is that my teeth would be a little whiter. Not stupidly blinding white, but just a little whiter. It’d also look really cool because the two herbivore teeth that are usually next to the two big ones, mine are missing, they just never grew threw. So my teeth look like vampire teeth, and I love it.
  12. Which are better, black or green olives?
    I don’t really love Olives, I’d rather not have them…If I had to choose I’d go with the green ones.
  13. Can you knit or crochet?
    I can’t really do either, I haven’t crochet in a while, so I’d probably have to restart and relearn.
  14. Best place for a fireplace?
    If I could have a dream place for a fireplace, I would have it in a library type room, probably off from the main living area. In a medium sized room, so the air doesn’t get all smokey.
  15. Do you want to get married?
    Only to the right person.
  16. If married, how long have you been married?
    N/A
  17. Who was your HS crush?
    Oh I had a lot…I didn’t date any of them, I was way to shy to actually ask. I had a lot though.
  18. Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? 
    Umm…No, I’m not even sure I did that as a kid. Apparently I used to only throw fits when I was constrained, like when I was put into a seat belt. I hated to be constrained, still do.
  19. Do you have kids?
    I am furbaby Aunty and step mama. My brothers dog is technically his, since he’s the whole reason he got her. Only a couple of months after we got her though, he moved to Melbourne and left her with us. My partners cat is actually his ex’s cat, but when they split up, she said to hold onto him for a year and if she didn’t come back, my partner could keep him. She wanted to travel, and his had the cat for about 3 or 4 years now.
  20. Do you want kids?
    No right now, there’s still a lot to get settled first. I would prefer to be married first as well.
  21. What’s your favorite color?
    The toughest question. I love Yves Saint Laurent’s Babouche yellow. Yes, I chose a nail polish color, they are ever so precise.
  22. Do you miss anyone right now?
    Wherever I am, I always miss my mum and my dog, or if I’m with them, I miss my partner and his cat. Don’t tell anyone I said this, but if I could, I would actually live with all of them, my mum, my partner and the cat and the dog. I’d be very happy.Even though Pippy and Travie would probably kill each other. As long as it was a big enough house to give us all enough space.
  23. Who is your favorite author?
    At the moment my favourite author is Jodi Picoult. I think I have literally every single one of her books and I would highly recommend them. Especially if you are a person that likes to look at how other people think.
  24. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
    I actually really like the city where I live, home is where the heart is. As mentioned above though, I would just love a really huge house. Where I could live with whoever, but also enough room for visitors. Maybe somewhere near a beach. Should be easy…right?

 

What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man

LONG POST INCOMING! Once I started I couldn’t stop!lol

I also feel like I need a disclaimer here: *I like guys, I really do, some of my favourite people in the whole wide world are guys. Sometimes I prefer them over other girls. They can be just so much more fun than women. With both genders though, there are people within BOTH genders who make it very difficult for the rest of us. This post is NOT a “guys are jerks” post. As a straight girl though, this is what I have come up against…a lot. This is from my perspective.

I had an incident a few years ago that every now and then comes up for me and it still irritates me SO much. For two main reasons:

  1. I was tagged in a quote I have never actually even said. I own who I date and I don’t think all guys are jerks because I’ve dated a couple of jerks. Some of ex’s are even nice people as well, and they are good people. We broke up because they love wasn’t there anymore, or it was just never there. A lot of my ex’s are very charismatic and since I’m a shy person, I found them hypnotic almost. You know that saying about opposites attract? Either way I have never said it.
  2. If you’re going to tag me in something publicly on Facebook, you could at least have the courtesy to have…I don’t know…An adult conversation with me about why I had a one night stand, not that it’s even actually your business. Especially after I’ve turned you down 3 times. I really don’t appreciate having strange guys attacking me. While, ironically, in the quote, you call yourself a “Good Guy”. For future reference a good guy would NEVER get his friends to bully you into dating him.

Also though, to tag me in a post saying that calls all the other guys I have dated are jerks, is not just an insult for me, but some of my ex’s as well. I am actually good friends with a couple of my ex’s. You are attacking good people, who are good friends of mine. So be careful.

Personally, I don’t know what exactly they were trying to achieve and I clearly made the RIGHT decision, by making a personal vow to myself to never date anyone from this group, even before this happened …

Clearly the best decision I have ever made for myself!

Every time this situation comes up for me though, or when I think about it. I get so annoyed about it because I’ve had, one too many times, been attacked by a “good guy” when they’ve actually been complete douchebags. It’s something I want to know, what makes these guys think they’re goods guys WHILE attacking girls/women, sometimes they don’t even know? If girls are not dating you for the “jocks” ever thought, it might just actually be you? Just like the girls who go after the “bad ones” … Especially when I see SO many guys fawning over “mean girls” and girls that are constantly cheating on them, or using them. I have lost guys as friends AFTER they have broken up with their ex’s, who constantly cheated on them, because they are allowing the girl to still use them…I didn’t want to see them get used anymore, and not find a good partner, and I lost them as friend…They always come back though,lol

It goes both ways…It always has…I don’t know if you’ve noticed…

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BUT

You are NOT going to get the person you want, by attacking them and getting your “friends” to gang up on them either. (That’s just a general world lesson too).

Now I am actually going to get to the topic…A long way to come!

What makes a good guy a good guy, or what makes a man to you?

Too some of my “good guy” friends they all have the same characteristics. Beard, play the same guys, same music, do the same activities, give themselves all Superhero nicknames…Pretty much all the same. They think along the lines more of “Well there are 20 other guys who are doing the same thing, so it must be alright” -.- In a small town that can be toxic!

Too me a “real man” has values, has a backbone that he sticks too. They don’t change their values according to which girl (or guy) they want to have sex with more. They will actually grab themselves by their family jewels and have a conversation with me. Rather than just attack me on Facebook in a quote I have never said.

Some of the BEST  and good men I know wear dresses

 They’ve had to fight and have had to be brave to come out, so they just “get it”. They get to be real, they get to just be themselves and never to lower themselves.

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This or That? #78

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This or That? #78

I nearly didn’t end up doing this at all this week, we’re going through our first busy period of the year this whole month and I am exhausted. I don’t like writing a post if I don’t think it will be of any substantial wording. I like to try and give my readers something interesting to read, instead of me writing googly gook.

SO…Saying all of that Bookmark Chronicles would like to know this week:

Have you ever given a book a one star (out of 5) rating?

If so, give the title and why didn’t you like it (or them if it’s happened more than once).

I haven’t physically given a book on Goodreads or anything like that a one star rating, however, there have been books from my past and Genre’s in particular where I just can’t read them anymore. I have read a few of the Mills and Boons and I just do not get the appeal, to be far too them though, they are definitely written better than 50 Shades. For this reason I tend to stay away from that “Romance” type genre. I wont read a book where the main plot line is romance. Most books will have some kind of romance in it, but usually there is some kind of other story line going on.

I think the thing I have with reading, is that I tend to read books that I want to read or am interested in reading. I very rarely read something I know that I am not going to enjoy, but I would hate to read things “just because”. These days I very rarely give books a 1 star rating because I just try and stay away from books that I know I am not going to enjoy. If you’re not interested, you’re not going to going keep reading.

I can’t even honestly remember the names of the Mills and Boons books that I’ve read because they just all had the same theme, so they kind of melted into one, for me anyways.

Share Your World … Week 49

Share Your World

Share Your World … Week 49

What do you value most in a friendship?

Oh wow! This is an interesting one for me because I really don’t trust a lot of my friends at the moment. It’s gotten to the point with me it’s becoming more of a regular thing to be let down and realise how little some of my closest friends even know me. How disappointing it is that they can just leave me behind. It’s become such a “norm” for me that it doesn’t even bother me anymore.

So I guess what I value is just someone who wants to even get to know me. You don’t have to agree on everything, but just someone who actually wants to even know me? Does that make any sense at all?

Do you prefer eating the frosting of the cake or the cupcake first?  Do you prefer a specific flavor?

My mum is well known for her cups and cupcakes and I love to try and eat both at the same time, but if it’s not possible, I tend to eat the icing first. You have to try Bubblegum flavour, it is amazing!

Have you ever been in a submarine?  If you haven’t, would you want to?

No and No…I tend to get claustrophobic and even the thought of being on one freaks me a lot. One of the scariest episodes for me on Doctor Who are all the episodes that are underwater. There was one were they were stuck in a submarine and I can’t watch it.

If 100 people your age were chosen at random, how many do you think you’d find leading a more satisfying life than yours?

I think maybe about 25%. People my age have a tendency to want everything now and yet a lot tend to not want to really work for it. I mean this in different aspects of life, not just employment. The problem with them wanting it all, but not really willingly to look at what may be causing the problems tends to cause a lot of unsatisfied people.  Take one of my best friends for example, she is pretty much, well, desperate to get married (not have kids) but just get married. She is so smart and successful in every other part of her life, but it’s not enough for her. She has dated some seriously terrible people. The last guy she date was an abusive ego-centric ass and the ONLY reason she left him for good, was he didn’t want to get married. He wanted to live with her, he was making plans for them to move in together for the rest of their lives, but didn’t want the piece of paper.

Why the hate with safe spaces?

This is something that might be just me, but has anyone else noticed the hate towards safe spaces recently? Or is it just me?

I mean generally the people making fun or hating on it are white, middle “mentally healthy” class people. This is not meant to be a white people are horrible post, but does seem to be the general norm.

It mainly genuinely confuses me because why do they even care if someone has one? It’s not hurting them or anyone they care about. My bedroom has always been my safe space and let’s be honest who wouldn’t consider their house to be a “safe space”…Unless of course you are actually getting abused in some way of form or other. I think even while you’re attacking someone from behind your computer, do you not do it with more vile, because you feel “safe”? Doesn’t it then make it a “safe space”. How many of these people would actually attack others, face-to-face?

*This was a scheduled post after a random thought I had beginning of last week. I have updated it though to reflect my personal feelings as well about the whole “safe space” and Hamilton/Pence issue* 

Too me, I find it an interesting concept to attack and say a “ban” on the play Hamilton for example, because Pence/Trump felt their “safe space” was being attacked EVEN though part of their campaign was attacking safe space. What I find interesting about people saying to “Ban it” What side were these same people on when they wanted to have stricter gun control after people, their own fellow Americans, were being gunned down outside theatres, by Americans. It’s not like a President has ever been gunned down at a theatre…Oh wait…And yet, they think a well worded speech is an attack on safe spaces? Clearly what I think is an attack and what they think is an attack are two completely different things. Just seems a shame that these people don’t think people actually dying in a “safe space” is still enough to do anything about it…But a well worded, and totally within their rights, speech, is enough? Even though America is all about “Freedom of Speech”.

Shame.

Is someone able to expand my mind on this? Is it just fear mongering?

#Iamandalwayshavebeenaproudownerofasafespace

This or that? #65

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This or That? #65

This week Bookmark Chronicles would like to know:

This week I want to know….

Are you on Goodreads? How do you like it?

If so, add me! – Rae Coleman (Bookmark Chronicles)

I do have a Goodreads account and it’s kind of a weird relationship I have with it. I do like it but sometimes I also feel like it has so many options and so many ideas of what you can read, that I get kind of overwhelmed. I have a lot fo books on my “want to read” list. I also feel sometimes once I’ve selected and let people know what I’m currently reading, I HAVE to read that book. Even though absolutely no one is pressuring me too.

At the moment I’ve had the same books up that I’m “currently reading” for about two months or so, and I still haven’t finished reading them. I’m not even honestly sure when I will finish them. I’ve taken up other crafts recently.

It is a great resource though for your favourite authors. A lot of authors are on there and they do share a lot on Goodreads.

Goodreads Profile – Lolsy’s Library