Online dating tips

It amazes and saddens me to constantly read in the news and on the television another life wasted after meeting up with someone through a “dating” site. It’s a serious issue as more and more people take the the web to find their future “somebodies”.

Unfortunately not everyone is on these dating sites to find a future somebody. Speaking from some  of the experiences I’ve been told a lot of stories of people who use genuine dating site as a hook up, instead of the sites created to be a hook up site.

So a couple of tips from someone who has actually found her possible future someone online and has also had some interesting stories that she could share with you!

  1. Do not go to anybodies house, meet out in a public place and in mutual territory…Especially on the first date!
  2. Meet up somewhere where you can get out of a uncomfortable situation, quickly.
  3. On the first few dates let someone you know well and trust, where and when you are going on this date.
  4. Make sure you have a way to get home. Do not let them take you home, no matter how earnestly they offer.
  5. If someone automatically wants to meet up at their house on the second date, chances are they are only in it for one reason. Be honest, let them know it makes you feel uncomfortable and if they don’t offer another public place, or just quit speaking with you. They were clearly in it for one reason.
  6. If you feel uncomfortable in any situation, whether you are on a date or just chatting online with them, listen to your gut and stop the situation.
  7. As I mentioned before don’t be surprised if someone is using a genuine dating site, rather than a hookup site, to, infact, hook up.

Can you think of any other tips you would give to someone using an online dating site for the first time? Especially advice and hints to keep themselves safe?

99 Problems…but you wont be one of them…

Sitting here with a great cup of coffee, getting ready for what should I post about next? Then realising I have not written about being single, I figure that I should =P For me any-ways, at the moment everything has been drama free and I have been loving the quiet and peace that comes along with not really having to answer to someone.

One interesting thing that I have found when you are single is how people will react to you about relationship matters. A lot of my friends wont even tell me that they’ve met someone else for fear or “upsetting” me. Some of my friends constantly complain about their relationships, making me feel really grateful that I don’t have to worry about any of that. Especially when most of them people complaining, don’t actually want to talk about their problems with their actual partner.

I never judge a relationship either by Facebook, its amazing what people will tell you when they’re drunk. So one of the best pieces of advice I can give about being single (or if you are having trouble watching an ex move on, on Facebook) … Chill … No one EVER posts about what a miserable time that they are having when it comes to their relationship on Facebook. Also staying away from Facebook all together and NOT stalking your ex’s Facebook is a good piece of advice, block them…Block them right now!

Even with the beginning of a new relationship, that can be full of such doubt for my friends. One of my girlfriends, the guy is clearly a player. Kissed her and then let her know he was seeing someone, so she thinks it can’t be that serious…but still I told her to stay away.

Nope…I am really enjoying being single, no problems and all drama free.

 

Published on 1 May 2014

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Fantasy Men…mmm…~.^

One of the best things about being single again is being able to divulge in our little fantasies without feeling to bad or feeling like one is being disrespectful to their partner. If you press this link you can see the picture that is on my PC desktop as a wallpaper background, it makes me grin before bedtime. Thorin “Will You Join Me” Deviantart Artist:MoonFangs I would put the picture up, but there are VERY strict rules when it comes to this particular picture.

When ever I am going through a particularly rough break up or had a huge crush on someone and they choose someone else, I tend to focus on my fantasy men. Anything that I may have imagined with that particular boyfriend/ex/crush, there image is taken over by one of my “fantasy men”. I find it extremely helpful and I find it helps me move on. I don’t know why, I can’t explain of why thinking of someone I don’t know or some make believe character helps me to move on from a “real” person, but it does. Maybe it’s because I’m not thinking about them 24/7 instead… Or you know…I’m just crazy =P

 

 

Date Yourself!

It’s amazing when we are in a  relationship how much of an effort we are willingly to “date” someone, the getting ready, the saving money, making sure that we are going somewhere they like. One of the things that used to frustrate me about my past partners was they’d always want to play games with their friends and I’d get ditched all the time, when I wanted to go out and have fun. If we ever went to the movies, it was always with their friends and it would never be a movie that I wanted to see.

At a very rough time in my life, I had gone to visit a boyfriend at work, and it was at a shopping mall that I had not been too for a very long time. I had planned to have a little look around and then come back to have lunch with my partner. I ended up spending all day by myself, shopping, eating, drinking coffee and seeing a movie that I had wanted to see. It was the most fun day I had had for so many months. It was then that I made a resolution to myself which I have applied too, even more so, being single.

Once a month I take myself out on a “date”. I go to the movies, I go too exhibitions I want and I treat myself to a lunch or a special treat at a nice cafe/restaurant. It is something that I HIGHLY recommend all single people and people in relationships do too. It has also made me more brave to go to more places by myself rather than relying on someone to end up taking me.

So take a spa day by yourself and for yourself. Buy the bad food and watch that movie that makes you cry. Dress up in your favourite clothes and dance to your favourite music.

Take the time to make an effort to date yourself!

Dating Day!