FOWC with Fandango — Mindful

FOWC – Mindful

Welcome to December 26, 2021 and to Fandango’s One-Word Challenge (aka, FOWC).

Today’s word is “mindful.”

Write a post using that word. It can be prose, poetry, fiction, non-fiction. It can be any length. It can be just a picture or a drawing if you want. No holds barred, so to speak.

Well, last week I lost the kitty. During that 5 days without him, the world kept spinning, the world didn’t stop, Christmas didn’t stop and I didn’t stop getting older because Travie was gone. There were a few people who kept apoligising too me because they thought their pain was less than mine. It kept me mindful, that everyone’s pain is valid, even when you are going through pain yourself. Christmas is a hard time of year, for a lot of people. It was a good lesson, that reMINDed me, that I am not the only here, living. It doesn’t mean don’t care of yourself and your pain, just a reMINDer, that other people have pain too.

What can you do?

Last week, was International Peace Day, and I had nothing, haha. I am just so out of peace for people. But, over the weekend we had such a lovely weather. It was cold, but the Spring sun was out and not only did I get some vitamin D, but I actually had some ideas about how you can spread some peace about.

Now this is all going to be some ideas about what you can do for yourself. I find that when you are at peace, you can spread the peace to others. You can’t spread peace, if you are not at peace.

  • I find that even spending a day or two off of platforms like Twitter, Facebook, even Instagram, can clear out my head, a lot. Those platforms are such a mental health mess.
  • Do something outside, once a day. Do anything outside, for at least 10 minutes or more. Even during horrible weather. You can even just sit outside, watch the world go by.
  • Listen to your body.
  • Ask yourself questions. Would you really be okay if you left that task until tomorrow? Even if you can, would you be alright with that? If not, do it today, no matter how tedious.

When you’ve figured out how you’re doing, when you are at peace with yourself and your life. It becomes MUCH easier to help bring peace to others. Nothing bothers you as much, it’s all fine and dandy.

Peace starts with you.

Those are my wise words for the day, lol

International Day of Peace (United Nations)

Well where I do begin? Haha.

The world does not feel very peaceful at the moment, does it?

While we cannot control others, we can help others still and we can help give ourselves the power to give ourselves peace.

Be at peace, knowing though, that YOU do have the power to change your attitude and how you treat others.

Be Kind…

Let’s share how we can be kind to others, and I find a lot of times that when you are kind to others, you feel good within yourself. Especially during these times of such uncertainty, just being kind is so simple. The KPI’s of Kindness.

K – Kindness

P – Proactive

I – Intelligence

When I say ‘Intelligence’, I don’t mean Einstein necessarily, I mean more common sense type of intelligence. I do believe that there are different kinds of intelligence.

I got my flu vaccination today, so I am actually a little bit tired. So hopefully I’ll be able to write something actually useful, haha

Being kind is really very simple.

Apologise when you get something wrong, don’t be ashamed of it. It happens, it really does show was kind of person you are when you can admit you got something wrong…Like I did, last night, haha. I thought a TERF was comparing themselves to Rosa Parks, and they said Rosa Freedman (who is definitely NOT like Rosa Parks). I apologised. It felt right and I didn’t feel any better or worse, cause it was just he RIGHT thing to do. I was wrong and I owned it.

ENJOY the people you care about and their successes! Embrace it. If you don’t care, or your not able to that day…FOR THE LOVE OF GOD…Do not fake it! Wait, until you can be real with them. Trust me, the big thing that pisses me off about one of my now ex-friends. Is realising that the only times she was happy for me, was when I was miserable. I spent over half my life being friends with someone who called me “sister”, only happy when I was sad.

If you can’t think of something kind or nothing, reply to a person with something educational instead and “drop one of these”. You don’t have to say anything some times to be kind.

Then the others, lol:

  • Make some food for your neighbors.
  • If you grow flowers and you feel willing, bunch some flowers together.
  • Send someone random a “Hope you’re well” BEFORE they write that annoying post “I bet you don’t care enough to retweet this”…I seriously hate it, lol
  • Believe in what your saying, before you say it. The amount of people who “blame” others for having to use and hide behind a anon account because of the “threats” Annoys the poop out of me. I believe in what I’m saying and the most extreme I’ve had is another cis women wish rape on myself and the women in my family. I still don’t hide.
  • Get to know yourself, when you TRULY know yourself. Then you find it very hard to ignore things that bother you.
  • Being kind is sometimes telling someone something they don’t want to hear.

Help!

I am sure that I have written about something like this several times before, but more ideas are always coming! More actual pro-active than prayers and thoughts -.- lol

There are ways to help others without you having to spend a dime, or a a really little dime.

  • If you want to know more about a subject or learn something, libraries and librarians are great resources to get you started.
  • Libraries are full of books and technologies to learn even more about a subject.
  • Reading a book can give you a incredible amount of knowledge, about a subject or knowledge!
  • Every summer and every Winter I have a clean out of my cupboards and if I don’t fit into something, or haven’t worn it for a long time and it’s still fairly decent. I give it away.
  • Many organisations can help set up, so you can volunteer (or get paid) to simply sit with elderly people. Have a conversation and maybe a cup of tea with them. In Western society, we don’t tend to revere our elderly. I am annoyed by the current systems in place to “help” the elderly.
  • Give Blood and get a cookie or something other delicious treat after.
  • Baking for others. While this one may cost money to buy food to be able to make food, you don’t really need to spend a lot of money, to make a delicious meal for someone who may not be able to cook, for whatever reasons. Sometimes you can create a meal that can last for a few days as well. I’m thinking Soup is always a welcomed meal.
  • Even if you don’t have a large social media platform. You can still retweet things. My new Twitter account (a few months old). It STILL getting it out there. There are lot of crowd and justice funders than you can just retweet. Without you having to spend a cent.

I love me

Despite my next post, I actually really do love myself a lot … Just other people do not, lol…Like they might love me, but it is REALLY obvious who they really love more. Whose opinion they think is more important of myself is more important than the opinion of myself. I wouldn’t be surprised why people think I’d have a low self-esteem. I actually really don’t, but I am also EXTREMELY AWARE HOW OTHERS VIEW ME. I don’t want to be prideful. But I do love myself, god knows someone has too!

I am proof that despite that knowing you are no one’s favourite, knowing that your life is being directed by people who really don’t like you or respect you or your partner…Since you were 12…You can still be a kind people to others. You can still love yourself.

Just remember

PSA

Just remember that during these unusual times, that there are people out there who want to help. There are people out there who just really don’t know that you need help. Remember, there’s no shame in asking for help.

Just remember to talk to to people, even when you’re not expected too. A simple, “Hope you’re doing well” Can perk up anyone’s day. Do it, but just remember that they may not reply, and that’s okay. Just remember to not harass them if they don’t reply.

Are you an empath?

*If you follow me on Instagram. You probably saw my post about this topic. As I wrote on the post, I wanted to write about this topic, with a little more oompfh.*

Too begin with, there are two type of empaths. There are the type that feel for others, so you see a situation and while you might not understand what they’re dealing with. You feel for them. You can feel the pain that they are feeling. You get why they’re fighting for what they’re fighting for.

The other are people who can almost actually read your mind. They are what is called an empath psychic. A lot of these types can see certain things, like, you might of heard of people who can see colours around people or auras’. We all have one certain colour that surrounds us, but empath psychic can see our colours change when we feel pain, happiness, sadness etc.

Also, for each empath, clearly there are empath’s who feel different areas more strongly than other areas. So there are people like medical empath’s, as an example.

Basically Empath’s are people who literally feel for others.

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Now, the issue I really have with people who say “I am totally an empath, because I have strong feelings so I am expert on others’ feelings”. Having strong feelings doesn’t automatically make you an empath. Narcissists, as an example, think they have strong feelings. I would never call a Narcissist an empath,lol. But I’ve known a lot of Narcissists in my life, who do call themselves empaths, because they have strong feelings.

Now, I don’t mind if you have strong feelings, we all do, we’re human after all. My issue is when you going around using a platform to use your “strong feelings” and then talk and spread your misinformation.

If your an empath and you’re using your platform to say “Don’t make me feeling guilty if I need a break from BLM, because I need a mental break” and then continue to complain, about how people are making you feel guilty. Now Empath’s, like myself, do feel guilty if we need to take a mental health day, because we KNOW that we haven’t had to deal with the racism for hundreds if not thousands of years. If you’re only getting involved with BLM NOW, you’ve literally been dealing with it for about a month,lol. Not hundreds of years, so yeah, to complain that people make you feel guilty for needing a day off, is kind of ridiculous and not empathetic.

An empath, by the way, has been feeling BLM, before BLM, became a “thing.”

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Empath’s, At the same time, are aware that we can still do something even when we need a “day off”. You can do things that don’t require you to go on social media, that don’t require you to go out and protest. Buy or go to your local library and grab that POC author book, you may have not read before. Get old clothes together, to give to charity. Old toys to give to vulnerable children. Make some home cooking for your elderly neighbour. Write a well written letter to your Representative, that peaceful protesters are being arrested for BLM marches, ignoring their 1A RIGHTS to peacefully protest. While white people with guns, hang effigies of their local representative…were not. See, you don’t NEED to go onto social media, at all.

An empath, already knew this. So chances are, you’re not an empath.

It’s perfectly fine to not be an empath, it’s not like it makes you insensitive to people, it doesn’t. You still have feelings, just empaths tend to have stronger feelings for OTHERS, not just strong feelings in general. But please, do not go saying you are one, spreading misinformation so you can be part of a “fad”. That’s what you’d be doing.

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Angry Karen’s at the Mall.

I am sure that by now, we have all seen at least one video of the angry white “Karens” at the supermarkets and in the malls. Throwing a fit, and causing damage to properties and products.

Do you think, a single one of these women, have watched themselves later and gone “Maybe, my priorities are wrong?”. I doubt it…But I live in hope. How are these grown ass “woman” NOT embarrassed by their actions? If you want to see what privilege is, watch one of these “meltdowns”. It is EMBARRASSING.

Soldiers, Police, Front line workers put their lives on the line every day. Possibly never coming home…And these “woman” are having a tantrum, fit for a child, because they don’t want to wear a mask.

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Good god, I hope they DON’T have children!

Sure, they have a right to protest about not wearing a mask. But is it REALLY want you want to be known for? That you don’t want to do literally the very least you can do to help your fellow Americans? I would be willing to put a bet on it, that these “women” are also the FIRST to say that America is a Christian nation.

We need to get over ourselves…

Well not me, I’m perfect…lol.

  • “Christians” who refuse to wear a mask, because they think it makes them look foolish. While stating it’s their “right” to not wear a mask. Completely ignoring OTHER HUMAN BEINGS RIGHT TO LIVE. That’s not Christian, that’s the Devil, dears.
  • People who want to “save” the human race, but wont wear masks. Then talk about “family bonding”.
  • People who constantly ask ME, why my BROTHER doesn’t call them. If it bothers you that much, ASK HIM…Maybe the fact that you’re asking a completely different person why a completely different person does what they do, might be a clue there?
  • Stop asking me if it bothers me that he doesn’t ring people. I am clearly not bothered, by the fact that I am not the one complaining about it and saying “that’s just who he is”.
  • If I didn’t ring you, I am not required to give you split second answer to every question you have. I DIDN’T RING YOU!
  • I am not required by any rule or law, to hang out with people, that YOU don’t even like, just because their “family”.
  • WEAR A MASK!