Phobia vs Trauma

Trigger Warning

One thing that has been eating away at me, is people calling their transphobia a “trauma”.

Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster.

A phobia is an irrational fear of something that’s unlikely to cause harm. The word itself comes from the Greek word “phobos,” which means “fear” or “horror.”

Now if you ever have been attacked by an actual trans person, your transphobia is absolutely warranted, just like if you were attacked by a cis male, of course, your fear of men (I don’t know what the word is), that is also warranted. Or if your attacked by a female, then your fear of women is also warranted.

The issue here is, people like Rowling will go on and on and on about how abusive her ex was. Fine, then go after him. A lot of women who think Rowling is the “Queen” have also been attacked by cis males. Fine, go after them.

What has that got to do with trans people? Nothing, it’s ridiclous.

This is why Dr Ford is my Shero. She knew she would probably lose against Kavaughan, she still went after the man that hurt her. She didn’t go after some random group and blame them for it. I will plainly say this. If Rowling actually went for her abusive ex-husband, I would be right beside her (as I am sure a lot of people would) However, she is not, so I am not.

Adult Up

I’ve decided for myself, me and I, that I am changing the term from grow up to “Adult Up”.

I was inspired to do this when I was talking to a friends brother, who is more than clearly a Trump Supporter and quiet honestly against anything Science. Which means he against masks and vaccines. He was complaining one day, how he’ll only take a jab when it’s not a emergency vaccine (despite the emergency) and there aren’t endless shots. I pointed out to him, I don’t think it’s actually called “endless” when the most you’ll take it two.

He ended up calling me a sheep, because apparently there’s a third shot being created. I pointed out that that’s still not “endless” and in fact, if I had to take a shot every week to protect myself and others, that take’s, at most, 10 minutes, I’d do it. I also pointed that there are people who actually have to do that every day. In fact, those are the people, we are protecting. I ended up laughing and saying “Quiet frankly, it’s just laziness on your part” and called him a sloth, lol

I just thought during that whole conversation, this guy just needed to be adult.

What Feminism is not

Having noticed that TERFs have been calling themselves “Feminist” a lot lately. I will tell you what it is not.

Firstly TERFism is not Feminism, haha

Whether you agree or call yourself one or not. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t automatically mean you are a feminist.

I consider myself a Feminist, because I believe in Equality. Now there is another term that people like to use “Equalitarian”. Which is basically, equality for both sexes.

I personally, have no problem with either of these terms. They mean pretty much the same thing. Feminism just has a focus on Females/Women.

Feminism itself though, is not a weapon to use against others to “get back” at those who have abused the patriarchy.

Feminism is not a excuse to hide behind and attack others.

Feminism is not a excuse to hide behind women and girls, and attack others.

Feminism is for equality.

You can’t have feminism without men either. Men can absolutely be Feminists too. If we choose to exclude men from feminism, how would that make it better than the patriarchy?

One Name…

There’s a really good reason why I don’t listen to anything Trump says anymore, it’s either all:

  • Stupid
  • Dumb
  • Misinformed
  • Inflammatory

My partner though, for some reason, even though he doesn’t like Trump either. Will listen to news reports with Trump speaking. It drives me nuts! Mainly because he’ll say something really that makes me VERY annoyed.

My partner recently played a news report where Trump was talking about Covid19, I swear, he said “It has many names…The Virus, the Chinese Virus, Wuhan Virus”…No, it doesn’t have MANY names…It has ONE name…Covid19. It is definitely NOT “The Chinese Virus”. No leader, should be calling Covid19, anything else BUT Covid19 either.

Just like you and I, even Donald Trump, we all have ONE name. We may have nicknames, but we all have one name.

Maybe, he doesn’t know how to pronounce COVID19?

Share Your World 5-8-19

Share Your World 8-5-19

Share Your World


Does life have a reason (meaning)?

I think so, just because I believe that if there wasn’t, we wouldn’t even be here. I also think though that we don’t all have an individual meaning, it can be completely different…Even Trump! He’s teaching us that, even though we thought that worst of us were only in little groups. I think he has definitely shown that there’s still a lot of terrible people out there! Saying that though, people like Ilhan Omar, AOC…Have also shown that there are lot of good people out there still too.

Will the world come to an end by human hands (man’s actions)?

Oh yes,lol…Definitely. If it doesn’t, it’d only be because hundreds and hundreds of year from now, we’ve somehow found a way to work together. Stupid and toxic people are not in charge. Then some comet comes along and then…

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Will stricter laws make a better world?  Would less strict law make it better?

I find that in this day and age. Laws only seem to work when people have the moral decency to actually follow them *cough Trump traitor*

If death is inevitable, why bother doing anything?

Because it would a very boring life,lol. It’s one of the things that I hate about my anxiety, it stops me from doing things.

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Are thoughts and prayers useful or a sop for people who wish to pay respect but interact through a virtual venue?   Yea or nay – please explain your viewpoint (without rancor) if you would.

I’m not actually sure what a sop is. I think that thoughts and prayers can be certainly appreciated BUT…There’s always something else that needs to back it up with. I found out today that Texas are planning to LOOSEN their gun laws now…So more “good guys” can carry around guns willy nilly. Every shooter was a “good guy” with a gun until they weren’t anymore. As someone whose got a mental health condition, I didn’t have it until the last few years. Guess what, these things happen, you can be fine and then something bad happens. Sometimes mental health can get worse. Which is why they should be tightening them, not loosening them.

So saying to someone “prayers and thought” and then make things worse…It’s just crap basically.


This post kind of follows on from the post I wrote yesterday. My brain gets literally confused with certain people though. The people I wrote about yesterday, how they’re don’t think YouTube or Twitter should change at all. How they are so dead set against these platforms being safer and just better mentally for people.

They are probably the same people who say things like “reverse” racism for white people, or the people that pick and choose sentences from the 2A rather than the whole thing.

Too myself “reverse racism” means that you are not actually racist. Reverse doesn’t mean the same, it means the opposite. I also find it funny though (not really haha funny) that a lot of people who claim reverse racism, are usually white. What I find funny is that these white people don’t see the irony in trying to make a special racism meaning for white people either. You are either racist or your not. There’s no other word, no other meaning.

Share Your World Feb last week, 2019

Share Your World – 25/2/19


What, in your opinion, is the point to life?

I think the point to life, is to find YOUR point of life. Too concentrate to the point for your life, to find our point to life.

What was your most recent lie?  You don’t have to get really specific obviously.

I lied to someone recently who asked me if I was alright. I’m not 100% but this isn’t someone I want to know anything about my life really. I’ve got a bit of a bacterial gut infection and I mentioned on my Facebook that I was sick and they were all “Are you alright”? So I told them I was just getting my yearly cholesterol check. Which wasn’t a total lie, but it wasn’t the only thing I was there for. I did that wrong anyway now. I had a cup of tea…with…WITH…sugar an hour before I went -.-

What country do you consider the strangest?   (it’s all In fun folks, ALL countries may seem strange to outsiders)

I have actually visited America a few times and I still think it’s one of the strangest countries, especially for being a “first world” country. Whether you include Trump and that whole situation. It amazes me how you could probably have states as nations, they are just THAT different from each other. You look at something like Scientology, for example. We actually do have that in Australia, just nowhere near the scale it is, in America. We actually had politicians fight it (look up Nick Xenphon) I don’t think they are tax free here anymore. Whereas America is more all freedom of religion, even when it’s more than obvious that a “Religion” is a money making scheme. Like, I almost actually get NK and Russia. Simply they are Dictators and not very nice people. American, it’s such a mixture and they don’t know how to get along. It’s their way, or it’s the “wrong way”.

What’s your funniest story involving a car?

I can’t honestly think of any, mainly because I get my anxiety issues from travelling. If something very funny has happened to me I don’t honestly remember it, but I have loved reading others!


Do you have something you’re very thankful for or that showed immense kindness toward yourself or someone?

I think my coworkers are just the best! I am not working in my “dream job” persay and I’m not sure that I’d mind working where I am right now, for a very long time. One of the great things about where I work, I get a chance to Blog too! If I come up with an idea for a post, I can at least get it started.

My Weenies <3

I don’t even know how to start this one, so I’m just going to head on in it.

Do you have two different meanings for one word? I do…I think.

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Mine is “Weenie”

I have two meanings when it comes to Weenie…This first is calling someone a weenie and it’s because they’re silly or “stupid”, but not necessarily evil. I guess like the Rose gif at the top there. Generally though, I don’t actually like them, and I like Rose. As I generally don’t like to be mean, I feel like weenie s a more affectionate term to call someone I don’t like very much. A good example used to be Trump, now he is a big weenie! However, as time as gone on, he’s gotten worse.

The other way I mean weenie as well though, is when I like someone, but I can’t say that I do for whatever reasons. So although, I do like them, I can’t admit too it, so I call them “my weenies” so it throws people off the scent.

So one is full of…well..weenies…and the other is full of fake weenies…

Do any of you have words like that?