Another old age question…Do long distance relationships work?

I got another one!

As someone who once was in a long distance relationship on and once off again for 3 years, I feel like I’ve delved into this enough to write about it.

Short answer: Yes, they can work.

However, there are different factors have to consider.

  1. You have to both want it to work. Just with any relationship, not just long distance, means that both partners have to want it to work.
  2. You still have to have each others back. This was such a huge problem for me. My now ex partner liked this girl who hated me (I still, 7 years later, have never actually met this girl). So I felt very alone, which is dangerous in a long distance relationship. The ONLY reason I knew he wasn’t cheating on me with her was because I knew that she didn’t like him. It was weird, she liked him using him as a pretend boyfriend, as she called him, but wasn’t interested in him. I felt like an idiot having to fight with my own boyfriend about how another girl was using him, like he was only my friend.
  3. You still have to make an effort. Especially with today’s technology, there’s no real reason to not face time or to text. Although you may not be able to afford the most expensive technology, you can still do sweet things. I used to like writing letters to my partner, for example.
  4. You HAVE to see each other for a good amount of time at least once or twice a year AND you both have to visit the other. This can be harder with international relationships. But my ex partner never once came out to Australia, it was always the other way around. Even when I offered to pay for him to come out here.
  5. Make sure when you go visit you have somewhere to go in case something “bad” happens. You don’t have to break up with someone when you are in different places, it can happen when you’re together. Make sure you have a back up plan, in case it goes wrong…Trust me. I found out years later that my ex had wanted to break up with me at one point while I was over there, but didn’t because he was worried I had nowhere else to go (which was not true).
  6. Remember their friends may not be yours! This was a hard lesson for me. Some of my ex’s friends I made good friendships over there and still am friends with them, and when I can afford too, I’ll go back and see them. Others were definitely a lot more “fake”.

Share Your World … Week 2 (2016)

Share Your World

Share Your World – 2016 Week 2

Do you believe in extraterrestrials or life on other planets? 

I think that there is definitely other life on other plants, these might only microbes and things, but definitely other “life” out there. As for big alien E.T. things, I think it a definite possibility. We know that there are so many other solar systems and other planets that we are aware of but don’t have the means to visit. What’s to say there isn’t some big alien culture out there in the same position?

How many places have you lived? You can share the number of physical residences and/or the number of cities.

I have probably lived in two, really lived in them. My home is Australia, but I was for a time living on and off in America for about three years. I was in a long distance relationship so I was going back and forth a lot. I don’t think that I could live in another country though, after my experience I love my family and they are amazingly rare!

If you given $22 million tax free dollars (any currency), what is the first thing you would do?

Disneyland! =D In all seriousness I really would BUT I would do other things before then and then go to Disneyland. Definitely pay off my parents and siblings mortgages (or in my brother case get him a place and then pay off the mortgage, so he can stop renting,lol). Set up a house for myself and THEN go to Disneyland … Oh to dream,lol

The Never List: What are things you’ve never done? Or things you know you never will do?

I say “Never say never”! There are things that I definitely can’t see myself doing, but you just never know!