I feel like I’m being listened too…

The last couple of weeks, haven’t just been mentally exhausting, but they’ve been great as well!

I really honestly feel like people are actually listening to what I’m saying, and that is a amazing feeling!

If you’ve been reading my blog for a bit now, you might have seen me write about a huge anxiety attack I had about a job. Well I also recently changed, what we called, a job provider. They have been amazing, I actually feel like they get what I’m talking about. They keep making me feel that they will actually work with me, rather than me trying to make them “look good”.

Recently, I have put in two complaints…I’m wont get too deep in it. But, I actually feel like these two companies ARE listening. In the past when I’ve put in a complaint, I felt like the people meant to protect people, sided with the bigots. I felt condescended too, but also there was a moment of clarity of “Well, that’s why that person’s still working there. Their company is totally fine with it”.

Politicians, seriously?

Is there ANY point to politicians at this point?

Here is Australia, NSW (so Sydney) had a massive (for Australia) explosion of COVID cases, recently. Just a couple of weeks after our completely bias PM said that NSW was the gold standard. Now, not only for the last couple of months NSW has been doing the worst (lol). But then their state “leader” Gladys Berejiklian, has said she’s not doing any more daily pressers…what’s the point. The next day…

Sydney beaches CLOSED as THOUSANDS flock to shorelines on sunny Saturday despite COVID-19 lockdown restrictions in NSW

Starting to see why Sydney is never in the top lists of any livable cities.

There are GOOD politicians, unfortunately, the ones with any common sense ie the one who LISTEN, seem to be not listened too, except by their own people. Like Merkel and Ardern. Which is probably why they do well. Funny that, isn’t that? Politicians to actually listen, rather than do what they want too, do well. The ones who are not in it for the money, and are in it for the people, do well, lol.

I’m going to make a spreadsheet or graph or something, about politicians who listen and those who don’t.

“Reading” Your Body Signals

Do you like that title? lol

With this post, I am talking more about listening to your general body signs.

Just the little knicks and knacks.

As a example, I know I’m cold when I’m in bed and I wake up and my feet are cold. If I do not put those socks on, I am more likely to wake up with a flu or a cold. During Winter, I have a warm shower before bed, so I don’t always put my socks on after. However, they are always by by bed…Just in case. It could also just be really bad circulation in my feet, lol

You know those old “wives tales” like “you can feel it’s going to rain in your bones” but it does actually happen.

I don’t know what’s going to happen…

So tonight is going to be interesting, I have written a little more about it for next week, and people’s lack of LISTENING SKILLS lately. Tonight though, I am supposedly seeing a Orchestra play by Candlelight Disney songs. However, it’s been a bit of a disaster from start to finish and I have now gotten to the point where when people ask me “What do you want to do” I just say “I’m fine” Thinking in my head “you haven’t listened to me so far” lol.

There’s a good chance that tonight is a scam. Started by the people who are now not listening too me.

Even though it’s supposed to be for me, and I rang all these different places and they’re saying it’s probably a scam, because apparently, even though I don’t have any information, it has to be up to me to find out. No one listened to me anyway, and were fine with the response from the place that’s doing the scam.

As sad as it sounds, I am really hoping this is a scam and it blows up in their faces.

If it isn’t that’s great, but I am so pissy right now.

I did start laughing though, when I went to see my therapist as well today (that was a great session) and was sent a text message from one of the people who didn’t listen to me. Saying “Good luck today. Might help with getting ready tonight”. So I faked as worried text saying “Why???!!! What’s going wrong with tonight NOW”. They’ve been sitting there, not listening too me trying to convince me it’s not a scam, just to text me good luck for tonight? Why, you keep telling me it’s not a scam now. So is it, or isn’t it?

Disney


Not anymore!

I refuse to keep telling people when I’m putting ear phones in to listen to something actually important. Does anyone else have the problem I have? EVERY SINGLE TIME you tell people you’re putting your earphones in, because you need to listen to something important. THAT’S the time they’ve decided, after not talking to you all day. THAT’S the time they want to suddenly have a deep and meaningful???!!

Share Your World 17-19-19

Share Your World

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QUESTIONS:

Courtesy of Rory:

Are we losing the art of listening in comparison to simply hearing?

I do believe that most definitely that is true. I have to say I think I’m one of them. It can depend on how I’m feeling as well, if I’m trying to get myself out of an anxiety attack. I may not listen as much, if I don’t really like the person. If it’s a situation, you know where someone just complains and does nothing about their situation? My mum complains a lot about her work, but has never applied for another job and only really says anything to me about it all. A lot of her mangers seems to be borderline treating their employees illegal. Their managers customer service is atrocious as well! People only like talking to my mum and she’s the receptionist, so there’s only so much she can do herself. Even saying that my Mum is still a good listener, hence why people keep wanting to talk to just her.

How often do you openly discuss with friends or here in WP with your readership topics that make you feel uncomfortable or may be taboo or stigma laden?

Not too many people know about my WordPress, my partner does and possibly others do. I actually just had a “real life” friend post a screen shot saying the link to my blog wasn’t working. So people do know about it, but I don’t talk about it. Unless they bring it up of course.

Do you think that these discussions should be freely discussed and written about more?

Too a point, sometimes constantly talking about something can bring you down. But you need to get the awareness out there as well.

Did you have a nickname as a child and if so, what was [or what is it now]?

I used to get called Smiley a lot when I was kid, I always apparently smiled…a lot. The only time I used to cry was when I put in restraints. Who can blame me though! So my baby play pen and when I got older, I hated being in a seat belt. I still do really,lol.

Why is there still ‘stuff’ we simply just don’t understand despite our progressive world?

I don’t think we’re always supposed to understand everything. Otherwise would we be here?


Would you rather double your height or lose half your weight?  (In response to last week’s double your weight, half your height query).  Thanks Leslie!  Suggestion by Leslie – Swot8

I think double my height, I don’t think it’d hurt to be taller. If I lost half my weight, I’d be severely underweight. I’m trying to lose weight, jut not that much,lol


What is your most essential kitchen tool?  (Can be a person you know.  For the non-cooks in the crowd).

Courtesy of Roger Shipp

https://rogershipp.wordpress.com/2019/09/15/essential-kitchen-tools/


Gratitude Question:

Who is one blogger you really admire and why?

The blogger who I admire most is *drum roll please* BereavedSingleDad

Bereaved Single Dad has to be one of the most positive people I’ve “seen”, when with the things that have happened would break a normal person. I admire them because despite everything you just get the feeling that the ones he loves are never a burden to him. The places himself and his family have seen. His son is a very lucky person, I know far too many people who would have given up.

Listen 3/2

I realised I never finished the 2/2 post. Listen 2/2

The point of my last two “Listen” points was this…I swear this is that this is the last point about this.

I think a lot of my issues, but especially with my ex friends. I think that there issues were I just assumed that A) When I talked to Karen about Gretchen, she had actually heard what I had said. B) I didn’t think I had to tell ADULTS how to treat other beings. Especially when other people are literally saying to them “We never see you anymore” C) In hindsight, they did tend to make it all about them.

As I mentioned in the last post, just because you don’t hear what someone has said, doesn’t mean it hasn’t been said.

That’s my issues…a lot of what I say isn’t heard, even though I have literally said:

  • Telling Karen I don’t like the way Gretchen constantly attacked me. Then I get accused of being passive aggressive.
  • Telling my mum I only like a certain type of pyjama, and the very next week. She’s buys me ANOTHER pair after we had just bought myself a pair.. Big fight because apparently “she just gets it wrong”…Well yeah you did. The material was wrong, I had just gotten a pair the week before and she bought it from a store I’ve always been told we’re not allowed to go in? I had also TOLD her that I only like a certain material with pyjamas.
  • My Dad went to help with my partners leak. I told him NOT to touch the tap, he touched it. The hot water turned off. Should probably mention my partners house, he’s renting it. So if it had broke, broken…My partner would be up for it.

My problem is, people aren’t listening to me and don’t like it when I point it out, or just plain do not listen and don’t like it when I want better for myself. Are the same people who go on about how I have to speak up more.

It is very confusing to be me.

Listen 2/2

Last week I wrote about that all I had wanted for my birthday was to be listened, and even though telling people what I wanted and didn’t want. They still didn’t at all “get it”. You can see it here…Because not only did they not get it, but that I was the one in the wrong for them not listening.

Now, I am continuing with writing about why the best present I could have received this year was the one of being listened too.

I recently wrote about and told some people who then got…weird…Mainly that I finally BELIEVED that no matter what the “Mean Girls” wrote about me, no matter how long they stayed friends for. I will always be the better friend.

When the day had come that we had all stopped being friends with each other. What I had been most irritated about was what they were accusing me of. Basically, everything they said was…

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  • Regina said that she doesn’t like being attacked. One, I wasn’t attacking anyone, I literally wrote a note that was about how I NEEDED to start taking better care of myself and my mental health. I wrote about how I ended up in hospital (which at that point none of them knew about because I didn’t trust them. I still don’t think they know).
  • The funny thing about what Regina said. Two years previous and the time that I started to decide “I don’t like these people”. I had gotten into a argument with her because instead of blaming herself or her boyfriend for his abuse (like “normal” people do). Nope, she decided to blame me because I was single and when she’s single she doesn’t like hearing how happy we are. Our friend “Karen” then decided to start posting passive aggressive posts about how “real friends” are there for each other. I was left out, of course. So when I confronted Karen and the others they all said “It’s just who she is”. So apparently it’s fine that I get blamed and attacked?
  • The day of the last time I had anything to do with them. I also got attacked by Karen saying how she doesn’t ‘respect’ the passive aggressive…Well I guess she doesn’t respect herself very much or Gretchen or Regina. The laughable thing was, I had a whole conversation with Karen about how much I was over Gretchen being a bitch to me, just because “that’ the way she is”. So even if my note had anything to do with them, it’s not like she didn’t know how I felt already?

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  • Also though, regarding Karen. Karen, like the character, is actually really vague about…well, everything…and that in turns makes her passive aggressive. She had honestly spent the last two years telling us she was “too busy” and then would spend all night, on Facebook, posting to her new friends. Gretchen was telling her all the time “We never see you anymore”. But the even worse thing was, a few years before that had happened. Karen had someone do exactly what she was doing to us, to her. So for her not to even “get it”…Well, I didn’t respect that.

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  • I didn’t care that Karen had decided to take that path, it was a reflection on her, not us. I have just never understood how though she never “got it”. I am not someone who begs you to be around me, but when I’m the one that has to try and unhurt the hurt you’re causing. When you are ignoring the people who obviously miss you. When you are blatantly rubbing in their faces that you think these new friends are better than them. You don’t get to turn around to me and say “I don’t respect the passive aggressiveness”.

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Just because someone said something you didn’t want to hear…Doesn’t mean, they didn’t say it.

No idea who said that,lol

My point is this:

 

Friends that are like Family…REALLY?!

I recently read an article on KennethJustice.com which really made me think about some things…I only wanna listen to what I want……REALLY???

I have been dealing with this problem over the last couple of months. As a few things have hit me about certain friendships. People who will tag you in those “Friends are like Family” type posts and your first thought “You are so full of it”…The type where you can literally write “I am not okay”, they ignore that (while tagging you in those “posts…Friends that are like Family) then you write how people suck and THAT one they seem to pay attention to and get all offended by?

Like Kenneth I have noticed a trend of people just not listening any-more other than when they want to prove someone wrong. Some people I only ever hear from when they want to tell me that I am doing something wrong…I admit, I tend to ignore these people. This is generally because you can’t just talk to someone and make bold comments on someone’s words, their thoughts and ideas if you are only ever talking to them when it suits you. Positive or Negative. In order to get a full novel of someone’s life, you have to have conservations with that person…Pleasant and Unpleasant.