Listen

“Riots don’t just come out of thin air”.

I think that one of the things that was really annoyed about people like Trump, regarding the Minnesotan riots. Other than the obvious. Is that people like him, keep talking about George, like they even knew him. Or people like Trump supporters tried to justify their protests, because it wasn’t about hair. It was about small businesses not being able to open, when big business were.

Ummm, no, there were plenty of Karens making it about hair. There were literal signs and videos of them, making it about it hair. There were also a lot of Karen-type yelling “Freedom” while holding an opened Baskin Robbins or Big Gulp, who were in the background, opened. Also, a lot of small businesses (like hair dressers) are not deemed essential…Because, well, they’re not. They are also plenty of small businesses that have just put their products on websites.

Guess who can’t frequent small businesses anymore, no matter what. George Floyd.

These so-called “patriotic Americans”, decided they didn’t have to listen to POC being murdered by the people who were supposed to protect them. When Kapernick knelt, they said he should be locked up. He was a traitor. By the SAME PEOPLE who are NOW saying they should have peacefully protested first. They put Martin Luther King Jr quotes in their bios and profiles, but just as the same as when they put “Christian” in there too. They have no idea what that means.

What happened in people’s lives that makes them think a building is worth more than a person? You know who can’t walk into anymore buildings? George Floyd. He can’t walk into the building of his home, where he works, his mothers homes, his friends home. He can’t even walk into a Walmart anymore. He can’t walk into his own home anymore and hug his kids. He will NEVER be able to walk into his children’s home.

Quiet frankly I’m surprised this hasn’t happened before, and I’m surprised that people are surprised that this is happening now. It’s kind of like people who are still surprised that people don’t like Trump and never did,lol

Listen 3/2

I realised I never finished the 2/2 post. Listen 2/2

The point of my last two “Listen” points was this…I swear this is that this is the last point about this.

I think a lot of my issues, but especially with my ex friends. I think that there issues were I just assumed that A) When I talked to Karen about Gretchen, she had actually heard what I had said. B) I didn’t think I had to tell ADULTS how to treat other beings. Especially when other people are literally saying to them “We never see you anymore” C) In hindsight, they did tend to make it all about them.

As I mentioned in the last post, just because you don’t hear what someone has said, doesn’t mean it hasn’t been said.

That’s my issues…a lot of what I say isn’t heard, even though I have literally said:

  • Telling Karen I don’t like the way Gretchen constantly attacked me. Then I get accused of being passive aggressive.
  • Telling my mum I only like a certain type of pyjama, and the very next week. She’s buys me ANOTHER pair after we had just bought myself a pair.. Big fight because apparently “she just gets it wrong”…Well yeah you did. The material was wrong, I had just gotten a pair the week before and she bought it from a store I’ve always been told we’re not allowed to go in? I had also TOLD her that I only like a certain material with pyjamas.
  • My Dad went to help with my partners leak. I told him NOT to touch the tap, he touched it. The hot water turned off. Should probably mention my partners house, he’s renting it. So if it had broke, broken…My partner would be up for it.

My problem is, people aren’t listening to me and don’t like it when I point it out, or just plain do not listen and don’t like it when I want better for myself. Are the same people who go on about how I have to speak up more.

It is very confusing to be me.

Read and Listen.

This post may not go exactly what you might suspect it’s going to. This is about people who react…mostly over react to people. People who are over reacting instead of reading and thinking first. People who read a paper and suddenly are experts. You know the type, people who read a paper that’s 100% for them and not reading one that disagrees.

This has a lot to do with vaccinations, but I feel it can be applied to a lot in life. I am for vaccinations, but I am not for pro-vaccinators *not a word* who become belligerent towards people who aren’t even saying no vaccinations. There is someone I follow on Instagram who had a reaction to a vaccination and now has a chronic illness. She knows how rare this is. She has never EVER said don’t get vaccinated, but she gets literally vile comments because she says “research” first…And I think she’s right. The other people who have gotten chronic illnesses say so too.

Quiet frankly I’m going to listen to them over someone who read a paper saying they’re wrong.

I’m a Librarian…I can guarantee there’s a paper saying that it can happen. I have actually seen them myself. Because I also believe that Pharmacies and Drug companies are more about money than people’s actual well-being.

As was the case in Ireland and a lot of Europe:

Narcolepsy link to glaxo vaccine poses challenge of fda

Now this happened because people aka the Government and Drug companies tried to push this vaccine quickly without much research. The reason for this particular vaccine/drug was to help people with the “bird flu”. Now parents are suing the Government, because the Government will not help these parents and families out.

I’m all for vaccinations and I will get any future children theirs as well. Just because though someone tells me to do research (which you really should be doing for nearly all things in life). Does not make them anti…If that makes sense? In fact this person I follow actually pointed out that a)She’s has never actually said to not get them and b)Why people are assuming she still doesn’t get them herself? Which is a good point. That’s why sometimes take a deep breath, and read what your reading. I honestly believe that people don’t read anymore. They pick out keywords they WANT to read and go from there. The job that I’m in, I’ve learnt to read (I always have) but as time as gone on where I work. It’s becoming more obvious how little people read.

I actually had an incident this morning, where a student came in on the wrong day for an entrance type test. The email said Thursday the 6th, but they said the person on the phone said the 6th of Friday, so that’s why they missed the test. So, even though three of out the four things were about 6th (which is the Thursday) they blamed someone else for saying Friday, even though the person on the phone said the 6th too.

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Listen 2/2

Last week I wrote about that all I had wanted for my birthday was to be listened, and even though telling people what I wanted and didn’t want. They still didn’t at all “get it”. You can see it here…Because not only did they not get it, but that I was the one in the wrong for them not listening.

Now, I am continuing with writing about why the best present I could have received this year was the one of being listened too.

I recently wrote about and told some people who then got…weird…Mainly that I finally BELIEVED that no matter what the “Mean Girls” wrote about me, no matter how long they stayed friends for. I will always be the better friend.

When the day had come that we had all stopped being friends with each other. What I had been most irritated about was what they were accusing me of. Basically, everything they said was…

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  • Regina said that she doesn’t like being attacked. One, I wasn’t attacking anyone, I literally wrote a note that was about how I NEEDED to start taking better care of myself and my mental health. I wrote about how I ended up in hospital (which at that point none of them knew about because I didn’t trust them. I still don’t think they know).
  • The funny thing about what Regina said. Two years previous and the time that I started to decide “I don’t like these people”. I had gotten into a argument with her because instead of blaming herself or her boyfriend for his abuse (like “normal” people do). Nope, she decided to blame me because I was single and when she’s single she doesn’t like hearing how happy we are. Our friend “Karen” then decided to start posting passive aggressive posts about how “real friends” are there for each other. I was left out, of course. So when I confronted Karen and the others they all said “It’s just who she is”. So apparently it’s fine that I get blamed and attacked?
  • The day of the last time I had anything to do with them. I also got attacked by Karen saying how she doesn’t ‘respect’ the passive aggressive…Well I guess she doesn’t respect herself very much or Gretchen or Regina. The laughable thing was, I had a whole conversation with Karen about how much I was over Gretchen being a bitch to me, just because “that’ the way she is”. So even if my note had anything to do with them, it’s not like she didn’t know how I felt already?

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  • Also though, regarding Karen. Karen, like the character, is actually really vague about…well, everything…and that in turns makes her passive aggressive. She had honestly spent the last two years telling us she was “too busy” and then would spend all night, on Facebook, posting to her new friends. Gretchen was telling her all the time “We never see you anymore”. But the even worse thing was, a few years before that had happened. Karen had someone do exactly what she was doing to us, to her. So for her not to even “get it”…Well, I didn’t respect that.

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  • I didn’t care that Karen had decided to take that path, it was a reflection on her, not us. I have just never understood how though she never “got it”. I am not someone who begs you to be around me, but when I’m the one that has to try and unhurt the hurt you’re causing. When you are ignoring the people who obviously miss you. When you are blatantly rubbing in their faces that you think these new friends are better than them. You don’t get to turn around to me and say “I don’t respect the passive aggressiveness”.

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Just because someone said something you didn’t want to hear…Doesn’t mean, they didn’t say it.

No idea who said that,lol

My point is this:

 

It’s positively not always about you.

I have been getting SO frustrated with all these Republican “women”. Conveniently saying that they remember EVERYTHING from when they were assaulted. (None of them have reported it to the police) So that’s why they don’t believe Dr Ford. It makes my skin literally crawl.

All these “people” who are like “Well I did it this way”…GOD they sound like my ex best friend when she said it was my fault that she had all these horrible stories to tell about her bf BECAUSE and I quote “When I’m single I don’t like hearing how happy my friends are in relationships” So I must be like that? (I’m not, I’d rather my friends are safe and happy than abused, just who I am.) This might shock some of those “people”…NOT EVERYONE IS YOU! It literally makes my skin crawl.

That’s why in the dictionary there are word likes … Empathy, Sympathy, Listening. Yes, there are also words like Self, Selfish, Narcissistic. Which ones do you want to follow?How about people use more positive words, more actual arguments? I know how hard it is for people who have a narcissistic personality to think it revolves all around them.

Let’s look at situations from other points of views instead. Let’s start listening to what others have to say…How hard is that?

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Rather than not listening and hearing what happened to you, listen to what the other person is telling you.

Let’s turn this all around! Let’s start the talking again.

 

Share Your World, Sept Week 2, 2018

Share Your World

Share Your World 10-09-18

This Week’s Questions:

Are You A Better Listener or Speaker?

I am definitely a better listener, people come to me a lot with needing someone to listen to them. Speaking, my brain tends to go faster than my mouth, so it’s makes no sense. One of the reasons I love to Blog, I can write what I am thinking. Then can rewrite or edit if it’s all jumbled up.  Sometimes I can think faster than I write as well!

If You Were Asked To Design A Warning Label That Would Be Tattooed On Your Skin, What Would It Say? 

(Credit for this question goes to a blogger I’ve just started following.  You can read more about her by clicking here. )

I’m stealing a quote here “And though she may be but little, she is fierce”

What Are You Passionate About?

I think I am passionate about anything that is creative. Anyway to look at something in a new way. I love coming up with new new ideas that I can use creatively.

If You Could Change One Thing About Your World, What Would It Be?

I wish that I wasn’t such a bad procrastinator! I am probably one of the worst, you’ll ever meet! I’ve got all these projects started and then…that’s it. I wish I could change that about myself.

And Finally:

What Gave You A Reason To Smile This Past Week?   

I started a diary, one that you actually write in, not like a Blog. A personal diary.

Trumptar Logic 3

How dare Time (magazine) keep re-posting the picture of Trump morphing into Putin…They are so biased!

HILLARY’S EMAILS!!! OBAMA!!!

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I have to say writing this inconsistent overall comments made by Trump supporters. It actually makes me feel better, because when you try to point this out to them the illogical, they just plain don’t want to listen. You all seem to get it as well!

Heed these Words!

Stressing is your body’s way of not trusting. Today, trust that all things are working together in your favor! With Love, Dr. KL Author of “Every Day Isn’t Perfect”: amazon.com/author/iamklregister

via Monday Motivation — Dr. K. L. Register

I remember two days before I had my first panic attack. I was sick, I couldn’t move without throwing up. Yet everyone kept “demanding” that I show up and help them out. I was SO not okay and I did not listen to my body and how angry I was with pretty much everyone at this point. I was sick and they just did not care.

Share Your World … May Week 3

Share Your World

Share Your World … May 15, 2017

How many languages do you you speak?

I only speak the one language, unfortunately. I can say bits and pieces of German, but they are very small  bits and pieces. I can count to 10, say good morning and good night, mother and father and that is it really.  I would love to be able to speak another language, but I struggle with English as it is,lol.

What are you reading, watching, listening to, eating?

  • Reading: Hindsight by Melaine Casey. I’m actually reading 3 different books right now,lol
  • Watching: I’m not really watching a series or anything right now, I have a lot of stuff taped though that I’m getting through.
  • Listening: I’ve been listening too  a lot of Fantasy and Celtic type music. I’ve been getting back into meditating, crafty things and I find this kind of music helps me to keep creative.
  • Eating: I’ve been trying to eat a lot more healthy at the moment, I’m hoping it’ll help with my anxiety issues. I think it actually is making a difference, I am noticing the differences, because I am now aware of the differences.

What was the last photo you took with your phone?

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Grumpy Cat,lol

What is your favorite time of day?

This can depend on the day as well honestly, if I’m not working I enjoy the actual day, especially when I’m doing chores around the house, or I’m doing things that make me feel like I’ve done something with my day off. On the day that I’m working or get called in (because I’m a causal) my favourite time would be between that time when you first get home and that time when you’re start getting dinner ready.

Share Your World … May Week 2 2017

Share Your World

Share Your World … May 8, 2017

When you’re alone at home, do you wear shoes, socks, slippers, or go barefoot?

My feet get really cold whether it’s Summer or Winter, I must have really bad circulation or something. If you were to see me at home being myself with no one around I would most likely be wearing socks at the very least, during both warm and cooler weather.

What was your favorite food when you were a child?

I was a weird child, I actually really enjoyed my vegetables and I still enjoy eating Brussels sprouts. It’s funny because I don’t know why but I eat so much more junk food these days, probably something with it to do with being fast and easy ~.^ lol…I’ll enjoy the first couple of bites and then think “Why did I eat that?” Yet, when I eat vegetables or fruit, i seem to enjoy every bite.

Are you a listener or talker?

I am definitely a listener, I’m not sure if it’s because everyone I know is just louder than me or if that’s just the way I am too be honest,lol…It’s probably a little bit of both…I don’t mind being a listener though because I feel like that’s when I learn the most.

Favorite thing to (pick one):  Photograph?  Write? Or Cook?

I guess that I’d have to go with Writing, I love to do it and I really love doing it for myself especially. Every now and then I will just get in a mood and write, and write and write. I do also enjoy taking photos, but mainly of myself, my pets and honestly of scenery. All of which would probably bore a lot of people. Yet, sometimes the scenery pictures also get me motivated to write.