Force Birthers

*Note* I will never call force birthers, pro-lifers, unless its too mock their “pro-lifeness”.

Mainly because, they are anything but pro-life.

I decided to write about this after seeing a force birther write and I quote “They just want an excuse to kill their unwanted baby”.

There’s a key word in there…Can you guess what it is?

Yep, people it is “unwanted”.

Hence why I don’t like calling force birthers “pro-life”. There’s life and there’s these thing called “quality of life”.

Now I don’t have children, I have never given birth. For me though, the first job of a parent is to give as good quality of life for your child as best you can. You don’t have to be rich, or live in a good area, or be Einstein smart. If you don’t want a kid, you should not be expected to give birth to a fetus, you don’t want. Why should a totally innocent child be given parents who they are not wanted by.

One thing EVERY child on the planet should feel is, wanted. It’s a usual human want, to be wanted. Trust me. To feel wanted is too feel safe. I feel “okay” with my family, because I know that I am wanted by my partner. Although what I’m feeling and going through right now is very lonely, I know that I am loved and wanted.

Force birthers should be the very last people with children, quiet honestly.

There was another one bragging how her sister gave birth to a baby with only half their brain. They lived for a whole year. Its fine to do that. I have no problem with people giving birth even knowing their child will die. That is entirely a personal decision. But it is not fine for everyone, and it is NOT “gotcha” either. If someone wants to terminate a pregnancy, because they don’t feel letting their child live with half a brain for a short amount of time, is a good quality of life. Then they should be able too terminate. A lot of the US abortion bans are being banned before people even know that they are pregnant.

Force birthers don’t care about life or the quality of it, for children. I am pretty over hearing anything they have too say. Especially the same one who didn’t get their “unwanted” comment, who then went on to call someone fat, because this person has stretch marks without giving birth. Men can have stretch marks too. We don’t get stretch marks because we “give birth”. We get stretch marks, because our skin stretches. Women tend to get them more because our hips widen.

Stretchmarks on men – effective treatments

“Stretch marks in men can appear if you try to lose weight or gain a lot of muscle in a short space of time. Stretch marks occur when the skin doesn’t have time to accommodate its new contents, be that fat or muscle, and the skin tears.”


I don’t care =P Pt 2

This is a bit more serious than the last one.

I don’t know if it’s just because my mental health has taken a hit lately. Or that a lack of sleep just makes me care less. Who knows, maybe I’ll change my mind again.

I read recently an article saying that the Agatha Christie Foundation were going to do a Rohald Dahl and change things in the book. I don’t know what, because I didn’t read the article, because I just don’t care.

I’ve read some of the books and seen at least all the television Miss Marples and David Suchett Hercule Poirot, I don’t personally care for the movies. They are often different from one another anyway.

I look at the world around me, and I’m like. For myself, it’s just not a big fish to fry. The total banning of books is, but a book production company changing a few words, just is not at the moment.


Oh this tooth is driving me nutty! Over the weekend it kept choosing when and where it would start to hurt. Then at one point it keep making my ear feel like it was about to pop. You know that feeling when you’re in an airplane or going up a hill? My ear kept feeling like that for nearly a whole day. Then I ate some beef.

It was chewy…Let’s not go into details.

We’re also getting the horrible Winter weather already, even though we’re just in the middle of Autumn. I also get annoyed every time I think about what my family have been doing.

I have not been enjoying a lot of books that I’m reading, the only real decent one has been “The Second Mrs. Astor”. I’m only nearly half way through and it seems really sweet.

Why am I telling you all of this? Its mainly because I am having a peeve and a good old moan really. It’s also just a reminder that despite the little annoyances, I also did a lot of fun and good things too.

  • I have never taken more and better care of my teeth and gums in my life.
  • I’ve had to put myself first. I had to learn to just lie down and relax. Not to feel guilt about just reading or doing nothing. No cleaning. Just sit back and let my jaw relax.
  • I am actually eating less. Not so much that I’m starving myself, clearly. I can’t eat everything, which is not a bad thing. I’m supposed to be losing weight.
  • Horrible Winter weather makes for more cuddling, blankies and hot chocolate!
  • I’m “making” a new family. Family is not always blood, or human! lol…I’m making a life I want for myself.
  • Not reading all the time meant I wrote more.

Life Changing

Over the last couple of weeks I have seen quiet a few bloggers writing about their top life changing books. I have to go through my books to find mine, lol. I’m in the process of moving. For now, I am sharing with you my 10 top life quotes. See if you can guess which one is my own:

In no particular order:

  1. To thine own self be true
  2. “Even the smallest person can change the course of the future.” (Not an actually Tolkien quote though)
  3. “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”
  4. Yes, I have high standards of others, but its nothing like the standards I place on myself.
  5. “No one will understand you. It is not, ultimately, that important. What is important is that you understand you.”
  6. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”
  7. “Folks are usually about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
  8. “Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life.”
  9. “For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
  10. “Hope is the most exciting thing there is in life.”

Shall I tell you a secret?

I am very happy to be getting married later in life.

There just feels like so much less stress. I feel old and strong enough to say “No, that’s not happening”. Like even yesterday my Dad finally went down his usual rabbit hole. Of how it’s my Mums fault, she didn’t tell him that I was getting married. Even though I unblocked him to specifically tell him. Come on dude, you’ve been split from my Mum for 30 years. I’m nearly 40, I literally just do not care anymore.

When I was younger I would have a crying mess.

I reckon 30 these days is a good age to have a kid. Too get married later.

I do not care, you are the parent, I am the child. He started off reasonably okay, with admitting we don’t know each other. Then it turned into the blame game, except it was everyone else’s fault, but his. My mum actually had a go at him this time. My Dad, for some reason used to complain about how my Mum didn’t work, so my Pa, her Dad, helped her to start her own business. THEN my Dad complained about that, how stressful it was for HIM, for her to have a job. Total gaslighting.

My Pa passed away over 10 years ago.

My mum was all “What do you want me too do? Dig him up (he was cremated) and make him apoligise to you”.

You want to feel bad for him, but he made ALL these choices himself.

I was 12 when my parents split, I turn 40 next year. Technically they split two days before I started high school as well. My Dads big idea of getting my Mum back was to tell me that he would kill himself if I didn’t tell her that he loved her. So after that, my older cousin caught me crying on some steps she rang my Dad, he called me a “Drama Queen”.

Guess what’s going to happen tomorrow if he continues.

Sorry about my little sob story. I am perfectly fine. I am just SO emotionally tired. My parents essentially need to grow up.

I just do not care anymore. This time should be about me, but it’s not.

This isn’t where I thought it was going, lol

Monday Magic Thankyous

This is one for more of my religious readers.

I want to say thank you, for being who you are. For embracing the LGB and Trans community. I don’t really actually know many people in my personal life who hate, or are anti-LGBT. I’ve seen a lot of people who call themselves “holy” though, and do hate them. And for women like me. I absolutely hate it.

I hate it when women use women as a shield for their bigotry. It’s so ‘punching down’, like why do they think we’ll take it?

I cant begin to tell you, how it brings people so much relief to hear religious people support any LGBT_ letter. It give me faith again, in faith!lol

Thursday Theories – Being back on Twitter

It’s been really funny back on Twitter. I swear, literally nothing has changed. It’s pretty much the same thing, except for the fact being that the theories are crazy, haha.

I swear, until Rowlings off there, I can’t see much changing. I can see though trans and cis people are getting more tired of the stupidity, and it’s becoming more apparent.

By the way, Drag is not woman face. What’s next cis men complaining that Drag Kings are men face. They are actually comparing it to black face.

Real life though has been crazy this week! I am SO tired, I’ve slept bad every single night, had to work and then my Mum got COVID, her first time. But I was with her when she tested positive! So my partner made me stay with her, which I can’t blame him for.

I am really stressed about getting my wisdom teeth out. I have to go “under” and I have never done that before! I was going to ring up about some questions I had, but I left all my dental information at my partners =/

Then I got so excited about Alex Kingston aka River Song coming to my state, that I went and bought a ticket, but now I am realised I really can’t afford it. So, I’ll have to get a refund, she’ll be around again though, and maybe I can travel interstate and have a whole trip away =D

And Suella Braverman is GONE!!! YAY!!!

Never mind me, I’m just twittering away, lol

If you’re not okay, hug a teddy <3

I have rewritten this post about 3 times now, lol. That is okay. Stuff is happening and things change.

It’s weird to think we have now entered a world without Queen Elizabeth the II in it. It just really is, lol.

On top of which, if you’re not feeling great. How about out some vulnerable people, who do a lot of good work for the LGBT community!

Appeal “LGB Alliance’s” charity status

by Good Law Project

Everyone should have a teddy bear to hug, it’s just so happens, that I have one or two … lol Clearly I have more, lol

I have a … couple, lol


Right, so I am already bored with being stick inside. I only go outside, with a mask on to feed the birds, and out bed washing.

It really is quiet frustrating, because I was going to spend the past weekend:

*Popping to the Library

*Picking up my click and collect presents for my Mum’s birthday presents.

*Picking up new work pants, which I really need.

*And I was getting so much leave at work too. I need to take a couple of days off around Christmas week.

What I’ve been doing this week:


*Catching up on my reading.

*Add to my book collection, via the Kobo. As if I don’t have enough to read already, lol.

*Catching up on some journal and diary writing.

*I have seen some series that I am looking into now. Have you all seen the Windsor’s?

*The house is now properly disinfected.

*Signing into LinkedIn, after months away and seeing that my ex-best friend looked at my profile three days prior!Hahahahaha…

*And the ideas! Ideas on how to improve the house, the garden. Even ideas about doing work from home. Unfortunately, I am not allowed to work from home. Since we deal with a lot of privacy details.