I am very happy to be getting married later in life.
There just feels like so much less stress. I feel old and strong enough to say “No, that’s not happening”. Like even yesterday my Dad finally went down his usual rabbit hole. Of how it’s my Mums fault, she didn’t tell him that I was getting married. Even though I unblocked him to specifically tell him. Come on dude, you’ve been split from my Mum for 30 years. I’m nearly 40, I literally just do not care anymore.
When I was younger I would have a crying mess.
I reckon 30 these days is a good age to have a kid. Too get married later.
I do not care, you are the parent, I am the child. He started off reasonably okay, with admitting we don’t know each other. Then it turned into the blame game, except it was everyone else’s fault, but his. My mum actually had a go at him this time. My Dad, for some reason used to complain about how my Mum didn’t work, so my Pa, her Dad, helped her to start her own business. THEN my Dad complained about that, how stressful it was for HIM, for her to have a job. Total gaslighting.
My Pa passed away over 10 years ago.
My mum was all “What do you want me too do? Dig him up (he was cremated) and make him apoligise to you”.
You want to feel bad for him, but he made ALL these choices himself.
I was 12 when my parents split, I turn 40 next year. Technically they split two days before I started high school as well. My Dads big idea of getting my Mum back was to tell me that he would kill himself if I didn’t tell her that he loved her. So after that, my older cousin caught me crying on some steps she rang my Dad, he called me a “Drama Queen”.
Guess what’s going to happen tomorrow if he continues.
Sorry about my little sob story. I am perfectly fine. I am just SO emotionally tired. My parents essentially need to grow up.
I just do not care anymore. This time should be about me, but it’s not.
This isn’t where I thought it was going, lol