The best lessons in life, are often the hardest!

With any relationship in life (whether that be romantic, friendly and family) sometimes the worse situations we go through with them, are the lessons in life that are the hardest to learn.

Throughout my life (and I am sure others as well) I have learnt the most about myself and others, through my worse situations. Over the years this has meant that I have learnt every single time from it.

It’s been coming up a lot about how I’ve been since I lost my “friends”…I was worried myself for a bit there because I was really happy to be honest,lol…Maybe I am this terrible human being…Then I started to realise, no, it’s because life before this has taught me so much and when I started to realise how little they brought to my life…because it’s was always about them…Not anybody else…That’s when I forgave myself for not being sadder.

It was interesting because my partner said to me that if they came back on their hands and knees begging for my forgiveness and I said “No…I’ve already forgiven them, but I will never be friends with any of those three ever again”.

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I had a situation a few years ago where these two girls were constantly cyber bullying me and it got to the point where I deactivated my account. I then made a new Myspace (that’s how old this story is!) and I did not put these girls back…for more than obvious reasons and I lost a LOT of “friends” because of that. I was competently gobsmacked by that, but it also proved who truly did care and who never did. All those who had unfriended me never had a conversation with me before they did it. It became very apparent to me that these people clearly put certain parts of their anatomy over actual friendships.

The funniest part I found about that situation is that over the years they’ve stopped speaking with each other, but then came back together and stopped speaking again,lol…Then one of them sent me a friends request on Facebook, no message, nothing, no apology…So I declined,lol

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The biggest reason I don’t miss them is because they never brought ANYTHING to my life, it was always about them! You can’t miss what was never there!

Life Lessons…The hardest of Lessons

This is a little different post for “Life Lessons of the Libraries” and I feel like it’s one of the hardest lessons to learn and I am learning it again…For the millionth times.

Sometimes I feel like heartbreak in a romantic relationship is more than a majority of the time, inevitable. The breaking of a friendship though can sometimes be if not just as hard, but sometimes harder than the break down of a romantic relationship. Clearly there are different variables.

I seem to be going through this with some friends who I thought I was really close with. They just seem to have cut themselves off from me and any-time that I plan to meet up with them, they keep cancelling. The biggest insult is when they’ll hang out with people I introduced them too!

I think the hardest things about these situations is you never seen them coming. You think you are really close and then suddenly you are completely blind-sided. Which is why I find friendship breakups really hard, because you very rarely see them coming. Especially when you are getting dumped for a group of people who are just horrible. Case example, Girls brother comes up to me (guys have been dumping me to be with this girl) and I feel uncomfortable talking to her brother about it. Except he says “They only like girls who can’t think for themselves”…That was the last time I saw that group. However, it’s kind of personally insulting to me to be dumped for a group like that -.- Where siblings have no respect for each other.

Just a perfect friendship?

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This was something that occurred to me over the weekend. For anyone who has a Facebook account, on the right hand side of Facebook when you first sign in, it has a “trending bar” (all the latest and most popular news from: entertainment, politics, science, etc).

However a lot of people will only ever read the leading articles headings and not the actual articles and then make these absurd comments in the comments sections. That is exactly what “bad friends” are like. They’ll read a status, listen to someone else but never actually try to “read the article” and come speak with you directly persay. Then they make comments like they know you?