I was writing a comment on a fellow bloggers post, and I wrote that I have decided to do what I wish I had done when I was younger. Only thing is, I’m not sure what I would change? Haha.
Like, as boring and as a basic bitch, as I am. I don’t really regret anything. Sure, I wish I had kids when I was younger, my body is all currently falling apart. But you know, I have had a good life. I don’t regret any of my relationships, my first serious one got me travelling, however, I don’t want to be with anyone else but my current partner. I guess I have always wanted to colour my hair red? Take some boudoir photos before my body completely falls apart. But I can’t think of anything else, lol.
But then I saw (and hopefully I find it before this is posted) a photo/quote that said that not everyone has to have a exciting life. This social pressure we have to have a exciting and interesting life, is a pressure I feel all the time. I am not ashamed to admit that I am probably the most “boring” person in my family. So I felt that, a lot, lol.
24. Write about a lesson, you’ve learned about the hard way
I think that the hardest lesson that I learnt is that it’s better to be alone, than to feel alone. When my Pa, my mums dad, died. I was in a relationship that I didn’t want to be in. I chose to stay. I didn’t want to lose anybody else. The problem was, when my Pa died, I lost probably the most positive male influence I had in my life. My partner at the time, was not a bad person, persay, but he had no backbone either.
His roommate hated my guts. I think he might be gay, and was in love with my partner at the time. My partner, had no backbone. I kept waiting for him to step up for me, he never did. I walked around the corner and found a fist in my face, from his room mate. When I told my partner about it, he said that I needed to stop making trouble.
We went out one night, and while we were waiting for the bus, there was this group of young guys who looked a little like they might be trouble. I realised after a while, that he, my partner, had gone behind me. Leaving my front vulnerable. Our mutual friend who was with us at the time, noticed this too and we started to make fun of him.
I should have broken up with him a LOT sooner than I did, but I was frightened though, I held on. Went through another 6 months of being bullied and being used as a shield -.- It’s one of the rare regrets I have in my life.
21. What three lessons do you want your children to learn from you?
For them to have some common sense. It really doesn’t seem that many have common sense these days. I have actually have a couple of scheduled posts around that topic, this week. I just find that a lot of our problems, everywhere. Are coming from just a lack of common sense.
General kindness…By general, I mean, be kind to others. But don’t necessarily just go all out on fully trusting people. Keep a little doubt to yourself, until they have proven themselves.
Enjoy your life! If things are getting too hard, take a breathe and start again tomorrow. There’s always tomorrow. You don’t owe anyone a reason why you need a break. Chances are, they’ve probably been where you are in some form or another.
Do you think there is such a thing as a ‘gendered’ brain?
I believe that we all have a bit of a gendered brain. Some just happen to have more than gender than another gender. What does it even mean to have a gendered brain? Do boys have a more “masculine” gendered brain?
Out of your family members, who are you closest to?
Maybe lame, but I am probably closest to my Mum now, these days. It used to be my Grandmother, but unfortunately she’s starting to become a bit angry. She’s kind of always been a little grumpy, but she’s started making catastrophes out of nothing. We think something happened to her, but she wont tell us what. Mum and I have gotten closer and a lot more honest with each other in the last couple of years.
I will never waste my time or my life again worrying about toxic people and toxic friendships (relationships are just a given, but I don’t see us breaking up anytime soon with my current partner. I love him and it’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had).
Gratitude and Thankfulness
If you’d like, please share a photo or a comment about something good that’s happened recently! Thanks!
I made myself take a mental health day. I haven’t felt I’ve needed one for such a long time and it’s okay to have one day every now and then.
What are the most important lesson(s) you’ve learned in life?
Listen to your gut…Who knows you better than you!
Never judge a book by it’s cover.
Instead of hating, try to understand.
How did you meet your husband/wife or significant other? How did you know he/she was “the one”?
I am not married…Yet…We have been talking about it a lot though lately. We have been together for about 3-4 years now, so it’s coming up a lot. We met online though, I went to the online dating site as dare initially and he was actually the first one I picked. My mum made me chose someone else as well to go on a date, even though I really did not like the guy. She wanted me to have choices and I was so resistant, because if it was just beginners luck…Why is that bad? I can go back online,lol…I was also SO lucky because he was starting to shut down his others profiles, so timing was perfect! Now I’ve been with him for numerous years and we are starting to get me to move in and talking about getting married.
If you could take a year-long paid sabbatical, what would you do?
If I could afford to I would travel to three places, one Disneyland, one Hobbit land in New Zealand and the other is all over Ireland. I would stay with my Gran for a bit.
What is your favorite thing to buy at a movie theater concession stand? (credit to The Haunted Wordsmith for this one)
Popcorn…I always need to have popcorn, even if I’ve had dinner beforehand and my tummy is full.
What are some Holiday Traditions you and/or your family observe in December?
One traditions that the adults in my family do now, that my Grandfather (now passed away) started. We do a secret Santa for the adults in the family and then we send out a list about what we want. Instead of wrapping it in Christmas Wrapping paper, we wrap the presents in newspaper.
With any relationship in life (whether that be romantic, friendly and family) sometimes the worse situations we go through with them, are the lessons in life that are the hardest to learn.
Throughout my life (and I am sure others as well) I have learnt the most about myself and others, through my worse situations. Over the years this has meant that I have learnt every single time from it.
It’s been coming up a lot about how I’ve been since I lost my “friends”…I was worried myself for a bit there because I was really happy to be honest,lol…Maybe I am this terrible human being…Then I started to realise, no, it’s because life before this has taught me so much and when I started to realise how little they brought to my life…because it’s was always about them…Not anybody else…That’s when I forgave myself for not being sadder.
It was interesting because my partner said to me that if they came back on their hands and knees begging for my forgiveness and I said “No…I’ve already forgiven them, but I will never be friends with any of those three ever again”.
I had a situation a few years ago where these two girls were constantly cyber bullying me and it got to the point where I deactivated my account. I then made a new Myspace (that’s how old this story is!) and I did not put these girls back…for more than obvious reasons and I lost a LOT of “friends” because of that. I was competently gobsmacked by that, but it also proved who truly did care and who never did. All those who had unfriended me never had a conversation with me before they did it. It became very apparent to me that these people clearly put certain parts of their anatomy over actual friendships.
The funniest part I found about that situation is that over the years they’ve stopped speaking with each other, but then came back together and stopped speaking again,lol…Then one of them sent me a friends request on Facebook, no message, nothing, no apology…So I declined,lol
The biggest reason I don’t miss them is because they never brought ANYTHING to my life, it was always about them! You can’t miss what was never there!
I am a BIG believer in learning something new every single day…Literally a huge believer in it, so I decided to test my theory on this. I got the idea from Dave’s Corner of the Universe … When better to do it then the month of my birthday? A whole new year, another year around the sun…sigh…lol…Although this will be coming all in one full post, I will be posting about something new that I learned that day. Whether that be about myself, someone else or just some random fact…Enjoy! Let’s learn together…
For the Month of April…
Too much Heinz spaghetti in one toastie, will explode in the sandwich toaster.
Scientologist/Scientology….BLOW MY MIND! How it’s all legal, is beyond me. Watch Louis Theroux and Leah Remini series.
I can feel the difference now when I drink coffee and when I drink black/earl grey tea. How it heightens and how coffee buzzes with my mind, which does not help anxiety. Try and stop drinking coffee for two weeks and see how you feel with that first cup of joe after two weeks.
People do NOT read the letters they are given. Then honestly expect you to give them…oh I don’t know…Their thousands of dollars school course for free, because they’ve waited till the last minute to setup their fees…Since they’ve gotten the final letter saying they’ll be taken to the debt collectors…Like that’s our fault? How surprising it is to see just SO many people NOT pay fees. I couldn’t live with it!
I have kept meaning to post this one! There is nothing more that makes me angry than someone who will try and hurt you by shaming you, publicly, and then not have the backbone to apologise, even privately! I honestly and really don’t care if you tell every other single soul on this planet “I shouldn’t have done that” You HAVE to tell ME! (Also I am aware of my bad spelling, but I was trying to fit it all in).