‘Cuse my French…Kindly Shut Up

I am not sure how many of my readers keep up with the latest Entertainment News. Recently Demi Lovato woke up from a suspected accidental overdose. I’m not Demi Lovato’s biggest fan, but saying things like “It was her choice”…Is not helpful and that’s not how addiction or mental health works. Having money means nothing, having the world at your feet means nothing, being beautiful, being young and thinking you’re invincible…Means nothing, if you don’t have the right support.

Take Katy Perry as well, not her biggest fan either. Some of her actions though, I can actually understand where she was coming from. She recently had an interview where she explained a lot of issues, including the live stream feed of herself. I don’t know anyone who actually watched it (do you know anyone who did?). Even that stream and the idea of it though seemed a little odd too me. Once she opened up, a lot more of the things she did, made sense to me.

Every type of health battle is different. So unless you have a conversation with that person, just don’t speak on matters you don’t understand. It’s kind of common sense really, well too me. This is for any health battle. If you don’t know what someones going through, breathe, take a minute and ask them. Don’t make assumptions. There might be a reason why people don’t want to tell you anything. Take Val Kilmer as an example, we still don’t know what was going on with him. Maybe there’s a reason he didn’t want to say what was going on and that’s perfectly fine, we don’t need too know.

We should just feel lucky that we don’t have to fight our battles so publicly.

❤ Please consider what you are saying before you talk with someone or about someone whose recovering ❤

This has been your weekly Public Service Announcement =P

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World Kindness Day

As the title suggests, today is World Kindness Day. So let’s talk about what we can do for others and what do you think is kindness?

Too me kindness is just being understanding and understand that every other single human person on this planet comes with a different background and different story. You may not agree, but try to at least understand. Kindness is also very important when it comes to ourselves as well. We can our own worst enemies on a lot of occasions.

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Let’s not be kind for just one day though, let’s be kind every day…It certainly feels tough to be kind in this environment. Let’s try though!

What do you do to be kind? What are your thoughts about kindness?

#ChooseKind

The Core Value

31. Core Value

My core value…This one has been such an interesting one to think/write about, because I think that I have a few different types on core values depending on the situation.

The one that I think I think is most true to my core value though is to just be kind. I have done so many tests about your personality where they ask about what do you value most. They are usually something like Kindness, Honesty, Humour, and something else, but I always chose kindness. I feel with kindness comes all those kinds of responsibility. Generally I find that if you are just kind to others, the other values just kind of come naturally.

By kindness to me that incorporates everything from physically helping others to just sitting and listening to someone. Even when they are saying something that you don’t necessarily agree with, but they seem to need to get off their chest. Sometimes the reward that comes with that as well is to finally understand why someone thinks that way they do.

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Please, stay single

There are these people that I know who clearly fooling around with each other behind their partners back. I have lost respect for these people over time and I just have very little to do with them anymore. The whole group is just a mess.

It doesn’t just bug me because they are cheating with each other, but it’s also because one of them was single when they met the other originally. They had just gotten out of an engagement and at the time the other person was married. Yet, even though there were obvious feelings between the two: Person A didn’t even leave their marriage until their partner got an amazing job ‘overseas’ and they just didn’t want to put the effort in. Which is when I really started to lose respect since their partner had given up so much to begin with. It was SUCH a cop out.

Person B then started dating nearly all of Person’s A closest friend while, at least, emotionally cheating on them all with Person A and got engaged to one of them. Then conveniently Person A marriage split up and Person B with their fiance…Coincidence.

STOP USING PEOPLE! NO ONE DESERVES THAT!

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I have a hard time not saying anything because I’m one of those people who hates injustice of any type. Which means the best that I feel like I can do is just stay away since no one else in the group seem to honestly care and they even called Perfect B “Perfect” and that they could never think of an insult good enough. So it continues.

What the actual…

What this all comes down for me is to tell people. Please, for the love of god, don’t date someone because you can’t be with the person you want too be with. Please don’t date someone because you’re lonely and you don’t think you can’t do any better…You partner doesn’t deserve that. When you start to date someone, please make sure this is what you really want. You may not be sure that you even want to date, but make sure you don’t drag someone else through it. This world is so small, they are plenty of people out there for you.

Dating someone else because you are alone or because you want to be with someone else is not a strong thing and it’s not what a strong person does….Or a good person and definitely not what “perfect” people do either. You know why? A strong and a good person knows that they are okay by themselves. They know that they are okay being alone and that they believe they will find someone, they don’t need to use anyone else. They also know the love they are getting from their family and friends is enough, or the love they have for themselves IS enough. (If it isn’t, maybe look into that…That’s a post for another day though!).

On some level I actually get it, for some people it is very hard to think of others and other people, and seeing from their point of view. Unless they are actually treated this way themselves. They they just don’t care enough to get it. Too me, personally, it also speaks on a level of having no heart and being some kind of a sociopath as well. There’s no heart or kindness to use another human being in such a way. I think there is something off about people who do that, especially people who repeatedly do it.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!lol…Love yourself and each other ❤

52 Week Grateful Challenge

2.Spouse/Significant Other?

I can’t even begin to tell you how grateful I am for my partner. He is probably one of the best things that has ever happened to me. He is just so kind and it is amazing how much of a difference that has made to my life. All of my other partners, may not have been unnecessarily unkind, and the one that kind of was, was probably more weak than unkind. No back bone can make people do incredibly cruel things, which they should still be held unaccountable for. They were just so inconsiderate and it was always about them.

It’s all the little things that he does, that just stays with me all of the time. Not making me feel bad with my anxiety, he’s been accommodating and when I don’t feel like I can do something, he never makes me feel bad about it. Because of this I feel I can trust him so much more than my other partners and he still does do things by himself. He’s not holding back on things he wants to do, just because I can’t. If it’s a movie he really wants to see, I have no problem with him seeing it by himself.

I honestly feel like this is the most mentally healthy relationship I have ever been in. The trust thing doesn’t just help me to feel like his not cheating on me (all my other partners did at some point). It also helps me trust that if I need to leave, or I suddenly realise I can’t do or go somewhere, he won’t make me feel bad for going back home. Or make me feel like that no matter how bad I’m feeling, we still have to go to the movie, dinner etc. This has helped with my anxiety and it makes me want to follow through a lot more. I am less anxious when I’m with him.

Share Your World … Week 45

Share Your World

Share Your World … Week 45

Describe your own outlook on life in seven words or less. (NOTE: does not have to be a sentence.)

Ideal realist. Goddess Warrior Sprite. Not Usual.

Where do you like to vacation?

I like to vacation somewhere, where it’s warm and I can just relax. Somewhere were all the spots to go are close and within reach, so i don’t have to go far,lol.

Candy factories (sweets or treats including chocolate) of the entire world have become one and will now be making only one kind of candy. Which kind, if you were calling the shots?

Oh wow! The power! The decisions! I would probably have to go with “Werther’s Original” candies. I have loved them my entire love. I’m not really a huge candy fan, but they are always up there!

Complete this sentence: Something that anyone can do that will guarantee my smile is… 

Just to be kind to me, genuinely kind. Not that whole I’m pretending to be kind to get something out of you. That and funny YouTube videos.

What issue IS black and white to you?

I think you should all head over to the Kindness Blog, they are a great Blog! They recently made a post (the oirignal source was from Reddit):

“Source: What issue IS black and white to you? (25 Answers to That Question)

Reddit – What issue is Black and White to you?

My readers, what issue is Black and White to you?

My Black and Issue is this and you will see at the bottom of this page one of those reasons why:

“If an animal is classified as “endangered” or at the rate it’s being killed at is potentially becoming endangered it should automatically be illegal to hunt and kill them! No matter where it’s ‘legal’ to do so, it should just automatically be illegal everywhere! To me that makes sense,lol. That’s my black and white issue =D”

The Liebster Award nomination!

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So I was nominated by the extremely lovely The Little Blog of Stuff. You should definitely all head over and check her out. It’s a sweet Blog full of reviews, book and very inspiring thoughts! So here are my questions.

1. What is your least favourite food?
Offal food! For anyone who doesn’t know what offal food, there is a good reason that it’s called “Offal Food”. It’s food like internal organs: livers, kidneys…Just to name a few!

2.How did you come up with your blog name?
Well a few probably know that I actually started this Blog as a school assignment. To break it down simply, Lolsy is one of many, many…many nicknames. The studies I was studying at the time was called “Library and Information Services” So it kind of just clocked together perfectly.

3. What is your pet-peeve?
Probably people who spread fear, mainly from seeing something on the Internet and thinking “Well it must be true then!”The other thing that is a new pet peeve of mine, is people who will comment “Who cares?” or “Is this really news”? Get a life! To some people it is interesting and it is news. We can’t be wonderfully perfect like you all the time. If is really something you don’t care about, scroll pass!

4. If, you were to be given a ticket to anywhere in the world, where would you go?
I would go to either Queensland or Disneyworld…I’m not fussed!lol

5. What is your favourite topic of conversation?
I always have a smile when I talk about my Puppy.

6. Which actor/actress would you most likely run away with?
Oh without question, Orlando Bloom, I have had a crush on him for nearly half my life now. He’s just so pretty!

7. Which TV series/ book sequel do you most enjoy?
I think that it might be easier to list which one I least enjoy!
Some TV series that I enjoy are:

Homicide Hunter
Reign
Doctor Who
(Just to name a few)

Book Series:

Anything written by Jodi Picoult
The Infernal Devices (Cassandra Clare)

8. Name one thing that you think needs to change in this world.
I really believe that people need to be kinder and just listen to people, like REALLY listen. There’s a saying that goes something along the lines of “People don’t listen with the intent to listen, most people listen with the intent to already reply”….Something like that, but it’s nothing like that,lol.

9. What do you do to unwind?
It depends what’s wrong sometimes, I can read, just lie down for a while, listen to music, have a shower, etc.

10. Do you prefer Apple or Android?
Android! (Ditto)

11. Do you like sneakers or formal shoes?
I just love shoes! How could I ever pick between the two! They are both fantastic for different reasons.