Thursday Theories – Nice

So this isn’t really a “fact” thing type blog, it’s more a curiosity thing. So “bear with”.

I was just thinking today at work. What “made” me become nice? Was it innate, did I learn it, was it force onto me, is it a gift?

Its just seems more and more like a rare trait these days. Like the other week my mum’s work colleague, her mum had just escaped from the Ukraine, and on top of all of that they LOST HER LUGGAGE! So that night we all whipped different clothing. When we tell people that story, most of us say to us a lot of other people wouldn’t. I was like, really?

Then with my streaming and social media’s, people keeping telling I am so nice and you don’t see that a lot, really?

I think it’s a normal thing to get together clothes and things you can spare, last minute to someone. If I’m having a bad day, I don’t take it out on others. Is that really not that normal?

That’s why I started to think about it. I reblocked my Dad today as well, after unblocking him, to thank him for my present he gave me for my birthday. Only to not hear anything, until yesterday, where all he wanted was my brother’s address. So I gave it too him and then he said the oddest thing “Block Time…Bye” That man child, had been blocking me this WHOLE time! He STILL thinks HE’S the victim…WTF is wrong with him?!!!!

So definitely didn’t learn my kindness from him, lol

My mum, a little bit, I guess? She treats me with little respect, like that family that have controlled my life since I was 12, and am now 38. They ruined my birthday last year, she mocked this year for being grumpy around my birthday. They disrespect my partner and I, and she says nothing. So maybe not her either.

SO WHOOOOOO! As much as I can still relate to my great grandfather, he died when I was two, lol

You know, maybe it’s the pets?! That unconditional love has got to rub off, but I see a lot of bigots with pets of some sort. Do you know that amount of times I have said “SAVE THE DOGGO!KITTY!HORSES…various other animals” lol…

SO WHAT IS IT THAT MAKES US NICE/KIND!

Rude (haha)

I don’t know if I told you all about this, I think that I did. I have an Aunt, who means well, but she does not approve of homosexuality or that I stand with trans people. She’s…Catholic? I can’t remember which one honestly. When she doesn’t approve of something, she sends you a Bible with a little message about how she reads this book when she lost.

Recently, she sent one to me. Because of my trying to help trans people. I laughed at the time, and still do. I just got peeved with one little quote.

It went something along the lines of. It doesn’t matter how much kindness you give, how much you may help others. Without God, it’s all pointless.

Basically, even if you manage to bring world peace. If you don’t believe in God, it’s worthless?

I’m sorry, I don’t have an issue with Religion. But that is totally bullshit.

#TDOV

March the 31st is Tran Days of Visibility!

During this week, on my Twitch Stream Channel. When I’ve been offline I’ve been hosting trans gender/sexual Twitch streamers that I follow.

https://tdov.org.au/

https://www.redbubble.com/people/Goshzilla/shop?ref=artist_title_name

Just be kind ya know? Like the entire LGBTQIA umbrella have fought their lives and for their rights. It’s tiring, just be kind. It’s really NOT that hard.

Have a Happy Day

I’m not sure what to write here today.

I have never personally been a huge Valentine’s Day, single or in a relationship. Honestly, the best Valentine’s I have had, are when I’m single and I’ve gotten together with other single friends. So I’ve never really been inspired to write anything “romantical”. Honestly, I was put off of Valentine’s Day by an ex friend of mine. But that shouldn’t stop putting anyone off, buying me books =D Just saying, lol. I am spending my Valentines, looking after an injured partner…I love you, you total duffa, lol

I just hope every day has a little bit of goodness in it for you ❤ Even on the bad ones.

Today, I have made up boxes for the neighbours who helped search for Travie. I actually did want to do something like this, when we got him back. But you know, life, lol. Think about doing something a little different this year for Valentines Day. Also I just really like our neighbours, they are lovely. Very chatty (which I am not) but very lovely.

Personally, I’m more a fan of the dark and miserable romances, where they don’t really end up “together”. You know sometimes I think something is wrong with me, lol

World Kindness Day

I don’t know what to write here honestly. I feel like I’m writing to the already kind converted. So what could I write about, that you don’t already know about?

You all know how to be kind, you are all kind people!

Our borders in South Australia, are about to open up to the other states again. It’s really quiet scary. I am choosing to continue to wear a mask in public, good hygiene. We have done really well, but…BUT … All it takes is one person, and all that good work.

Why I bring this up, is because, we’re all going to have to do the best we can do for ourselves and others when the borders are reopened…Are we ready? Physically, maybe…Mentally…Not so much.

Maybe this year, because we are all such kind people, if I do say so myself. We relearn how to be kind to ourselves again. My mum actually reminded herself this week, she needs to go back to having some sort of fun again. There’s literally nothing you can do for people with dementia, you just have to hope that they have as many good days as they can.


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Tough Love

Have people forgotten about this all together?

Yarrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhh … I’m all about love and peace, but not when you’re enabling others to spread misinformation, or encouraging toxic habits.

My mum asked me the other what could she say to someone who kept sending her fake news about the COVID medications. I said just simply say “Please stop sending me this stuff”…Nope…So I said play it dumb…Nope…So I said “tell her to fuck off then”. Then later on, this group of people meet up at meditation (irony) once a month. Where my Mum said the majority of them, don’t like what she’s doing…So guess what they said to her when she brought it up…Nothing.

Now this woman’s DOCTOR son, is “threatening” to ban her from seeing his kids. I don’t blame him. She’s going around accusing people like her own son, of injecting people with fetuses. She wants to play victim?

It’s sad that her own son…whose a Doctor…Has to put his foot down, but no one else is willing to do it. She still thinks that she’s in the right, because no one is telling her how wrong she is.

You can absolutely talk to people, disagree, without being rude or unpleasant. You sometimes though, have to say SOMETHING!

A Great Big World

Be Kind…

Let’s share how we can be kind to others, and I find a lot of times that when you are kind to others, you feel good within yourself. Especially during these times of such uncertainty, just being kind is so simple. The KPI’s of Kindness.

K – Kindness

P – Proactive

I – Intelligence

When I say ‘Intelligence’, I don’t mean Einstein necessarily, I mean more common sense type of intelligence. I do believe that there are different kinds of intelligence.

I got my flu vaccination today, so I am actually a little bit tired. So hopefully I’ll be able to write something actually useful, haha

Being kind is really very simple.

Apologise when you get something wrong, don’t be ashamed of it. It happens, it really does show was kind of person you are when you can admit you got something wrong…Like I did, last night, haha. I thought a TERF was comparing themselves to Rosa Parks, and they said Rosa Freedman (who is definitely NOT like Rosa Parks). I apologised. It felt right and I didn’t feel any better or worse, cause it was just he RIGHT thing to do. I was wrong and I owned it.

ENJOY the people you care about and their successes! Embrace it. If you don’t care, or your not able to that day…FOR THE LOVE OF GOD…Do not fake it! Wait, until you can be real with them. Trust me, the big thing that pisses me off about one of my now ex-friends. Is realising that the only times she was happy for me, was when I was miserable. I spent over half my life being friends with someone who called me “sister”, only happy when I was sad.

If you can’t think of something kind or nothing, reply to a person with something educational instead and “drop one of these”. You don’t have to say anything some times to be kind.

Then the others, lol:

  • Make some food for your neighbors.
  • If you grow flowers and you feel willing, bunch some flowers together.
  • Send someone random a “Hope you’re well” BEFORE they write that annoying post “I bet you don’t care enough to retweet this”…I seriously hate it, lol
  • Believe in what your saying, before you say it. The amount of people who “blame” others for having to use and hide behind a anon account because of the “threats” Annoys the poop out of me. I believe in what I’m saying and the most extreme I’ve had is another cis women wish rape on myself and the women in my family. I still don’t hide.
  • Get to know yourself, when you TRULY know yourself. Then you find it very hard to ignore things that bother you.
  • Being kind is sometimes telling someone something they don’t want to hear.

The Category is … Kindness

I am currently binge watching season 3 in Pose. 15 minutes in and I am bawling and loving it all over again. For those who don’t know (and I don’t know how you don’t know ~.^)

Pose (stylized as POSE) is an American drama television series about New York City’s African-American and Latino LGBTQ and gender-nonconforming drag ball culture scene in the 1980s, early 1990s in the second season, and the mid-to-late 1990s in the third season. It’s one of the first television series, to be mostly with trans gender actors and staff. It’s amazing!

In 24 hours though, I’ve kept being reminded of the little kindnesses that can make someone’s day.

The first episode of season 3 Pose, is about the family come back together to watch O.J. Simpson on the run. I love the POSE family, haha.

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THE MODERN ATHEIST…? — Here’s A Thing…

New Atheism appeared to offer moral clarity, it emphasized intellectual honesty and it embraced scientific truths about the nature and workings of reality. It gave me immense hope to know that in a world overflowing with irrationality, there were clear-thinking individuals with sizable public platforms willing to stand up for what’s right and true — […]

THE MODERN ATHEIST…? — Here’s A Thing…

Goes to show really that not having a belief, or not being Religious. Doesn’t make you automatically a good person. If you’re a good person, you are a good person. End of story.

Kindness

Just be kind while you’re ALIVE people…Not so hard is it? Then no one has to argue because you served (when one had too) for a couple of years, but spent the rest of your life being a horrible person.

Too me and my brain, it’s not that hard, lol.

I had one grandfather serve and kill Nazis. He also spent the rest of his life, torturing his own children and his wife in different ways. My great grandfather also served, and I can’t stop bragging what a great man he was. All I can say about that one GF, he served in the War. Which, is a good thing, but so did everyone else’s grand fathers, and they managed to still be kind people (well not all of them).

Coming back to that video of the police surrounding the that statue of Churchill. Churchill didn’t actually win the War, the Americans did, with that horrible bomb. There have also been rumours that Churchill knew the planes were coming to Pearl Harbor, didn’t warn anyone, because he knew that that would force America to join.

It’s simple, be a kind person while you’re alive, all the time, and no problems. Remember when Chadwick Boseman died? Didn’t serve in the Army, yet, he was revered because he was KIND person, ALL the time.