Tough Love

Have people forgotten about this all together?

Yarrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhh … I’m all about love and peace, but not when you’re enabling others to spread misinformation, or encouraging toxic habits.

My mum asked me the other what could she say to someone who kept sending her fake news about the COVID medications. I said just simply say “Please stop sending me this stuff”…Nope…So I said play it dumb…Nope…So I said “tell her to fuck off then”. Then later on, this group of people meet up at meditation (irony) once a month. Where my Mum said the majority of them, don’t like what she’s doing…So guess what they said to her when she brought it up…Nothing.

Now this woman’s DOCTOR son, is “threatening” to ban her from seeing his kids. I don’t blame him. She’s going around accusing people like her own son, of injecting people with fetuses. She wants to play victim?

It’s sad that her own son…whose a Doctor…Has to put his foot down, but no one else is willing to do it. She still thinks that she’s in the right, because no one is telling her how wrong she is.

You can absolutely talk to people, disagree, without being rude or unpleasant. You sometimes though, have to say SOMETHING!

A Great Big World

Be Kind…

Let’s share how we can be kind to others, and I find a lot of times that when you are kind to others, you feel good within yourself. Especially during these times of such uncertainty, just being kind is so simple. The KPI’s of Kindness.

K – Kindness

P – Proactive

I – Intelligence

When I say ‘Intelligence’, I don’t mean Einstein necessarily, I mean more common sense type of intelligence. I do believe that there are different kinds of intelligence.

I got my flu vaccination today, so I am actually a little bit tired. So hopefully I’ll be able to write something actually useful, haha

Being kind is really very simple.

Apologise when you get something wrong, don’t be ashamed of it. It happens, it really does show was kind of person you are when you can admit you got something wrong…Like I did, last night, haha. I thought a TERF was comparing themselves to Rosa Parks, and they said Rosa Freedman (who is definitely NOT like Rosa Parks). I apologised. It felt right and I didn’t feel any better or worse, cause it was just he RIGHT thing to do. I was wrong and I owned it.

ENJOY the people you care about and their successes! Embrace it. If you don’t care, or your not able to that day…FOR THE LOVE OF GOD…Do not fake it! Wait, until you can be real with them. Trust me, the big thing that pisses me off about one of my now ex-friends. Is realising that the only times she was happy for me, was when I was miserable. I spent over half my life being friends with someone who called me “sister”, only happy when I was sad.

If you can’t think of something kind or nothing, reply to a person with something educational instead and “drop one of these”. You don’t have to say anything some times to be kind.

Then the others, lol:

  • Make some food for your neighbors.
  • If you grow flowers and you feel willing, bunch some flowers together.
  • Send someone random a “Hope you’re well” BEFORE they write that annoying post “I bet you don’t care enough to retweet this”…I seriously hate it, lol
  • Believe in what your saying, before you say it. The amount of people who “blame” others for having to use and hide behind a anon account because of the “threats” Annoys the poop out of me. I believe in what I’m saying and the most extreme I’ve had is another cis women wish rape on myself and the women in my family. I still don’t hide.
  • Get to know yourself, when you TRULY know yourself. Then you find it very hard to ignore things that bother you.
  • Being kind is sometimes telling someone something they don’t want to hear.

The Category is … Kindness

I am currently binge watching season 3 in Pose. 15 minutes in and I am bawling and loving it all over again. For those who don’t know (and I don’t know how you don’t know ~.^)

Pose (stylized as POSE) is an American drama television series about New York City’s African-American and Latino LGBTQ and gender-nonconforming drag ball culture scene in the 1980s, early 1990s in the second season, and the mid-to-late 1990s in the third season. It’s one of the first television series, to be mostly with trans gender actors and staff. It’s amazing!

In 24 hours though, I’ve kept being reminded of the little kindnesses that can make someone’s day.

The first episode of season 3 Pose, is about the family come back together to watch O.J. Simpson on the run. I love the POSE family, haha.

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THE MODERN ATHEIST…? — Here’s A Thing…

New Atheism appeared to offer moral clarity, it emphasized intellectual honesty and it embraced scientific truths about the nature and workings of reality. It gave me immense hope to know that in a world overflowing with irrationality, there were clear-thinking individuals with sizable public platforms willing to stand up for what’s right and true — […]

THE MODERN ATHEIST…? — Here’s A Thing…

Goes to show really that not having a belief, or not being Religious. Doesn’t make you automatically a good person. If you’re a good person, you are a good person. End of story.

Kindness

Just be kind while you’re ALIVE people…Not so hard is it? Then no one has to argue because you served (when one had too) for a couple of years, but spent the rest of your life being a horrible person.

Too me and my brain, it’s not that hard, lol.

I had one grandfather serve and kill Nazis. He also spent the rest of his life, torturing his own children and his wife in different ways. My great grandfather also served, and I can’t stop bragging what a great man he was. All I can say about that one GF, he served in the War. Which, is a good thing, but so did everyone else’s grand fathers, and they managed to still be kind people (well not all of them).

Coming back to that video of the police surrounding the that statue of Churchill. Churchill didn’t actually win the War, the Americans did, with that horrible bomb. There have also been rumours that Churchill knew the planes were coming to Pearl Harbor, didn’t warn anyone, because he knew that that would force America to join.

It’s simple, be a kind person while you’re alive, all the time, and no problems. Remember when Chadwick Boseman died? Didn’t serve in the Army, yet, he was revered because he was KIND person, ALL the time.

World Kindness Day

What can you do for others and just as importantly, for yourself as well:

Find some way to donate to a charity for the under privileged. For example Kmarts – Wishing Tree

Have a bath, maybe a glass of wine (or not, might make you feel tired).

Compliment a stranger (but don’t make it creepy).

If you’re on Twitter follow the New Zealand #PureKindness hashtag

Look in that mirror and tell yourself … out loud … You ARE beautiful!

Don’t just drive past that cat, make sure it’s not actually lost and miles away from it’s home ❤

Be Kind to your body.

Consider taking up knitting, and knitting for the animals! – WIRES

Write a letter to someone telling them how much they’ve influenced or improved your life. Your choice whether or not you send it.

Defend someone on twitter!

Buy that nice top on sale.

Don’t expect.

Being Kind costs nothing (or very little) and is calming to the mind.

Where’d You Go…Kindness

Feels like this song relates a lot to Kindness and where did it go? I’m crying now,lol. I was also REALLY lazy over this past weekend with blogging. Just a lot going on.

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Where’d you go?
I miss you so
Seems like it’s been forever
That you’ve been gone
She said, “Some days I feel like shit”
Some days I wanna quit, and just be normal for a bit”
I don’t understand why you have to always be gone
I get along but the trips always feel so long
And, I find myself tryna stay by the phone
‘Cause your voice always helps me when I feel so alone
But I feel like an idiot, workin’ my day around the call
But when I pick up I don’t have much to say
So, I want you to know it’s a little fucked up
That I’m stuck here waitin’, at times debatin’
Tellin’ you that I’ve had it with you and your career
Me and the rest of the family here singing “Where’d you go?”
I miss you so
Seems like it’s been forever
That you’ve been gone
Where’d you go?
I miss you so,
Seems like it’s been forever
That you’ve been gone
Please come back home.
You know the place where you used to live,
Used to barbeque up burgers and ribs,
Used to have a little party every Halloween with candy by the pile,
But now, you only stop by every once in a while,
Shit, I find myself just fillin’ my time,
Anything to keep the thought of you from my mind,
I’m doin’ fine, I plan to keep it that way,
You can call me if you find you have somethin’ to say,
And I’ll tell you, I want you to know it’s a little fucked up,
That I’m stuck here waitin’, at times debatin’,
Tellin’ you that I’ve had it with you and your career,
Me and the rest of the family here singing, “Where’d you go?
I miss you so,
Seems like it’s been forever,
That you’ve been gone.
Where’d you go?
I miss you so,
Seems like it’s been forever,
That you’ve been gone,
Please come back home
I want you to know it’s a little fucked up,
That I’m stuck here waitin’, no longer debatin’,
Tired of sittin’ and hatin’ and makin’ these excuses,
For while you’re not around, and feeling so useless,
It seems one thing has been true all along,
You don’t really know what you got ’til it’s gone,
I guess I’ve had it with you and your career,
When you come back I won’t be here and you’ll can sing it
Where’d you go?
I miss you so,
Seems like it’s been forever,
That you’ve been gone
Where’d you go?
I miss you so,
Seems like it’s been forever,
That you’ve been gone

Please come back home

Share Your World 13/07/2020

Share Your World…07/13/2020

Questions:

What song always gets you out on the dance floor?

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Boney M. – Rasputin
Actually all of Boney M’s songs

What’s your favorite sleeping position?

When I can, I love to sleep on my tummy. Either with my arms under my tummy (usually in Winter), or (usually in summer) my arms above my head.

If you could snap your fingers and instantly make the world better, what would you do?

Well, I’d stop the TERFs for one (I really have to stop interacting with them, they are dumb! Especially that ones that it’s okay for black lesbians to discriminate Hint, I don’t give a damn about your skin colour, when you are hurting people). I would make people just stop illogically fearing so much!

What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done, and why did you do it?

I have not yet, done the scariest thing I need to do for myself. I have not been on a plane yet, with all my newly “acquired” anxiety issues. Being trapped on a plane, with all my issues. Is the height of scary for me. I think once I’ve been on a plane, and it all goes fine (which it will). That’ll be great!


Gratitude Moment (optional)

Please feel free to share something uplifting from your life!  

Gratitude-and-Appreciation

When I got made at some transphobic people on Twitter. One of my friends said to me “IStandWithLauren”, and that made me cry. There have just suddenly popped up all these transphobes, especially during Pride Month. It feels like there are so many more of them, then us.

Dear Melania Trump,

I don’t care about your porn past, because quiet frankly we don’t need to bring it up. From your birther comments about Obama’s, resulting in Malia and Sasha themselves, receiving death threats. Up until current day. You haven’t actually done anything kind, everything you’ve done is cruel and toxic and all “ME, ME ME”. That’s what I care about. That you went to tv and put Malia and Sasha in harms way, and have you apologised, yet? Nope. You, instead, went BACK onto tv and said how you’re the most bullied person in the world.

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