Adults, we need to talk.

I don’t know how many people saw recently about a parent complaining that the childrens’ bridal costume was offence because of child brides. The store took it down. I get child brides are a problem and no one has said that it’s not a “real” thing. We need to stop though putting adult issues on little kids. I sincerely hope that that parent did not tell their child that. Let them have their imaginations. I mean this for ANY adult, putting adult issues onto their children.

I mean this for any adult. I mean ANY. I saw recently having these dolls were you can swap heads, sort of like change gender, change hair styles. You know, kind of like a normal doll really,lol. If I could have swapped my barbies head, I probably would have. I also though don’t agree with parents who buy the dolls to force gender anything on a child. What if their child is straight?lol…I guess I don’t like extreme on any side. I don’t think it’s appropriate to force a child to live the “lifestyle” because you want.

I have a friend who wont buy her daughter anything pink, or any girl toys. Because she wants to bring her child up “gender neutral. What if her daughter likes pink though? If you’re gay, you are gay. If you’re straight, you are straight. No amount of forcing onto a child, changes that. My brother and I played barbies, he was the girl and I was the Ken and Aladdin doll. I was also the one who played the male cars, and he played the girls. He’s gay, I’m not,lol. I feel like we’re getting to an age where children might start to feel ashamed to “come out” as straight, as well as gay.

Let kids be kids. It’s okay to have both “boy” and “girl” toys.

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30 Days of Gratitude…Days 8 – 14

(Well this one shall be very interesting since for half of it I’ll be at a family reunion).

Day 8: Alone – My mum is gone all weekend so this means that I have the entire weekend to myself! So far it’s been bliss (mind you though I’ve had to do homework all day). One of the things that I love at being home alone for a weekend by myself is the absolute solitude. Don’t get me wrong, living with my Mum isn’t all bad. Sometimes though you do a couple of days to yourself, so you can regather yourself back together. My mum has this habit of coming home and as soon as she walks through the door is complains. Sometimes, especially on bad days I actually dread her coming home because I know she’s going to complain about something and it makes me feel worse. I am grateful to have these rare moments alone.

Day 9: Study – I have finally managed to hand in a huge project and it was a huge effort to put since it was a topic I was not interested in and it took forever. Pretty much every spare day I had was taken up with it. This entire weekend I spent working on it and I have a test I really needed to study for. The reason I am grateful for my studies though is because not only is it helping me get into the career of my dreams. I am learning different things that help me in my work. At the moment we are learning how to make web Dewey numbers, every section of Dewey that I’ve learnt I’ve been able to then help customers out where I work. Sometimes work is busy so I don’t really have time stand back and learn.

Day 10: Drama Free: So there I was thinking what am I grateful for, because nothing really happened today…but there is something to be grateful in that alone…Nothing…Only two weeks ago I was angry beyond comprehension and my ex messing me about was beyond horrible. He made me feel worthless and the pain he had and was putting me through meant nothing to him. Like he didn’t care whether I was dead or alive and then he speaks so condescendingly to me….To NOT have anything like that in my life, is calming and beautiful.

Day 11: Single-hood – So I had a HUGE test today on my toughest subject. After the tests on this subject, my brain is completely fried and I fall asleep where ever I am. It was in this moment that I’m grateful that I don’t have children and I can rest easy. I’m also grateful because though by the time I have children I will be an expert on the subject, have a good job because of my studies and be able to comfortably provide for my children.

Day 12: My bed – I know this seems like an odd one, but I am very grateful to have a bed that I can get into a night and feel safe at night. I can dream at night, feeling safe with a roof over my head and safe in my bed.

Day 13: Brother – My brother came back today to visit us as we going on a family reunion trip this weekend. The reason I am grateful for my brother isn’t because he’s done anything amazing for me. He’s done great things for me, but the reason I am grateful to have the brother that I do is because he reminds me constantly what a MAN is. My brother is a Drag Queen, and a seriously good one at that too. He has won many Australia awards for the work that he had done. While I have all these “straight manly men” telling me that a man is only a man if he has a beard, or if he has big shoulders…My 6’4′ gangly brother is being a man, by being who he truly is. He is a constant reminder that a man is not made by what is on his face (neither Steve McQueen or James Dean had a beard can I just say too) or what he hides behind. A man is a man because he has the strength to be who he truly is. THAT’S a man!

Day 14: Family – By the time you read this I will be with my family at our family reunion. I LOVE my family we are all so different but we love each so much. It’s our differences that hold us together. A round up on the “labels” of people that will be at this reunions are: gay, straight, religious, athletic, creative, intellectual, spiritual. Yet, I can guarantee that we will have the most amazing time. From all of my other friends I know how incredibly lucky that I am too have the family (mothers side) that I do…My Dad’s side, don’t even talk to each other.

The Single Womans Blogging challenge Day 21-28

Here is the last group of the Single Woman’s Blogging Challenge and I nearly forgot to do it! It’s been a great experience, it’s been giving me a reason to continuously Blog and I’ve let you in the Blog world know things about myself that I don’t think I’ve even told my friends about.

Anyone who is interested in taking up this challenge (I think guys could do this as well, that’s just me) should check out this link (I don’t know what I’ll do with myself now) :

 

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22)   What fictional character in a movie, tv show, or book do you identify with and why?

Oh my goodness this is a tough one! I love the fictional word (for those who couldn’t guess) and there are so many different fictional characters I relate too. I also feel that I’ve related to certain different characters at different times.  I relate to movies/books like The Hobbit, Lord of the Rings just because a lot of people agree that that would be the world for me! Or a place like Narnia, I guess characters that come from a feudal type of world…but with much better health facilities, lol. I guess I don’t relate to a character, but more I relate to the characters in a particular type of world.

23)   Talk about a moment when you got annoyed with a married friend, a person in a relationship, or a person with kids (Be honest! No judgment!)

I am constantly getting annoyed! I don’t know many people who make me want a relationship or to be a mother to be honest. I see so many bad parents and people who are constantly cheating or are in relationships for the wrong reasons. There are one or two couples that make me go “Awww” but they are very few. As for parents…Damn some of them are SO bad! I literally will tell my partners that they never have to worry about getting myself pregnant on purpose and then I go into the horror stories. Some of these parents are my best contraceptive, lol

24)   If you could relive ONE day of your life, what would it be? And would you change anything?

Once again there are so many that I’m not sure I could ever choose. There are two that I wish I could change in particular. One would be I would have stayed longer in the room when my great grandfather was dying (I was only two and seeing him hooked up to the machine freaked me out). The other would be there is one person in particular that I would tell them just how much I loved them instead of being so frightened and assuming that they knew. Being older and wiser, although I know they know that I love them, they will never understand how much and why and now I’m not really in a position to tell them.

25)   Describe a moment when you “paid it forward.” What happened and how did it feel?

I feel like I am always paying it forward, someone does something friendly or unexpectedly friendly for me and this puts me in a good mood that I go and do something for someone else.

26)   Name a song that makes you cry every time you hear it and why

The song that gets me every single time without fail is from the “Phantom of the Opera” and it’s called “Wishing you were somehow here again”. It reminds me of those who have passed on before me and who I miss…Because I always wish that they were still here.

27)   Talk about something that you really, really, really love about yourself.

I have a hard couple of years of extreme self-doubt, but the thing I love about myself the most is my loyalty. I am discovering how rare this attribute actually is. Even when I am completely down on myself I am so happy for anyone else that I care about and will always help and support in what ways that I can. It shocks me how many girls will wake up in a bitchy mood and just go “Oh I’m going to be a bitch today because that’s the way I woke up” (it also shocks me just how many guys worship these girls too).

28)   Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc.

Definitely love! I had never had a serious relationship until I met my first serious boyfriend at the age of 21. I had had boyfriends, but they’d only last a couple of months, I have no idea why I had no interest in relationships during high school, I just didn’t I guess. So what do I do for the first time I fall in love? I don’t just go and date some local boy, oh no I had to go to the extreme and fall in love with someone from a completely different country. It was hugely rewarding though, although the first time I went over my ex went to the wrong terminal…For about an hour I was panicking that I had been stood up in a different country! lol…We ended up being together for 3 years and we are still really good friends.