#LetsTalk

I am going to have to start off with not only a trigger warning, but reveal a little about myself…A faux pas about myself if you will.

I watch UK (United Kingdom) soap operas…I know…It’s tragic! Please do not hate me…

There’s one in particular, Coronation Street, that has been absolutely moving lately. One of the main loved male characters David was raped by another male. Another character Aidan killed himself and now they are dealing with the ramifications of that. It wasn’t actually clear that Aidan had killed himself. The last episode was of him crying at the end, but you don’t see any bottles of pills or anything like that.

Although the episodes have been upsetting since. It’s been great in the respect that they are bringing men’s issues to light. Men do get raped, men do struggle with mental anxiety and sometimes even more so than women! If you follow the hashtags #Let’sTalk and #ItOkayNotToBeOkay…You can find more about it. I am so happy that they did these story lines. I do believe that men tend to struggle with mental health issues worse than women, mainly because of whole “manly” thing.

*Please Know Men* It’s alright to talk…If you trying to talk and you don’t think your friends will let you…Get yourself some better friends and reach out! #ItsOkayNotToBeOkay

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Big Little Lies

There have been some seriously amazing tv shows this year. I have to say that I was so extra happy to see that Nicole Kidman won her Emmy for Big Little Lies. I loved the show and I loved how uncomfortable I was watching Nicole suffer at the hands of tv husband Perry (played by Alexander Skarsgard). It really brought home some “today” issues. People are going through this right this second, as you read this, someone out there is suffering at the hands of their partner. The amount of times I wanted to go into the screen and just pull Alexander off of her.

As I mentioned above, there have been some seriously tv shows out there this year. I think it’s almost like it’s the year of the tv! I highly recommend it. Now its my turn to watch the “Handmaid’s Tale”! Apparently I will be horrified!

Education

Look…I LOVE Australia we are very…very…very lucky, but sometimes people just make me want to cringe.

Over the weekend we had Fathers Day as you might have seen my posts over the weekend…Of course the mere mention of some people wanting to call it “Special Persons’ Day” has some people in a meltdown…Like a literal melt down … and it was a tad embarrassing … You see while they were talking about how they are being discriminated against (How…I don’t know…You’d have to ask them…)

There was something happening in Myanmar 

 

Birthday Woes

Not so much woes…Just annoyances really. Not even really annoyance, just life happening.

My birthday is just in under a month away and it’s actually on a Saturday, so its not a “important birthday”, but because it’s on a Saturday, so I’d like to do something cool. I was thinking of having a games night…

None of that is the actual problem though…

The actual problem is at least half the group…have all broken up with each other, and I would consider myself a good friend to both parties. The other issue is none of them are getting back together, because within about two weeks to a month of the different breakups, one side was already in a new relationship. One can’t stop talking about her new partner, none of us have met him and she has no pictures of him on her Facebook, and they are already engaged. The other broke and the guys best-friend and his ex were dating within a month and they JUST had to make it “official” on Facebook straight away…Why…You’d have to ask them.

So I’m in a tad of a dilemma … Do I just invite them all and let them work it out, or another idea I had was to have a girls night and then a separate birthday party?

Day One

Today is a kind of a new day for me. It terms of my job, I am going to be doing the exact same job, but just in a different location for at least the next month, with more hours and I am feeling just as anxious, as if I was starting a new job. That’s the problem with a new location, I don’t know the layout of the building, even though they have a great map. I still don’t know where everything is. So it’s a little scary, I’m sure that it’ll be fine…Just those “first day” nerves.

Those “Hairy” issues

I’m just going to put this out there, if you feel a need to send death threats because a lady chooses to have armpit hair…I think you’ll find you are the one with the issues, not the person with armpit hair.

Lola Kirke gets death threats for armpit hair

 

Nervouness

I had a job interview today for a job that I really want. Getting a Library job around here is SO tough. Once people are in one, they tend to stay in Libraries for life. So to get any foot in, can take years…Literally years…It’s taken me over a year just to get this interview! I have Certificates and all sorts of things, I was volunteering, but I had to stop because it clashed with my paid work too much.

One of the other horrible things about living in a small town, dreams jobs are hard to come by. I have considered doing something else on the side, but what do you do?!

Barbie

Straight to the point.

So last week there was a massive Ho Ha about Amy Schumer playing the Iconic “Barbie” doll. Although I think she isn’t playing actual Barbie, just a Barbie in a Barbie world.

Once again though it’s brought up a lot of “real body” issues. I HATE that term and I hate that people will bring it up because of their own insecurities. I don’t actually like Amy Schumer (she just isn’t my kind of funny) but some of the comments about her were really gross. They honestly proved her points as well. There are both tall and skinny, chubby and short, REAL bodies, that are perfectly healthy bodies. They DO exist. The guys in my family, for example, are all tall and skinny, and are perfectly healthy. Yet people think it’s appropriate to send me messages to ask if they’re alright, they don’t look like they’ve been eating. Stop with the “Real Body” shame. if there are people who are living, breathing, human body shapes, they are, in fact real.

The other issue that I have is blaming Barbie for body issues. I feel like saying “Duh, she’s unrealistic” she’s a 20cm doll, she is actually not real. I want to say if you are basing your body appearance on a non-living plastic thing, maybe you should be looking deeper? Maybe question the people you are allowing around your life instead. Barbie’s not putting a gun to anyone’s head. There were aspects of my Barbies “life” that I wish were mine. That was more to do with they were Rock-stars, and one of them was only allowed to eat junk food, if she ate vegetables she would die! How many parents are actually telling their children “You should look like Barbie?” If they are, don’t blame the doll, blame your parents. Barbie, for me, was able to live a life I wasn’t able too.

There is not a single doll out there that is realistic! Even the new Barbies they have been made to be more “realistic”. They are dolls, to help you create an imagination with, not for you to base your appearance on. How about we teach children to use their imagination rather than their image? What if you buy a child a short chubby doll and they grow up tall and skinny and they feel bad about themselves because they didn’t turn out short and chubby, who do you blame then?

As adults we need to stop pushing our issues onto our children. It’s time for the adults to stop focusing on image, because that’s where the children are getting it from.

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I DID IT!!!

Keeping Faith – Jodi Picoult

Sometimes there comes along a book and when you start to read it, you realise that you are just never going to be able to finish. Now before I start this I just want to say that if you start reading a book, even by your favourite author, and you realise you cannot read it, then by all means PLEASE put it down. Never force yourself to read a book that you are just not going to enjoy.

I have literally had this book for years and have not finished it until this year, well, this weekend. It was one of the first books that I bought by Jodi Picoult, I had become a fan of hers. Keeping Faith first came out in 1999 (can you believe it!).

I still had my personal issues, but Jodi Picoult is such a fantastic writer! I can’t really fault her, she does a lot of research, to make sure she gets it all correct. I love how she tells things from different points of view.

To break the “story down” so to speak. The story is about Faith, literally, the theme of the story, and the name of the main character. Faith is a 7 year old girl, the daughter of a recent broken home and after an accident, she starts seeing “her guard”. An invisible friend who starts to help Faith perform “miracles”. The little girl is suddenly thrown into the spotlight, with a custody battle ensuing. The story is about those who do believe and those who don’t, and those who listen to our children, and those who don’t.

I would give this book a 4 out of 5 books. The main reason I went with this is because I felt like the guy who I’m assuming (you know that saying) is supposed to be the non-believer kind. I felt like he wasn’t very strong in his “non-believing”. Not too say that he just fell to his knees and started to believe, he didn’t start Believing. I think it comes from having a few very strong willed Atheist friends, they wouldn’t just fall over for a pretty face so quickly. Not that there’s anything wrong with being an Atheist. They just wouldn’t,lol

2016 … The year to be offended? Or not offended enough?

This post was inspired by something I was kind of involved with over the weekend. Mainly seeing the same saying coming up “2016…The Year to be offended by everything” People who were saying this were inspired by this post I found on Facebook.

It’s probably a phrase that most people are familiar with. Now what was cracking me up was all the comments *mental note: Stop reading the comments*…I was literally laughing through the comments, they run through from everything racism to how humans are superior to animals, to heated debate if Nala is a Queen or a Princess.

I know there are issues out there that are completely serious and people should “educate themselves” about *another phrase from 2016*. However, sometimes I think getting upset over topics like these, my comment “You all don’t know how to Disney”, detract from actual important issues. It just doesn’t seem to me to be proactive. Some things, to me, just need to stay fun. You need to have fun and good times, so you have the strength to fight for what matters. You can’t fight all the time, it takes too much out of you.

Plus, Nala was totally a Princess…Did you see any other male Lions around other than Scar? If you say Scar could be her father, we totally cannot be friends! =P