What do you do after?

I think one of the most difficult things about a break up and what you do afterwards, is, what do you do with all the gifts afterwards? If you’re going to keep them, or anything, how long do you hold on, and how do you determine which things are items that you want to hold onto?

letting-go-breakup

I had one ex who had kept…well pretty much everything…I am always wary of a person who has SO many things of their past relationship. That that person could literally walk back into the door and it was like they were never gone. I think what was also a red flag was when my ex told me that he had left angry, which had meant he had to go back and get all of her things, clothing, empty paint bottles, even some adult toys. That is having far too many things of your ex’s. You have to let at least some things go.

However, I also think it’s okay to keep a couple of things, but it all depends on the individual. Some people do have trouble letting go and will use the items left behind as a way to keeping holding on. I once had a box that had bits and bobs and over the years it’s gotten less and less as I’ve thrown out more and more. Some of the things that I have held onto are items that are hopeless hopes that my ex’s weren’t complete douche-bags, and that I hadn’t made such horrible choices.

I think the weirdest thing I have ever seen an ex hold onto was the adult toy. For various reasons, firstly is just crept me out. His ex girlfriend bought it for herself, so he didn’t even buy it for her, she bought it for her. The reason they broke up was because she was constantly cheating on him. How could you take a adult toy, without knowing whether or not she used with those others? That and it’s just gross. His friends know all about this particular toy and seemed almost shocked when asked if I had ever used it and I said “HELL TO THE NO!”…Are they kidding?

¬†Have you kept anything from a past relationship? Only feel comfortable sharing if you want, if you have, why? Do you have an issue with current partners keeping items from an ex? What’s the weirdest thing an ex or yourself has ever kept?

Cravings

I really do love it when a random thought hits my brain sometimes it’s kind of like:

 Brain, Simpson

Any-ways, I was reading a few reviews on some really big movies over the weekend and I saw the same “complaint” about how, even though these movies have been proving really successful…”Hollywood can’t come up with original”.

Then seeing this over and over, and although I agree, and realising that I don’t even mind because I enjoy these movies so much. I started to think to myself, most of the movies coming out are either:

a) reminiscent of my childhood,
b) are “simple” and by that I mean, they have big bangs and bad guys vs good guys.

Then it occurred to me, maybe that’s it? Maybe that’s why these “unoriginal” movies are doing so well? Maybe we’re all craving more simplicity in our lives? A reminder of when time was more simple? I don’t know about you all, but I’ve never noticed a really annoying trend, where everything is bad these days, and on the great big grand scale of things they are really not bad things. When you think about these “bad things” you think to yourself, if that’s the biggest complaint in your life, you have it pretty darn good.