Goodbye too you…

I realised the other day you can’t miss someone if they never brought anything to your life. I keep waiting for the moment where I feel sad and cry but it doesn’t seem to be happening…That’s fine.

It’s alright…It really is…

When you realise someone never really brought anything to your life, it’s then that you start to let them go.

It’s okay not to be sad, it’s okay to realise someone you cared about was not a very nice person. It’s alright to not miss them at all. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, it doesn’t mean you are emotionless or heartless. They were just, as my Gran would say, “not part of your tribe”.

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I’m just going to add another link here, that is not in the video below:

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This will also be the last time I mention my ex-friends. I think I’ve been in shock. I will let you know as well, this Vlog goes on for a while. Be Prepared!

 

Lords Name in Vain

If you have been doing what these people have been doing and you STILL have “God”, Peace or Love in your various “Bios” Please delete your accounts now!

“The man who received death threats for taking his wive’s surname”

You are NOT a follower of God or anything that is supposed to be peace and love. Now I am not a religious person, I’m more of a spiritual person. I do not believe for one moment that God’s thing is to send death threats and threaten infertility on a couple because a man wants to take his wives last name.

The biggest problem I have with some religious people (not all) is that they interpret and use the wording of the various Bible’s to their own meanings. I wish I could find the tweet. Using “All I have to do is ask God for Forgiveness when they die” For the “okay” on their horrible behaviour…I found this brilliant Tweet about how Jesus talked about Churches and used rocks as an example to make strong foundations from. Some people took this literally and built Churches…But what if that’s not what it means? From a more spiritual point of view this person explained (and I am going to keep looking for it!) Jesus was coming from a more “spiritual” point of view. The rock is a strong foundation, it’s very hard if not impossible to move stone, especially when you have a group of it together. He wasn’t talking about building Churches, he was talking a spiritual foundation. The heart of what a religion should be, the foundation from your hearts. Not a literal building…and have to agree with her!

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Many people who are this nasty, tend to go to Churches on Sunday, to “cleanse” them of their Sins. How about not going to a building to cleanse themselves, how about they just be a nice person instead?

Cyber Monday

Oh my Goodness there are so many things I actually don’t mind Australia taking one “thing” from American and that would be Black Friday and Cyber Monday…I cannot tell a lie…It is fantastic with all the deals that come out at this time of year. I usually know what presents I want to get for people and I do not go out to the shops at this time. Although a delivery cost is annoying, I really do feel like it’s worth it.

What I also wanted to write about though is what else we can do as a community to help others who are not fortunate during this times. There are so many different services out there that do help those and I wanted to write about what you can do also. I’m hopefully going to expand this to different countries, depending on what I can find.

Of course we all know that we can volunteer your time to help at volunteers and shelters. There are a large variety of these. You can also help families by setting donations, after all help doesn’t just have to stop at Christmas:

 

 

Tick or not too Tick? September health goals

I really should have started my health goals at the end of September…But when your father have a major heart attack…It sort of makes you kick into gear!

My goals were:

  • Three pieces of fresh fruit a week

As well as with water I found this one shocking with how little fruit I was eating. I usually have some kind of salad at dinner, unless it spaghetti bolognese or something like that. Also like water though this was easy to do as well, instead of snacking on biscuits or chips when I’d get home, I’d have a piece of fruit instead. I just had to make sure that there was always some kind of fruit in the house. There were times when we didn’t have any fruit in the house, so I’d have to wait till the next day to go food shopping.

  • Once a week I will make a meal from scratch

Yeah, I knew this one was going to be a lot more difficult to do. This one never happened, but I am determined to make it so for the next month. Once a week…How difficult can that be? Right?

  • Three times a walk a 15 minute walk, at least. One at my partners house and two at my house.

This one has been a lot easier to do, the weather is becoming a lot more nicer here.

So this one I didn’t end up doing. I’ve been doing extra walking, but I do want to start doing this one as well. Especially as this time of year, all that good food that’s coming out.

  • Drink one cup of water a day. 

I shocked myself recently when I realised how little water I was actually drinking. The health benefits of drinking water are out of this world! This goal ended up being the easiest out of the lot and I thought it was going to be the hardest! I literally would get home from work and just have a glass. Those days I didn’t work, I end up having water before I drunk my coffee or tea, usually it would be before my second cup of the day. I was finding that once you were in the kitchen, preparing anything really, it was just so simple to fill a glass up. The biggest difference between the easiness of this one versus the fruit, water is pretty well everywhere. You don’t really have to “stock up” on it.

The other person

I am such an odd person, I feel like I have such a different view on life and how I view certain situations. I’m just going to have too say that I have been cheated on in pretty much every single relationship I’ve ever been in. I don’t understand it, what I don’t actually understand is why cheat when you can break up with me? I have never been married, I don’t have kids with any of these people, so why didn’t they just leave?

That’s not what my weird view of life is about though, I’m sure lots of people think that “Why didn’t they just leave”.

What I don’t do, I have never blamed the other person who cheated with my partner. I have had quiet a few of these ladies come to me after my break ups. Mainly, I think it’s because they thought when my ex and I had broken up, they were just going to jump into a relationship with my ex. When that didn’t happen, they thought coming to me would do something, I’m not exactly sure what. I was always thought it was an odd thing to do because why do these people think my ex’s respected me enough to listen to me, when they had cheated on me, and didn’t break up with me instead. That’s not respectful, they didn’t respect me, clearly. They’re not going to listen to me now.

I have always felt though, it’s not the “other persons” job to respect me and protect me and take care of my heart, that is 100% my partners job. Even if they actually know about me, it’s still not their job. They don’t know me, they may know of my existence, but they don’t KNOW me, they owe me absolutely nothing.

I’ve been tempted in the past and I don’t think a lot of people would have blamed me, and I’m like 99% sure the other person would have been up for it. I still didn’t do it though. I didn’t do it for me, I didn’t do it for my partner at the time. I realised something was wrong and I tried to fix it. My partner then continued to cheat on me, or tried too (that’s a whole other story for another day) and we broke up. I can look myself in the face/mirror though and be proud and happy with myself. It also gave me a huge amount of respect for the person I wanted to cheated with, since they didn’t do anything either. In all honestly as well, until I had met my current partner I always had a little “What if

The only time I would ever blame the “other person” is if they were a good friend or a family member, that’s it.

The Ever lasting Effect of an Empath

Over the weekend Safari Live had a very special fireside chat that was dedicated to the Queen that is the Leopardess Karula. It got me too thinking, about those things, people, animals, that leave us with an impression forever, even though those things that we’ve never actually met before. How do they affect us so much?

Take the situation with Karula, I’ve never actually physically seen her, not to face to face (not that I would have wanted too), but through a tv screen, yet whenever I see a picture of her or a screen shot I started getting emotional. Or take the Manchester bombings, I don’t even live in the same country, let alone in Manchester, yet the whole day I was crying. Even with people I dislike, or people who have done me wrong. I get upset for them when I hear something terrible has happened, I just cannot revel in their misery.

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(My super serious title is : The Moon Goddess Empath)

Any fellow Empaths in here?

I think that the issue I have most with being empathetic, is that unfortunately, I tend to “suck in” other people’s emotions and I have to constantly suck myself back out of situations before I am completely and utterly sucked in by the toxicity, and there is a lot of that out there!

So what as one empath to another, what suggestions that people who are empathetic, what direction, what suggestions can we make to one another to make our lives a little easier. It’s very hard to function in the world if we consistently let the world upset us. I have a few suggestions:

  • Make a commitment to yourself to take yourself off of all social media for at least once a day a week.
  • Eat and drink healthy…I know it may seem like a cliche, but I have taken out coffee recently and I have really noticed the difference.
  • On those days off from social media, fill your mind with something fulfilling, completely personal for you.
  • Understand that you do not have to go to any party or gathering, if you feel you don’t want too. Make sure though you do treat your mind instead!

One thing you should understand though is that being an Empath is not the same as having depression or a mental illness, that is a completely different thing. Although the two can overlap and correlate a lot.

Please, stay single

There are these people that I know who clearly fooling around with each other behind their partners back. I have lost respect for these people over time and I just have very little to do with them anymore. The whole group is just a mess.

It doesn’t just bug me because they are cheating with each other, but it’s also because one of them was single when they met the other originally. They had just gotten out of an engagement and at the time the other person was married. Yet, even though there were obvious feelings between the two: Person A didn’t even leave their marriage until their partner got an amazing job ‘overseas’ and they just didn’t want to put the effort in. Which is when I really started to lose respect since their partner had given up so much to begin with. It was SUCH a cop out.

Person B then started dating nearly all of Person’s A closest friend while, at least, emotionally cheating on them all with Person A and got engaged to one of them. Then conveniently Person A marriage split up and Person B with their fiance…Coincidence.

STOP USING PEOPLE! NO ONE DESERVES THAT!

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I have a hard time not saying anything because I’m one of those people who hates injustice of any type. Which means the best that I feel like I can do is just stay away since no one else in the group seem to honestly care and they even called Perfect B “Perfect” and that they could never think of an insult good enough. So it continues.

What the actual…

What this all comes down for me is to tell people. Please, for the love of god, don’t date someone because you can’t be with the person you want too be with. Please don’t date someone because you’re lonely and you don’t think you can’t do any better…You partner doesn’t deserve that. When you start to date someone, please make sure this is what you really want. You may not be sure that you even want to date, but make sure you don’t drag someone else through it. This world is so small, they are plenty of people out there for you.

Dating someone else because you are alone or because you want to be with someone else is not a strong thing and it’s not what a strong person does….Or a good person and definitely not what “perfect” people do either. You know why? A strong and a good person knows that they are okay by themselves. They know that they are okay being alone and that they believe they will find someone, they don’t need to use anyone else. They also know the love they are getting from their family and friends is enough, or the love they have for themselves IS enough. (If it isn’t, maybe look into that…That’s a post for another day though!).

On some level I actually get it, for some people it is very hard to think of others and other people, and seeing from their point of view. Unless they are actually treated this way themselves. They they just don’t care enough to get it. Too me, personally, it also speaks on a level of having no heart and being some kind of a sociopath as well. There’s no heart or kindness to use another human being in such a way. I think there is something off about people who do that, especially people who repeatedly do it.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!lol…Love yourself and each other ❤

Happy Birthday <3

I just wanted to say a big Happy Birthday to this wonderful man, who created a character that made my heart more happy. Sometimes a character and a actor just comes along who you connect with. A amazing actor who made a character who made me feel it was okay to be a little “weirder” than the norm. It’s weird for me, because I’ve always had celebrity crushed, bit even know his speeches make me want to cry, they touch my heart. I miss seeing his gorgeous face every week. I think Peter Capaldi is doing a wonderful job. Happy Birthday to MY Doctor ❤

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This quote, when he said it…This huge grin just came across my face … Thank you for making this weirdo feel a little more “normal” ❤