Nurture Thursday – Letting Things Go

Nurt Thurs – Letting things go

How hard is it in 2020, to let things go?! My mum and I were just talking last night, that we don’t understand that hate the year has brought. It’s all been over the top and over aggressive. The main thing is, the hate, has been completely unnecessary.

You MUST find a way though, to be able to every now and then “let go”. It will do you mental and in turn, physical world of good. You can’t spend the whole time, going “Woe is me”. You need to let go and give yourself permission to relax, to turn off your brain. Or do something fun with your brain. Even if it’s only for a hour. Like today, I sat down and wrote out ALL my pen pal letters, all ready for posting tomorrow! I am so finally happy with them!

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Share Your World – Memorial Style

Share Your World – Memorial Style

Questions:

Do you consider yourself a pessimist or an optimist?  I would say that I’m an optimist, but these last couple of years have slowly been testing me.


Can War ever be just? I think that sometimes it can be, but I don’t think it is if you just want a “War”. I honestly think Trump would love it if there was a War that he started. You take a look at WWI and WWII, they always start over really dumb reasons, but they needed to be fought. The Allies couldn’t just sit back and do nothing. Well I say that and then remember how long it took for America to join in the Wars…Hmmm….


Think about the people you love most in your life, what do you do for them? I try to do what I can really. There’s obviously only certain things I can do and can only go so far.


Are you health conscious?  At the moment I definitely am! I have high cholesterol and since the rest of my family have it too. My doctor wants me to change my lifestyle for the next couple of months and see if I can lower it that way.


Gratitude, Thankfulness, Wonder, Awe and Joy!   

This is the space where you share, if you’d like to, something that falls into those categories.


I don’t know how to answer that this week. It feels rude of me to say, but a lot of people were sick at work this week, but that has meant that I got work. Of course it’s been all the nice people, who I actually working with too though, but I think they get it.

Happy Birthday too me?

So I’m not exactly 100% sure if this is actually Happy Birthday or Happy =( Birthday…My cholesterol is a funny thing. I think genetically both on my Mums and my Dads side they have it. A couple of months ago I go my cholesterol checked, then I thought I’d get it rechecked because it was a fasting test. An hour before I did the test, I had a cup of tea. So my Doctor and I decided it’d be best to have a redo. It went up! I wish I had stuck with the previous results!lol…The tests were only a couple of weeks apart.

Today, one day after my birthday, I am off to see a dietitian and a exercisiologist. Instead of hoping on the drugs straight away,lol

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I’m actually kind of excited, because I do feel like I need a change in my lifestyle. About 3 years ago now I developed sciatica and it was bad. I put on weight and got lazy. The doctors would give me pain medication, and it’d take the pain away, but not the sciatica. I used to be able to walk really fast (I used to do Ballet) can’t anymore. I used to love snacking on fruit and vegetables…Now I snack on chips and biscuits…Almost like an addiction I’d say.

 

Mental Health vs Social Media

As it gets closer to Christmas, for some this time of year is just SO hard. Now I want to start off this next bit being completely honest. I don’t like Justin Bieber or Hailey Baldwin. I think separately I’ve never really liked them and together I like them even less. The reason I bring them up though is because Hailey Baldwin was complaining about how bad social media is for mental health with all the nasty comments she receives.

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Why has anyone said it was good for mental health?

First, as above, duh. Social media especially when you are not nice people to begin with are not going to be nice to to you. Selena Gomez could tell you that one. There’s a difference between Hailey and Selena though. Every now and then Selena will actually come off of social media. It is not for complete random strangers to take care of your mental health. It’s YOUR responsibility. Reality is, there are always going to be nasty people. That is reality, put yourself first. As someone who is not a celebrity, there is no need for a celebrity to actually to even allow people to comment. They don’t make money from the comments, they make money from advertising a product. Since Baldwin does not make her own products that she advertise, all she needs to make sure is that people can link to the products page and let them deal with it.

Our mental health is our responsibility, otherwise you end up like Michael Jackson, Prince, my ex-friends. You end up relying on others for YOUR happiness and for your safety.

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Headspace/World Mental Health Day

I just wanted to start off this Blog with a “I hope that this Blog Post, finds you well”

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I’ll start off with writing a little about the organisation “HeadSpace” Now HeadSpace is really dedicated to young people between the ages of 12 – 25, in Australia (I don’t know why they are always so specific,lol). Although I am sure it is perfectly alright for anybody of any age to go and have a look at them.

I don’t want to have this blog post trigger anyone. I want this to be a “safe post today”. Let’s write about getting help for one another.

Make a Promise 10/10

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What is the one thing you find helps you during an episode?

I hadn’t a panic attack for nearly and then a couple of weeks ago I did, but I managed to calm myself down before it became full blown and I needed the…as I call them…the big stuff! The pills that help you sleep, or they make you really drowsy. I have an app on my phone it plays sounds and I put the earphones in an concentrate on the music.

Do natural medication works?

I find that do. It almost feels like that when you look up herbs and teas to help with anxiety. It’s like they’ve evolved with us. I don’t think they can work alone though, don’t rely on them or Western medications, unless you have something severe, by themselves.

Do you have people you can trust to go when you are having an episode? If you don’t, can my readers, suggest a place to go?

This is actually something that I want to do. I was thinking of making a space, somewhere, safe. Where people can talk and discuss, in Australian time. I have so many friends overseas who are doing this and I think it is such a beautiful idea! I’d just like to do something like this, where I don’t came in after the conversation,lol

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Mindfulness

Too be completely honest with you all, when I first heard of “Mindfulness” I thought it was something to do with day dreaming.

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I was clearly wrong…

Mindfulness is learning the ability to be present in the present moment. So when you have a anxiety moment/or moments. You are able to train and discipline yourself to calm yourself. Be in the moment.

Mindfulness is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment,[1][2][3] which one can develop through the practice of meditation and through other training. – Wikipedia (Mindfulness)

Mindfulness is about being present in the moment.

Some ideas on how to help being in the moment:

  • Understand when you first start to practice Mindfulness, you are not an expert. Expect to get distracted still.
  • Concentrate on what’s happening around you – Noises, smells
  • Try and not be judgmental about what you see, smell.
  • Notice what is in your immediate vicinity. How do your fingers feel on the surface your sitting on.

Do not worry if you start to drift off, and you don’t necessarily want to have a complete blank mind.

Being Aware, in that moment.

I started…

I cannot believe that I forgot to mention this to pretty much everyone, except for my partner.

I started an online course to do health administration. Which are the receptionist/front desk people at General Practices, Dentist, etc. I am honestly, excited to be doing it. I am already learning the differences between viruses, bacteria, pathogens etc. I started at the beginning of this week (online, so I can keep working) I’ve already passed one test and I handed up my first assignment today.

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It has been really nice learning something again. I think that learning is just something I’ll be doing for the rest of my life. Learning and Studying. I’ve been trying to get into courses on how to start your own business, but they are just all so expensive! I’ve been finding with this online course, I can keep working, learn and hopefully get myself something more permanent.

 

Jacksonville

I am sure by now that everybody has heard of the Jacksonville Mass Shooting and why the shooter…shoot…

I love gaming, it has helped me so much when it comes to my anxiety and trying not to think about it. It helps me get lost for hours and hours till I have forgotten why I was anxious in the first place.

So, what is going on?

When it became apparent why the shooter was upset. The first reaction to a lot of (mainly white men) were them getting triggered SO easily, like it’s not normal to get upset by comments that SHOULDN’T be about them. Mass Shooters are mainly men! There’s clearly an issue there. Women are gamer’s and suffer from mental health. Yet we’re not mass shooting people. It’s time men start asking their friends what the heck is going on. We cant solve it for them, because we are not men and we don’t know why they’re doing this. I know emotions are scary, but they gotta do it.

It’s like the whole #notallmen…We know it’s not all men. However, there are clearly issues there. Just like I am able to sit there and say although I suffer from mental health. I don’t get upset when someone tries accuse me of being a horrible being, because I know I am not like that. HOWEVER, even if the people who have hated on me this year wanted my help, I would help, because their issues are not about me.

I hate to bring this up again…When my now ex friend accused me of all this stuff, I was shocked, not angry, because I KNOW that is not me. I had no reason to be angry, because everything she accused me of, I had not done and it was not me. It was all her.

Which means I don’t really understand why these guys are concentrating on being accused of something, that they are not being accused of. Rather than going “There’s a problem here”. Getting upset by something that isn’t about you, is not good either. My brother is really witty and very funny, and he makes fun of people all the time, myself especially,lol. Yet, what he says doesn’t make me upset. A lot of the time, it’s true!