You know what I get really quick so seeing, really quickly, like a blink of my eye. Those who talk about justice, those who talk about love, respect, dignity…But then, there’s that ONE post. That automatically cancels out the rest of them.
Now I am not saying that you HAVE to love the right wing Christian Conservatives. Be as rude as you like to them, after all, if they don’t care for others lives, why would you be polite to them? But make sure you are doing it from a good place. Like every time I’m rude to a transphobe, it’s actually not that rude. Except for a fuck here or there. It’s just the truth. Now SOME people think that it’s being rude calling a bigot, a bigot. Or a snob, a snob.
For myself personally, I think, that if you can write about how everyone has “Freedom of Expression” then not delete the comments of the transphobe, which is having ACTUAL real life consequences, but delete my comments. Aren’t my “rude” comments, just another Freedom of Expression? How DARE you delete my comments, while writing and blabbering on about “Freedom of Expression”. I bet the transphobic comments are still up there too.
And quiet honestly, every time I tell a transphobic “person” or any bigot exactly how I feel about them. I am happy, and I can be happy in the knowledge that not all women are blind sheep, just ready to like “anything”. That some women out there still have strength, and the back bone to kick ASS! And to bring down the actual patriarchy, not being another female patriarchy protector. Like all the wonderful feminists out there, right now! I get mad at the bigots, because their actions and words are having REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES. But I always feel better telling exactly how I feel about them and not running away from them, calling them out.
You can’t have Equality with just U…Hahahahaha. It’s a a Equaliweeee…Not equalimeee …. I could come up with so many of these, lol
(I am writing this kind of tipsy and kind of stupefied, please forgive my writing,lol)
I went to reply to a couple of New Years messages and the last hour of 2018 for me, has been listening to music and being called a psycho by numerous “women” because I keep saying Kourtney Kardashain body is her own and her ex body shaming (when they were together) her is NOT alright and she should NOT take him back…Just because he wrote one “nice” post on Instagram -.-
Ladies … Listen … it’s 2018…Our bodies are our OWN and NOBODY else’s…Do you hear me? I REALLY don’t care that he’s Muslim, still not HIS body…(also total genius giving into the Muslim men oppression stereotypes *roll eyes*) I don’t even care if he is even actual God…Still HER body. I can’t even begin to tell you how much I don’t care that he’s Muslim.
For those who kept saying “if that was my daughter, I’d feel differently” Kourtney Kardashian is a full grown WOMAN…Not a 12 or 13 year old..She is nearly 40…and if I had her body after 3 children, I’d freaking show it off too!
I don’t even like the Kardashians! But wrong is STILL wrong!
I am actually shocked I tell you. I could not believe it! They were DEFENDING his comments?
So I’ve swapped around my Share Your World post to Friday instead so we can talk about me…Nah, just kidding…Just women:
Now I just want to start off with saying “Calm Down…There is an International’s Men’s Day…November the 19th…Which is on a Monday this year….
I may also be using a lot of gif of women I admire in this post
What does it mean to me to be a “Woman”
(The Queen of course!)
Too me being a women means to be powerful and by powerful I don’t mean to have power over other people. It’s about the power of believing yourself. It’s the power of your convictions and morals and sticking to them. Whether that is to sing loudly from the top of your lungs or whether to just march with others. When the whole world is against you.
Women bring up other Women, Queens make other Queens…Even when you don’t agree…Far too much I see girls trying to bring women down.
A woman who can laugh at herself, when she’s at her most beautiful, but still is not “feeling it”.
Women who can cry…because they know that crying doesn’t make them weak.
Women move their bodies like no one is watching, even when the world is…and they LOVE it! They don’t judge others for how they move either.
(Ciara as Janet Jackson BET Awards)
A women will still have insecurities…Whether that be her body, her work, has she really go it all…But she doesn’t hurt the others around her still. She recognises that her “faults” are not to be put on others.
That no matter how hard it may get…Women don’t quit and we keep remembering to have fun!
Here’s to the Queens…May we know them…May we raise them…
I think the pairing between Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston may be one of the weirdest pairings that I have ever seen and I don’t quiet it…But saying that, it’s NOT for me to “get it”. Personally for me I think that they are just having some fun and who knows where it’ll go.
However saying this, I saw pictures of them walking out on the weekend holding hands and nearly all the negative comments were on Taylor not Tom. The way some were talking about her, you’d think she was with some guy who had no thoughts or opinion of his own…He is 35 years old, he is a nearly a decade older than her. You saying the man don’t have is own mind? He is a grown ass man. I hardly think that Tom Hiddleston finds it the least bit charming that people think he had no mind of his own and is so easily led astray.
Or, how about the time I got into an argument with another “woman” because apparently men can’t possible get abused by us because they’re naturally bigger than us? They can just leave whenever they want. Or how many women jumped on the “We hate Amber Heard” bandwagon with no proof? Believe it or not people can change and people do not always react the way you do to the same situation. Take a look at Joanne Lees, people thought she murdered her boyfriend simply because others didn’t believe she reacted they way they THOUGHT she should have.
How many memes have you seen from women ‘warning’ other women that if they try and get with their man, they’ll be consequences…Where are the meme’s about the actual person your dating not cheating or straying?
I think that this could be a thing! You see all these “Days” like recently Facebook had it’s “Friends Day”. I didn’t even end up sharing my cause the first few pictures were all of people I either don’t talk to any-more or don’t even like.
I think though us women need the day more than anything, we are horrible to one another! As soon as one of us shows a little confidence we try to tear her down and it is usually because of our own insecurities.
I proclaim #NoShameDay shall be about everyone posting one thing they really love about themselves and there shall be no putting that person down. No “well they’re just trying to put my life down” no name calling, no c,w and s words, no derogatory comments. Instead, if you don’t like it or it makes you feel insecure you shall scroll past it and post something that you love about yourself.
What do you all think? I think it might be a little naive of me, but I also think it’s better than what it currently going on.
Also this week you will see a lot of my posts are “loved theme” this week and can be about book love, couple love, friend love, family love, loving yourself) What more powerful feeling is there than love!
So what a better way to start off the “love week” than a post about loving yourself and others!
I am SO happy to report that my friend who for one second seemed to want to go back to her emotionally abusive ex (they are all as bad as each other). Has decided NOT to and is already going out on another date!
I am SO proud of her, I know how hard this is for her. Being single is one of the worst things that can happen to her, I’m fine being single, she HATES it.
Being someone who is perfectly fine being single, I’ve never really understood those who would be willingly to go back to a relationships that is just unhealthy. I would love to understand it, I love being in my relationships, but if it’s time to go…It’s time to go. My friend is incredibly smart and strong, I guess we can’t all be perfect though ~.^
I post this video in honour of my friend (she would hate anything poppy and girly!lol)
*If you have not seen the Games of Throne episode “Unbowed, Unbent and Unbroken…Spoiler alerts…Also possibly over 18+ content*
So last week (I’ve only just gotten around to watching it) I watched the last episode “Unbowed,Unbent and Unbroken” and this episode has been creating a LOT of controversy, as Games of the Thrones always seems too (yes I’m aware I wrote that title wrong =P).
I noticed with myself though I spent half of it fast forwarding through a lot of the episode. One of the good things about this episode though was that it did not just focus on just one character and did not focus on one story/plot line. This meant that the stories were pushed along and few needed to be because we had had nothing happen for a while with certain characters and it felt like “Oh, there you are”.
The problem that I am starting to have though with this series is that it’s feeling a little repetitive and yet people continue to be shocked and outrage. The particular scene at the the end was not even in the book. The writers of the show seem to think that there is only one way a woman could ever been given “strength” and that is through having really terrible happen to her and it’s starting to bore me. I was also bored though because I can’t believe that no one didn’t see what Ramsay did, coming? That’s just my opinion on the matter though. I think it was just lazy writing really.
I call myself “Eternally Single”. I call myself this because being 30 years old I have spent most of that single. Once I’m in a relationship I am committed but when I’m single, I am single. I have done the casual sex thing and I have learnt both good and bad from that. At this moment I have no interest in that, so I will not participate in it.
However this year I have been shocked by the amount of women in my life who have been in really bad relationships. Not just bad relationships, but they were bad right from the start. I have been shocked because these are women I admire and completely respect. They are intelligent, smart and motivated women. Who have travelled the world, found jobs they love, (some) have had children. I wont lie when I say that this women have made me feel “dumb” not through any put downs or the like from themselves. I would be struggling (thanks to my dyslexia) and getting an average of a C and they would be getting double A’s.
These women have been shocking me all year…These intelligent, beautiful, loving hearted and strong women are letting themselves be treated horribly…by a guy…and not really extraordinary guys either. Even if they were extraordinary guys it wouldn’t be acceptable.
I have one girlfriend who is actually considering going against everything that she hates and despises just so her boyfriend can sleep around more aka open relationship. Apparently because she’s been cheated on once or twice that should prove she should just be ‘used’ to be cheated on? WTactualF! She’s already said “No” several times, but he wont let it go. Another woman my grandmothers age and I woman I highly admired, sent a group email to upset a male friend of hers, so he would get in contact with her…My Grandmothers age! Then this very close family member of mine has recently told us what happened to her and how badly her now ex-husband treated her…I have no idea how they got married!
I’m sitting here feeling like a failure because I don’t have a man and I’m 30 years old…But I tell you what I’d rather be single than living with this every day of my life! These women I love and admire might as well be single!