World Elephant Day

World Elephant Day –

On August 12, 2012, the inaugural World Elephant Day was launched to bring attention to the urgent plight of Asian and African elephants. The elephant is loved, revered and respected by people and cultures around the world, yet we balance on the brink of seeing the last of this magnificent creature.

The above link is too a pledge to do what you can to help all elephants.

I love elephants, just as much as Lions. I see them and I do not understand how anyone could kill them. They are beautiful. They feel, they grieve and oh my goodness, I would say that a baby elephant is just as cute as a puppy or a kitten! And have you ever seen how fast an Elephant herd move when a baby is in distress?

Baby elephants do not come out knowing how to use their trunks either. They have to learn how to use them.

Also watch the elephant ears. That’s what they used to communicate, as well as watching their temperature.

Friends of World Elephant Day

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Personal Choices…

I know that none of you are on my Facebook (it’s Lauren Boltron Bolton) by the way. However, I have decided at this time, to not post on their anymore. The only people I really hear from are from people I never hear from to tell how wrong they think I am. Or people who liked everything I post. Which is completely fine, but I can keep liking and commenting on their posts anyway.

I think what “annoys me” is that these are people I know in “real life”. Yet, I don’t think they know the first thing about me…Maybe it’s a South Australia thing? None of these people know about my blog, my streaming, my “other” Instagram book account. Which you all know about. I just feel like there is no reason to “be” on there anymore. I don’t really get that much fulfillment out of FB anyway.

My mum and I were just talking about it last night, and she was saying how she knows there are couple of people she can stay friends with. Mainly because, one of them, their partner had a bad reaction to the Astra vaccine, but her friend is still going to get the second dose anyway. Even though, she has a really good reason to be afraid, she’s sensible enough to realise, that just because her husband had a bad reaction, didn’t mean she did.

I said to my mum, I’ve got a couple of friends like that, but we all suffer from bad anxiety issues, lol. So it’s hard to meet up with them. The rest though. I’ve lost a lot of respect for quiet a few, and not all to do with COVID. Some, even though they’ve been in Australia since the 70’s/80’s, they’re still strong Monarchist’s. The Monarchy can do wrong. Meghans the devil. Not just “Hate” Meghan, but full on “I’m British, I know how the system works, she’s lying”.

One) You’ve lived in Australia since the 70’s.

Two) You’re not and have never been part of the Royal Family, or it’s “systems”.

Three) The place you do actually work in, you know how it works and that’s why you know it’s not working. On the outside you have to pretend that everything “works” where you work. Apart from the Royal Family, NONE, of us “know how the system works”.

The problem with the State I’m in, it’s not a big city. We were the first freely settled colony in Australia (meaning we weren’t settled by criminals, but “free people). We’re the third most livable city in the world. But the people…lol. Once you’re in a group, you’re in it. Think six degrees of Kevin Bacon. You can go with another group, but you have a high chance of bumping into the other people. As some “bitches” have realised. Too not really bump into people you know, you have to live on opposite sides of the state.

Thursday Theories – Friends, not so friendly?

I now have a theory about friends. That they are not friendly friends at all.

I am pretty certain that I have written, how if and when now, I watched Friends, I really wouldn’t like it.

The only one, I think is any good is Rachel. That’s mainly because she’s the only character really, that makes any changes, and becomes better. Even with being a little materialistic, she still “blossoms” into a lovely character.

Ross is probably the worst character in the whole show, he’s controlling (even with his own sister) he’s easily jealous, the whole episode with his song playing with dolls.

Even Phoebe, people used to say Phoebe reminded them of me. However, she’s not really that great of a New Age “hippy” hippy. Sure, she does that classics “vegan” type things. Other than that, she’s not actually that nice. I’m thinking of the episode, closer to the end, when she, Monica and Mike go karaoke. Monica has no idea that the reasons she’s popular with the crowd, you can see her boobs. Not only does Phoebe not tell Monica, but then keeps making “remarks”, and never tells Monica. Women shouldn’t do that to a enemy, let alone a “friend!”.

Have you ever had friends, like “Friends”? I’ve known and know a Ross and a Phoebe.

The reason for this is not a real, mystery type theory. It’s more how we have all had friends in our life, that are like those two above? I have a theory we all meet a Ross and a Phoebe in our lives. The “good guy” that’s not really that good, and the hippy “love everyone and peace” friend. Who part from them maybe all on the outside a good and peace hippy type person. But she’s not really.

With friends like these…

Sorry, I pressed the Publish button instead of edit!

So, as I was writing before…I was watching an episode…of Friends…The one where Monica does some karaoke singing and the one where Rachel decides to move out from Ross’s with Emma, back to Joeys’.  “The One Where Monica Sings”.

Dismiss the Ross and Rachel thing. Phoebe let Monica keep singing even though the reason the guys are cheering is because they can see Monica’s ho-ahs. Even after she’s done singing Phoebe STILL doesn’t tell her. Then when Chandler comes by Phoebe makes a snarky comment about why the people are enjoying Monica’s singing, but STILL doesn’t say anything. Monica doesn’t even know!

Now, I don’t care that Monica doesn’t care in the end. GOOD friends will tell you even when you have a “nose things” let alone, everyone can see your boobs! GOOD FRIENDS do not make snarky comments, when they don’t even know and YOU haven’t told them!

Just don’t be this “friend!”

I’ve only just started to realise in the last couple of years how horrible these friends are actually to each other,lol.

Let’s be Friends <3

Today is International Friends Day…

From a young age, I always believed that everybody needed a friend. Even the most horrible of us. A real friend wont let you be a horrible person. So yes, everybody needs a friend. When you have good friends, you have everything!

Even though I don’t feel like I have a best friend anymore (other than the obvious) I feel like I have the best friends ever! We all are going through very similar things and I feel like I have become more of myself this year, than any other. I feel more brave and I feel like I’m doing more and this has been a good year for myself. Which is kind of funny considering what happened at the beginning of this year. I feel like my friends are more honest, more real and without a doubt in my mind more kind! I have loved hanging out with you all.

I don’t think you even realise how weird it is for me to say that I enjoy something without a whole barrage of “OMG LAUREN…THAT IS SO BORING AND IT SUCKS!”. It’s just nice…Like SO nice…Even if you don’t agree or like what I do, you don’t tell me how something that is apart of who I am, is boring and stupid…While saying how dare people saying they’re weird for liking Michael Jackson, like completely utterly in love with the guy…It is SO refreshing and so kind! We all like the music and the things we watch, because they are apart of who we are.

Too myself, being a good friend is not necessarily always “being” there for someone else. It’s about being real and honest, when no other person will. It’s not about trying to be the “best” friend…It’s about the best friend possible. It’s got nothing to do with telling someone what they want to hear, it’s about being able to tell them they NEED to hear. Especially if that means you might actually lose them as a friend.

Which is why I consider a lot of people on here, on WordPress, Safari Live and Twitch. a friend. We are so real with each other. We ask each other the tough questions, we ask to question ourselves and see something important from a different point of view. Being friends with someone doesn’t mean being in their pockets 24/7, it means being there when it matters. Not just when it matters for you.

Understanding that sometimes people just can’t be there for you at the moment in time. How they make you feel when they can’t be there for you. This is SO important as a friend. It’s basically impossible for someone to be there 24/7 for others ALL the time. I can’t think of a single person that I have in my life, right now, who makes me feel worse when they can’t be there. THAT’S what friendship is too me. Knowing that if they can’t be there, they don’t make you feel worse.

Would you…or would you not?

I was reading up about how Kim Catrall had at go at SJP sending her condolences about Catrall’s brother. A lot of people came to SJP’s defence. I have to say though and Kim Catrall said it as well

If we are not friends, and it is ABUNDANTLY clear that we are not friends…I would be pretty pissed at someone for sending condolences, especially on a sudden family death. I may not have a go at that person publicly, but I would certainly be pissed! If one of my ex’s friend sent me condolences, I wouldn’t say a word, but I would still be peeved. You should wait and see if the grieving person comes to you first.

Maybe it’s just me though?

Never judge your friends or loved ones by how you think…Never Ever

Now you may be asking why have I placed this under “Single in a small City” category?

I feel like it’s important how you treat your friends when you are single and they are in a relationship.

Your friends are not dating someone to hurt YOU…If they are, then they are pretty terrible friend really.

(I don’t like Lena Dunham by the way, this is just a really good quote)

I was told a few years ago by a friend that she extremely jealous of us (her “friends”) being happy in relationships when she is single. Which is why she only told us that her boyfriend was abusing her…I was the only one single at the time…This is just a bad way of thinking, this is not a mentally healthy way to be and to think.

Everybody on this planet walks a different path, very rarely two people will follow the exact same path. How you are when you’re single will be different from how someone else would be single…Which is why you cannot put your thoughts onto somebody else. That’s not fair. Just because my “friend” gets jealous when she’s single and we’re not…Doesn’t mean I’m anything like that. It’s not always about you.

I would hope that my readers are not the type of people who would think this. I can’t imagine why my old friend would have thought I’d be happier to hear that she’s being abused, and since I lived in a different state, there was little I could do. Or that she even had that to talk about in the first place. I don’t think like that, never have.

My point is, if you are the type of person who gets this jealous…That you’d rather hear your friend is getting abused, than hear that they are happy…Please work on this. This is not healthy. This is not a healthy way to think. There is nothing wrong with being single. There’s no shame to it, embrace it, enjoy the freedoms that come along with it.

Otherwise, you too, could end up with an abuser.

I personally would rather be single for the rest of my life, than someone who is abusive towards me.

Work on this before you get into another relationship.

Strange Friends

A couple of weeks ago I got a friends request from the weirdest of “friends”, why do people who you are no longer friends with…or were never friends with…Out of the blue, send you a friends request? Especially those ones that you haven’t seen in years, have nothing in common with…or some, who just plain outright bullied/s me/you?

I’d like to tell myself I am JUST that fabulous that people just miss me so much

… I highly doubt it though.

I did accept the friends request … I figured I just don’t care enough as to why they sent it … I just think it’s really weird, but I like my life now and so don’t need the drama …  and if they are sending me a request to spy for my ex or to get back at my ex … Then they are going to be sorely disappointed…I don’t go on Facebook that much and I am happy in my life to not really care if they’re “spying”, and I am SO boring on Facebook,lol

I had someone who bullied me so badly I could barely keep any food down, and I loooooooooooove food…Send me a request…No message, no apology…I said No to that one…We are not friends…She is dating someone I am friends with, but her and I are not friends…I am definitely not going to accept a “friends” request from someone who attacked me for everything I wrote on my Myspace (showing my age) Whether or not it was directed at her…I do mean EVERYTHING…I’d get 4-5 page emails to tell me what a  “bitch” I was …

Just walk away

I have usually gotten along better with guys than I do with girls. I don’t know if it’s less drama or they are appear more laid-back, but I had always gotten along better with guys…Until the last few years, where mainly the word S…E…X has gotten in the way, mainly theirs, lol…

I don’t know how, but I’ve been in the situation twice now, where I come along in a new group and think that I have made some new friends and they seem like a lot of fun. Then over the next couple of years, someone else has come along…You know more “exciting” than me, younger than me…I mean I think I look pretty good for 33. However, that’s when things change. I’m suddenly sitting at my birthday all alone, that was pretty horrible…Of course the girls don’t like me, one I have never met, the other I’ve never really hang out with. So over time you just lose “friends” and you don’t even know why…Other than they’re all a bunch of idiots.

The first girl I fought back against, because she was attacking me for no reason. Everything I said, everything I did was “wrong” and a reason to send me 4 page emails about how wrong I was. I’d wake up the next day and another “friend” would be gone. It was probably the most emotionally and mentally draining thing that has ever happened too me.

So, when it started happening again, I didn’t fight, I just walked away and it was probably the best thing that I have ever done for myself. No months of drama or how wrong I was, and I still lost friends and people still walked away.

It has been different this time…

People came back and I got unfriended by people who honestly, I don’t actually like that much too be honest. I stopped getting invited to their parties, but I had better ones to go to and had even better people to spend time with. I had more time to explore and discover where I live instead of going to the same parties, with the same people and the same dramas.

Do I wish that either party would apologise? Of course…The best advice I can give though, if you are in this situation, or something similar…Walk Away…

This applies to every single relationship in your life. Any relationship or any type of relationship, just walk away. There is a reason that this saying is a cliche…

If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours

It’s a true cliche, set them free, if they come back, they were always meant to be apart of your life. If they don’t, they just were not. It really is true and sometimes it can hurt and it can be frustrating because you can’t understand why. I’ve been there so many times “Why, what’s wrong with me?”. There is nothing wrong with you, as my Gran likes to say “They are just not part of your tribe”. It’s true…Most of the people I’ve lost during these situations, there are soooooooo boring, or annoying and they do the same dramas all the time. They just did not “interest” me, I guess you could say. I have never actually lost a really good friend.

Some of these people have come back into my life and they have seriously honestly missed me. The cliche is a cliche for a reason, even though it takes time. It might even take years. They do, the ones who matter, always do.

Walk Away

Have Faith 

Be Happy

And just keep being you

A Friend Pt 2

Well I am actually writing this in a word document today, because for some odd reason the letter “R” will not work on my WordPress…Odd, huh?! It’s just randomly working on and off…Just the letter R.

So this post today is supposed to be about another friend who I am grateful for. However, since I made the first post about being grateful for a friend, you’ve probably noticed that I’ve had some serious issues with my friends over the last couple of years. When I wrote Part 1 I talked about people who you wouldn’t necessarily call friends in the traditional sense, but more about people who support me and I them. The live feed that I watch called “Safari Live” I talk to them more than I talk to my friends that I can see any time and the talk is always cheery. Even when the death of a popular animal has occurred, we all understand and how devastating it is too lose one of the animals we watch pretty much daily. There is very few people in my “real life” that could even come close to understanding that.

I’ve also talked previously about how I don’t even think I actually have a “best friend” anymore. So it’s hard to talk about being grateful for a friend, when I’m struggling so much with those particular relationships.

I am really struggling to write anything to be grateful for…Oh this is terrible.

I still can’t think of anything to write,lol