Fandango’s Provocative Question #193

Fandango’s Provocative Question #193

I really thought about this question, so I decided to write a post about it.

What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever had to make? What made the decision so difficult?

The hardest decision I made, turned out one that worked out in my favour really. I’ve had a really good life, really. Most of the decisions in my life were left out of my hands. There was a choice that I could have made, that would have changed my life. I’m an Australia, my first serious relationship was with an American.

I could probably be an American right now, if I had decided to go back, even one last time. I clearly did not. I’m still in Australia and I am now in a long term relationship with an Australia.

At the time though and first love. All I could see was being with my first love…FOREVER It makes me feel so stupid now. There was a time where I really had to look into moving over there. The thing that was making it difficult, I didn’t want to leave Australia. I love Australia, I love being an Australian (much better than silly America) and my little family is awesome. He had never made the effort to come out too Australia. Still…first loves and all that…

In the end, he pretty much made the decision for me. He didn’t break up with me, but I knew there was a girl he wanted to be with. The only thing stopping him, was her. And she HATED me, I still haven’t met her though. She had no problem using my boyfriend, at the time, to try and cheese me off. He had cheated on me before, and we are still friends.

Too be honest, the nicest break up I’ve ever had. I was so tired of trying to convince him to come to Australia. I had decided I wasn’t moving to America, until he met MY family.

I am VERY happy to be an Australian still.


Fandango’s Provocative Question #168

How do you feel about online anonymity? Do you believe that when people are hiding their real world identity, it encourages them to misbehave or to be offensive? Or does it allow people to reveal who they really are or possibly how they would choose to be and act all the time if they could?

I thought that I would have a crack at this one, because it is a huge topic right. Even Elon Musk is trying to back out of the Twitter deal since they wont really confirm how many Twitter accounts are in fact “real” and are not bots.

Personally I am very open type person, I have not had the experience of someone trying to steal my identity or anything like that, so I am sure that would change how I did things, if I did. I am pretty careful though. I don’t use my phone for banking, while I use different passwords to everything really. I have tricks in my head to remember which one is which.

Saying all of that though, I know a lot of the trans community who keep an online anonymity for really good reasons. At some point each of the big and out there trans accounts have all been doxed. They’ve had their work places rang, luckily most businesses are fine with them. There have been cases on out there cis trans ally accounts, who have had some big name TERFs show up to their places of work and they were harassed there.

But then, a lot of transphobic people, especially not the big names one, are also anon. For VERY different reasons though. I suspect that a lot of them know very well what they’re doing.

So it is a conundrum.