Are you an empath?

*If you follow me on Instagram. You probably saw my post about this topic. As I wrote on the post, I wanted to write about this topic, with a little more oompfh.*

Too begin with, there are two type of empaths. There are the type that feel for others, so you see a situation and while you might not understand what they’re dealing with. You feel for them. You can feel the pain that they are feeling. You get why they’re fighting for what they’re fighting for.

The other are people who can almost actually read your mind. They are what is called an empath psychic. A lot of these types can see certain things, like, you might of heard of people who can see colours around people or auras’. We all have one certain colour that surrounds us, but empath psychic can see our colours change when we feel pain, happiness, sadness etc.

Also, for each empath, clearly there are empath’s who feel different areas more strongly than other areas. So there are people like medical empath’s, as an example.

Basically Empath’s are people who literally feel for others.

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Now, the issue I really have with people who say “I am totally an empath, because I have strong feelings so I am expert on others’ feelings”. Having strong feelings doesn’t automatically make you an empath. Narcissists, as an example, think they have strong feelings. I would never call a Narcissist an empath,lol. But I’ve known a lot of Narcissists in my life, who do call themselves empaths, because they have strong feelings.

Now, I don’t mind if you have strong feelings, we all do, we’re human after all. My issue is when you going around using a platform to use your “strong feelings” and then talk and spread your misinformation.

If your an empath and you’re using your platform to say “Don’t make me feeling guilty if I need a break from BLM, because I need a mental break” and then continue to complain, about how people are making you feel guilty. Now Empath’s, like myself, do feel guilty if we need to take a mental health day, because we KNOW that we haven’t had to deal with the racism for hundreds if not thousands of years. If you’re only getting involved with BLM NOW, you’ve literally been dealing with it for about a month,lol. Not hundreds of years, so yeah, to complain that people make you feel guilty for needing a day off, is kind of ridiculous and not empathetic.

An empath, by the way, has been feeling BLM, before BLM, became a “thing.”

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Empath’s, At the same time, are aware that we can still do something even when we need a “day off”. You can do things that don’t require you to go on social media, that don’t require you to go out and protest. Buy or go to your local library and grab that POC author book, you may have not read before. Get old clothes together, to give to charity. Old toys to give to vulnerable children. Make some home cooking for your elderly neighbour. Write a well written letter to your Representative, that peaceful protesters are being arrested for BLM marches, ignoring their 1A RIGHTS to peacefully protest. While white people with guns, hang effigies of their local representative…were not. See, you don’t NEED to go onto social media, at all.

An empath, already knew this. So chances are, you’re not an empath.

It’s perfectly fine to not be an empath, it’s not like it makes you insensitive to people, it doesn’t. You still have feelings, just empaths tend to have stronger feelings for OTHERS, not just strong feelings in general. But please, do not go saying you are one, spreading misinformation so you can be part of a “fad”. That’s what you’d be doing.

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30 Day writing challenge … Day 10

10. Write something about which you feel strongly about.

Maybe this is a bad time to do this challenge,lol. There are so many things that I feel strongly about. If I tried to narrow into one word, one thing…I guess, it would have to be “protection”. 98% of people on this planet, deserve to feel safe and protected on this planet.

Those who don’t are paedophile’s, serial rapist, serial killers and people who get a pleasure out of harming animals.

 

30 Day Song Challenge Days 21 – 26

30 Day Song Challenge

So I forgot that February only has 28 days,lol

Day 21 – A song you like with a person’s name in the title: Rednex – Cotton Eye Joe

Day 22 – A song that moves you forward: Celtic Woman  – Teir Abhaile Riu

(More makes me want to “jig” forward)

Day 23 – A song you think everybody should listen to: Ed Sheeran – I See Fire

Day 24 – A song by a band you wish were still together: The Monkees – Daydream Believer

In Memory of Peter Tork…Wish they hadn’t split up though. I have all their songs.

Day 25 – A song you like by an artist no longer living: George Harrison (my favourite Beatles) – Here Comes The Sun

Day 26 – A song that makes you want to fall in love: Moulin Rouge – Your Song (Yes, I know Elton Johns version).

Can I just say that I found 24 and 25 really hard, because there are just so many!

Everything happens

I actually had this thought on the Monday, but out of respect for the most recent mass shootings…I decided to change the day.

Lately, for myself, everything has been happening at the exact right time…So I’m going to start going with this. The first thing that happened was my bag zipper. It’d been working on and off and since it’s been getting closer to Winter, I need my bag to zip close. I asked my Mum for a specific bag for my birthday. No joke, the day before my birthday the zip just stopped working altogether.

Now my phone has been not working either. It just randomly wont turn on and I usually have to put it back on the charger, and then it turns back on. Today (well the Monday) I get a text from my Mum that morning, saying that we had received my new phone…My old phone stopped working and I had to leave it on the charger. It took a while for it too turn back on. I thought for sure that the phone was not going to turn back on.

Then I decided I was going to “chicken out” aka I psyched myself out of catching a bus in the morning to work rather than a taxi. There was really no excuse. My main anxiety has been with travelling, so getting back on buses has been a challenge. I came up with every single excuse under the sun on a perfectly good day to do it. (I do catch it in the afternoon/evening). The taxi ended up being really late, and then every major road we came too, people sped up to overtake us, and the just plain stopped when they went to merge! Three times, three different people, on three major corners…Three times!

Even my post from Self was posted on the Monday after I went to a Body, Mind and Physic fair where I felt completely re-centered, but I had scheduled it days before I even went or remember I was supposed to be going to the Fair.

So I’ve decided to keep going with this feeling: I AM looking into a free website, candle AND label making things. I’m doing it, I AM looking into it.

It feels like it’s coming together.

 

Life Lessons…The hardest of Lessons

This is a little different post for “Life Lessons of the Libraries” and I feel like it’s one of the hardest lessons to learn and I am learning it again…For the millionth times.

Sometimes I feel like heartbreak in a romantic relationship is more than a majority of the time, inevitable. The breaking of a friendship though can sometimes be if not just as hard, but sometimes harder than the break down of a romantic relationship. Clearly there are different variables.

I seem to be going through this with some friends who I thought I was really close with. They just seem to have cut themselves off from me and any-time that I plan to meet up with them, they keep cancelling. The biggest insult is when they’ll hang out with people I introduced them too!

I think the hardest things about these situations is you never seen them coming. You think you are really close and then suddenly you are completely blind-sided. Which is why I find friendship breakups really hard, because you very rarely see them coming. Especially when you are getting dumped for a group of people who are just horrible. Case example, Girls brother comes up to me (guys have been dumping me to be with this girl) and I feel uncomfortable talking to her brother about it. Except he says “They only like girls who can’t think for themselves”…That was the last time I saw that group. However, it’s kind of personally insulting to me to be dumped for a group like that -.- Where siblings have no respect for each other.

Quietly…

Quietly I’m sitting watching you,
I hope that you don’t find it creepy or weird,
I just can’t believe that we are lying here like this,
Six months ago, my life was completely different,

I can’t believe that I could feel like this,
Not so soon, not after everything else…and yet here we are,
In our little world, keeping the rest of the world shut out,
Who am I so lucky? How did this happen?

 

 

Wobble…Like Jelly…

So tonight I had a bit of a freak out and a bit of a wobble. Currently here in South Australia we are experiencing a major devastating bush fire, people lives are being lost, homes and property completely gone and we unfortunately had one well known kennel and cattery burnt down with many of the dogs and all of the cats still on the property.

Anyways this same night I had a date with the number one guy (there is no number two guy anymore). I heard that the suburbs that three different ex’s of mine are from, were required to evacuate. I couldn’t help myself, I got worried and I realised that I still cared. Not in love care, but worry something will go wrong kind of caring. Then I got angry at myself for caring at all. My mum told me it was perfectly naturally to still care and worry while not being in love with that person.

I hate though that I still care about these people who obviously never cared about me. I highly doubt that if they heard that I had to be evacuated that they would worry about me at all. I got so upset that I still care and I know that they don’t and now I’m frightened that it’ll happen to me all over again.

I can already tell it’s happening, everything that the number one guy did tonight bugged the crap out of me and yet I know in the back of my head none of it’s any of his fault, so I managed to fake a “sickie” and get myself out of the date earlier than anticipated and then collapsed in tears when I got home. 30 years of being treated like hell and I think that I broke tonight. I can feel myself cutting off and becoming cold.

p.s. I will be fine, I just can’t seem to stop crying tonight.

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This Matthew West guy seems to get it…

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Dreams…

Dreams are pretty magical things are they not? Well…sometimes they can be your worst nightmare. You can be in such an amazingly awesome place and then one night you’ll have a horrible dream or nightmare and it affects you for the whole day.

Not every thing Magical in this world is a good kind of Magic. There are bad witches, bad wizards, bad fairies and there are definitely bad dreams…or also known as “Nightmares”. As much as nightmares are truly horrible, they are also an essential part of dreaming. Sometimes (like the one I had last night) they can make you unaware of feelings or situations that you either don’t want to deal with or hadn’t realised that you need to deal with.

If you are like me, my dreams, whether they are good or bad, they tend to be really lucid. A lucid dream is where you can feel, touch and taste everything. It feels SO real that sometimes, in the first couple of minutes after you wake up you still think that it’s happening. I can’t even begin too tell you how many times I have woken up from dreams and they have stayed with me for days after. I even had a dream diary at one stage that I still have and read from time to time…I should really start one again…

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Random Thoughts…

I am at a school and I am in a prime spot in the Library to watch all the cars and people outside go by and since here it’s the beginning of Spring, you can probably guess that I am not actually doing any of the school work that I came in too do. Instead here I am, thinking about you…

I can’t help it I let my mind drift off and think about you and what you might be doing right now. It’s such a gorgeous day and I’m sitting here wondering if you’ve finished work yet, are you even at work, or are you wrapped up lying on some grass having a picnic somewhere with some another girl. I can’t forgive for how you’ve treated me after everything, but I can’t stop thinking about you either. About everything that could and probably would have been…and how we would have never have wasted a day like today.

I don’t want you back and yet I miss so incredibly much that it still saddens my every waking moment and although the nightmares have seemed to have stopped. I still have that 5 minutes before I fall asleep where I still think of you and everything that we could have been. I miss you with every beat of my heart and yet there’s just no way that I could tell you or let you back into my life.

I look really pretty today, I can tell by the way the guys are staring at me, but I hate it when they do it…Don’t they know I’m yours? Oh wait…No, I’m not. Well the sun seems to be going down and it’s getting darker, so I guess that I should thinking about you and my thoughts become as dark as the evening that is coming.

I miss you ❤