We Are Family

…or not.

I have seen a lot of people saying they have to exclude their families from their lives, because the racism and bigotry is getting to much. As someone whose had to do this, not even for bigotry reason. Just mental health issues.

It’s totally fine.

Unless you feel that you owe your family something, then there is nothing wrong with cutting them off. There is no Law or Rule, that says you MUST obey and be friends with your family. That you OWE them any respect. You don’t. Our society tells us we must, but what society forgets, that sometimes, it’s family that hinders you and “help” you to feel even worse than before.

Sometimes it IS family that is the problem.

Sure it’s great to get along with your family, sure it’s great if you can all get along. But there isn’t a single rule or law saying that you MUST get along.

 

Tara Reade and Deactivation

*Long Post Incoming*

I have to admit that when Jussie Smollett did what he did. That’s when I started to take a step back and decided to stop jumping on bandwagons and actually look at everything myself and THEN make a judgement.

I know it’s so easy to want to make up stuff about the Right. We don’t need too. We’re already better than them, by not doing what they are actually doing. If that makes sense? It’s like when people bring up Melania’s past, we don’t need to do that. She’s trash enough with what she does NOW. I was with her, right up until I found out that #BeBest was based on her “being the most bullied person in the world” That’s when she really lost me. Has she met herself and her husband?

Hence, Tara Reade. Now it’s all starting to come out that she lied, and I’m not going to say “told ya so”…Though I did right there. She’s been a little quiet the last couple of days, so one might say that she’s deactivated.

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If you don’t “follow” me on either Insta or my twitter feed. You would not have known that I have deactivated my other insta account and my Facebook account. Basically, I’ve deactivated anything to do with family. You’ve probably all read my blogs about some of my family members, who have been openly disrespectfully to myself and my partner. Even though they’ve been ignoring us, that’s how we know there was a problem. Ironically.

I had people asking me what had I done to them, that’s how weird them ignoring me was. People noticed they weren’t talking too me. The worst was when I found out that my cousin that’s always lived at home with his mama(nearly 60). My cousin called looking after my dog “payback”. At Christmas my mum came over to give the cat his pill, that he needs. It was two days at the most and my mum likes the cat, the cat likes her. She lives about 15 minutes away.  My mum was debating whether or not to take Pippy with her when she went to my Grans. Pippy was sick, but she loved being at my Grans. My cousin when my mum told him about it said “You should make Lauren take care of Pippy, it can be payback for Christmas”.

That made me more angry then anything else.

Like I said, they were ignoring me. I posted a video to remind people that when you say “People should die, so we can let the economy rebound quicker”. It was a REALLY good video. It reminded people that those people that can just die, could be your family. My Aunt who has ignored me for MONTHS. wrote “Thanks China…”

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I lost it,lol…I told her to get that crap off my post. I told her that it’s not China’s faults that Trump did nothing and it was not China’s fault that this man thought it was okay if 70 people died to restart the economy (in the video they show him 70 people, they were all his family). I wrote a text to my brother, who complains about them more than I do and so thinking he’d find it so typical of them. His response “You should delete that post Lauren, it just spreads negativity”. When I said to him “Why does everyone care more about their feelings, then how they treat others”. He gave me some crap about how I was being negative and they’ve had a sheltered life.

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So after much crying and apart from my partner, who doesn’t like how they’ve been treating me or my Mum. At about 4am in the morning and no sleep. I deactivated my accounts. I have not talked to my brother since and asked my mum not to talk to me about him or them.

They can all bask in their fake positivity. I have actually not liked Facebook for a long time now, and nothing to do with Zuckerberg, I mean he’s always been a wanker. I haven’t liked Facebook, because of THEM. I have always felt judged and watched and stalked, by THEM. Whereas on Twitter, I feel that too, but it’s people who I am not supposed to care about. It’s not “family”. I have met so many like-minded people on there! Just like my other Insta account. The other account I have, is all about mental health and books! My family, don’t know about it.

THANK GOD!lol

 

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I was watching an episode of the Golden Girls, the one where Dorothy and Sophia are told that Dorothy many not be Sophia’s daughter. On the same day, I saw all these people bashing teachers. How dare teachers take all this time off, which being the partner of a teacher, I know is not true. All these people of able-bodied children, suddenly mentally drained from spending a couple of weeks with their own children.

I have not seen a single person who have children who are disabled in some way, complaining about how they’re so mentally drained from spending time with their children.

I thought children are a blessing? Why are these people complaining about their children, online, if they chose to have them? What if there was a War? You chose to have (sometimes) them, some were a surprise. You didn’t give them up for adoption. You choose to keep them.

These parents aren’t making me want to have children.

If spending time with your children is a drain, if you couldn’t afford them (which I know how it sounds). Do not have them. It’s just being selfish. Teachers are NOT your babysitters.

Then I have a friend who can’t even have children, who wants to more than anything and it’s breaking her heart seeing these parents “drained” from their children.

God, this world is draining.

Share Your World…23/03/2020

Share Your World 03/23/2020

Share Your World

Questions:

On A Scale Of 1-10, How Strict Were Your Parents?

My Dad was definitely more stricter than my mum. But also, let me put it this way. When my parents separated my brother never got told off for anything. NOW, my parents blame the other one for how my brother turned out. My brother isn’t a bad person, but like he’s bad with money, as an example. He never did chores, he technically didn’t pass High School, but he is as smart as! Yet, he’d get pocket money ALL the time. Because he was popular too, he’d get extra money to go out. I learnt how to save so I could go out. So now he has a very bad relationship with money. He’s two years younger than me and it’s honestly only been this year, when he’s borrowed money, he pays it back. That might be because, as well, he got a huge amount of it for a job he did this year.

I personally hold both my parents responsible. My Dad wasn’t there for us physically, but that was his choice. He was always “sick”… or hung over. We may have been with our Mum 95% of the time, but my Dad, he’s a parent too. Technically my Dad was the stricter parent, but how can you be strict with people you are never around?

What Wastes The Most Time In Your Day To Day Life?

Probably my computer gaming time. If I have something that needs something done, I can end up playing a computer game for literal hours.

Do They Bury People With Their Braces* On?   (* “braces” in this scenario are those metal bits they put on people to straighten their teeth.   I realize “braces” are also some item of clothing that I believe men wear to keep their socks up or something.  I’m talking about the teeth option).

I’d assume they would, if you die with them on? Honestly, I’ve never been to a funeral where there has been an open casket. I’ve never had to identify a body, or known someone whose died with braces. I’m only assuming they would, because that’d how most of their departed ones would know them?

Why Does A Round Pizza Come In A Square Box?

I did hear that it’s because bins are square, well they are in Australia. And because everything is mostly in a rectangle or square shape. It’s just easier. I just don’t know how true it is,lol

Gratitude:   Share something you are grateful for right now.  I know that’s a tough question.  It helps to share those bright bits with folks though, because many of us are seeing through an increasingly dark glass.

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I am actually grateful for a lot of things. It was like I was saying to my mum the other day. It’s hard to be sad when there are so many who love and who loved you.

Please, help me again!

My Grandmama (who would hit me over the head for calling her that,lol). Is turning…Well a lady never tells of another ladies age. It’s an important number though. Her baby brother is even coming all the way from the UK. He has never been here before! It’s a pretty big deal!

I had one idea of buying her a necklace with the birth stone of her parents and her children. As my own brother mentioned though. It might make her depressed at such a “late stage”. So I have been going back and forth between it. One day I’ll think it’s a sweet idea, but she has been “losing it” a little lately >.< She’s supposed to be the most mentally sound of all of us. I think one day it’ll make her happy and then another it’ll just make her depressed.

One thing I have already bought her is a collection of Oscar Wilde stories. My Gran was a Librarian and she has always loved books. She’s got such a big book case! I’m always borrowing books from her. She also really loves Ravens, they are her “animal”. Like Lions, Wolves and Owls are mine…and her mothers. I have only been able to find one “thing” of a Raven, that’s actually nice and hasn’t got all death surrounding it.

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I still like the idea of the birthstone, and the family tree. This where you all come in. Also, if you want to add any ideas to my Discord channel, please free too! I have added a channel “craftamake” Where people can share ideas and ask for Craft ideas.

 

 

 

Share Your World 03/02/2020

Share Your World…03/02/2020

Share Your World

QUESTIONS:

Can you bake a cake?   (credit for this question goes to Di, who asked it on her post recently.   Thanks Di! After last week’s SYW, we needed a little bit of sweet and light!)

https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2020/02/29/its-a-mystery/

I can technically bake a cake, whether that’s baking well or not is another matter. I actually prefer to bake cookies. I LOVE cookies, and it seems everyone else bakes cakes in my family anyway. I think once I have kids, I’ll probably have to more, but basically I can, but I prefer cookies =D

What’s one thing that can instantly make your day better?

Without a doubt, both of the furbabies instantly make the day better. Even when you go to the rubbish bin, they are just so genuinely happy to see you. Of course as well, when you get that package you’ve been waiting for, sometimes you think it’s gotten lost and then you realise…It has not! Or starting to read a really good book.

When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not?

I ate it all, baby!

What’s something your family would be surprised to learn about you?

I’m not actually sure to be honest. They know pretty well, I haven’t really hid anything from them. The only thing I’ve hidden from them is the fact that my anxiety tablets made me depressed there for a bit.


AND (of course)

GRATITUDE IS AN ATTITUDE!

Please feel free to share some gratitude from this past week (or month or year).  This is purely optional of course, but it does tend to uplift everyone (I happen to think) to read some happy and/or joyful thoughts or view some uplifting pictures.    Thank you if you do so! 

Just having another day here. With the ability to stay off social media if I so choose. I guess I feel grateful that I have choices.

All the single mama’s! Magic Monday #10

I can very happily say that I also know good single Dads too. This article doesn’t surprise me though.

Single mamas are raising awesome kids – and research confirms it. Motherly article;

You know why this true for (both mums and dads). You don’t NEED a mum and a dad to raise a successfully, good child, you just need good guardians. That’s what parents really are, we are guardians.

Brewaeys said. “However, it seems likely that any negative influence on child development depends more on a troubled parent-child relationship and not on the absence of a father.”

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My cousin and I were just talking about this. How these days people trust a very small number of people, if it all, to take care of their kids these days. We understand why, but we were talking about how even us, as kids, we would hang out all the time. We were always over each other houses. When we went to other friends houses, as long as parents or adults were there, our parents were fine. Now it seems that you have to be really good friends with the parents first. Even if your best friend has to get their parents to take care, it’s not okay.

There is always going to be that one single parent who ruins it for the rest, but there are “together” parents who are just as bad. We’re humans, there is always bad and good in every situation. In my own personal life, most of the successful people I know, who have good kids are from single parents. I can only think of a couple of successful married couples. Most of them are from second marriages as well.

All my life.

As I said in my post “All that I’ve learnt “. One thing that I learnt a lot this year was how someone can know you for your entire life, but not know you. Take my Dad, I blocked him earlier this year and I’ve had moments where I’ve said “I’ll contact him” today and then he’ll contact someone else, and he clearly has learnt nothing. I don’t know why but this lesson was the toughest one I learnt this year.

Share Your World 14-10-19

Share Your World 10-14-19

Share Your World

QUESTIONS:

Why do we have such trouble telling our loved ones that we love them?  Do you have that kind of communication issue with your loved ones?

Some I do and some I don’t. Some loved ones, I love them because they’re family, but I don’t necessarily like them. Some people like my brother we were really close, then in high school we drifted apart, but now we’ve come back together.

Above question inspired by this short, poignant blog post:

https://mitchteemley.com/2019/10/10/love-before-its-too-late-2/ 

Decorations for holidays?   Spirit lifters or pain in the butt?   Or a mix?  

Oh definitely spirit lifters, but only when it’s not too early! Christmas is my favourite time of year, every year. But with the shops bringing Christmas into the shops, earlier each year. It’s weird how stressful it makes you feel. Like “Oh my goodness, I need too get all the Christmas shopping done right now”lol.

Do you donate to charities?  Of your time, do you feel money is the only true gift, or other?  (nod to Rory for this idea)

I donate to three different charities. But money isn’t the only thing you can do. There’s a lot you can do! You can volunteer (I guess that’s your time). Listening can be charity. There’s so many different ways to give.

Are you too superstitious or  have you ever played with a Ouija Board?

I’m superstitious to a point, I’m not going to start throwing salt over my shoulder…Maybe,lol. I kind of do want to play with an Ouija board, but I also don’t want too.


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(image gathered off Pinterest)

HARVEST GRATITUDE:

This week please share a photo or image of what ‘harvest’ and “Autumn” mean to you!   Thanks! 

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Autumn in Australia is during April. My birthday month =D