Would you…or would you not?

I was reading up about how Kim Catrall had at go at SJP sending her condolences about Catrall’s brother. A lot of people came to SJP’s defence. I have to say though and Kim Catrall said it as well

If we are not friends, and it is ABUNDANTLY clear that we are not friends…I would be pretty pissed at someone for sending condolences, especially on a sudden family death. I may not have a go at that person publicly, but I would certainly be pissed! If one of my ex’s friend sent me condolences, I wouldn’t say a word, but I would still be peeved. You should wait and see if the grieving person comes to you first.

Maybe it’s just me though?

The Lazy Arguments

One thing I can say about this latest American election is that it truly has brought out some really truly astounding arguments, or why it is okay for either side to have done what they’ve done. Many of the arguments I have seen are:

  • The memes! Just plain memes, other peoples words in a flashy picture. If you truly believe in something use your OWN words to fight for you.
  • People who stand with Trump claiming “fake news” and then used Muslim women in chains saying the picture was live from the latest women’s march -.-
  • People who tell others to “get over” the fact that Trump is now President, while complaining how complacent we had become…Which I agree with, we had become complacent, and I love that people are making sure the politicians know WE ARE WATCHING YOU…But which way do you want it…Complacent or Not?
  • Fake Accounts: Because nothing says “I believe in what I’m saying and I know who I am and I have a backbone and I believe in my convictions” Like a fake account and no one has to know who you are.
  • Well your side  was accused of raping children too…So that somehow makes it okay for our side to be accused of raping children, because the other side was accused of it too. I think this one annoys me the most…It’s not OKAY for either side okay? I don’t care if the other side did it too, it doesn’t suddenly make it “okay” for your side to have done it … This is what is wrong with the world…

Halloween: Trick or Treat?

So what do you prefer readers? Tonight on my television screen are all types of Halloween movie…Funny, Based on true events etc. Over the weekend I was watching a lot of documentaries of horror stories, a lot of whom real life stories have been turned into “Hollywood Magic”. My post this afternoon is based on probably one of the most well-known murderess after watching a show about her on the History Channel…Such a great channel! Whereas tonight I am planning on watching all the comedy type Halloween movies.

So what do you prefer to watch comedy, real life, psychologically thrillers. Or do you, like me, like to watch a combination of the lot?…With a glass of wine, or your choice of beverage ~.^

Thank you … Part 2 … My Online life

Last week I promised myself that I was going to think at least 80% positively for the week and I have to say that I think I did really well. I was probably more 70%, but it was still a good number! I think that we are finally getting that first Spring weather is helping me a lot to think more positively. I am not a Winter person at all!

*Warning…Long post incoming*

Part of my positive thinking was saying thank you my local Chemist (as seen here: Thank you … My Local Chemist) and I thanked them for help they had given me during my time when I developed an odd form of anxiety.

This week I would LOVE to say thank you to my “online life” and the people I’ve met via the Internet.

I don’t think many people realise the amazingly positive impact that they’ve had on me through my online life. This includes people who I interact with via WordPress, my Safari Live family, sometimes Instagram etc. I have met someone awesome incredibly people on these sites, who have helped me expand my mind, shocked me (in a good way) and have become more a part of my daily life and probably know me better than even my real life ‘life’ people.

It’s introduced me to a world of people who think the same way as me, who will allow people in and out of their lives based on what’s on the inside rather than the outside, or what they want people to perceive them as. I was at a point in my life where I was SO tired of losing “friends” because I didn’t want to pretend anymore, because I wanted to fight for things, rather than swear all the time and be a certain way (I swear people told me I should swear more because a certain girl they want to sleep with swears…a lot) I was tired of feeling like a bad person because people would literally tell me I should be more like “Girl A, or Girl B” or had to impress people to make life easier for themselves. I had someone tell me once I shouldn’t wear headbands, so now I wear them all the time when they’re around…I think my headbands are gorgeous!

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I was tired of the same dramas I have been involved since High School, especially when I’m supposed to be in my 30’s and all the people still doing the drama’s are in their 30’s.

This is what you all brought me, you brought me a family that accepted me as one of your own, because of what I already bring, not what you think I can bring, or what you *think* I should bring.  You actually like having me around, for me ❤ I’m not sure you will ever understand how much freedom you have all give me, how much power you have given back to me.

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Friends that are like Family…REALLY?!

I recently read an article on KennethJustice.com which really made me think about some things…I only wanna listen to what I want……REALLY???

I have been dealing with this problem over the last couple of months. As a few things have hit me about certain friendships. People who will tag you in those “Friends are like Family” type posts and your first thought “You are so full of it”…The type where you can literally write “I am not okay”, they ignore that (while tagging you in those “posts…Friends that are like Family) then you write how people suck and THAT one they seem to pay attention to and get all offended by?

Like Kenneth I have noticed a trend of people just not listening any-more other than when they want to prove someone wrong. Some people I only ever hear from when they want to tell me that I am doing something wrong…I admit, I tend to ignore these people. This is generally because you can’t just talk to someone and make bold comments on someone’s words, their thoughts and ideas if you are only ever talking to them when it suits you. Positive or Negative. In order to get a full novel of someone’s life, you have to have conservations with that person…Pleasant and Unpleasant.

Who are you?

Talking with the girls (as one does) and we were talking about which ex’s do we regret the most. I’m not sure that I actually regret any of my past relationships, however there is one relationship that has an interesting way to view it and I wonder if I am alone in this.

My last relationship I felt like he was lying so much about who he was, that he never knew who I was. To me there is not way that he could possibly have cared about the real me, because if you don’t know who a person is…How can you possibly know what can hurt them? How would you know what they would consider to be a betrayal?

I put it down to this, it was like dating an actor, but dating their amazing fictional character and then realising, disappointingly,  you were dating this whole other real reality. It’s the best way that I can think of to explain my last relationship. I think that’s why I find it so hard to get over what happened…Who did I date? Did I date the man, or the character?Any ways…Don’t matter no more ~.^ hehe

One of those “days”

So having one of those “days” got into a fight with a ‘best friend’ of mine…I should be reminded that if someone doesn’t want to leave a relationship that is more than unhealthy for me you either a)say nothing or b)accept that you’re going to be blasted for wanting to be protective. Guess which one happened to me! (In case you can’t guess, it was option B,lol).

The weird thing that I’ve been perfectly fine, even though I’ve been called “fake”, passively aggressively though. I’m not even sure why that is, these are my BEST friends. There’s one or two who aren’t necessarily taking sides but they’re just letting me know they don’t think the same way the others are. I can take comfort in the fact that I feel strong too, I wont even let my best friends talk shit about me.

I guess when you speak the truth and you are coming from a genuinely honest concerned place, I guess that makes all the difference.