30 Days of Gratitude Days 15 – 21

Day 15 – 17: Family – Well I spent this time with my Family at our reunion and I get along well with my family. Couldn’t be more grateful for a family like mine.

Day 18: Walking – This one probably seems like a bit out of the blue =D Well at the family reunion we took a walk on a Summit and it was 4km all round…and extremely steep. Meaning when we woke up the next morning, none of could walk…I am not even kidding! As I walked up and down the stairs I started to realise what my life might be like at 80. For the first time in, even in the last couple of days, my life I have been eating so well and now I am saving up to go and get my health checked up.

Day 19: The Past – I have had a really nice day with two of my ex’s. The first was just being silly with one who I’ve been been friends with for a while now, he was my serious relationship. Which is nice, it’s nice to have someone who knows me as well as he does in my life. Knows all my darkness, but still hangs around me and thinks that I’m still pretty “neat”…BUT the best part of today was my last ex and I have been talking since my family reunion. We have decided that we will try to be friends, but we are going to wait until the New Year. I am SO happy, I never wanted it to end as ugly as it did. He’s so special to me and such a unique individual, I can’t describe how glad I am.

Day 20: The World Wide Web – Today I got to experience something amazing…a once in a life time experience. Thanks to the amazing wonder that is the Internet I got to see not one…but TWO baby Wilder Beast being born, live…Sure it wasn’t the same thing as seeing it in the “flesh”, but even probably 5 years ago I wouldn’t have been able to see it at all!
If you want to experience amazing live web feeds too, this is one that you should definitely watch!
WildEarth Safari’s

Day 21: My “real” friends” – So today I told a bunch of people that I was tired of being treated like a second class friend and I do not like the way I’ve been treated. It amazed me how many people came out in support of ME! =D I had finally had enough and had the final insult today. I told them enough is enough. I have done nothing wrong to them and have continually be treated badly for not a single good reason, sure I don’t rub their ego’s, but that is not reason to treat someone badly…You earn respect, you don’t just ‘get it’.

What If?…

Once again going with my music video theme for this week…This is a song I repeatedly listen too and have for many years. I think that a lot of others can relate to this song and Kate Winslet doesn’t, surprisingly, sound too bad. I think though, if a lot of people knew who this songs relates too for myself, they would be very shocked…Because it is not any of my past boyfriends. Whenever I am having a rough time with a partner, or a potential partner I somehow always stumble over this song.

Uploaded on 19 Feb 2010

Artist – Kate Winslet
Title – What If

Record Company – EMI Records

Date Yourself!

It’s amazing when we are in a  relationship how much of an effort we are willingly to “date” someone, the getting ready, the saving money, making sure that we are going somewhere they like. One of the things that used to frustrate me about my past partners was they’d always want to play games with their friends and I’d get ditched all the time, when I wanted to go out and have fun. If we ever went to the movies, it was always with their friends and it would never be a movie that I wanted to see.

At a very rough time in my life, I had gone to visit a boyfriend at work, and it was at a shopping mall that I had not been too for a very long time. I had planned to have a little look around and then come back to have lunch with my partner. I ended up spending all day by myself, shopping, eating, drinking coffee and seeing a movie that I had wanted to see. It was the most fun day I had had for so many months. It was then that I made a resolution to myself which I have applied too, even more so, being single.

Once a month I take myself out on a “date”. I go to the movies, I go too exhibitions I want and I treat myself to a lunch or a special treat at a nice cafe/restaurant. It is something that I HIGHLY recommend all single people and people in relationships do too. It has also made me more brave to go to more places by myself rather than relying on someone to end up taking me.

So take a spa day by yourself and for yourself. Buy the bad food and watch that movie that makes you cry. Dress up in your favourite clothes and dance to your favourite music.

Take the time to make an effort to date yourself!

Dating Day!

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge! Day 1 – “7”

Technically I know it’s only been 5 days since New Years (still can’t believe that!) but it’s also Sunday, which is the end of a calendar week and so far so good!

So as I mentioned at the end of last year I would be taking up a Blogging challenge! It’s called “The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge” and would post a weekly blog with the answers in groups of seven and here is the first group:

1)      Your response to everyone’s favorite question: “And why are YOU still single?”

Well my first response is I normally laugh that question off with “I choose jerks and bad guys all the time” When I really look into it though, that has a bit to do with it. Considering I’m friends with all of my ex’s except for one (because he really is a jerk), they cannot be that bad. It’s a horrible question because if I knew that answer to that I probably wouldn’t be single to begin with!

I don’t think I am making completely horrible decisions with the guys I’m picking. I know what I want and at the time these guys genuinely seem like they can provide it. I have talked about marriage and kids with all three of my relationships and I didn’t like bringing up the conversation. So I always felt like they did really want it, because they were thinking of it. The hardest relationship was my first, which was long distance, because I was too young to understand what a great relationship we had. With neither of us willingly to make that sacrifice, that was it. It’s hard sometimes because I still think he very easily could have been the one.  I have actually told him that he was my favourite so far.

I enjoy being single and I think that’s a majority of my problem.  I remember with one relationship where I actually use to tell my boyfriend not to come with me, because I knew he wouldn’t enjoy and he would sulk and that would upset me. It ended being so bad I still wish I had spent one New Year without him! I think when I meet the one where I enjoy being in a relationship more than being single that’ll be the one for me!

2)      Describe a moment or a day when being single really sucked.

Like the author who created this blog challenge, I 99% of the time LOVE my single life. There’s just this one moment where I feel it really sucks to be single. Those nights where the thunderstorm is just perfect, perfect for snuggling and having that lazy sleepy conversation that is full of your fears as you both can’t sleep from the thunderstorm. That conversation where nothing necessarily “happens” but just that moment reminds me that I’m single.

3)      Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.

I feel like there have just been so many moments! I am one of those girls that enjoys being single and I have no problem with it. A few moments that stand out though are my formals, I actually was single for both. Most of the couples ended up in fights, the girls wanted to dance and the guys didn’t, the girls got mad at their boyfriend for daring to look at another girl and there was me running about, dancing, eating, jumping in to take photos and dancing again. Even this past new year’s, I was salsa dancing all night with gorgeous men…I have never salsa danced before!

4)      Your biggest fear as a single person.

My biggest fear is honestly when I got out, especially when it’s in the city or downtown. That is mainly because though I am a tiny person and I know that if someone wants to hurt me that they really can if they want too. I am not going to lie when I say that this is one of the reasons I like guys with the big arms. They give the impression that they can protect me!

5)      The biggest misconception you think people have about single life

That because I’m single that I MUST want to date…This is not true at all! Yes, I would love to find a companion to be with and I have no doubt that when I find “the one” I’ll know and that everything will be fine. If I was to date someone now, especially with everything that I’ve been through, it would completely end in disaster. I remember when I was about 24 and I went to a psychics show weekend and I had a reading done on myself and they said that I would meet the ‘one’ in my early thirties and thinking at the time “That’s so far away!” I’ve been told that two by two different psychics!…Now being only being a few months away from 30, this looks like the reality…I will never doubt a psychic ever again! lol

6)      Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

I think this is debatable. Mainly because I didn’t go into a relationship hoping that it would end, I wanted them all to last and they all ended for different reasons. Sometimes you love someone and they just don’t love you anymore, sometimes you realise the relationship is going to go nowhere even if you want it too. For myself, personally, I would have done anything to keep my first relationship and we are still good friends even today! It was pretty much impossible to be together anymore, so that is not exactly what I want…Then again you could debate that is exactly what I wanted, to end it.

How many times have you liked someone and they just don’t like you back? That’s not exactly what I want!

7)      Where you are in your life vs. where you thought you would be at this point

Absolutely not! Ten years ago I and probably everyone else around me thought I’d be the first to get married, to have kids…and now I’m the last in my family to do so! I didn’t know what I wanted to do and now I want to do nothing else but work in a Library, anything else would feel like a drain.

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