Are you an empath?

*If you follow me on Instagram. You probably saw my post about this topic. As I wrote on the post, I wanted to write about this topic, with a little more oompfh.*

Too begin with, there are two type of empaths. There are the type that feel for others, so you see a situation and while you might not understand what they’re dealing with. You feel for them. You can feel the pain that they are feeling. You get why they’re fighting for what they’re fighting for.

The other are people who can almost actually read your mind. They are what is called an empath psychic. A lot of these types can see certain things, like, you might of heard of people who can see colours around people or auras’. We all have one certain colour that surrounds us, but empath psychic can see our colours change when we feel pain, happiness, sadness etc.

Also, for each empath, clearly there are empath’s who feel different areas more strongly than other areas. So there are people like medical empath’s, as an example.

Basically Empath’s are people who literally feel for others.

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Now, the issue I really have with people who say “I am totally an empath, because I have strong feelings so I am expert on others’ feelings”. Having strong feelings doesn’t automatically make you an empath. Narcissists, as an example, think they have strong feelings. I would never call a Narcissist an empath,lol. But I’ve known a lot of Narcissists in my life, who do call themselves empaths, because they have strong feelings.

Now, I don’t mind if you have strong feelings, we all do, we’re human after all. My issue is when you going around using a platform to use your “strong feelings” and then talk and spread your misinformation.

If your an empath and you’re using your platform to say “Don’t make me feeling guilty if I need a break from BLM, because I need a mental break” and then continue to complain, about how people are making you feel guilty. Now Empath’s, like myself, do feel guilty if we need to take a mental health day, because we KNOW that we haven’t had to deal with the racism for hundreds if not thousands of years. If you’re only getting involved with BLM NOW, you’ve literally been dealing with it for about a month,lol. Not hundreds of years, so yeah, to complain that people make you feel guilty for needing a day off, is kind of ridiculous and not empathetic.

An empath, by the way, has been feeling BLM, before BLM, became a “thing.”

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Empath’s, At the same time, are aware that we can still do something even when we need a “day off”. You can do things that don’t require you to go on social media, that don’t require you to go out and protest. Buy or go to your local library and grab that POC author book, you may have not read before. Get old clothes together, to give to charity. Old toys to give to vulnerable children. Make some home cooking for your elderly neighbour. Write a well written letter to your Representative, that peaceful protesters are being arrested for BLM marches, ignoring their 1A RIGHTS to peacefully protest. While white people with guns, hang effigies of their local representative…were not. See, you don’t NEED to go onto social media, at all.

An empath, already knew this. So chances are, you’re not an empath.

It’s perfectly fine to not be an empath, it’s not like it makes you insensitive to people, it doesn’t. You still have feelings, just empaths tend to have stronger feelings for OTHERS, not just strong feelings in general. But please, do not go saying you are one, spreading misinformation so you can be part of a “fad”. That’s what you’d be doing.

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The Ever lasting Effect of an Empath

Over the weekend Safari Live had a very special fireside chat that was dedicated to the Queen that is the Leopardess Karula. It got me too thinking, about those things, people, animals, that leave us with an impression forever, even though those things that we’ve never actually met before. How do they affect us so much?

Take the situation with Karula, I’ve never actually physically seen her, not to face to face (not that I would have wanted too), but through a tv screen, yet whenever I see a picture of her or a screen shot I started getting emotional. Or take the Manchester bombings, I don’t even live in the same country, let alone in Manchester, yet the whole day I was crying. Even with people I dislike, or people who have done me wrong. I get upset for them when I hear something terrible has happened, I just cannot revel in their misery.

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(My super serious title is : The Moon Goddess Empath)

Any fellow Empaths in here?

I think that the issue I have most with being empathetic, is that unfortunately, I tend to “suck in” other people’s emotions and I have to constantly suck myself back out of situations before I am completely and utterly sucked in by the toxicity, and there is a lot of that out there!

So what as one empath to another, what suggestions that people who are empathetic, what direction, what suggestions can we make to one another to make our lives a little easier. It’s very hard to function in the world if we consistently let the world upset us. I have a few suggestions:

  • Make a commitment to yourself to take yourself off of all social media for at least once a day a week.
  • Eat and drink healthy…I know it may seem like a cliche, but I have taken out coffee recently and I have really noticed the difference.
  • On those days off from social media, fill your mind with something fulfilling, completely personal for you.
  • Understand that you do not have to go to any party or gathering, if you feel you don’t want too. Make sure though you do treat your mind instead!

One thing you should understand though is that being an Empath is not the same as having depression or a mental illness, that is a completely different thing. Although the two can overlap and correlate a lot.

Are you wounded?

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/

Oh wow! Just Wow! This describes so many of my past relationships. A lot of my ex’s would go on and on about what “terrible childhoods” they’d have. They weren’t abused or anything, a lot of them had parents that would overcompensate. The reason I would post this in a “Single” Blog? Mainly because I think that if you are one of these, you can look out of the warning signs of the other before you become any more serious. If you are dating someone new and you are feeling unsure then you can look for these signs.