Same same

Again, I am still blocked on Twitter, and dears, I have never been happier, lol

Why is it whenever there is ‘in-fighting’ in any group. Doesn’t have to be a specific group, it’s always the SAME people, with the SAME drama’s. Its god so boring, but it also actually harms the cause that you say you’re fighting for. Do you all remember the BLM marches? What people said of those who burned and looted. How many excuses the racists GOP used against BLM because of those people.

I remember listening to Former, First Lady, Michelle Obama’s podcast how black people had to be better than perfect. Its the same of any marginalised community. It’s not fair and it’s not okay, but it’s what must done. It’s what you need to do, to get that first foot safely in the door. And some times it is just better to shut up.

If Rowling came to my front door and said someone was trying to harm her, kill her, whatever, she was in danger. She’d still be welcomed into my house. It’s part of what makes me better than her. Why would any good person, think after everything Rowling and her cult have done, you can turn around and then pick and choose which trans people you want to protect. What’s the difference? If you want to call yourself something like “trans safety network” you can’t turn around pick which trans people you keep safe.

I don’t like Debbie Hayton, no respect for her/him whatever she/he is today. But she probably needs a lot more mental health help, with her inner transphobia than say someone like Laverne Cox. You help her/him, because you’re supposed to be better than her/him.

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Don’t Worry be Happy

A couple of weeks ago I had the weirdest day I had had in such a long time. I was going for my L’s Theory test and the first thing that happened was I bumped into someone from high school and we had a chat about my ex friends from high school and that situation. Then I went and did the test and went across the road to the local mall and walked pass this girl that has never liked me and she recently unfriended me on Facebook. (I don’t know when she did it, but we both got tagged in something and that’s when I realised, because I don’t go to her page) Since I don’t have an issue with her, I smiled and she gave me the coldest shoulder (and no smile) I have ever received.

I had to laugh and shake my head…It’s ridiculous!

I’ve always had this feeling that she’s thought that there’s some sort of competition between us…and I just genuinely do not give a…

I don’t even understand it because all the guys in this group love her. She’s done these horrible things and they still love her, so that’s them, not me. I don’t like how she’s treated people (myself included) but it’s not like they don’t know what she’s done. Maybe it’s because I don’t worship her or something like that? Generally I don’t do that for anyone, not even with celebrity. I’ve never understood that frame of mind.

Anyways, I digress,

I laughed and shook my head because it made me realise something. I don’t have time or the mental space to worry about people’s make believe problems anymore. How privileged she should feel that someone who doesn’t really care about her…Doesn’t care about her, but everyone else still loves her…I would LOVE to have those problems!

 

Oh, the ironies

Do you ever see someone make a comment that you just go “shake your head” and you have the perfect comebacks but you can’t say anything because you know it’ll create unnecessary drama? So I’ll share with you all my wannabe snappy come back. There’s this person…Most of her comments are negative and drama driven, all except for the guy that she kept calling the most amazing man ever…While in a relationship (with a child) with somebody else. She even complains a lot about her kid…

She posted this comment about how she is the Queen of not dealing with bullshit (with a gif of Rihanna wearing a crown) and I wanted to write the comment “I’ll give you that you don’t deal with a lot of bullshit, but you sure do create a lot of it!”

That was lame, it was lame wasn’t it?lol

Just walk away

I have usually gotten along better with guys than I do with girls. I don’t know if it’s less drama or they are appear more laid-back, but I had always gotten along better with guys…Until the last few years, where mainly the word S…E…X has gotten in the way, mainly theirs, lol…

I don’t know how, but I’ve been in the situation twice now, where I come along in a new group and think that I have made some new friends and they seem like a lot of fun. Then over the next couple of years, someone else has come along…You know more “exciting” than me, younger than me…I mean I think I look pretty good for 33. However, that’s when things change. I’m suddenly sitting at my birthday all alone, that was pretty horrible…Of course the girls don’t like me, one I have never met, the other I’ve never really hang out with. So over time you just lose “friends” and you don’t even know why…Other than they’re all a bunch of idiots.

The first girl I fought back against, because she was attacking me for no reason. Everything I said, everything I did was “wrong” and a reason to send me 4 page emails about how wrong I was. I’d wake up the next day and another “friend” would be gone. It was probably the most emotionally and mentally draining thing that has ever happened too me.

So, when it started happening again, I didn’t fight, I just walked away and it was probably the best thing that I have ever done for myself. No months of drama or how wrong I was, and I still lost friends and people still walked away.

It has been different this time…

People came back and I got unfriended by people who honestly, I don’t actually like that much too be honest. I stopped getting invited to their parties, but I had better ones to go to and had even better people to spend time with. I had more time to explore and discover where I live instead of going to the same parties, with the same people and the same dramas.

Do I wish that either party would apologise? Of course…The best advice I can give though, if you are in this situation, or something similar…Walk Away…

This applies to every single relationship in your life. Any relationship or any type of relationship, just walk away. There is a reason that this saying is a cliche…

If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours

It’s a true cliche, set them free, if they come back, they were always meant to be apart of your life. If they don’t, they just were not. It really is true and sometimes it can hurt and it can be frustrating because you can’t understand why. I’ve been there so many times “Why, what’s wrong with me?”. There is nothing wrong with you, as my Gran likes to say “They are just not part of your tribe”. It’s true…Most of the people I’ve lost during these situations, there are soooooooo boring, or annoying and they do the same dramas all the time. They just did not “interest” me, I guess you could say. I have never actually lost a really good friend.

Some of these people have come back into my life and they have seriously honestly missed me. The cliche is a cliche for a reason, even though it takes time. It might even take years. They do, the ones who matter, always do.

Walk Away

Have Faith 

Be Happy

And just keep being you

99 Problems…but you wont be one of them…

Sitting here with a great cup of coffee, getting ready for what should I post about next? Then realising I have not written about being single, I figure that I should =P For me any-ways, at the moment everything has been drama free and I have been loving the quiet and peace that comes along with not really having to answer to someone.

One interesting thing that I have found when you are single is how people will react to you about relationship matters. A lot of my friends wont even tell me that they’ve met someone else for fear or “upsetting” me. Some of my friends constantly complain about their relationships, making me feel really grateful that I don’t have to worry about any of that. Especially when most of them people complaining, don’t actually want to talk about their problems with their actual partner.

I never judge a relationship either by Facebook, its amazing what people will tell you when they’re drunk. So one of the best pieces of advice I can give about being single (or if you are having trouble watching an ex move on, on Facebook) … Chill … No one EVER posts about what a miserable time that they are having when it comes to their relationship on Facebook. Also staying away from Facebook all together and NOT stalking your ex’s Facebook is a good piece of advice, block them…Block them right now!

Even with the beginning of a new relationship, that can be full of such doubt for my friends. One of my girlfriends, the guy is clearly a player. Kissed her and then let her know he was seeing someone, so she thinks it can’t be that serious…but still I told her to stay away.

Nope…I am really enjoying being single, no problems and all drama free.

 

Published on 1 May 2014

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30 Days of Gratitude…Days 8 – 14

(Well this one shall be very interesting since for half of it I’ll be at a family reunion).

Day 8: Alone – My mum is gone all weekend so this means that I have the entire weekend to myself! So far it’s been bliss (mind you though I’ve had to do homework all day). One of the things that I love at being home alone for a weekend by myself is the absolute solitude. Don’t get me wrong, living with my Mum isn’t all bad. Sometimes though you do a couple of days to yourself, so you can regather yourself back together. My mum has this habit of coming home and as soon as she walks through the door is complains. Sometimes, especially on bad days I actually dread her coming home because I know she’s going to complain about something and it makes me feel worse. I am grateful to have these rare moments alone.

Day 9: Study – I have finally managed to hand in a huge project and it was a huge effort to put since it was a topic I was not interested in and it took forever. Pretty much every spare day I had was taken up with it. This entire weekend I spent working on it and I have a test I really needed to study for. The reason I am grateful for my studies though is because not only is it helping me get into the career of my dreams. I am learning different things that help me in my work. At the moment we are learning how to make web Dewey numbers, every section of Dewey that I’ve learnt I’ve been able to then help customers out where I work. Sometimes work is busy so I don’t really have time stand back and learn.

Day 10: Drama Free: So there I was thinking what am I grateful for, because nothing really happened today…but there is something to be grateful in that alone…Nothing…Only two weeks ago I was angry beyond comprehension and my ex messing me about was beyond horrible. He made me feel worthless and the pain he had and was putting me through meant nothing to him. Like he didn’t care whether I was dead or alive and then he speaks so condescendingly to me….To NOT have anything like that in my life, is calming and beautiful.

Day 11: Single-hood – So I had a HUGE test today on my toughest subject. After the tests on this subject, my brain is completely fried and I fall asleep where ever I am. It was in this moment that I’m grateful that I don’t have children and I can rest easy. I’m also grateful because though by the time I have children I will be an expert on the subject, have a good job because of my studies and be able to comfortably provide for my children.

Day 12: My bed – I know this seems like an odd one, but I am very grateful to have a bed that I can get into a night and feel safe at night. I can dream at night, feeling safe with a roof over my head and safe in my bed.

Day 13: Brother – My brother came back today to visit us as we going on a family reunion trip this weekend. The reason I am grateful for my brother isn’t because he’s done anything amazing for me. He’s done great things for me, but the reason I am grateful to have the brother that I do is because he reminds me constantly what a MAN is. My brother is a Drag Queen, and a seriously good one at that too. He has won many Australia awards for the work that he had done. While I have all these “straight manly men” telling me that a man is only a man if he has a beard, or if he has big shoulders…My 6’4′ gangly brother is being a man, by being who he truly is. He is a constant reminder that a man is not made by what is on his face (neither Steve McQueen or James Dean had a beard can I just say too) or what he hides behind. A man is a man because he has the strength to be who he truly is. THAT’S a man!

Day 14: Family – By the time you read this I will be with my family at our family reunion. I LOVE my family we are all so different but we love each so much. It’s our differences that hold us together. A round up on the “labels” of people that will be at this reunions are: gay, straight, religious, athletic, creative, intellectual, spiritual. Yet, I can guarantee that we will have the most amazing time. From all of my other friends I know how incredibly lucky that I am too have the family (mothers side) that I do…My Dad’s side, don’t even talk to each other.