What to do, when you can’t get out

I basically wanted to discuss what have you all been doing to keep yourself entertained while during lockdown, self-imposed or otherwise. When it first started, I saw a lot of comments telling people, if people don’t learn at least one new skill during the lockdowns, then they’ve wasted it. I also saw a lot of people pointing out everything wrong with that…Which I was happy about…Mental Health…Is a tricky issue.

So what I would love to know, what you have been doing while you are isolating?

For myself, I’m been doing things like, I am FINALLY catching up on my Goodreads challenge, but I am starting to fall back again.

I’ve started to garden, and the weirdest thing is that, the spinach is pretty much dead. However, the chamomile and spring onion is doing really well!. My mum turned to me and said “Only you could kill something Lauren, that’s basically a weed. But do really well on the hard to grow plants”. She gave me lavender and that’s pretty much dead too!lol

Funnily enough, I have not binged on any new shows. But I have been watching the Golden Girls…A LOT!

Been writing a lot of letters for penpals. It’s amazing how much I’ve realised I need to start writing more! My hand hurts after like two sentences,lol.

I had to restart my Discord channel! That was really annoying, because people were really starting to chat with each other! Especially about their writings!

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Headspace/World Mental Health Day

I just wanted to start off this Blog with a “I hope that this Blog Post, finds you well”

I’ll start off with writing a little about the organisation “HeadSpace” Now HeadSpace is really dedicated to young people between the ages of 12 – 25, in Australia (I don’t know why they are always so specific,lol). Although I am sure it is perfectly alright for anybody of any age to go and have a look at them.

I don’t want to have this blog post trigger anyone. I want this to be a “safe post today”. Let’s write about getting help for one another.

Make a Promise 10/10

What is the one thing you find helps you during an episode?

I hadn’t a panic attack for nearly and then a couple of weeks ago I did, but I managed to calm myself down before it became full blown and I needed the…as I call them…the big stuff! The pills that help you sleep, or they make you really drowsy. I have an app on my phone it plays sounds and I put the earphones in an concentrate on the music.

Do natural medication works?

I find that do. It almost feels like that when you look up herbs and teas to help with anxiety. It’s like they’ve evolved with us. I don’t think they can work alone though, don’t rely on them or Western medications, unless you have something severe, by themselves.

Do you have people you can trust to go when you are having an episode? If you don’t, can my readers, suggest a place to go?

This is actually something that I want to do. I was thinking of making a space, somewhere, safe. Where people can talk and discuss, in Australian time. I have so many friends overseas who are doing this and I think it is such a beautiful idea! I’d just like to do something like this, where I don’t came in after the conversation,lol

 

Safe Spaces

Now, I’m not writing about the ones that the Republicans and hard core righters seem to think they are something to make fun. They are interesting things to think about, aren’t they? I was just thinking about this over the weekend. I find it easier to fall asleep with at my partners house, but I find it easier to wake up at my own house.

Safe spaces are definitely not something to make fun of.

I am also finding that my work just in general works for me as well. I think because it helps to keep myself distracted, instead of thinking…thinking……and thinking. Not only do I have different rooms, but just different spaces and things as well. My plushie Savannah and Mufasa, whenever I hug them, I always feel better. Sometimes I will just hug them and not let go for a while. I have a couple of meditation and anxiety apps that I can listen to anywhere, so I guess those are “safe spaces” too?

 

 

 

It’s a hard-knock life

*I am just going to start off this post with a disclaimer…I am a girl, I do like to play games. I am not a guy and so will be speaking about my perspective about it. I do not hate men, I think they are adorable. This is just something that’s been on my mind a little lately…So let’s share!*

I do believe that world of gaming and geekiness (don’t think that’s an actual word) is definitely becoming more accepting, especially those of the girl gender. We’re still hitting some blocks though, when it comes to “preference” and different opinions…Although to be honest I think that goes for a lot of what’s happening lately. It’s your way or the highway.

What disturbs me though are those people, if they don’t like, or they can’t understand what that other person is saying “your opinion is invalid”.

I HATE IT WHEN SOMEONE SAYS THAT! Even if I don’t agree with what they’ve said, I HATE it when someone says that. It’s one of my pet peeves.

I was in the middle of a Twitter discussion the other day and this guy said that he found when cosplayers do characters just in their underwear, he considered it too be lazy…and OHMYGOODNESS! He was being attacked and everyone was saying they didn’t care about his opinion and it was invalid. The ironic thing was, that’s what the discussion was about. About cosplayers and what actually constitutes a “costume”. I also have too say…sometimes I agreed with him. We were both severely outnumbered, but I stand by what he and I said. Sometimes I find it cute, like there was a range of Disney Princess bathing suits that was modelled by cosplayers, and I loved it. However, sometimes I think it is lazy when they’re just wearing a wig and matching coloured underwear for a character. Especially if they didn’t even make the underwear.

It’s just an opinion though.

They just leave me uninspired. It’s JUST an opinion.

It’s also the same with games as well…There are always people disagreeing over the graphics in a game.

Trolls harass woman with death and rape threats because new game Mass Effect Andromeda’s animations ‘weren’t good enough

This however was taken to an EXTREME!…And not in a good way!

This is what I think bothers me the most. Is that this “people” were sending these threats over a game…a freaking game! A games graphics is not a life and death situation that should be affecting someones life in such a deadly way.

These “gamer’s” priorities in life are completely skewed.

Apart from the very obvious things that are wrong with threatening someone over graphics. Do they not want girls to get into gaming? Do they only want girls to be crept out and never allow them to play their games again? This isn’t exactly the BEST way to make other women and girls want to play. I know when I saw what was going on, I made a conscious decision not to the buy the games…BECAUSE I don’t want to run into any of those douche bags.

Plus…with the cliche saying…If you think you can do it better, then do it.

I’m fine with this not happening

The feud that ruined the Sex and the City movie number 3

Sometimes I am perfectly fine with things just not actually happening…I don’t know how many of you watched the other two…The first one was alright, but I felt could have been so much better. Then the second one…How were they all fine with it? Here are some of the other movies or tv series I could have lived happily without ever seeing are:

• Death Note…The American series…Why, why did that even happen?
• Riverdale…I love the comics, I used to play Veronica when my cousins, brothers and I would “play” The Archie’s. The series is alright if you don’t know about the comics. I am glad though it’s introducing a whole new generation to it.

Not everything has to happen or come to life…What about yourselves, do you have a book series or a television series or a movie, that you felt could have probably not happened and you would have been fine with that?

Mute, Block, Delete

This is something that I feel is necessary today. It is SO easy to mute, block and then delete when someone says something that we don’t like, but should we? I got very frustrated over the weekend, relating to the Tina Fey SNL skit. It was pretty cringe worthy, but there were a lot of people saying “Why…It’s just a satire”…But then these people kept coming up against other white people saying “Well you’re wrong, it’s offensive and stop arguing about it” (which they weren’t, they were trying to ask “Why”).

This frustrated me for various reasons.

1. Most of the people who thought it was satire, were white and didn’t understand, genuinely seem to want to understand why it was offensive, but they were just met with “You’re wrong”. Ironically by other white people.
2. Then when the person wanted to discuss it, they just kept being told “No, you’re wrong and you’re trying to argue”…Argue what though, I don’t know. Since these other people wouldn’t explain WHY it wasn’t good satire.
3. Then they’d brag about how they had either muted or blocked the person? Blocked what exactly? They hadn’t said anything?!
4. If they understood the problem and it is a really simple issue, then it would have been an easy thing to explain. I doubt then they understood what the problem actually is.

How can people understand something if we just mute, block and delete them? There are things that are just not pleasant to talk about, I get that, but if you have CHOSEN to get yourself involved. You are not suddenly the better person ore more progressive by telling someone they’re wrong and then muting/blocking them? If you can’t have a discussion about the issue, maybe you should just admit you don’t understand the situation? If they become aggressive or are clearly trying to troll, THEN mute, block and delete.

Dreaming

If you had a unlimited fund of money, and the ability to just take off and leave…Where would you go…Right this second?

Best Theme Ever!

A couple of years ago…or should I this year? Nah, I can’t lie to you…A couple of years ago I celebrated my 30th party with a Moulin Rouge/Favourite Character theme party. It’s still my favourite birthday ever. Then all these feelings came up again over the last long weekend, last weekend. Mainly because I finally got to watch Moulin Rouge again, by myself and with no interruption…and now I want to have another Moulin Rouge party!

What is your favourite party ever? Was there a theme…Would you do it again?

Or what was your worse party ever? Feel comfortable…Please share!

 

Getting started

This is for all my drawing/artist/creative type readers/Home Business followers…At the moment I have two casual jobs and while I enjoy both of them I am just not making enough money. I’m making enough to “survive” and luckily my partner and my mum charge me rent/bills on a percentage of what I make, rather than a set amount.

As I mentioned before I really do enjoy where I’m working at both places, I am really lucky that all my co-workers are lovely people and even with that one expected customer that’s always causing trouble. The work is good too, not to difficult that I just can’t do it, but keeps me busy and my mind off other things. Some weeks though I just don’t get the shifts, which when you’re a casual means, you get paid…well…nothing.

So this is where all my drawing/artist/creative type readers/Home Business followers come into play. I want to do something from home where I can make money as well. I love doing little crafty things and I would love to make a little business of bits and bobs. However, I have no idea where to start. So I was hoping that someone could give me ideas of any web pages or any sites that are good for people who want to get started, what sites are good to sell on, any legal information I may need. I was thinking of making things like:

• Themed candles as well as just random scented
• Handmade cards for all occasions
• Flowery headbands

“The Thinker” created by Le Penseur

I am writing a couple of stories and am even writing what I call “script ideas” for a tv show for a role playing game that I used to play and I would love to be able to draw. I am a very visual person, but I am honestly also too lazy to learn how to draw properly. I can start and try, but I’d probably never get to the point where I could sell the art. The writing is mainly for myself and I’m not sure that I have to confidence to try and sell the ideas to someone either…It makes me feel kind of sad too at the same time as well. Who doesn’t want to be the next J.K. Rowling?

The Grudge

I had an interesting conversation with a friend over the weekend and it made me think how people will view grudges differently, depending on which side you are on That’s not too say that everyone is like this, after all we all experience things in different ways.

Let me explain…

Very recently both my friend and I both had people from our past that sent us friends on request on Facebook. Both people had been very cruel to both of us, for no good reasons. They both sent us a friends request with no message, apology or reasons why they felt like we should be “Facebook friends” and we both said no. One of us then heard about how their ex-friend was telling everybody how my friend was holding onto a grudge, and I was told “it’s in the past, why can’t I just let it go”.

I also have been in a situation where someone who used to bully me in primary school, wrote a message to me on Facebook and apologised. I accepted their friends request and I do not have one single regret.

I am a big believer in letting things go and forgiving people…not for them, but for yourself. Both of us can honestly say that we hold no grudge or even ill-will towards these people. We just don’t think we have to be friends with everybody. Clearly, the fact also that these people can’t even understand and instead of sending us a message to ask us “Why”, they decided to talk about it with everybody else, except for us. Which to both of us, shows us that really nothing has changed.

So, how about yourself, do you hold onto grudges?Are you good at letting things go? Do you believe some people will just never change? Have you ever been in a similar situation and what did you do?