This one is for you singletons that really struggle with the upcoming day on Sunday … The day whose name we shall not mention!
Now the reason that I’m writing about this today is because if you are dreading then this is written for you, just in time! Take yourself on a date!
Instead of moping around the house and eating and drinking yourself sillyily, take the day to date yourself instead. Even maybe take a date day with your friends. Get a group together.
There is not a “single” reason you cannot go out and have a great day yourself and do the things and eat the things and watch the things that you want to do. When I was single I would go out for dinner with either my Mum or my friends and we would have a really awesome time. The day that shall not be named, is only one day and to some people (like myself) it’s not even that big of a deal. I know that some people make this HUGE deal of it, don’t be like them.
It amazes and saddens me to constantly read in the news and on the television another life wasted after meeting up with someone through a “dating” site. It’s a serious issue as more and more people take the the web to find their future “somebodies”.
Unfortunately not everyone is on these dating sites to find a future somebody. Speaking from some of the experiences I’ve been told a lot of stories of people who use genuine dating site as a hook up, instead of the sites created to be a hook up site.
So a couple of tips from someone who has actually found her possible future someone online and has also had some interesting stories that she could share with you!
- Do not go to anybodies house, meet out in a public place and in mutual territory…Especially on the first date!
- Meet up somewhere where you can get out of a uncomfortable situation, quickly.
- On the first few dates let someone you know well and trust, where and when you are going on this date.
- Make sure you have a way to get home. Do not let them take you home, no matter how earnestly they offer.
- If someone automatically wants to meet up at their house on the second date, chances are they are only in it for one reason. Be honest, let them know it makes you feel uncomfortable and if they don’t offer another public place, or just quit speaking with you. They were clearly in it for one reason.
- If you feel uncomfortable in any situation, whether you are on a date or just chatting online with them, listen to your gut and stop the situation.
- As I mentioned before don’t be surprised if someone is using a genuine dating site, rather than a hookup site, to, infact, hook up.
Can you think of any other tips you would give to someone using an online dating site for the first time? Especially advice and hints to keep themselves safe?
As you might have been able to guess one of my categories is “Single in a small city”…There is a reason for this, I live in a major capital city but considering the rest of the country, my capital city is rather small. Which means any-time you venture out into the world, you take the risk of running into every single person you have ever met in the whole of your life.
Which is exactly what happened last night…
Oh the awkwardness…It was awkward for two reasons.
1) I bumped into my most recent ex’s brother and we had the whole awkward acknowledgement of each other, while my current beau and I were holding hands at the bar counter.
2) I actually kind of have a crush on my ex’s brother.I couldn’t help it! Both of the guys are guitar players and singers, one morning while lying in bed with my now ex, his brother started to sing a George Harrison song…And he sounded exactly like George Harrison! George Harrison is my favourite Beatles and ex-Beatles! Not only that, but he was singing my favourite George Harrison song.
Here comes another obligatory Valentines Day post. Let’s make it a short one hey since I have to go out and do the whole “Valentines’ Day” date thing.
Saint Valentine’s Day, also known as Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine. A holiday observed on February 14th each year. It is celebrated in many countries around the world, although it is not a public holiday in most of them.
I personally have never been a big fan of the day, I have never actually had a good one.
The last ex, we weren’t really dating at the time of Valentines Day. One before him, he started off good, then after work he forgot to come back and I found out that he had cheated on me on the same day too. The one before him we broke up on the last Valentines Day we were together and the year before that his friends ate my present and he never replaced it, I also had to spend all night with them too. The boyfriend before that lived overseas, so we were never together for the day any-ways.
So pretty much, as long as my teacher doesn’t cheat on me, or eat my present, he doesn’t really have a lot that he has to worry about to be honest, and we’ve had a good laugh about it. As he has also had nothing but disasters.
When I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day I have gotten together with either my Mum or a few single girlfriends (or friends) and gone out to dinner and movies ourselves and that was just as lovely, I have once felt alone on a Valentines Day.
Whatever you end up doing, or don’t end up tonight, don’t worry about it. It’s just another day and lets be honest, if you need one day to have romance in your life with your partner, man that would just suck! Romance should be all of the time (well maybe not ALL the time, but hopefully more than once a year!).
So last night was the first night that I finally was able to sleep over my teachers house. (I’m calling him “my teacher” because he’s a teacher) and it was bad!lol…Not in a we got into a fight or anything like. I developed food poisoning…
Oh what timing! I can’t help but start laughing at the moment now. Last night though, oh it was bad! I felt at one point that I was going to actually pass out. The romance…Food poisoning bringing people together since forever. My teacher was lovely though, I couldn’t stop saying sorry and how mortified I was. He keeps telling me that it happens all the time and I have nothing to worry about…I’m still mortified though, haha!
He’s been texting me all day today, so I haven’t put him off…Yet, haha
Last night I hung out with the number one guy (I don’t even talk to the number two guy…Craaaaaaazy!). At his house…all by ourselves…except for his cat (who loved me, hehe).
I forgot how nervous I get that first time around, nothing happened, except some cuddling up and watching truly terrible movies. I always find on that first time if I truly like them, if I don’t want to slap them while we’re cuddling, that is a good sign! Haha!
I know that I want to move slowly in this relationships, sometimes I do worry that I am going to slowly, but how do you keep bringing that topic up? I mean he seems perfectly alright with everything at the moment as is, but I don’t want to get to that point where I feel like I’m leading him on. Plus when I’m stressed out in a job, I never feel in a romantic mood any-ways….Ah, these stupid feelings!
Thought that I would give a little update to my online dating experiences (and hopefully give you something fun to read on this Sunday night).
Guy Number one:
I shall call him number one because it seems to be going really well with him. The first date we couldn’t stop talking to each other and I knew that I liked him when we got home late and I needed to get up early the next day and so I kind of ran out of the car, but then, in true girl like fashion, I realised he hadn’t kissed me…and I wanted him to and woke up the next morning with regrets =/
Guy Number two:
This one is going nowhere. Guys there are only a certain type of girl that will like the needy “tell me everything and who you are talking to” guy…I am not one of those. I had to finally reject him and let him know that I was not interested. There was nothing “bad” about him, he is just not the type for me.
My biggest advice is to meet anyone you meet online in public, do NOT meet in them in private. Do not let them pick you up or drop you off on the first date (possibly the second too if you’re unsure). Do pay attention to what they are saying, guy number two (for example) starting asking me pretty nearly straight away who else I was talking to. Although I am not very experienced in online dating, I felt uncomfortable about him asking me. DO listen to your gut instincts. Once I had turned him down I have now spent the past three days (I am not kidding) trying to explain to him I am just not interested. It really feels like I’ve broken up with him, rather than just letting him down.
Take a deep breathe,
Look at the phone,
Look in the mirror and roll my eyes at myself…(why would he call)
Tried to take the shower,
But the hot water hasn’t scaled the pain buried deep inside away,
Look at myself in the mirror again,
A million thoughts of how this night will probably turn out.
Look at the phone,
Step by step I put the shell on, already to defend myself,
The shell that the rest of the world will call a dress and make-up.
Check my phone again..Nope, no change,
I guess it’s time to accept that I have to go out,
Take that first step out into the horde,
The horde that is single life.
It’s amazing when we are in a relationship how much of an effort we are willingly to “date” someone, the getting ready, the saving money, making sure that we are going somewhere they like. One of the things that used to frustrate me about my past partners was they’d always want to play games with their friends and I’d get ditched all the time, when I wanted to go out and have fun. If we ever went to the movies, it was always with their friends and it would never be a movie that I wanted to see.
At a very rough time in my life, I had gone to visit a boyfriend at work, and it was at a shopping mall that I had not been too for a very long time. I had planned to have a little look around and then come back to have lunch with my partner. I ended up spending all day by myself, shopping, eating, drinking coffee and seeing a movie that I had wanted to see. It was the most fun day I had had for so many months. It was then that I made a resolution to myself which I have applied too, even more so, being single.
Once a month I take myself out on a “date”. I go to the movies, I go too exhibitions I want and I treat myself to a lunch or a special treat at a nice cafe/restaurant. It is something that I HIGHLY recommend all single people and people in relationships do too. It has also made me more brave to go to more places by myself rather than relying on someone to end up taking me.
So take a spa day by yourself and for yourself. Buy the bad food and watch that movie that makes you cry. Dress up in your favourite clothes and dance to your favourite music.
Take the time to make an effort to date yourself!